Can men and women be just friends?

[bluepeter]

The only examples being cited are always someone who you've already been with. That's different. If it's someone you've never been with, and she's hot, a man can never truly be 'just friends' with her. There's no such thing

 

[alien amp pharm]

The only examples being cited are always someone who you've already been with. That's different. If it's someone you've never been with, and she's hot, a man can never truly be 'just friends' with her. There's no such thing

Gay guys usually have a lot of female friends.

Bluepeter has a lot of female friends.

 

[bluepeter]

Gay guys usually have a lot of female friends.

Bluepeter has a lot of female friends.

If that were true, I'd certainly be reinforcing my point wouldn't I? I have plenty of female acquaintances but only one woman I would consider a 'friend'.

and yes, I'd jump her in a second.....

The only other scenario where it is possible for a man to be friends with a woman is if the woman is married or attached to one of your male friends. Under the rules of engagement, that makes them untouchable

 

[superqt4u2nv]

Ok I guess I would agree that most of the time if the guy was given the opportunity he would jump my bones. However most guys are not give that opportunity.

 

[bluepeter]

Ok I guess I would agree that most of the time if the guy was given the opportunity he would jump my bones. However most guys are not give that opportunity.

Hence my continuing despair

 

[juicedbeachbum]

I disagree that guys can only befriends with ugly girls because there's no sexual attraction... We'd fuck them too we just don't want our friends to find out.

 

[bluepeter]

I disagree that guys can only befriends with ugly girls because there's no sexual attraction... We'd fuck them too we just don't want our friends to find out.

lol, probably true in many cases

 

[Werd]

Sorry, I think you are wrong.

I admit the case where a woman was attractive who could have and maintain a friendship are few and far between - IT DOES HAPPEN.

I knew one guy that we were initially attracted but nothing ever happend - we are talking never even a kiss and I slept in that man's apartment. We were upfront about our feelings for each other, (yes we were MUTUALLY ATTRACTED) but we never crossed that line. There was ample opportunity for us both and we never crossed the line.

Another man took me in when I had no place to live, no friends that could help, I had no money, no family close by to help me, no food, couldn't speak the language. He met when when I was STRIPPING... not "dancing" we are talking STRIPPING. He met me in the club. When he found out the situation HE IMMEDIATELY INSISTED ON HELPING ME. I had very few options and I trusted him... as he trusted me to live in HIS APARTMENT. This man had an important position where his rank was socially high and earned A LOT of money. He was much bigger than me and was a very attractive man who could have easily either physically overpowerd me (the apartment was a studio so we slept in the same bed) or beguiled me with his charm. HE DID NEITHER.

I stayed with him for two weeks until I was able to find a place of my own.

We have had intermittent phone contact (He travels a lot and I am no longer geographically close). But even if I never see or hear from him again - I will consider him a friend.

Never has a man showed me such kindness.... NEVER.

He is one of the people that is helping me to "undo" all the of the negative shit that has been heaped on me since I was a very young child.

So I have to answer that YES - a man and a woman can MOST DEFINITELY be friends irrespective of the fact of sexual attraction.

 

[bluepeter]

Sorry, I think you are wrong.

I admit the case where a woman was attractive who could have and maintain a friendship are few and far between - IT DOES HAPPEN.

I knew one guy that we were initially attracted but nothing ever happend - we are talking never even a kiss and I slept in that man's apartment. We were upfront about our feelings for each other, (yes we were MUTUALLY ATTRACTED) but we never crossed that line. There was ample opportunity for us both and we never crossed the line.

Another man took me in when I had no place to live, no friends that could help, I had no money, no family close by to help me, no food, couldn't speak the language. He met when when I was STRIPPING... not "dancing" we are talking STRIPPING. He met me in the club. When he found out the situation HE IMMEDIATELY INSISTED ON HELPING ME. I had very few options and I trusted him... as he trusted me to live in HIS APARTMENT. This man had an important position where his rank was socially high and earned A LOT of money. He was much bigger than me and was a very attractive man who could have easily either physically overpowerd me (the apartment was a studio so we slept in the same bed) or beguiled me with his charm. HE DID NEITHER.

I stayed with him for two weeks until I was able to find a place of my own.

We have had intermittent phone contact (He travels a lot and I am no longer geographically close). But even if I never see or hear from him again - I will consider him a friend.

Never has a man showed me such kindness.... NEVER.

He is one of the people that is helping me to "undo" all the of the negative shit that has been heaped on me since I was a very young child.

So I have to answer that YES - a man and a woman can MOST DEFINITELY be friends irrespective of the fact of sexual attraction.

Sorry. Either one (2) in a million, neither man was attracted or some other force (wife, kids, he had gonorrhea, impotent, gay) was interfering.

Glad though that you had 2 such nice experiences

 

[alien amp pharm]

Another man took me in when I had no place to live, no friends that could help, I had no money, no family close by to help me, no food, couldn't speak the language. He met when when I was STRIPPING... not "dancing" we are talking STRIPPING. He met me in the club. When he found out the situation HE IMMEDIATELY INSISTED ON HELPING ME. I had very few options and I trusted him... as he trusted me to live in HIS APARTMENT. This man had an important position where his rank was socially high and earned A LOT of money. He was much bigger than me and was a very attractive man who could have easily either physically overpowerd me (the apartment was a studio so we slept in the same bed) or beguiled me with his charm. HE DID NEITHER.

I stayed with him for two weeks until I was able to find a place of my own.

We have had intermittent phone contact (He travels a lot and I am no longer geographically close). But even if I never see or hear from him again - I will consider him a friend.

Never has a man showed me such kindness.... NEVER.

He is one of the people that is helping me to "undo" all the of the negative shit that has been heaped on me since I was a very young child.

So I have to answer that YES - a man and a woman can MOST DEFINITELY be friends irrespective of the fact of sexual attraction.

His initial thought was to bang you, but after he got you home you probably began speaking, which ruined it for him.