Do I Have A Right To Be Pissed?

[Captain FT]

In February of 2002 my wife (then GF) and I got our first dog, a black pug. In Nov of 2006 we got our second pug just after we got married. In 2009 we had our first son, and just this past March 25 we had our second son.

A week after bringing our second son home we decided to get rid of our dogs, it just became too much for us to care for them. We went with the Mid-Atlantic Pug Rescue since they cater to pugs and understand the breed. The following week a volunteer from the MAPR picked up the dogs and they were in a much better place as they await placement (garanteed not to be put down).

Enter the mother-in-law and her husband who decide they want to get the dogs. First off, if I wanted them to have the dogs we would have asked them; we didn't ask them. They tell my wife and don't even approach me about the subject. My wife tells me and I say absolutely not, talk them out of it, I don't want them having the dogs - reason being among many is they were our dogs and I feel a sense of responsibility towards them, I wanted our family to move on from the dogs not keep the dogs around at a house less than a mile from us and they also watch our son during the week.

The completely ignored my feelings toward the issue and got the dogs anyway.

I feel my wife let me down, if the roles we're reversed I would have said and done anything to get them to not take the dogs if it meant that much to her. I feel betrayed by my mother-in-law and here husband who completely disregarded my feelings on the matter and did what they wanted to do.

I'm pissed at everyone and no one seems to care - had to vent.

 

[jiggagold]

seems youre taking it a little to far

 

[Smurfy]

I don't know. If it were me, and I had to give up my dogs, I'd at least want them with a family member/someone I know so I could see them and also know they're in good hands.

What was your relationship like with the in-laws before this? Do you have a bad relationship?

 

[Captain FT]

I don't know. If it were me, and I had to give up my dogs, I'd at least want them with a family member/someone I know so I could see them and also know they're in good hands.

What was your relationship like with the in-laws before this? Do you have a bad relationship?

Relationship was fine before. I guess I wanted them gone so we could move on from them. I feel like they disagreed with our decision and decided to get them back for our son. As the previous owner I still feel a sense of responsibility toward the dogs and at a relatives house who we frequent all the time is not what I envisioned nor would it be what I wanted. It's not so much about the dogs at this point but the fact that they couldn't respect my feelings on the matter. I just wanted to move on from the dogs and never imagined them being over At the in-laws house where I would have to see them all the time and feel like I just gave up on them.

 

[bigpokey]

obviously u dont give a fug about the pugs or you would want to keep them as close as possible to the family they're accustomed too, im pretty sure if they had a choice that would be their vote...... dog hater

 

[jnevin]

I can understand you wanting them completely out of your life so it'd be easier for you to have some sort of closure, but I think you're being selfish.

 

[Captain FT]

I can understand you wanting them completely out of your life so it'd be easier for you to have some sort of closure, but I think you're being selfish.

Exactly, and fuck you

 

[crew9]

Exactly, and fuck you

As I see if you have two options:

1. Does your wife have a sister? If so you should probably fuck her to get back at your wife.

2. Quit being a puss and get over it. You should be happy that your dogs are with people who you KNOW will take care of them.

 

[mrplunkey]

I can understand you wanting them completely out of your life so it'd be easier for you to have some sort of closure, but I think you're being selfish.

This.

1) Good call on removing the dogs. I love dogs (I have one), but once you've got two kids to chase, keeping up with multiple dogs gets messy.

2) If the in-laws aren't incompetent dog owners, you should be willing to give them to them.

Just sayin'

 

[Captain FT]

This.

1) Good call on removing the dogs. I love dogs (I have one), but once you've got two kids to chase, keeping up with multiple dogs gets messy.

2) If the in-laws aren't incompetent dog owners, you should be willing to give them to them.

Just sayin'

I agree with you and jnev, I'm sure I'm being a bit selfish to a point, but what would your initial reaction be to someone blatantly disregarding your wishes or feelings on something and doing what they wanted to do regardless how you feel?

It wasn't an easy decision to come to but once we did, I never imagined them coming back, I wanted that closure.

 

[Sub-Zero]

In February of 2002 my wife (then GF) and I got our first dog, a black pug. In Nov of 2006 we got our second pug just after we got married. In 2009 we had our first son, and just this past March 25 we had our second son.

