nimbus said:
is it actually a horrible thing to happen to a child? i'm not saying it isn't; i just don't know. Any studies, first hand accounts? i'm curious
I dont NEED a *study*... I lived it.
And I can tell you with zero hesitation - YES, IS
THAT HORRIBLE.
First time I was felt up by a dirty old man (who was friends with my uncle). He was "teaching me how to swim." Only his hands would always end up wandering to my crotch.
I was 9 years old and NO, I didn't ask for it and NO, I didn't enjoy it.
Second time I was 12 and went to my aunt's house to visit my favorite aunt and play with her daughter, my then 4-6 year old cousin. Only my aunt wasn't there and it was nap time. So her father-in-law said we should all three of us take a nap. You can't begin to know how DISGUSTED I felt having that filthy old man feel up my little pathetic swolen breast-wannabees as he was joking, "Well, well what are *we growing here* now?"
No, I didn't ask for that and NO, I didn't enjoy it either.
I was raped at the age of 14 by my 24 year old cousin. I had a crush on him and enjoyed the attention that he and his friend would give me treating me like "a big kid and not one of the little kids." You can't begin to understand how much it fucked with my mind that this man was only preparing me for a *nature walk* where he would show me all about the birds and the bees.
NO, I didn't ask for it. NO, I didnt enjoy it. NO, I didnt know how to make it stop and NO, I sure the shit couldn't tell anyone...
My mother blamed me for the first dirty old man feeling me up. Instead of defending me, she said I asked for it and that I was a dirty little girl.... a whore. Nice thing to tell your 9 year old daughter... eh?
I never told anyone about the second incident, was bad enough I was blamed for the first. And it took me YEARS of therapy to get over the rape. To this day I still have major control issues regarding sex.
Any other questions?