Blows to the ego...

[Stefka]

Many of you, like me, may think very highly of yourselves.
have you ever had an experience that makes you think that maybe you aren't the best?
I've been going through that all week.
I'm not the smartest, not the prettiest, not the best dressed, not the most charming...
Always in my life I have been at least one of these things.
But now I am competing against some very talented, smart, well dressed, pretty people.
It all kind of makes me feel very un-special.
I'm starting to lose a sense of what makes me unique and awesome.
Any advice?

 

[heatherrae]

Many of you, like me, may think very highly of yourselves.
have you ever had an experience that makes you think that maybe you aren't the best?
I've been going through that all week.
I'm not the smartest, not the prettiest, not the best dressed, not the most charming...
Always in my life I have been at least one of these things.
But now I am competing against some very talented, smart, well dressed, pretty people.
It all kind of makes me feel very un-special.
I'm starting to lose a sense of what makes me unique and awesome.
Any advice?

Being in law school alone puts you in the top 10% of intelligent people around, most likely. The fact that you are also beautiful makes you that much more rare. People would kill to be like you. Seriously.

 

[javaguru]

None of us are a special snowflake. However, I realized that when you combine all the things you mention with character.....that's something rare. You can't control your genes but you can control who you are at a basic level. You'll also find all those people you are competing against have the same insecurities. Also, don't confuse rankings in law school with ability/intelligence/talent. I graduated with people who were higher ranked than myself that I wouldn't want to represent me in traffic court.

 

[javaguru]

Also, I felt good about myself in law school because less than a dozen guys ever did anything athletic in their entire life....

 

[Stefka]

Being in law school alone puts you in the top 10% of intelligent people around, most likely. The fact that you are also beautiful makes you that much more rare. People would kill to be like you. Seriously.

Maybe you're right.
But I'm surrounded by the top 10%.
It kind of sucks to feel like you're at the bottom of any group.
I'm just here to learn and write and explore - why does it have to make me feel like such shit at times?

 

[all the whey]

Being in law school alone puts you in the top 10% of intelligent people around, most likely. The fact that you are also beautiful makes you that much more rare. People would kill to be like you. Seriously.

Yes, I agree. It is not fair that QT is mean to you, because you are intelligent and beautiful!!!


BTW...Velvett unlocked that thread.

 

[all the whey]

None of us are a special snowflake. However, I realized that when you combine all the things you mention with character.....that's something rare. You can't control your genes but you can control who you are at a basic level. You'll also find all those people you are competing against have the same insecurities. Also, don't confuse rankings in law school with ability/intelligence/talent. I graduated with people who were higher ranked than myself that I wouldn't want to represent me in traffic court.

I think you are a special snowflake bro.

 

[javaguru]

Maybe you're right.
But I'm surrounded by the top 10%.
It kind of sucks to feel like you're at the bottom of any group.
I'm just here to learn and write and explore - why does it have to make me feel like such shit at times?

Dr. Phil Answer.......because you let it. My first year, the contracts professor addressed the class before the final,"The grade you receive on this exam is one person's opinion based on your performance this day of your life." You type A's stress too much.....

 

[heatherrae]

Maybe you're right.
But I'm surrounded by the top 10%.
It kind of sucks to feel like you're at the bottom of any group.
I'm just here to learn and write and explore - why does it have to make me feel like such shit at times?

You are not in the bottom of your class I'm sure. EVERYONE feels insecure as 1L's. That is part of the process of thickening your skin. I bet you intimidate the hell out of many people in school. I would guarantee it, actually.

 

[Stefka]

None of us are a special snowflake. However, I realized that when you combine all the things you mention with character.....that's something rare. You can't control your genes but you can control who you are at a basic level. You'll also find all those people you are competing against have the same insecurities. Also, don't confuse rankings in law school with ability/intelligence/talent. I graduated with people who were higher ranked than myself that I wouldn't want to represent me in traffic court.

I realize that perfect grades don't make a wonderful lawyer.
Why don't the firms realize that?
So I don't have a 4.5 - I wrote orders that were published. I "won" arguments with a federal judge. I'm good at this stuff damn it. Plus I'm cute and I look good in a suit and I have a friggin personality. Why doensn't anyone want me?