Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below
Beat this
- Thread starter Tink!
- Start date
Tink!
New member
Oh god..i wish all was well with me..i started eating today...so that is a plus. other than that..just trying to make it from hour to hour..not doing so good..he told me how much he can afford to pay me ect..and that i need to find some where else to live basically..i can stay here a while, but he can't afford our mortgage payments and a place for himself as well. So...i am kind of panicing..not ready for all this shit. uuuhhggg
Tink!
New member
I don't plan to..i mean i am looking just so i know ahead of time, what kind of money i need to be making..because right now i only work part time, and have called into work since friday. But i plan to stay here. I don't want to be a bitch and make things difficult for him in the mean time...i know..sad of me..and i know i need to grow some balls or something...but this is where i am at right now..still sulking and hoping i guess...hopefully in the next few days, i will get in the mind set i need to get into.
Tink! said:
Tink
I don't think any of us think you are pathetic at all.
I think most of us here think of you as a little sister. And were trying to help you out the only way we know how.
He can't make you leave your home. Your the one with the child.
What has your lawyer said?
Tink!
New member
the lawyer just told me the basic crap i alreayd knew..bout if i contest it or not...spousal and child support, that kind of thing. he was basically no help to me, so i am going to JAG tomorrow..which is military lawyers to talk to one in person...hopefully i will get something else
good luck with everything tink. divorces suck. except for the not eating part, i would say you're handling it fairly well
RADAR
Well-known member
Tink he set the stage, and he is gonna have to play by the rules, you DO NOT leave that house! Thats only gonna put more stress on you.
Says he can't pay huh? Well he should have thought about all that from the start, thats the price for freedom, he'll have to just suck it up!
RADAR
Says he can't pay huh? Well he should have thought about all that from the start, thats the price for freedom, he'll have to just suck it up!
RADAR
Tink!
New member
LOL..it is amazing how many times i have heard those exact words..lol. So okay..i am staying..i guess worst case scenario..house will for close..and my credit will be screwed...but right now at this point i truly don't care. I don't think it will come to that. I am sure we will be at a lawyers desk or in court before that happens. But i plan to stay 
Right now i am looking into college...lol..he left me with like no money...but what little i have, i want to make sure it is put to good use.
Right now i am looking into college...lol..he left me with like no money...but what little i have, i want to make sure it is put to good use.
U
Ulcasterdropout
Guest
then find a better lawyer.
That's fucking absurd, he was no help.
I wish this was easier for you, tink
Keep eating, even if you don't wanna.
That's fucking absurd, he was no help.
I wish this was easier for you, tink
Keep eating, even if you don't wanna.
Tink!
New member
i ate pretty good today...well..lmao..oky...i at least ate today. So that is something..some bread and oatmeal and some chicken teriyaki. I will probably eat again soon before i go to bed.
I most definantly am going to find some one else to talk to. I will be on base tomorrow, so i will go talk to those lawyers face to face and find out more.
and i too wish this was easier..lol..god do i wish it didn't hurt
I most definantly am going to find some one else to talk to. I will be on base tomorrow, so i will go talk to those lawyers face to face and find out more.
and i too wish this was easier..lol..god do i wish it didn't hurt
U
Ulcasterdropout
Guest
Good through the phone book. Don't let this fuck, dictate your future. ie where you're gonna live, etc...
Be strong, honey. I know you will reach deep down and find the strength for that little girl.
Be strong, honey.
I know you will reach deep down and find the strength for that little girl.
Razorguns said:I'll never understand it either. I'd kill to get a sweet honest hot chick like you with me. Sure don't exist out here in LA.
True dat! I sure don't meet any here in San Diego either!
I may have met one, but she's not from CA originally...we'll see how things go.
Last edited:
jstmitebe said:
Listen to her Tink, she's absolutely right.
The most dangerous thing right now is treating this as a reflection of what you hope/wish etc. You're a good person, and you want to be kind and non confrontational. I have known so many women who have done the exact same thing and they have all lived to regret the decision.
Let an attornye handle the negotiations, and let him fight to get you what you are entitled to under the law. If it doesnt go to you and your daughter, it will just go to feeding and clothign some skank down the line while you and your daughter struggle. You need to protect her interests as well a s your own.
It isnt about what he wants to give. Your entitled. Anything givenm can be taken away, and with this clown that will most certainly be the case at some near point in the future.
Tink!
New member
JST~ Well, i am on my way to ending the pity party. Yesterday was a better day..was able to focus on other things and concentrate on making everything okay for my daughter and myself...i am on my way, but not there yet.
JA~ i understand that, but i don't know how to be a bitch...i know this is sad, but i don't want to screw him...i don't want to do anything just to spite him...that is why i hope to calm down and get myself together and then go into it...not just go into it right now because i am hurt and upset...i am not a horrible person, and i don't want him leaving this thinking i am. We have a child together and are going to have to be in each others lives for at least 14 more years.
JA~ i understand that, but i don't know how to be a bitch...i know this is sad, but i don't want to screw him...i don't want to do anything just to spite him...that is why i hope to calm down and get myself together and then go into it...not just go into it right now because i am hurt and upset...i am not a horrible person, and i don't want him leaving this thinking i am. We have a child together and are going to have to be in each others lives for at least 14 more years.
Scotsman
New member
You don't have to be a bitch or do anything out of spite. Just make sure that you don't take that too far and leave yourself without a means to get by. He made the commitment to you first when you were married then when you had your daughter. Now HE is breaking that commitment and should have to make amends. This is HIS choice and all choices have consequences and reprecussions. In this case that means alimony and child support to you and your daughter.
Cheers,
Scotsman
Cheers,
Scotsman
Tink!
New member
I plan on getting what i deserve..i think he thinks i am stupid..he is trying to go officer, which means he will be making more money, and was told that i can put it to have him pay a certain % of whatever he makes, instead of him just saying i am going to give you X amount of dollars. So that is kind of reassuring. Thank you for all the support you guys give me..and i like that you are all blunt and to the point..helps me pull my head out and find the strength to go on. Thank you
Tink!
New member
Well thank you for all of your help and support..i will be sure to look into it..i am heading out of town for a while. not sure how long. Going back home for a while to surrond myself with friends and family. You all take care and i will let you know how everything is when i get back
Tink! said:
Good sweetie, you need the ones who love you around you.
It hurts R, but its all just an illusion. It will end, and you will reach a point where you wonder wtf did you ever see in such a loser.
Look at this thread and the impression ytou made on people in your short time here. Hardly anyone knows or cares who the fuck he is.
He was never in your league
Tink! said:Here was my weekend:
Saturday..hubby thinks i am going to commit "suicide" calls the cops..2 cop cars at my house..all neighbors watching..get put in the back, hauled down to the ER crises center. Get released..hubby drops me and kid at home to go to a party. Comes home at 5...he gets some...gets some again at 10...then 1030 tells me he wants a divorce and doesn't love me and wants nothing to do with me.
ha...so beat that!!!!!!!
Humm hard to beat....
