Any experience with FWB relationship?

[BNG]

I am in a situation that is driving me nuts. My wife's friend is a bit wild and after some of the conversations they've had she told my wife she'd be willing to pick up the slack for her. (she was bitchin about my appetite for sex)Well since then she's been dropping hints, saying flirty things outright, told my wife she'd like to have an experienced guy give her anal, told me she'd like to show me how good she really is,etc.

So is a FWB really possible without f'ing up everything else? My wife has said she would care sometimes, and other times said she'd be pissed. She has said if the other woman was hot enough she may even get interested herself. BUT, nothing ever comes of it. Some girl/girl fondling, a kiss on the lips once, but nothing else. Now her friend is telling us how her husband doesn't ever want to do anything and how much she just wants to fuck for fun. The fun part sounds fun, but there's always things that people don't tell.

So, anyone here ever get into this?

 

[Underwraps]

I have not had a swinging type of relationship and even if only one of the pair is coming up to bat, it still seems like swinging to me. That is not my experience (See my FULL story under Have you Had a Craigslist Encounter). But, from what I know about women and why we do these things there are 3 types as someone else said before. They said 2, but I added another.

1) the simply wild and horny type (think porn star w/o the pay)
2) the kind with an emotional gap and that's what they're really looking to fill, but don't know it and they think it's just sex they want (BEWARE!)
3) the kind that really are looking for "friendship" with sex, but it's really love (BEWARE!)

She may be #1 and that's safe enough, but they can still be annoying and demanding like calling you too much and interfering with your regular life and wife.
#2 Will eventually call you too much and try to make you fulfill more husband like duties like listen to her problems (about her spouse)
#3 You will sense right off the bat as they want to cuddle after it's over etc...

Now, there's your wife. I could never be with another woman for sure. I thinks it's frustrating if she doesn't know if she'd be into it or not, she KNOWS the person. If she's moody she may be yes one day and no the next and use it as a weapon for arguments in the future. Sounds like a danger zone. She needs to be consistently okay with it or don't do it b/c if you do w/o her full consistent consent, she may be okay at first, but she will lord it over you when she's in a bad mood. If you do, then for sure let her be in the room and let her give the instructions and the control if she can at least be up to that. That way, she can't lord it over you as you didn't do anything she didn't tell you to do... Good luck with that.

 

[sam088]

1) the simply wild and horny type (think porn star w/o the pay)
2) the kind with an emotional gap and that's what they're really looking to fill, but don't know it and they think it's just sex they want (BEWARE!)
3) the kind that really are looking for "friendship" with sex, but it's really love (BEWARE!)

 

[zedhed]

Good advice from Underwraps, take heed BNG. Most likely a loose loose situation.

 

[nangiggles]

it's a trap... one way or anoher...

 

[twenty47]

nothing good can come from that if you ask me. she will use it against you every way she can in future conflicts. i took my ex girl and her hot friend out to a club before and my girl kept saying she wanted to incorporate her friend into our dancing. we grinded a little bit and it was a huge mistake lol. came up all the time.

cant imagine if sex was involved.

 

[BNG]

dont be an idiot


keep it in ur wifes box lol

LOL! If i could arrange to store my toy in her box ther'd be no temptation would there?

Update. They B a fyghtin'! Shits so f'd up the plans that had been made between them have been scrapped. Can you imagine if????

 

[Underwraps]

LOL! If i could arrange to store my toy in her box ther'd be no temptation would there?

Update. They B a fyghtin'! Shits so f'd up the plans that had been made between them have been scrapped. Can you imagine if????

Oh, we didn't mention the other angle...She may not just have been testing you, but the friend too. What is the jist of the disagreement?

 

[nydj66]

It's way too dangerous a situation to fool around with. Plus your wife's friend is married so now you'd be fucking him over too.

If the three of you had gotten drunk and something happened on it's own that's one thing. But trying to set this up as a regular thing and manage it long term can only end in heartbreak for a lot of people.

 

[BNG]

UPDATE
Friends husband has moved back in and they're all luv e dove e. Friend had been pissed my wife was encouraging her to work things out. So we go over there and hang out. Drink, get along great. Friends flirty with us both and everything but I could tell he's NEVER going to be ok with anything. So we chill for a while but I told my wife that nothing was going to go on except maybe between the two of them. All's well again, and now that the wife isn't occupied by thoughts of swing'n or swapping she's been fun. Maybe she just gets excited flirting with the fantasy.