A week after bringing our second son home we decided to get rid of our dogs, it just became too much for us to care for them. We went with the Mid-Atlantic Pug Rescue since they cater to pugs and understand the breed. The following week a volunteer from the MAPR picked up the dogs and they were in a much better place as they await placement (garanteed not to be put down).

Enter the mother-in-law and her husband who decide they want to get the dogs. First off, if I wanted them to have the dogs we would have asked them; we didn't ask them. They tell my wife and don't even approach me about the subject. My wife tells me and I say absolutely not, talk them out of it, I don't want them having the dogs - reason being among many is they were our dogs and I feel a sense of responsibility towards them, I wanted our family to move on from the dogs not keep the dogs around at a house less than a mile from us and they also watch our son during the week.

The completely ignored my feelings toward the issue and got the dogs anyway.

I feel my wife let me down, if the roles we're reversed I would have said and done anything to get them to not take the dogs if it meant that much to her. I feel betrayed by my mother-in-law and here husband who completely disregarded my feelings on the matter and did what they wanted to do.

I'm pissed at everyone and no one seems to care - had to vent.

why you hate your dogs so fuckin much man? they pee in your new shoes and chew up your belts or sometin?

what if the MIL and FIL got 2 pugs that wernt the ones you had? then what

 

[Sub-Zero]

Relationship was fine before. I guess I wanted them gone so we could move on from them. I feel like they disagreed with our decision and decided to get them back for our son. As the previous owner I still feel a sense of responsibility toward the dogs and at a relatives house who we frequent all the time is not what I envisioned nor would it be what I wanted. It's not so much about the dogs at this point but the fact that they couldn't respect my feelings on the matter. I just wanted to move on from the dogs and never imagined them being over At the in-laws house where I would have to see them all the time and feel like I just gave up on them.

and the truth comes out,

you on PCT?

 

[Captain FT]

what if the MIL and FIL got 2 pugs that wernt the ones you had? then what

any dogs besides the ones I previously owned would have been fine.

 

[chris302001]

You feel bad because you couldn't care for your dogs, now that your in laws have them, you will be reminded of how you couldn't take care of them every time you see them. It's okay bro. I mean, it could be worse. You could be glad....

 

[Sub-Zero]

any dogs besides the ones I previously owned would have been fine.

they are either "just dogs" in which case who cares if the MIL and FIL want em

or they are "super close family members" in which case you should be happy they are staying just down the road.

i think you feel emasculated a bit which happens, but get over it and approach the situation logically, rob

 

[Captain FT]

and the truth comes out,

you on PCT?

Yes, yes I am.

 

[shirlene29]

dude...man the fuck up...be happy the dogs are being taken care of and know what? getting rid of dogs because you had kids is a pussy move...

also...hai how are you

 

[Sub-Zero]

You feel bad because you couldn't care for your dogs, now that your in laws have them, you will be reminded of how you couldn't take care of them every time you see them. It's okay bro. I mean, it could be worse. You could be glad....

at least glad takes care of his own, and dont turn his back on resonsability

 

[Captain FT]

they are either "just dogs" in which case who cares if the MIL and FIL want em

or they are "super close family members" in which case you should be happy they are staying just down the road.

i think you feel emasculated a bit which happens, but get over it and approach the situation logically, rob

If you strongly voice your opinion on something to people you care about and they do the opposite, are you saying you wouldn't feel disrespected?

Once we made the decision to give up the dogs, I really didn't want to see them back once they were picked up. I envisioned them at a house with a family and a nice back yard to runaround in. Not going from our townhouse with no back yard to a condo down the street with no back yard.

At this point I don't give a shit about the dogs, it's more about how they didn't give a shit about how I feel about the situation. If the roles were reversed and someone said they really didn't want me doing something I would have respected their wishes and not done it.

 

[Sub-Zero]

If you strongly voice your opinion on something to people you care about and they do the opposite, are you saying you wouldn't feel disrespected?

Once we made the decision to give up the dogs, I really didn't want to see them back once they were picked up. I envisioned them at a house with a family and a nice back yard to runaround in. Not going from our townhouse with no back yard to a condo down the street with no back yard.

