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Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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If that is true.....I hope you told him to F%&* OFF FOREVER....and that is being nice :worried:
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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Please tell me you're kidding.
:worried:
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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And I thought my weekend sucked because I've been suffering with allergies.
 
NO really, are you serious?

That might be the worst story I have ever heard *thinking* uh yah worst story ever.














Are you OK?
Do you need anything.
 
lmfao...oh god i wish i was kidding...you know how stupid this makes me look...OMG..yea..and all of this after he screwed up with other girls behind my back...begged me to take him back...so..my dumb ass did...2 1/2 half weeks him being home he decides he doesn't want me..aint that some shit..lmao
 
you guys are so sweet. I do not know what help i need...sad thing is..i have loved this man with all my heart for 7 years...been the best damn wife to him...took him back after all the shit he put me through...and sadly..at this moment..i wish he would walk through the door and tell me he wanted me as well. I don't know what to do...not to mention...some how i have to do and handle this all with my 4 year old!
 
Tink! said:
lmfao...oh god i wish i was kidding...you know how stupid this makes me look...OMG..yea..and all of this after he screwed up with other girls behind my back...begged me to take him back...so..my dumb ass did...2 1/2 half weeks him being home he decides he doesn't want me..aint that some shit..lmao
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Keep your composer for your little girl, please :rose:
Fuck him...sounds like this was gonna happen anyways.
Be strong :coffee:
 
Yes he is in the army...just got back from iraq (1year)

I try to stay strong for kiara. I just don't know how. I don't know how to handle this...how to deal with it..how to move on. I am freaken super young...now getting a divorce with a 4 year old...so i have a wonderful long single life to look forward to. Yeah me
 
Tink! said:
Yes he is in the army...just got back from iraq (1year)

I try to stay strong for kiara. I just don't know how. I don't know how to handle this...how to deal with it..how to move on. I am freaken super young...now getting a divorce with a 4 year old...so i have a wonderful long single life to look forward to. Yeah me
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Your Pretty.

No worries About Being Single.

if Thats What You WAnt.

But Stay Single For a While.

Have Some Fun NOw man!!

Have Some Fun.

I Know It Sucks But....

Would You Really Want the Kid around a Dick Anyway?

Just My Opinion.
 
Tink! said:
I try to stay strong for kiara. I just don't know how. I don't know how to handle this...how to deal with it..how to move on. I am freaken super young...now getting a divorce with a 4 year old...so i have a wonderful long single life to look forward to. Yeah me
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Just take it one step at a time.
Don't get over-whelmed. These things seem to be common in America now.
First, kick is ass out...
Are you close with your parents? Maybe your dad can help console you with information.
Lawyer - You're a young wife with a child, own his ASS!! Alimony...he's gonna love that word
 
LOl well that is her dad..and yes i want her around him as much as possible, because he is deployed a lot as it is.
I can't exactly have fun with a 4 year old in toe. lol
I don't want to live my life alone.
but at the same time..who would want damaged goods...lol...not to mention..not like i can just go out and date...i have a kid to worry about..what if the person is a physco and i regect him and he comes after me or her...or you never can tell who is sick in the head and who isn't. Scarey shit.

life fucken sucks!!!!!!!
 
Ulcasterdropout said:
Just take it one step at a time.
Don't get over-whelmed. These things seem to be common in America now.
First, kick is ass out...
Are you close with your parents? Maybe your dad can help console you with information.
Lawyer - You're a young wife with a child, own his ASS!! Alimony...he's gonna love that word
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LOL all the money i wou ld get from him would just go to my freaken car payment..he just bought me a cadillac ext 2 days after he came home...his bmw is paid off...so guess which he is going to take. lol. I love my truck..but it costs a pretty penny :)
Kick him out..lol..he refuses to be here...refuses to talk to me...even concerning or daughter, won't come to the house unless it is to get clothes...well besides early this morning.

Try to take it one step at a time..hard to do, because i don't even know where to take the first step. Some say stay here in my house, don't give up possession..other say..get out of here and go back home (4 hours) where i have people to lean on. I don't want to tramatize kiara to much..so not sure if it is better to stay here for a while, since she is going through all of this right now as well..and then wait till she is calm and move back home.
Good god..lmao. shity shity shity..all i have to say...but tryen my damndest to keep my chin up
 
forget about all that..

