Anybody have experience dating a bipolar bitch?

[FLEX4USML]

Yea, but , Hitman, you have to understand that he is sick too.

When you are in a situation like that you really don't have an understanding of how serious it is. It's like being brainwashed. There is not logic, it's completely irrational. You actually think it's YOU causing their behavior at times.

When I think about how I was in my abusive relationship....I actually hated myself so much I thought I deserved that kind of treatment. I don't think it's any different than someone who cuts themselves. It's sick to even think that way.

Thank you,you fuckin nailed it,I FEEL RETARDED,I honestly have began to think life is supposed to be this way

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[just...v]

Thank you,you fuckin nailed it,I FEEL RETARDED,I honestly have began to think life is supposed to be this way

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It gets much worse. I was blocking out entire conversations with people out, so if they told me bad news or something, I would honestly not remember it in a couple of hours.

Even now, My Tshirt guy got just a little upset about something, he didn't yell or even move in an aggressive manor, he just cursed, and I flinched and felt sick for a couple of hours after.

You get to the point where talking and forming sentences is hard cause you are under so much stress all the time.

 

[FLEX4USML]

Exactly,I wish I could afford a phone counsler ,it would help so much,and thank you all this has helped SOOOOO much u don't even know ,thank you

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[oxymoron]

Exactly,I wish I could afford a phone counsler ,it would help so much,and thank you all this has helped SOOOOO much u don't even know ,thank you

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flex, get on a good forum for now. i don't know if you go to church but they have people there too that will talk to you about this regardless of your beliefs. i'll see if i can find the link to the forum i was on and pm it to you. it made me feel so much better.

the problem you have that i struggled with is if you find the strength to stop supporting her she'll be literally screwed. i kept telling myself that if i don't stick in there she'll be in a shelter and i could've stopped it.

 

[canadianhitman]

Do whatever it takes to find the will to put yourself first. This woman and her kid are not one fraction of a percent as important as YOU are....find that mindset by whatever means necissary!

 

[caligirl85]

I love how all the resident board certified psychiatrist come out of the woodwork when people start talking about mental health conditions. Its enlightening!

Dude, you do NOT want to be in an intimate relationship with someone who has active mental health condition(s). You have been and will continue to be traumatized by their actions. Believe me, I have been there. You cannot fix them so stop feeling sorry for them and do yourself a favor and get the fuck out. Thank your lucky stars there are no kids involved.

I agree Smurf. I think there are kids involved....that was one of my concerns. They just don't have any together. She has an 8 yr old son??? Witnessing all this will change who he is.

 

[oxymoron]

I pm'd you some links, Flex. Take care.

 

[cindylou]

I may have missed it but in no way will she get dedicated to therapy and take meds, even if you start packing her shit and give her a months rent for a hotel and tell her you are Done? Thats basically what I did.
Im on the elliptical so i'll chime in more but I hooked back up with my best friend from HS 15 yrs later and have. been dating long distance for over 2yrs and I came to grips that she had major mental health problems at about the 7 to 8 month mark. Maybe its the long dist that has preserved it but anyways...her family sided wiith her ex during divorce b/c he appears flawless which i tbought was when she snapped but what icve found out is that he is super messed up like diabolical and has mentally fucked her up since they got married. He called when i was on a long wkend there and said he needed their sons backpack. Fyi hes already gotten her in trouble for going to their house when hes not home. So i tell her he called and she says shell drp it off on the way to the store. It was a set up and he took pictures accusing her of breaking in. This happens all the time as she is very trusting mixed with some gullibility. I could go on forever with the bs he did and he's also close to the police had tons of money and so on.
So we have been all over the board tryin to diagnose her from bipolar to borderline but the latest is md. And tried a diff set of meds every few months. She's taking a new ADD med and celexa now which I swear has made her better. Its been slow but good progress. No way would i ever think she could work in the real world 2 yrs ago but now shes working 2 damn jobs. We now fight once every two weeks instead of 2-3 times a week and now she always explains how her point was baseless and just didn't want seem weak for losing. Anyways i'll give you more info when I get home. I stuck it out when most of her friends and family turned their backs on her and thats her in my avi so it was hard to leave from that perspective too. I had a long stressful time deciding whether to ditch her and move on OR help. Seeing her now I'm happy as hell even tho there are still struggles but back when it was bad I HATED dealing with her. Very tricky decision but if u don't think shell get serious years and years of help then get her outta there. Sheezus got carried away, gotta finish work out.... GL bro!


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wow. You dated her long distance for two years and discovered she was mentally ill at the 7 month mark and was able to still make that work? That's incredible.

 

[just...v]

flex, get on a good forum for now. i don't know if you go to church but they have people there too that will talk to you about this regardless of your beliefs. i'll see if i can find the link to the forum i was on and pm it to you. it made me feel so much better.

the problem you have that i struggled with is if you find the strength to stop supporting her she'll be literally screwed. i kept telling myself that if i don't stick in there she'll be in a shelter and i could've stopped it.

Or she will be forced to get the help she needs.

We rarely make substantial improvements on ourselves if we aren't backed into a corner.

 

[oxymoron]

wow. You dated her long distance for two years and discovered she was mentally ill at the 7 month mark and was able to still make that work? That's incredible.

I think the distance eventually helped b/c she had burned every bridge out there including her family to an extent. So when i wasn't there she had to do it on her own. After she had drained her children's college and savings funds and I wasn't there to help it was starve or work. Then i'd show up and help with essentials then back on her own again.

Although i did travel a lot, took 5 day weekends every month. I travel with work and have lots of miles but i spent quite a bit of my own money on tickets too... and a ton on hotels and cabs there when she'd be cussing me out without explanation in the middle of the night.

We had a ton of history, grew up together. When she agreed to get regular counseling and find a medication that worked I kept at it and supported but soon as signs that she was backing out I'd tell her I was done and hang up or take an early flight back. It was actually great when she'd be in mania mode but then wham i was the world's biggest piece of shit getting laughed at b/c of the most random crap.