At this point I don't give a shit about the dogs, it's more about how they didn't give a shit about how I feel about the situation. If the roles were reversed and someone said they really didn't want me doing something I would have respected their wishes and not done it.

we all get the point on that, 100%

but if i told a girl i worked with to suck my dick and that i strongly wanted this to happen and would feel disrespected if it didnt, shed be like "wtf u crazy"

sort of like your family is like "wtf u crazy" about this situation.

youre over reacting basically

 

[captainahole]

I would have kept the dogs and got rid of the kids.

 

[chris302001]

at least glad takes care of his own, and dont turn his back on resonsability

lol for better or worse, right?

 

[Captain FT]

we all get the point on that, 100%

but if i told a girl i worked with to suck my dick and that i strongly wanted this to happen and would feel disrespected if it didnt, shed be like "wtf u crazy"

sort of like your family is like "wtf u crazy" about this situation.

youre over reacting basically

I like you bro but I completely disagree with your analogy. I know what you are trying to say, but it doesn't work here or at least that's my opinion. I know the in-laws think they were doing the right thing but they weren't and just wish they would have respected my opinion and not got the dogs.

 

[ceo]

they felt like they were doing the best thing for the situation and clearly saw you were being a selfish fucking crybaby who didn't give a shit about giving up on previous responsibilities. They were right, you were wrong. Start being a man while you still can. Ask your wife to let you see your testicles again. That will help. Fuckin dog hater.

 

[bigpokey]

dog hater!

 

[mrplunkey]

If you strongly voice your opinion on something to people you care about and they do the opposite, are you saying you wouldn't feel disrespected?

Once we made the decision to give up the dogs, I really didn't want to see them back once they were picked up. I envisioned them at a house with a family and a nice back yard to runaround in. Not going from our townhouse with no back yard to a condo down the street with no back yard.

At this point I don't give a shit about the dogs, it's more about how they didn't give a shit about how I feel about the situation. If the roles were reversed and someone said they really didn't want me doing something I would have respected their wishes and not done it.

You have to be careful in situations where you feel disrespected. Sometimes it's a legitimate complaint and sometimes it's simply your ego getting bruised.

Ask yourself: Would they be going to a decent home? Do your in-laws have a mild (even very mild) attachment to the dogs anyway?

Be careful in situations where all you are doing is protecting your ego. That can get away from you in a hurry. Pride is expensive stuff.

 

[Captain FT]

they felt like they were doing the best thing for the situation and clearly saw you were being a selfish fucking crybaby who didn't give a shit about giving up on previous responsibilities. They were right, you were wrong. Start being a man while you still can. Ask your wife to let you see your testicles again. That will help. Fuckin dog hater.

Wtf, did my wife post her earlier saying she'd blow everyone that sided with her?

 

[calveless wonder]

I don't know. If it were me, and I had to give up my dogs, I'd at least want them with a family member/someone I know so I could see them and also know they're in good hands.

What was your relationship like with the in-laws before this? Do you have a bad relationship?

Agreed

And don't be selfish Cap. What would have been best for the dogs? That is the REAL question.

I let my ex keep our dog because I couldn't take care of him working 13 hours a day at the time. It broke my heart but it was best for him

 

[Captain FT]

You have to be careful in situations where you feel disrespected. Sometimes it's a legitimate complaint and sometimes it's simply your ego getting bruised.

Ask yourself: Would they be going to a decent home? Do your in-laws have a mild (even very mild) attachment to the dogs anyway?

Be careful in situations where all you are doing is protecting your ego. That can get away from you in a hurry. Pride is expensive stuff.

I appreciate your comments bro. I feel disrespected and in turn am protecting my ego. It's hard to get over I guess.

 

[Smurfy]

I appreciate your comments bro. I feel disrespected and in turn am protecting my ego. It's hard to get over I guess.

yep. but, its said and done and nothing you can do now. No need to sit around pissed about it. Time to move on.


Also, did you ever post pics of the new baby? I'd like to see the lil munchkin.

 

[jnevin]

What he's really upset about is the fact that his dogs will be served at the next family bbq.