You WANTED to kill yourself??? I'd be more concerned about that.

Divorces are never easy. You gotta be strong _yourself_ before doing anything.
 
no i did not want to kill myself...but that is what he was tellen every one, because he told me basically how he wasted his life on me..and walks around wondering what the hell does he live for..so i called him drunk last night apologizing for putting him through all of this..and keeping him trapped for 7 years and being no good and worthless ect...i was bawling and drunk...and he freaked.
 
I'm so sorry to hear about this sweetie. What a fucking asshole. Do you need anything? If there's anything I can do for you please let me know.
 
Tink! said:
LOl well that is her dad..and yes i want her around him as much as possible, because he is deployed a lot as it is.
I can't exactly have fun with a 4 year old in toe. lol
I don't want to live my life alone.
but at the same time..who would want damaged goods...lol...not to mention..not like i can just go out and date...i have a kid to worry about..what if the person is a physco and i regect him and he comes after me or her...or you never can tell who is sick in the head and who isn't. Scarey shit.

life fucken sucks!!!!!!!
LOL all the money i wou ld get from him would just go to my freaken car payment..he just bought me a cadillac ext 2 days after he came home...his bmw is paid off...so guess which he is going to take. lol. I love my truck..but it costs a pretty penny :)
Kick him out..lol..he refuses to be here...refuses to talk to me...even concerning or daughter, won't come to the house unless it is to get clothes...well besides early this morning.

Try to take it one step at a time..hard to do, because i don't even know where to take the first step. Some say stay here in my house, don't give up possession..other say..get out of here and go back home (4 hours) where i have people to lean on. I don't want to tramatize kiara to much..so not sure if it is better to stay here for a while, since she is going through all of this right now as well..and then wait till she is calm and move back home.
Good god..lmao. shity shity shity..all i have to say...but tryen my damndest to keep my chin up
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Don't worry about being alone, single, and damaged goods. You're thinking to far ahead and your depressing yourself. The future is unset.
Don't assume anything with regards to payments. He ows you more then you think. I have aunts that are lawyers. They live for hanging fuckers like this out to dry.
You need legal console. Go from there. They will advise you on your condition.
That suicide call is gonna hurt you if he makes a move for custody.
With the cheating, the child, and your age, you're gonna own him...unless you have a prenup :worried:
 
You're young & pretty and you won't be alone for long, trust me.

Anyway it sounds like you're best rid of him. Once someone shows you what they're really made of inside, don't ignore it. even if he begs his way back into your life again, he'll only do this to you again or cheat behind your back again. a leopard doesnt change its spots. keep your spirits up there are better days ahead.

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It sucks but you're doing the right thing by talking about it.

Don't leave the house because you will be giving up custody or rights of it if you do. He does'nt neccessarily have to take the BMW and you the truck, it does'nt work exactly like that.

You may not be able to afford it but you need a lawyer to help you. I think you'll be OK if you get help. Do you guys own the house? Rent? Apartment?

Chin up! He is not the last man in the world, let alone the BEST man... for you. So I would just try and move forward from here on out and think of it as a favor he's done for you AND your daughter. DO YOU WANT THE BEST FOR YOUR DAUGHTER? Then, accept the fact he was'nt a good person to have in your lives. When you accept that and move forward, you'll be getting better.

Good luck.

Keep posting here or talking to friends and family. Get a lawyer, the sooner the better. Once he leaves the house, he gives up certain rights as well. Find out exactly what they are. Stay strong, in years from now, you'll look at how well your daughter's doing and be grateful of this. He did you a favor to "let you go."
 
Ah, the lovely drunk, drama, emotionally-filled drama episode. What a perfect time for two people to sit down and discuss their relationship. :)

Not sure what to say as my usual relationship ends by pancakes in the morning. He IS the father of your child -- so it's not a simple get up and move and change the number.

I suggest counselling, talking, opening up lines of communication. Obviously he has a lot on his mind that he wants to get out. Now is a time of healing and talking. Even if that talking eventually leads to both (or even one) discerning that this person is not for me. That's teh realith one must be willing to accept.

So. Relax. Clear you mind. Both of you take a time-out for a couple weeks. And re-visit the feelings in a calm, adult, mature, respectul manner. Not just how we feel "now", but how we have been feeling since the marraige. You can't judge a marraige by the events of some drunk evening -- but ALL the feelings, events and thoughts since both have met.

