Can the ladies explain this to me?

[musclemom]

Speculation is bullsh*t ... why don't you just ask them? Call them up out of the blue and say, "hi, remember me? I really enjoyed our date but you didn't want to see me anymore, and that's becoming a trend in my life. What am I doing wrong??? I'd really appreciate your honest input."

What's the worst that could happen? She hangs up on you (well, no I guess the worst is that she answers with total, brutal honesty ...) The best ... maybe you get date #2

You're attractive, articulate, I'm assuming gainfully employed, so either you're doing something wrong/sending the wrong signals OR you have bad taste in women and you're subconsciously going after women who aren't interested in a relationship.

Just a thought. You know how the ladies on this board feel about you Java

 

[TC2]

I waited too long already.

Dude, I wasn't trying to be dramatic. Those that know me, know that's not my game.

No yelling, no tears, it just came out. It wasn't planned. What would one day have done? He was okay, he knew my heart wasn't there.

seriously....of all the days in the year, you break up with him on v-day.

one day would've done alot.

 

[javaguru]

Speculation is bullsh*t ... why don't you just ask them? Call them up out of the blue and say, "hi, remember me? I really enjoyed our date but you didn't want to see me anymore, and that's becoming a trend in my life. What am I doing wrong??? I'd really appreciate your honest input."

What's the worst that could happen? She hangs up on you (well, no I guess the worst is that she answers with total, brutal honesty ...) The best ... maybe you get date #2

You're attractive, articulate, I'm assuming gainfully employed, so either you're doing something wrong/sending the wrong signals OR you have bad taste in women and you're subconsciously going after women who aren't interested in a relationship.

Just a thought. You know how the ladies on this board feel about you Java

Kind of hard when people screen calls or don't return them.

 

[Raina]

I think some people just don't want to be happy. They say they do but find some sort of amusement in being miserable.

 

[nycgirl]

seriously....of all the days in the year, you break up with him on v-day.
one day would've done alot.

Does it look bad? Yes. You are assuming it was planned, it wasn't. It would not have meant a thing if I waited a day or two. It just happened to occur on a date that was on Valentine's Day. I was sitting at the table, and it just came out.

As I stated in the first post, I was not ready for the situation, learned a valuable lesson; worked on improving myself & removed myself from the dating game.

He moved on just fine to a beautiful woman that at the time (I haven't spoke to him in 2 years) could give him what he needed and wanted.

 

[hanselthecaretaker]

This is why I avoid pursuing women. When things seem great you get blindsided with some excuse.

And when things aren't so great and you couldn't care less about seeing her again, they come around. Go figure.

 

[musclemom]

Kind of hard when people screen calls or don't return them.

Send a letter. C'mon be creative here.

 

[javaguru]

Send a letter. C'mon be creative here.

They don't reply to e-mails either...lol

 

[Smurfy]

Maybe the ladies can explain this to me. Why is it that women run when they meet a man and have a great connection? I've dated a few women and we had a great connection on the first date, to the point we're finishing each others thoughts, a really great date all around. Then they don't return phone calls or e-mails? WTF, when I have a great connection I'm more inclined to pursue dating or a relationship, not run, it just seems illogical and counter intuitive. i know we've all been hurt and getting emotionally involved carries a risk but WTF? Mind you, these ae educated professional women, not twenty two year old ding bats?

dont worry. youre smart and hot. you have a million opportunities. why waste mental effort on someone who cant or wont see that?

 

[musclemom]

They don't reply to e-mails either...lol

Jesus

Umm, just my opinion mind you, but you're offending them or freaking them out somehow.

If they really liked you/were attracted to you they wouldn't duck you that bad. The only time I ever iced guys like that was when a) they were a sloppy octopus on the first date b) they were talking about being in love with me/marriage/kids ... on the first date.

Intensity, passion, that's one thing, I've never avoided a man who had zest for life and made it very clear he found me attractive. I have run like hell from guys who seemed like they could become obsessed nutjobs with very little encouragement.