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john937
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If you're going to be in relationship with someone, the two of you
need to start thinking about each others as a partner.
When partners have a problem they sit down and NEGOTIATE a setlement.
Partners do not make non-negotiable mandates.
Spoiled children say "my way or else", not long term partners (if they want to stay together).
If you give in to this there will be a shift in the way you think about your partner that neither of you will like.
You're going to feel more like you're in prison, or have to sneak around behind her back.
Things like this can lead to the end of the relationship.
This one incident in itself is not important, but the way the two of you deal
with it is indicative of how you two deal with all your problems.
need to start thinking about each others as a partner.
When partners have a problem they sit down and NEGOTIATE a setlement.
Partners do not make non-negotiable mandates.
Spoiled children say "my way or else", not long term partners (if they want to stay together).
If you give in to this there will be a shift in the way you think about your partner that neither of you will like.
You're going to feel more like you're in prison, or have to sneak around behind her back.
Things like this can lead to the end of the relationship.
This one incident in itself is not important, but the way the two of you deal
with it is indicative of how you two deal with all your problems.
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i havent even came close to reading all the responses to this, and you appear to have reached a personal resolution
but i think there is a good possiblitilty she is already cheating on you, thinking about it, or just wants to end the relationship but for some reason wants it to be YOU to break it off and not her
you say you have complete trust in her, and that may be so, but is this your first relationship or your first "serious" relationship? it's very easy to put complete trust into someone, and you don't understand what that can mean if they actually DO break that trust - total devastation.
if she cannot and will not come to any compromise with you after sitting down and having a very reasonable question/answer period about whats going on, what bothers her, and what you think about it, you both need to decide if you are actually doing anything wrong or if s he is simply being insecure. You need to reassure her of your stance on the relationship i.e. you seem to feel that you would do anything to make her happy etc
not sure if all that makes sense, but there is alot of practical advice in that (in my opinoin). a woman should never have the absolute say in the relationship (neither hsould the man). you should both feel completely sure and confident in having a 50/50 relationship or you are going to run into some major problems.
the simple fact alone that she not only gave you an ultimatum (she would leave) but a very SOON ultimatum blows my mind. she may be a great girl, but for her to do that means there is some serious negative shit floating aruond in her head. you either need to straighten her out, or if she doesnt compromise or realize that SHE may be creating problems as well, the relationship will end. maybe not today, or two years, but you are going to be the one fucked over.
but i think there is a good possiblitilty she is already cheating on you, thinking about it, or just wants to end the relationship but for some reason wants it to be YOU to break it off and not her
you say you have complete trust in her, and that may be so, but is this your first relationship or your first "serious" relationship? it's very easy to put complete trust into someone, and you don't understand what that can mean if they actually DO break that trust - total devastation.
if she cannot and will not come to any compromise with you after sitting down and having a very reasonable question/answer period about whats going on, what bothers her, and what you think about it, you both need to decide if you are actually doing anything wrong or if s he is simply being insecure. You need to reassure her of your stance on the relationship i.e. you seem to feel that you would do anything to make her happy etc
not sure if all that makes sense, but there is alot of practical advice in that (in my opinoin). a woman should never have the absolute say in the relationship (neither hsould the man). you should both feel completely sure and confident in having a 50/50 relationship or you are going to run into some major problems.
the simple fact alone that she not only gave you an ultimatum (she would leave) but a very SOON ultimatum blows my mind. she may be a great girl, but for her to do that means there is some serious negative shit floating aruond in her head. you either need to straighten her out, or if she doesnt compromise or realize that SHE may be creating problems as well, the relationship will end. maybe not today, or two years, but you are going to be the one fucked over.
conan69 said:you know what, there are some really great points brought up
After reading these and thinking for a while
i know i love her to death
she is attractive
she has a slamming body
very educated
puts up with all my shit...including non stop steroid use
....and we know what comes with that, (irritability, ect.)
Trust her more than anyone in the world
I guess i will do what ever she wants because i dont want to lose a great girl...
i just wish she would let me take some pics of her so i could put them up on the board...so you could see what is at stake...but it is her personality that is truly great
thanks again everyone
you really cleared my head
well good for you!!! I wish you luck and maybe she will start working out too.
any another one bites the dust lol
satanic goatslayer
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If you love her, bleed her with a knife and take pictures.
If you don't love her, tell her to be quiet as you duct tape her to a chair and shave all of her hair off. Then, using a barbeque lighter, singe her eyebrows/lashes off, making sure the flame brushes her eyeballs every now and then. Now, stick toothpicks straight into her retinas, and cut her left hand off with a machete. Things should be going fine now. Strangle her with your bare hands and stomp her skull until it explodes.
Once bitten, twice gutted and thrown into the river.
If you don't love her, tell her to be quiet as you duct tape her to a chair and shave all of her hair off. Then, using a barbeque lighter, singe her eyebrows/lashes off, making sure the flame brushes her eyeballs every now and then. Now, stick toothpicks straight into her retinas, and cut her left hand off with a machete. Things should be going fine now. Strangle her with your bare hands and stomp her skull until it explodes.
Once bitten, twice gutted and thrown into the river.
Bikini Mod
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Bignate...did you read ALL of what I said? It is about some pleasant conversation and smiling...it does NOT mean that it is of a SEXUAL NATURE. I also said that my 6 year old flirts relentlessly with everyone!....do you think that I meant she was sticking her tongue down peoples' throats?! NO......It is IMPOSSIBLE for her to be sexual - get it?!
Silly.
Silly.
The_Eviscerator
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Conan,
Take it from me. I have been married for a year and have been with my woman for 4 years. I saw all the warning signs of a jealous neurotic woman, but I ignored them. I have been married for a year and I am already filing for divorce.
If she is going to restrict harmless flirting, then this is only the beginning of the restrictions in you life. If you cave in on this, then you can start to watch your freedoms slip away.
I would sit back and evaluate how you really feel about her, and if you love her enough to give up some freedom then stay with her, otherwise I would can her ass before it gets out of hand.
Take it from me. I have been married for a year and have been with my woman for 4 years. I saw all the warning signs of a jealous neurotic woman, but I ignored them. I have been married for a year and I am already filing for divorce.
If she is going to restrict harmless flirting, then this is only the beginning of the restrictions in you life. If you cave in on this, then you can start to watch your freedoms slip away.
I would sit back and evaluate how you really feel about her, and if you love her enough to give up some freedom then stay with her, otherwise I would can her ass before it gets out of hand.
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