Yes people _can_ fall out of love. It is possible. Unfortunate, but it's not the end of the world.
 
Tink

Talk to a lawyer ASAP. Make it a quick and clean divorce if you can for yours and your child's sake. Show him you are strong and that you won't die for an idiot who cares NIL about you.

Now is the time to make a list of all your belongings (everything you own together) and split up your bank accounts before he uses your money if you have any.

Don't cry after him.
And goodluck Tink!
 
I will call or contact a lawyer in the morning. I don't want to. I want so bad to work it out. I know so very foolish.
I took him to the military chaplain tonight, to talk things out, and he ws sayen how there is hope for us, and it can be salvaged but it is in my husbands hands he ws just looken down. i hugged him and said thank u for going with me. We both realized..or i did, that i needed to give him his space..he asked me if i was going back to my home town and i said no. he said what are you going to do. i said be patient and silent..he told me do not hold on to hope ...there is no reason to. I have to go..i said where are you in a rush to. He said i have a life to go start over.
So...i am thinken councling is out. i want to..have offered...i want to...he just absolultly does not want have anything to do with me. left the kid here and went to the bachelor pad he is stayen at.
hurts like a bitch
 
Tink! said:
I will call or contact a lawyer in the morning. I don't want to. I want so bad to work it out. I know so very foolish.
I took him to the military chaplain tonight, to talk things out, and he ws sayen how there is hope for us, and it can be salvaged but it is in my husbands hands he ws just looken down. i hugged him and said thank u for going with me. We both realized..or i did, that i needed to give him his space..he asked me if i was going back to my home town and i said no. he said what are you going to do. i said be patient and silent..he told me do not hold on to hope ...there is no reason to. I have to go..i said where are you in a rush to. He said i have a life to go start over.
So...i am thinken councling is out. i want to..have offered...i want to...he just absolultly does not want have anything to do with me. left the kid here and went to the bachelor pad he is stayen at.
hurts like a bitch
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I think your husband is in a time of serious retrospection....
He keeps talking about lost time, being trapped for 7 years, starting a new life. The life he helped you to create and give birth to was just as much his doing. He was an adult that wanted a life with you. He asked you to marry him. Now, it's being undone by him.
You don't owe him fucking shit.
Get the lawyer, put nice Tink in the closet for another time, and start thinking about owning the guy who turned you and your daughter's life upside down cuz he's having a crisis...or wants new pussy.
You have the advantage of the courts.
 
Sad thing is, i dont know how to be not nice. Even though he has done all of this, screwed up my life and my daughters, i don't want to hurt him. I don't want to be mean. I don't have the strength to do anything. I know i need to take action before it is to late..but at the same time, i just can't. I tried to pack my things to head out of town today, and i couldn't. I could not get them in the suitcases. I already had boxes packed from a few weeks ago when i found out what he was up to. All i had to do was put them in the back of the truck. I couldn't. I do nothing but sit and cry all day. I had to beg and i am talken beg him to come home and take care of his daughter, because i was a wreck. Every time i cried, she did, and i coulnd't be the strong parent she needed..and he refused forever..then finally after i swore i would not talk to him, he could lock himself downstairs..just please be with her, he told me he would come for an hour.
I know this all sounds so shity. And i know it is shity how it went about. But call me stupid..foolish...i don't care...i love him. It hurts so fucken much. I laugh at times, because 3 weeks ago, i was over him and he was begging me. Made a bunch of promises...he cried and begged on the phone. Now that he is home...had time to get things situated and get his hands on some money and hook up with people, he no longer wants me. Every one told me then how freaken stupid i was. Blinded by love i guess.
 
He called the cops on you and you still gave him "some" later?
 
