Being cheated on

[Lord_Suston]

I agree. It depends on the circumstance and how one was cheated on. Some may consider flirting cheat when really it isnt. If it was sex then yeah its cheating but there are tons of different factors. If she is truely sorry than stay with her. Besides, thats always leverage in an argument and you'll have the upper hand...

Who wants leverage when they rip your heart out from behind, there are no reasons to justify cheating, either you respect the person or don't. I only consider rape a legitimit excuse. How can you stay with a person who doesn't have enough respect for you to even break up with you, before they f*ck someone else. You'll never get the image out of your head as long as you are around them and then you can never really trust them. It will never be the same, EVER..............

 

[toga22]

In any long lasting relationship, communcation is always the most important factor. So, in my opionion, if one person is on the "prowl", the lines of communication were already broken. It is very hard to have any kind of relationship with someone that you do not trust or respect.

For me, it was the hardest to overcome the fact that not only did my partner violate our relationship on a physically/sexual level, but the fact that he had been dishonest and deceiving. The idea that he did not have enough trust or respect in me or in our relationship to try and work out, what must have been some degree of unhappiness for him in the relationship.

My suggestion to you is that, whether or not you want to stay with this person, that you take some time to get your emotions in check. Take the time that you need now to get over the inital shock, and wait until you are total able to fully comprehend your feelings before communicating your decision to the other person. Revenge and retaliation are a part of our nature, and may sound very sweet at the moment. But hold off, this person has all ready taken enough away from you.....don't give up your good judgement and true character as well.

Best of luck to you!! Keep your chin up!!

~toga

 

[Testoterone Tom]

Hey, my man, sorry to hear about it, it happened to me and it hurts a lot. Just know and realize that you are going to have to be the big man, forgive her and LET HER GO. For the sake of your dignity and self respect, do it, and don't look back. She may love you, but you are not what she wants. Let go and YOU STICK TO YOUR ROUTINE. Just do it without her. Cry when you feel like crying, get it all out. DON'T wear your friends out with it, though. They want to be there for you, just do it in small incraments. Focus on you. NO DRINKING. NO DRUGS. Be tough, you'll adjust.
YOU WILL ADJUST. And don't date for a least 6 months. Heal first.
Then get back to trying to find some companionship. Don't try to find a serious relationship at a bar. Do what I've said, and if you've had GOD. Now would be a great time to start going back to church and getting tight with your family. Don't even talk about her. Heal and don't be bitter. If you are, you'll mess up every attempt at a relationship that follows.
Hope this helps man, good luck.

 

[HighIntensity]

Hey, my man, sorry to hear about it, it happened to me and it hurts a lot. Just know and realize that you are going to have to be the big man, forgive her and LET HER GO. For the sake of your dignity and self respect, do it, and don't look back. She may love you, but you are not what she wants. Let go and YOU STICK TO YOUR ROUTINE. Just do it without her. Cry when you feel like crying, get it all out. DON'T wear your friends out with it, though. They want to be there for you, just do it in small incraments. Focus on you. NO DRINKING. NO DRUGS. Be tough, you'll adjust.
YOU WILL ADJUST. And don't date for a least 6 months. Heal first.
Then get back to trying to find some companionship. Don't try to find a serious relationship at a bar. Do what I've said, and if you've had GOD. Now would be a great time to start going back to church and getting tight with your family. Don't even talk about her. Heal and don't be bitter. If you are, you'll mess up every attempt at a relationship that follows.
Hope this helps man, good luck.

very wise words

 

[alphaxi]

Sorry to hear about your gf...I know how hard it is to be in that situation.

My advice? Move on with your life. It will be hard...dont get me wrong, but you CAN do it. Obviously this isnt the girl for you..or she wouldnt have cheated on you. You need to move on, let her go and you will find someone to share your life with probably when you least expect it.

I know that actually going out and moving on is easier said than done, but you will when you are ready...when you are sick and tired of feeling sick and tired over this mess, you will realize that you CAN get over this.

If you do decide to stay with this girl....well...good luck. Whatever makes YOU happy...but you must ask yourself one question....Will you ever be able to trust this girl 100% ever again? True, she may not cheat again.....or she might...you just never know. But do what your heart tells you to do in this situation...do what will make YOU happy. YOU are the only person that matters...so live your life the way you feel is best.

Good luck....

 

[PaleHorse]

Have your cake and eat it too. Bang her and others, There'll be plenty of time for emotions during marriage. Right now, it's time to conquer.

 

[bambam]

What's your definition of cheating by the way........


Noticed your in Salt Lake City......that's where I live too

ABout 6 months ago, she told me that she was going to vegas with her friend. I found out then that she actualy went with some guy. It was over then but she swore up and down nothing happened. Of course everyone knows what really happened, but I wanted to believe her because we had really gone through alot in the past, and it has been one of the only meaninful relationships in my life. I guess you could say I was in denial. A week ago, she comes clean and tells me yah I lied we were having s all weekend. So here I am now. The worst part about it is that the day she came back from vegas and told me, I broke a picture in my house and somebody called the cops. I wasnt there when they showed up but they charged me with a class b misdeamenor of criminal mischief. I went to court and agreed to enter into their dv program to get it off my record. One of the stipulations of the program is that you cannot go within 500 yds of any place that serves alcohol. Game seven of the world series I bought a six pack of beer at a gas station near my house. The clerk from the court worked there and told the judge, he threw me in jail for 3 days. So I get cheated on then thrown in jail... life is good

 

[bambam]

Have your cake and eat it too. Bang her and others, There'll be plenty of time for emotions during marriage. Right now, it's time to conquer.

I don't know about the other girls I just dont even feel like being vengeful. I just feel like crap

 

[BigGuns2]

I'm sorry about your situation bro. It hurts like hell! Don't stay with her! She has broken your trust and you will never be able to fully trust her again. You need to get back in the gym!!!!! Use it as therapy. Don't let this situation ruin your hardwork in the gym. Good luck to you.

 

[BigGuns2]

I have been to Salt Lake City many times. SLC has some of the most beautiful woman that I have ever seen, and most of them seem to be good girls. Drop that cheating slut and have some fun!