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are children overrated? came across this article, thought it was interesting

dude i left my girl in chicago that has the same thing. but she is different then all the girls i have met. she is just straight up cool. never gets jealous. i just cant explain how shes different but she is. BUT she gets really bad anxiety and has super bad problems with her mom. carrys around xanax and shit. From a girlfriend standpoint she is perfect but im afraid of the other stuff. and she has super bad health problems. she gets sick like every month and doctors dont know why.. has strep throat and shit all the time. gets high fevers. its weird. if i marry her im afraid she's either going to get super sick or shes gonna go crazy because of her mom.


Marriage is over rated....just stay BF and GF......:supercool
 
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I have one baby, a great family and support system. My social life is exactly the same as it was before, I get out at least once every other weekend, and the weekends I dont get out, my friends come to my house. My life is 100% better post baby than it was pre-baby. I dont think having ANOTHER kid would make it better, but I dont regret having a baby for one second. Abby has only woken up sick in the middle of the night once. She slept through the night 8 hours at 6 weeks and slept 12 hours at 5 months. I am a WAHM so things get hectic, but its only for such a short time. Who cares. I was so structured and routined before, now I can live life and go with the flow - I have learned so much from her.

I think it helps that God blessed me with an Angel child and a family who fights over who gets to watch her so I can have a life outside being a Mom. I get the best of both worlds. One kid is the way to go! I couldnt imagine going through life not experiencing what its like to be a Mother. Its a life experience just like trying new foods and traveling. It does not last forever. Some people are so scared of being temporarily inconvenienced they miss out on the experience. Too bad. Kids are only kids for awhile, they grow up and move on and you could possibly have another 40 years to be childfree again.

And dressing her up is fun as hell and we already throw the ball to eachother.
 
Or....you could do what my hubby did....find a woman that already has a kid (or two, in my case) AFTER the diapers and all that no-sleeping BS....and who are well behaved...... :) I wonder sometimes if my hubby actually wants a baby of his own (because I am done - that would be a deal-breaker), but whenever he's around his twin brother's baby, he is very glad he's never had to change a dirty diaper in his life......

pre-fab family - not a bad way to go
 
dude i left my girl in chicago that has the same thing. but she is different then all the girls i have met. she is just straight up cool. never gets jealous. i just cant explain how shes different but she is. BUT she gets really bad anxiety and has super bad problems with her mom. carrys around xanax and shit. From a girlfriend standpoint she is perfect but im afraid of the other stuff. and she has super bad health problems. she gets sick like every month and doctors dont know why.. has strep throat and shit all the time. gets high fevers. its weird. if i marry her im afraid she's either going to get super sick or shes gonna go crazy because of her mom.

mine doesn't take them unless she has a panic attack. which she says she hasn't had in 2 years since her cat got sick and was dying in the hospital.

she uses yoga and herbs to stay balanced.

but my fear is one day if we have a kid and something happens to the kid she will panic and go crazy.
 
I don't think having kids is overrated, but I think trying to be the perfect parent is.


http://www.nytimes.com/2010/06/06/fashion/06Culture.html

an excerpt:

..."But Ms. Badinter thinks that new social pressures are hard for many women to resist. The “green” mother, she says, is pushed to give birth at home, to refuse an epidural as the reflection of “a degenerated industrial civilization” that would deprive her of “an irreplaceable experience,” to breast-feed for both ethological and environmental reasons (plastic baby bottles) and to use washable rather than disposable diapers — in other words, to discard the inventions “that have liberated women.” "
 
I've noticed some ethnicities have tons of kids. like italians or hispanics. they seem to just have them cause its the 'thing to do' even if it means living poor.

and then you have the parents who drop their kids off at the mall or theme park for the day. i just see a lot of parents have kids then not spend any time with them and just get sick of them.
 
I think it is each to their own. Lots of people certainly having kids that don't need to. Unfortunately, the ones that need them the least seem to have the most.

I have 3 kids and I don't think I would do it any different - well yeah, I would probably have 4 to try and avoid the middle child syndrome.

Money has not been much of an issue and I am fortunate to have a wife that keeps up with all their functions as I could never manage that.

That being said, I have travelled a lot during my career and one of the things I enjoyed most about it was the solitude it brought and break from all that "family time". I used to feel guilty about enjoying it so much I got over that in a hurry.
 
Real estate ownership and reproduction are both totally over rated.
 
I am THRILLED not to have kids.

I can do what I want when I want...my friends who have kids are constantly missing out on going to hockey games, UFC, weekend road trips ect because of family commitments. I think finding a like-minded woman and being kid-free is not a bad thing; there are too many people on this earth as it is.
 
You may not want a child and choose not to have one, which is everyones choice and right. But the minute you bring a kid into the world it does no one any good to express in any way how you regretted having that kid. You would damage the child long term more than likely if they found out. Everyone has regrets but in this case its best to keep your mouth shut about it and be responsible parent. Unless you want your kids hating you the rest of your life, and everyone else for that matter.

"No use crying over spilled milk" as the saying goes.
 
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