He has been through a lot in the last year however that doesn't justify him treating you this way. If this is a radical departure from his normal behavior contact his CO and discuss the matter with him/her. Sounds like he has some serious issues in his head and his employer should help you out. Hope you are doing okay. Be safe.
 
sad huh? He said he was scared to death, and could not get home fast enough. He had no clue that was going to happen, that he just thought they were going to sit with me..and he had actually called them back and told them not to worry he had me on the phone, and they had already sent some one.
so yea..crappy..and i wanted some just as bad as he did...had been a while.
 
mountain muscle said:
He has been through a lot in the last year however that doesn't justify him treating you this way. If this is a radical departure from his normal behavior contact his CO and discuss the matter with him/her. Sounds like he has some serious issues in his head and his employer should help you out. Hope you are doing okay. Be safe.
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i have actually talked to the head of his chain of command...and nothing. They get their little briefings..they advise them to go to counciling, but can't make them do anything. I asked him to go to the chaplain with me...which is a huge step for him..he doesn't or has always felt our problems are not to be discussed with any one else. But it didn't matter. he has his mind made up. He is enjoying his single life, with no wife to answer to, and no child to take care of.
 
Tink! said:
i have actually talked to the head of his chain of command...and nothing. They get their little briefings..they advise them to go to counciling, but can't make them do anything. I asked him to go to the chaplain with me...which is a huge step for him..he doesn't or has always felt our problems are not to be discussed with any one else. But it didn't matter. he has his mind made up. He is enjoying his single life, with no wife to answer to, and no child to take care of.
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Then it is time to talk to a lawyer asap dear. I would still let everyone of his Army buddies know what is going on. There is at least one of them out there that will help you.
Best thing to do is take care of you and your family first and foremost. Sorry to hear of the mess. :worried:
 
Tink, this pisses me off, bc I remeber thinking how nice you were being faithful while he was deployed, and you couldn't wait until he got home. You deserved better.

However, everyone has given you great advice!

You are so young and I would guess you have been w/him your entire adult life. This may be a blessing in disguise. You might find someone 100 times better. It takes time to first get to know yourself first.

I know you think you still love him, but it is just bc he is all you have know and you are understable insecure now. But, trust me you will look back and realize that you are a good person and deserve alot more!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Tink...
Do you have family to talk to? Like a father or grandfather?
You're a not very deliberate person, and the time is gonna come for you
to make some choices and actions that will require alittle help.
Maybe a aunt or a best friend to help guide your hand, so to speak.
Passiveness with hurt you and keep you from getting what you daughter deserves.
Forget about you....
It's your daughter he walked out on.
It's your daughter he doesn't want to see.
It's your daughter he doesn't want to spend another Christmas with.
It's your daughter he doesn't care, gets fed.

You are your daughtes life. She needs you to be a TANK. Forget you, It's for her.
Take our advice, contact the lawyer first thing. DON'T PUT IT OFF!!!
 
i feel badly for you, but you have to end this and distance yourself from him. if you don't, it will only perpetuate.
 
I'll never understand it either. I'd kill to get a sweet honest hot chick like you with me. Sure don't exist out here in la. :)
 
Tink, its times like these in a person's life when they find out what they are made of. You may have strengths within you that you don't even know you have, yet. Sure, today may have been crap, and tomorrow may be a bummer as well. But a month from now, you may not feel as bad as you do right now. And a year from now, who knows? You may look back a year from now and think, "I really went through a bad time back then, but I'm better now."
I went through a terrible time in my life not unlike your situation. I didn't think that I would be able to bounce back. After a month of hell trying to re-adjust, I drew out a calender from the date my life took its sudden plunge to a year later and marked that date off, knowing that if I could make it to that date, I would be OK.
When that faithful date finally came a year later, I looked at my homemade calender and laughed, because I realized how much I changed in that time. By the time that date came, I was over my pain, and made a new life for myself.
When I made that calender, I thought it was the end of the world for me. When I reached the end of that calender, I realized that it was an end to just one chapter in my life, and the beginning of another.
One of the hardest things to do is accept that it is over. Its so easy to keep on hoping that something will change and life will go back to the way it was. But that hope will just prolong your pain. I'm not telling you to lose hope, Tink, I just know that I had to lose mine in order for me to go forward. Thats when I made my calender. I also had to realize that it wasn't this person who was hurting me, it was my FEELINGS for that person that was hurting me. I knew that as long as I had feelings for her, I would feel pain. Emotional pain is just like a physical pain, unless you take away what's causing it, you will always feel it. And like an injury, it takes time to heal and go away, and it will leave a scar. but, at the very least, it will make you stronger emotionally.
So hang in there, tink, because one day you, too, will look back and say, "well, I got through that". Whether its a year or two, or six months, or whatever, emotionally you will get better, Tink. Your not going to hurt 8 months from now as much as you do at this moment. Remember that and use it for something to look forward to, for strength.

