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heatherrae
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Yeah, now evidently, in his eyes, I'm a bad mom for it. I never had anyone say as mean and hurtful things as he ended up saying this weekend. Ah, well. Good riddance.
Anyone date someone with an Ex wife/husband and kids
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what a fag....
Like I said in my earliar posts it takes a real man to be in a relationship where the woman has kids from a previous relationship.
He obviously isn't a "real" man, and it's probably for the best you figured it out so soon
Logic ends where emotion begins. It is difficult to have a discussion with people when they feel the end coming and the emotions start to explode. I just got into it with my x and she is very emotional and I am logical. People who are emotional say very mean and hurtfull things. I equate it to my 5 year old daughter who cannot explain her feelings well enough so out of her mouth comes things like "I hate you", you don't really hate me you hate the time-out and I gave it to you so therefore you equate your feeling to me.
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heatherrae
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no doubt.
He brings up that I offered up that my dad was an alcoholic as evidence that I must be "co-dependant." I pointed out that I didn't have any trouble showing him the door. So, I must not be very dependant. lol.
He brought up evidence that my dog had pooped on my floor while I was gone to work and that I had garbage to be taken out that I'm a bad mom and he should call child protective services.
What a sweet guy! LOL. He knows the one thing he could say to hurt me is to talk about my relationship with my son. So, he goes for the jugular!
Men are bitches...lol...j/k.
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heatherrae
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yes...projection. and you can't explain to them that they are projecting or they get even more mad.
On topic, I have dated woman who were divorced and had kids. It is a difficult experience, especially when the kids are older and they have not had time to understand why mom and dad are no longer together. Just treat the kids good and hopefully both parents are decent you will be treated with respect too. I end up feeling sorry for the kids because 9/10 times the dad has started a new family with a new wife/mother and the old kids are kind of ignored. Tough situation all-in-all. Good luck. You may be the dad the kids need but don't try to solve their problems until they come to you with them. Just my 2c
walliwalibus
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I am/was (LOL) married for 12 years. When I married, she had a 14 yr old and a 17 yr old. Both are boys. Well, 12 yrs later, I still don't even rate as a friend to them. I never tried to be their father. I was always ready when they needed something though be it advise, or other things, ya know. But over this twelve years, they never tried to connect. I was the outcast. I never said anything harmful to them at all. I treated them with respect but also expected respect. But does that mean stay away from me? I dunno.... hmmmm here I go thinking on this one. It's a roller coaster this separation is, but as I told a friend, I think I am on the last hill..... If I just hold on tight, I can manage to not lose my head again like a few weeks ago.
Sometimes its nice to tell the world things, its kinda like releasing it. letting it go.......
Sorry I got off topic..... oops........
Sometimes its nice to tell the world things, its kinda like releasing it. letting it go.......
Sorry I got off topic..... oops........
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heatherrae
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It is so much easier, I think, when the kids are really young to accept someone new. When they get older, they have a hard time loving a new person in the family.
Sounds like he is pretty insecure....maybe he was jealous that devin was getting a little more attention than he was.
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HeatherRae - the guy sounds like a jerk and you are so much better off without him. Glad you got out quickly. Seems that your "jerk-o-meter" is getting fine tuned! LOL
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