 

[mrplunkey]

What he's really upset about is the fact that his dogs will be served at the next family bbq.

Ahhh... we talking a 75th-style family here?

 

[calveless wonder]

What he's really upset about is the fact that his dogs will be served at the next family bbq.

His wife isn't Asian, at least I don't think

 

[jnevin]

His wife isn't Asian, at least I don't think

Why would you assume I was saying she's Asian?

She is, btw.

 

[Captain FT]

yep. but, its said and done and nothing you can do now. No need to sit around pissed about it. Time to move on.


Also, did you ever post pics of the new baby? I'd like to see the lil munchkin.

i'm pretty sure we're friends on Facebook. I did post a pic, but i'll dig one up if you can't find me on FB. Just look at jnev and related friends i'm there.

No CW my wife isn't asian

 

[jnevin]

Fuck, I thought she was.

Eat those fuckers anyway.

 

[mrplunkey]

i'm pretty sure we're friends on Facebook. I did post a pic, but i'll dig one up if you can't find me on FB. Just look at jnev and related friends i'm there.

No CW my wife isn't asian

Then it's probably safe. Unless of course, 75th comes over. Then he will be an appetizer.

 

[Sub-Zero]

I like you bro but I completely disagree with your analogy. I know what you are trying to say, but it doesn't work here or at least that's my opinion. I know the in-laws think they were doing the right thing but they weren't and just wish they would have respected my opinion and not got the dogs.

i like everyone on EF, literally. even strongbow. okay maybe not strongbow.


but after thinking about it a while longer, i think youre totally right. i think you should divorce your wife for disrespecting you, and send her over to the MIL and FIL to live with the dogs if those assholes like them so goddamn much.

if she can go over your head about something so serious as whether or not the dogs youve had for a significant period of your relationship together are exiled away from the family forever, imagine what she does with other guys behind your back??

are you imagining it?? they are probably bigger than yours too

 

[jnevin]

If they're not Chinese then they don't know Karate and you can surely kick their asses.

 

[DaBangEm]

Absolutely you have a right to be pissed. You guys did the right thing, as right as you can be by deciding to give up the pugs, and put them into a home finder. They usually do extensive interviews for candidates and it's more like adopting a child. So you know they are going to a good home.

And it seems pointless to have to give them up only to have the dogs at the same place where they get watched at. Wasn't that kinda the point as well?

I love dogs too, but I get why you are upset. It was really the fact that nobody listened to your opinion or wishes. You felt disrespected by your wife and in laws. I'd be pissed too.

 

[RADAR]

they felt like they were doing the best thing for the situation and clearly saw you were being a selfish fucking crybaby who didn't give a shit about giving up on previous responsibilities. They were right, you were wrong. Start being a man while you still can. Ask your wife to let you see your testicles again. That will help. Fuckin dog hater.

CEO is right! and everytime you visit over there ,those two pugs will give you the evil eye that says "theres that sob who threw our ass to the curb!"

subconciously i think thats the real reason you didn't want your inlaws to have them.

 

[Captain FT]

CEO is right! and everytime you visit over there ,those two pugs will give you the evil eye that says "theres that sob who threw our ass to the curb!"

subconciously i think thats the real reason you didn't want your inlaws to have them.

Yes that's true too.

I appreciate everyone comments, it helped me realize I need to lighten up some. I went over to the in-laws and killed everyone including the dogs. Thanks for your feedback.

 

[shirlene29]

Absolutely you have a right to be pissed. You guys did the right thing, as right as you can be by deciding to give up the pugs, and put them into a home finder. They usually do extensive interviews for candidates and it's more like adopting a child. So you know they are going to a good home.

And it seems pointless to have to give them up only to have the dogs at the same place where they get watched at. Wasn't that kinda the point as well?

I love dogs too, but I get why you are upset. It was really the fact that nobody listened to your opinion or wishes. You felt disrespected by your wife and in laws. I'd be pissed too.

wtf asked you...and where the fuck did you come from anyway...

clearly you don't know how it works around here..or how to take care of a pet

 

[shirlene29]

yes that's true too.