I hope this somehow helps.
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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WTF??
What did you do to him to deserve that? (i know you did nothing wrong)
The guy is crazy. You are young and beautiful. Don't worry. You have a long young life to be happy, to have a good time, and a long beautiful adult life to share with your daughter and somebody who loves you.

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Tink! said:
Yes he is in the army...just got back from iraq (1year)

I try to stay strong for kiara. I just don't know how. I don't know how to handle this...how to deal with it..how to move on. I am freaken super young...now getting a divorce with a 4 year old...so i have a wonderful long single life to look forward to. Yeah me
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Holy Cow Tink!

Tell him to hit the %$#&^&*^ road.
I hate when guys do this to good women.
You deserve better than this!
When he's crying and want to come back. Tell him one chance is all that he got.
Go see a lawyer asap..
It's good your still young. You have a whole life ahead of you with your daugher.
You both deserve better. :rose:
 
Dang tink!
Right now your hurting, but trust me, it gets better..dang it cant get much worse can it? I think he took u to the hospital because he has been planning this for a while and the time was right....he may try to fight u for custody..dont give in.....
Oh lord the story i could tell on my ex...
Hell be back begging for another chance, but dont do it.....be strong..i know its hard but try to anyway
Good luck
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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You win the shittiest weekend award.
 
2 quick thoughts:

a) what's the story with the suicide thing? No harm meant, but I find it hard to believe he called the cops for no reason, they showed up, and decided to haul you away even though you were completely calm and sane. (I didn't read this whole thread so if you addressed this, sorry)

b) not that you deserve any of that (you seem like a nice person...), but I always feel a lot less sad for women who let men walk all over them, repeatedly. if he cheated on you before, why'd you take him back? and sorry, "love" isn't really a good answer IMO.

c) regardless, hopefully this will turn out to be the best thing for you in the long run. best of luck.
 
Sorry Tink,

Mine still hurts too. You really gotta stop thinking about taking him back though - he'll only hurt you again.

Don't feel worthless or like damaged goods. There a lot of us guys that would love to be with a beautiful woman like you and be very happy to help you with your daughter. I never got to have kids so for guys like me it'd be a bonus.

You'll have no trouble finding a man that's 1000% the man he was - honest! :)
 
DAMN.. tink... i know you were looking forward to fixing things, i'm sorry it didn't work out.
Its no consolation, but you are young and gorgeous and sweet- you deserve a guy who's going to treat you right and i guarrantee you'll find one.
get through each day now and things will get better.
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Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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You'll be alright...and hammy has a little penis! ;)
 
Tink- If I remember right you guys got married at like 17. Now that you have both seen more of life it really isn't that strange that you have grown apart. That is the problem with getting married so young, you are a very different person at 17 than at 24. Most people struggle with their identity until closer to 30. Your identity was set for you when you became a mother. You are committed to that and to being a good wife because you feel you have to be. Especially after a year apart he has found out that he thinks there is something more he wants from life. Unforetuneately he is making the descision on his own and not thinking about you or your daughter. Someday he will probably realize the mistake he has made. Right now he feels trapped hence him not wanting to talk to you because deep down he knows what he is doing is wrong. Just try to be strong for you and your daughter, but don't be afraid to ask people for help, or at least accept the help of those that offer. Don't look on the rest of your life with pessimism, you are very young, too young to think that you'll have to spend the rest of you life alone. There is nothing anyone can say that will actually make you feel better, this will take time. For now think of the best interests of yourself and your daughter, get a lawyer, be prepared to get counciling for you and your daughter, and be prepared for him to do many strange and hurtful things to you in and out of court.

