are you from a dysfunctional family?

[blueta2]

No, no you misunderstand.

He was not saying that you should INTENTIONALLY fuck a child up. What he said is that regardless of how well-meaning a parent is, there will undoubtedly be mistakes made and miscommunications will happen. So for all a parent's best intentions, their children WILL get fucked up in some way, shape or form. The goal is to try to help children gain the tools they will need in order to be happy and to cope in the world independent of you.

You know what it is called when we stop blaming our parents for all the mistakes they made when we were kids growing up?

MATURITY.

My parents fucked me up real bad in many ways, the continue to do it to this day... but after a point in time I realize that while a lot of the bad decisions/behaviors I chose may have been put in me by my parents, it is up to ME to face and fix and move on if I want to be happy.

I am trying really hard to make myself right so that when I do get my girls back, I WILL be able to help them cope with how badly their spermdonor fucked them up. I can't do that if I remain satisfied to sit here and focus on all the wrong that was done me.

oh ok, yeah i did misunderstand
This is all so very true

I still blame my Mom for certain things, but we are all so close and loving and we still talk about our lives and screw ups.

 

[blueta2]

And Cindy, I thought I was picking men that were total opposites of my Dad, but there were all VERY much the same.

 

[Bikini Mod]

And Cindy, I thought I was picking men that were total opposites of my Dad, but there were all VERY much the same.

WERD

With my first husband I thought that he was somehow better than my own father because he never hit me (like my father did my mother until WE stood up to him)... that was, until he hit me.

I was raised to believe that jealousy was part of love and that I wasn't worth loving.

I got over the jealousy being part of love thing. After 9 years of marriage and 4 children I finally had enough of the control and jealousy.

Though I still struggle daily with the whole *I am WORTH loving thing*....

... but I do work on that. I know I am a good person and I know I deserve love, just really fucks with your mind when you run into obstacles like we have with the family court system, the backlash on elite and IRL has been unbelievable... but my girls and I and those who love us know THE TRUTH. I share so willingly to educate the public and to help others who might be living through the same nightmare, so that they don't think they are alone, as we all thought we were for so many years.

 

[blueta2]

WERD

With my first husband I thought that he was somehow better than my own father because he never hit me (like my father did my mother until WE stood up to him)... that was, until he hit me.

I was raised to believe that jealousy was part of love and that I wasn't worth loving.

I got over the jealousy being part of love thing. After 9 years of marriage and 4 children I finally had enough of the control and jealousy.

Though I still struggle daily with the whole *I am WORTH loving thing*....

... but I do work on that. I know I am a good person and I know I deserve love, just really fucks with your mind when you run into obstacles like we have with the family court system, the backlash on elite and IRL has been unbelievable... but my girls and I and those who love us know THE TRUTH. I share so willingly to educate the public and to help others who might be living through the same nightmare, so that they don't think they are alone, as we all thought we were for so many years.

That is the only line in this whole paragraph that should be deleted.
Who cares about the backlash from interent punks!
Don't ever take to heart what punks from here say to you...please, giving them that power is SO not you ;-)

 

[digimon7068]

sure. . .isn't everybody??

 

[Scotsman]

Well I wouldn't say dysfunctional because it was perfectly normal to me.LOL

Father son talks did include:
How to make explosives from household items
How to use dead bodies for shape charges
How to fix any and all household items with tools made at home.
etc....

My mom is a political activist so I grew up going to the govenors mansion for x-mas and shit like that.

So a pretty diverse upbringing.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[stilleto]

oh, i forgot to add to mine:
dad was a nudist and chain pot smoker.
i dated his friends and that was cool with him.

mom left my dad for someone 5 years older than me.

augusten burroughs feels bad for me.

 

[Scotsman]

oh, i forgot to add to mine:
dad was a nudist and chain pot smoker.
i dated his friends and that was cool with him.

mom left my dad for someone 5 years older than me.

augusten burroughs feels bad for me.

I badly want to feel you!

Does that count for anything.

Cheers,
Scotsman

 

[stilleto]

I badly want to feel you!

Does that count for anything.

Cheers,
Scotsman

oh, that counts for a LOT.

 

[Scotsman]

oh, that counts for a LOT.

Sweet.

Cheers,
Scotsman