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Sassy69
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ok -- don't laugh -- I was listening to LOVE LINE on the radio and they talked about what men & women consider "cheating" when it comes to the internet. If the guy is contacting girls on line, the guy doesn't consider it "cheating", the girl does -- because the girl feels like the guy has turned to someone besides her to talk, discuss, get turned on , whatever. This is basically a breach of that trust that the woman places on the relationship. The guy just doesn't -- I guess because at the end of the day,he still goes home to the girl.
I have a guy friend of 12 years who has been married the entire time I've known him. He is a triathelete, I was pursuing BB. So we spent a lot of time talking about our diets, training, latest bodyfat/weight measure ments, etc. - we have a good friendship in that we both have technical backgrounds (used to work together) as well as just "clicK'. But neither of us ever acted on anything. He had moved away and then I emailed him pix from my first comp. After all the talks we had about all the time & energy we both put into our respective training, all he can say is "NIIIIIIIICE ASSSS" -- and proceeded to hint at doing cyber sex. I was like "WTF??" You're married, dickhead. He never saw this as cheating. I wouldn't go near it and I lost a LOT of respect for him as a friend that I really had a great deal of respect for. He just didn't get it. Then I said, "well what ifyou found out she was chatting w/ some guy online?" Did he consider that cheating?? He just didn't get it. I told him that his wife would consider him turning to another female to discuss his sexual fantasies & his insecurities about himself (felt he was getting "old", etc.) a breach of their friendship & relationship -- he just didn't get it. I don't talk to him anymore.
At the end of theday, if she is your "soulmate", make sure you talk to her that way and respect her that way. The way men& women view things is so different, but its a bigger breach of that trust for the female and I guess you need to understand that from her point of view and respect it. If you can explain your point of view to her, even better. But please dont' consider it a move on her part to "control" you or be a bitch.
Good man!
I have a guy friend of 12 years who has been married the entire time I've known him. He is a triathelete, I was pursuing BB. So we spent a lot of time talking about our diets, training, latest bodyfat/weight measure ments, etc. - we have a good friendship in that we both have technical backgrounds (used to work together) as well as just "clicK'. But neither of us ever acted on anything. He had moved away and then I emailed him pix from my first comp. After all the talks we had about all the time & energy we both put into our respective training, all he can say is "NIIIIIIIICE ASSSS" -- and proceeded to hint at doing cyber sex. I was like "WTF??" You're married, dickhead. He never saw this as cheating. I wouldn't go near it and I lost a LOT of respect for him as a friend that I really had a great deal of respect for. He just didn't get it. Then I said, "well what ifyou found out she was chatting w/ some guy online?" Did he consider that cheating?? He just didn't get it. I told him that his wife would consider him turning to another female to discuss his sexual fantasies & his insecurities about himself (felt he was getting "old", etc.) a breach of their friendship & relationship -- he just didn't get it. I don't talk to him anymore.
At the end of theday, if she is your "soulmate", make sure you talk to her that way and respect her that way. The way men& women view things is so different, but its a bigger breach of that trust for the female and I guess you need to understand that from her point of view and respect it. If you can explain your point of view to her, even better. But please dont' consider it a move on her part to "control" you or be a bitch.
Good man!