My best wishes to you in your struggles.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
Tink! said:
Here was my weekend:

Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.

ha...so beat that!!!!!!! :)
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What an awful story...sorry to hear that tink...just remember karma is a bitch :rose:
 
TC2 said:
I Call Dibs On Tink!!!!
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bump that i get tink and i am not saying that just because i like girls either! she is hot hot hot and that thing she calls a husband is the most idiotic dumbass that i have ever heard of. we were emailing back and forth for awhile and i thought well ok he is an ok guy i suppose (for a guy that is) :) said he was done with her and wanted to move on. of course i had no reason not to believe him (but then again we are on the computer so who knows for sure if he was telling me the truth). said he was going on a vacation with other people and not taking her. (thought that was weird but he is a guy) then he decides he wants to try and work it out......NOW i see he is the biggest prick of them all! i mean talk about a meely mouth kind of guy. who does that to a person you are suppose to love? (except maybe a guy) hahahaha anyway my advice take it for what it is tink.....stop the damn pity party take a look at how he has been lying and cheating on you and your daughter. stop being in love with the idea of love and get on with your life. take him for everything he gots!!!...take a breather and then come on over to that all girls team! we know how to treat a beautiful girl like you!! :p :p :p .....this guy is not an extention of you and you can live without him in your life.....as for the booty call that was way out of line on his part and you are not very smart for giving in.....stop being weak!
 
Don't get mad.
Get everything.
Child support, alimony.
Get a good lawyer.
On the worst day of my life, someone (whom I really didn't like) said 'this will also pass'.
And I appreciate that till today.
Sorry to hear all that.
 
Does anyone know if she's alright? Seems like a very nice girl that's been treated like crap. Hope someone on this board knows her well enough to bring her a pizza and a tub of ice cream. Good comfort food and a good friend can go a long way.
 
Tink I sent you a PM, figured you'd take it more to heart and it was kinda personal for a whole board to read.
 
Hi every one. Thank you for your kind and encouraging words. I am trying really hard to keep it together...ok..there are somethings i want to address..such as the suicide...i did not nor was i going to commit suicide...before my husband, i was a self mutilator and had got help with it. Which is why he freaked out. He didn't want me to hurt myself and maybe take it a bit to far.

The thing that kills me, is after all he did and put me through, he was the one crying on the phone begging me to take him back..because when i found out i told him to fuck off and find some where else to call home. He swore he would never do a lot of shit. He came home and bought me new furniture, a new truck, paid for a valentines cruise. And after just 2 1/2 weeks i am so horrible he can't be around me...gggrrr.
I can't get him on the phone, and he won't stay around kiara to long, because i am here. He told me today he is going to take some one else on our cruise. Another solider..a man (best friend). Wierd thing is...he is really close with 3 other soldiers...and all of them are going through the same thing as well. I don't know what to make of it. I guess i am hopefully..which he tells me not to bed.
I have no one here, i don't know but 1 person in this area and she is leaving on vacation with her husband tomorrow. So it is just Kiara and I. He headed out of town today.
On a good note, last night i went out and got tore up....my word!!!!! I don't go out but once a year or so, because he never took me out and i didn't know any one here to watch my daughter or to go out with. Well, i had him come over and sit home with the kid while i went out and partied it up. It was kind of nice. I had a lot of people ask for my number, or ask me to go home with them...countless number of drinks were bought for me...so i started giving them to the people i was with. I got way way way to drunk. Came home...he was here, he took care of me and helped me out. I don't remember some of it...just kinda fuzzy..but parts i do remember..oh like bawling to him and just saying sorry. I do remember telling him that i love him..and he said i love you too.
i guess it is the little things like that, that keeps me hoping. He tells me he does love me and he does care for me, he just doesn't want to be with me. And how i need to learn to move on and how i am so perfect and going to make some one so happy. So i feel at times i am getting little signals??? and others getting the rejected speech. I think the hardest thing is being alone. I have my daughter, but she likes to do things on her own...not with mommy...so i have no one to really talk to and i have no energy to focus on something else.
Oh isn't life grand
Thank you all for your advice, concerns and just being sweet.
 
fireflyer said:
Does anyone know if she's alright? Seems like a very nice girl that's been treated like crap. Hope someone on this board knows her well enough to bring her a pizza and a tub of ice cream. Good comfort food and a good friend can go a long way.
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Thank you..you are sweet..but i see you are new...that is one of my problems...I don't eat. When i am upset, stressed,depressed ect, i take it out on myself. Ever since i miscarried in october. Right now i am about 35 pounds under weight. I know this is one of my issues i need to work on...before the baby i use to work out, and i loved it...i want to get back into it..but right now, i am zapped with all of this.
 