I appreciate everyone comments, it helped me realize i need to lighten up some. I went over to the in-laws and killed everyone including the dogs. Thanks for your feedback.

titcr ftw

 

[Captain FT]

titcr ftw

Thx Shir, you guys are about to have a famous C&C post, should be on CNN shortly

 

[shirlene29]

right...and I'd feel bad if I believed that

 

[Captain FT]

right...and I'd feel bad if I believed that

No way

I actually went over to the inlaws tonight, and acted like everything was fine...typical American way...ignore the problem and it will go away. I actually thought more people would agree with me but apparently I'm selfish so I swallowed my pride and bruised ego and took it like a man. I might get a handy tonight as a reward from the wife.

 

[shirlene29]

you need a better reward system...I'd bring that up instead

 

[canadianhitman]

I think your reasoning was shitty.

However, your wife making a unilateral decision that she knew you were not happy about is not okay either.

Simply put a check in the "I owe the bitch one" column, and some time when you are at a crossroads where you are about to make a big decision...the kind you'd normally consult your wife on, say fuck it and just do what you want to. When she squaks, say "Remember the pug decision you made on your own? Now we're even. Shut up." It will even out in the end, just be patient man.

 

[Captain FT]

I think your reasoning was shitty.

However, your wife making a unilateral decision that she knew you were not happy about is not okay either.

Simply put a check in the "I owe the bitch one" column, and some time when you are at a crossroads where you are about to make a big decision...the kind you'd normally consult your wife on, say fuck it and just do what you want to. When she squaks, say "Remember the pug decision you made on your own? Now we're even. Shut up." It will even out in the end, just be patient man.

As much as I'd like too, that's not me, my wife is my world and I think that's also why it hurt a lot too.

 

[Captain FT]

you need a better reward system...I'd bring that up instead

I'd be inclined to agree if we weren't two and a half weeks removed from popping out a baby... I'll take what I can get while she recovers.

 

[nangiggles]

I think you are right on feeling disrespected HOWEVER I think she did it because she felt it was the right thing for the dogs, her inlaws and maybe even herself... if she would have defied your wishes in something more frivolous like a purchase or something I'd be pissed but I can understand why she did it...

 

[DaBangEm]

wtf asked you...and where the fuck did you come from anyway...

clearly you don't know how it works around here..or how to take care of a pet

What???

 

[Sub-Zero]

I think your reasoning was shitty.

However, your wife making a unilateral decision that she knew you were not happy about is not okay either.

Simply put a check in the "I owe the bitch one" column, and some time when you are at a crossroads where you are about to make a big decision...the kind you'd normally consult your wife on, say fuck it and just do what you want to. When she squaks, say "Remember the pug decision you made on your own? Now we're even. Shut up." It will even out in the end, just be patient man.

good idea. hire a super hot babysitter

 

[calveless wonder]

If she did the right thing for the dogs even if it went over your head, you have no right to be pissed.

Your reasoning does suck balls

 

[canadianhitman]

As much as I'd like too, that's not me, my wife is my world and I think that's also why it hurt a lot too.

If that's your attitude, then you just have to take it; she knows she can overrule you at will and there will be no concequences. Get used to it.

 

[EnderJE]

I think that you have a right to feel angry. It would of been better if they spent time talking with you to convince you (rather then just go ahead with it). Remember this when you and the wife disagree on a future item, just do it.

 

[ceo]

Wtf, did my wife post her earlier saying she'd blow everyone that sided with her?

will you be there when I come by?

If so, are you down for some DP on your wifey?

 

[nimbus]

wife is cheating on you with the dogs

 

[Captain FT]

will you be there when I come by?

If so, are you down for some DP on your wifey?

Yes and yes

 

[stevesmi]

dogs don't think the way people do.

the dogs will be happy to be in the close pack.. they know the in laws. and you will see them once in a while. so the dogs will be happy in the end. i think its a win/win for everyone.

 

[CoBra666]

i would be upset to, its a matter of having your back. but in the end, as long as they are properly taken care of thats what matters most. now if your step family treat them poorly i would fucking lose it. in my house my pets come first, u r the guest kind of mentality. the most important thing should be there well being wherever they are. i would physically remove them from a bad situation. it night be good to visit once in a while tho. they miss u