Tink! said:
Thank you..you are sweet..but i see you are new...that is one of my problems...I don't eat. When i am upset, stressed,depressed ect, i take it out on myself. Ever since i miscarried in october. Right now i am about 35 pounds under weight. I know this is one of my issues i need to work on...before the baby i use to work out, and i loved it...i want to get back into it..but right now, i am zapped with all of this.
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Ill come for a visit and feed ya,I dont mind eating like shit lol,and Im sure it would make ya feel better, trust me hagen daze rules
 
aww...so very sweet of you!! has to be choc. chip cookie dough...And i could really go for some chicken teriyaki ;)
 
Tink! said:
aww...so very sweet of you!! has to be choc. chip cookie dough...And i could really go for some chicken teriyaki ;)
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sounds like a deal to me, chicken and ice cream,what more do ya need lol
 
jstmitebe said:
.....take a breather and then come on over to that all girls team! we know how to treat a beautiful girl like you!! :p :p :p ......
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Jeez, I never thought I'd have to teach a lesbo the right way to munch carpet. You're doing it wrong. Its not like this :p :p :p , it's like this :licker: :licker: :licker: .

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LOL exactly...mmm..yummy...hey i am actually getting hungry...i think in the last 4 days i have had like 2 pieces of bread 1 donut and a lot of alchol....yikes...my body is going to freaken shut down on me...i need to stop and take care of this. Thanks for getting me to feel hungry! :)
 
i am waiting for a lawyer to call me back actually..i got to talk to him briefly..but he had some things to do and said he would get back to me.
 
geoboy said:
Jeez, I never thought I'd have to teach a lesbo the right way to munch carpet. You're doing it wrong. Its not like this :p :p :p , it's like this :licker: :licker: :licker: .

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LOL oh thank you for the giggle!!! i haven't done that in a few days..thank you!
 
Good to hear you have contacted a lawyer. Now you need to eat and take care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to take care of your daughter or your problems. If you are that much under weight you run the risk of getting sick so much more easily. I know about not wanting to eat when being really stressed out but, be very careful to keep your health up.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
i know this is true..but it is hard. i just don't feel hungry and then will realize it has been a few days since i last ate. i am eating some bread right now...slowly...i also still hve a bit of a hang over..so not feeling very well..lol. Every one is super worried, with what he put me through i lost a lot of weight then, bout 15 pounds..and now even more. i think this is the lowest i have ever been though, at a whopping 84 pounds...well lowest in my adult life.
His best friend who he told everything to, and who he is taken on our cruise, told me, he would help me out, and talk with me and let me know what is really going on this evening, and his wife is going to cook dinner...so i am looking forward to that, because i just can't be rude, so i will eat it. Will be a good thing. Hopefully i can wake myself up and get back to eating and eventually lifting again.
 
Tink! said:
i know this is true..but it is hard. i just don't feel hungry and then will realize it has been a few days since i last ate. i am eating some bread right now...slowly...i also still hve a bit of a hang over..so not feeling very well..lol. Every one is super worried, with what he put me through i lost a lot of weight then, bout 15 pounds..and now even more. i think this is the lowest i have ever been though, at a whopping 84 pounds...well lowest in my adult life.
His best friend who he told everything to, and who he is taken on our cruise, told me, he would help me out, and talk with me and let me know what is really going on this evening, and his wife is going to cook dinner...so i am looking forward to that, because i just can't be rude, so i will eat it. Will be a good thing. Hopefully i can wake myself up and get back to eating and eventually lifting again.
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yikes 84lbs I am almost 4 of you right now. :worried: I don't eat much when I get super stressed longest I went without eating anything at all was three days. I have learned to not do that now and will force myself to eat. Best of wishes with the dinner thing, hope the reason is something you can deal with better than not knowing at all.

Cheers,
Scotsman
 
well, it went well tonight. I got a lot of great advice from his best friend...and it was kind of funny the shit this guy was saying about my husband. Telling me how he is one of the most selfish people he knows..which i knew...and he is an ass...which i knew..lol.
Dinner part..not so good...i didn't eat anything...i still can not bring myself to eat anything. I actually do feel hungry, but the thought of any food makes me wanna get sick....i forced myself to eat some bread earlier though...so i might have to do something like that again here shortly.

Thank you all for your support and for your kind words. I will keep you updated if anything happens...or i guess when the divorce is finalized...uuuhhhggg...life freaken stinks!!!
 
Tink! said:
well, it went well tonight. I got a lot of great advice from his best friend...and it was kind of funny the shit this guy was saying about my husband. Telling me how he is one of the most selfish people he knows..which i knew...and he is an ass...which i knew..lol.
Dinner part..not so good...i didn't eat anything...i still can not bring myself to eat anything. I actually do feel hungry, but the thought of any food makes me wanna get sick....i forced myself to eat some bread earlier though...so i might have to do something like that again here shortly.

Thank you all for your support and for your kind words. I will keep you updated if anything happens...or i guess when the divorce is finalized...uuuhhhggg...life freaken stinks!!!
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Tink :rose:

My Mamma was like that; she couldn't eat when she was nervous or upset.
She was down to about 90.
And it was always because of arguing between her and my Dad.
He had the whole family tore up most of the time.

Well guess what I'm trying to get at. Finally after years of this, she divorce him
and she and the rest of the family was better off; which means no more stress of the fighting.
And she felt better and put on a little weight.

Get healthy for you and your daughter. She is picking up on all this stress and she is the one who's suffering the most.

Hugs to you and your daughter.. :heart: :rose:
 
yes i know but i didn't see that one or i would have used it dumbass!

and tink the reason you are getting mixed signals is because your husband is an idiot again i say this and you want to have the mixed signals. you want to get back with a person who treats you and your daughter like shit. who lies and cheat on you both because whatever he does to you he does to her too....also he wants to make sure you are there if all of his other conquests fall through he knows he can come running back to you. and the really really really really sad part is that you will let him. you need to get some self respect and just say no, no no no no no no no....oh did i say to say no?
 
Tink! said:
well, it went well tonight. I got a lot of great advice from his best friend...and it was kind of funny the shit this guy was saying about my husband. Telling me how he is one of the most selfish people he knows..which i knew...and he is an ass...which i knew..lol.
Dinner part..not so good...i didn't eat anything...i still can not bring myself to eat anything. I actually do feel hungry, but the thought of any food makes me wanna get sick....i forced myself to eat some bread earlier though...so i might have to do something like that again here shortly.

Thank you all for your support and for your kind words. I will keep you updated if anything happens...or i guess when the divorce is finalized...uuuhhhggg...life freaken stinks!!!
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Tink! hun! i urge you to at least get a protein gainer shake until you get thru this...its not healthy. :rose:
G.
 
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Definitely sorry to hear all of this. Very sad. On the plus side, it's very good you are no longer with this guy. Keep it that way. He is clearly worth nothing to treat you this way. Too bad you couldn't have split with him earlier. Best of luck.
 
Lord, i know i need to find my self respect...3 weeks ago i was full of it when i was kicking his ass out..telling him how his actions had consequences and he fucked his family, so he can live a life with out us. Now, my world is shattered. He loses nothing in this deal. He is in the army, so he will always have food, clothes and a place to live...and i am put out there with my daughter with nothing. I guess yea it is a bit scarey, i am trying to turn over a new leaf as of today...trying to focus on what needs to be done and the kind of parent my daughter needs. i know that it is only I she can count on. He said he is coming back from out of town tonight, and he will stop by to see her...which scares me, because i know i will be a wreck when he leaves.
As far as the eating...i am trying. Everything i eat comes up or goes right through me, i am trying to eat every hour a little bit at a time. Mainly just bread and oatmeal right now. Taking in a lot of water. I am going to try to spend the day focusing on house work, and try to let everything else go for a while...will see how it goes. Thank you all for your encouraging words, and for letting me know how i am effecting my daughter...i in no way, want to hurt her or let her down. And i guess i have been to wrapped up in what he is putting us through to think about what i am putting her through. Thank you all!!!
 
yeah when I get upset and stuff i lose weight, of course with your weight its not healthy...you need to do what radar says,
Gf, you need to stay healthy for ur child and yourself
 
ceo said:
I still have ties up there girl...let me know if you need anything done...

gonna hafta read the rest of this later...gotta go to work.
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Thank you very much...will let you know if i need anything. :)
 
LOL i guess a bomb for being retarded and taken him back....such is life..that is okay..i know a lot of people out there think that i am pathetic and such...and yea..i know in some ways i am...i am trying so damn hard to move on...today been focusing on being positive for my daughter...playing games with her and such...cleaning my house and eating...one day at a time right...as far as the bomb...that is my frist ever..so thanks for popping my cherry ;)
 
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