Alright EF women advice needed on dating

[Grumpy Old Man]

Asking for dating advice where here people are never offline is like going to a titty bar and asking for one of the dancers to perform heart surgery.

Some of the advice by these guys, I can see why they never get laid. Although the "Hey it ain't gonna suck itself" was really really funny.

 

[javaguru]

That was uncalled for. The fact that he is a hateful alcoholic was not caused or created by me, and I'm sure he still is the same.

So, what do you find so attractive about hateful alcoholics? I wasn't implying you caused it, but you were attracted to him......

 

[Bikini Mod]

That was uncalled for. The fact that he is a hateful alcoholic was not caused or created by me, and I'm sure he still is the same.

I don't think he meant it that way. But I could see how your feelings could be hurt by that, hell mine would be.

Bottom line is I do believe that ANY person who left such a terrible situation would probably be a very good source for advice as they can understand and relate and if nothing else relay valuable information as to how to steer clear of such situations.

When one is raised in less than ideal circumstances as adults they have to learn how to *undo* what their parents instilled in them. Some get it and some never do. Our mistakes are our greatest teachers.

It took me many many many years to be able to identify abusive pricks (both male and female) but once I *got it* the warning signs became very VERY clear and I merely walked away.

Abusive asses start off seeming very sincere and loving, then they zing you a bit and you are totally caught off guard. Then they apologize and blame the *zing* on YOU. "If you hadn't looked at me THAT way..." "If you would just leave me alone for 10 minutes when I come home wound up from work." "It isn't that I don't trust you. It is EVERBODY else that I don't trust." and on and on and on.... Then the stage is set and a vicious downward spiral is begun.... very VERY difficult to recover, but NOT impossible.

 

[heatherrae]

Asking for dating advice where here people are never offline is like going to a titty bar and asking for one of the dancers to perform heart surgery.

Some of the advice by these guys, I can see why they never get laid. Although the "Hey it ain't gonna suck itself" was really really funny.

lol

 

[calveless wonder]

Asking for dating advice where here people are never offline is like going to a titty bar and asking for one of the dancers to perform heart surgery.

Some of the advice by these guys, I can see why they never get laid. Although the "Hey it ain't gonna suck itself" was really really funny.

yeah, handle it the grump way

pay their rent and car payments

 

[Bikini Mod]

So, what do you find so attractive about hateful alcoholics? I wasn't implying you caused it, but you were attracted to him......

Here you go:

I don't think he meant it that way. But I could see how your feelings could be hurt by that, hell mine would be.

Bottom line is I do believe that ANY person who left such a terrible situation would probably be a very good source for advice as they can understand and relate and if nothing else relay valuable information as to how to steer clear of such situations.

When one is raised in less than ideal circumstances as adults they have to learn how to *undo* what their parents instilled in them. Some get it and some never do. Our mistakes are our greatest teachers.

It took me many many many years to be able to identify abusive pricks (both male and female) but once I *got it* the warning signs became very VERY clear and I merely walked away.

Abusive asses start off seeming very sincere and loving, then they zing you a bit and you are totally caught off guard. Then they apologize and blame the *zing* on YOU. "If you hadn't looked at me THAT way..." "If you would just leave me alone for 10 minutes when I come home wound up from work." "It isn't that I don't trust you. It is EVERBODY else that I don't trust." and on and on and on.... Then the stage is set and a vicious downward spiral is begun.... very VERY difficult to recover, but NOT impossible.

 

[heatherrae]

I don't think he meant it that way. But I could see how your feelings could be hurt by that, hell mine would be.

Bottom line is I do believe that ANY person who left such a terrible situation would probably be a very good source for advice as they can understand and relate and if nothing else relay valuable information as to how to steer clear of such situations.

When one is raised in less than ideal circumstances as adults they have to learn how to *undo* what their parents instilled in them. Some get it and some never do. Our mistakes are our greatest teachers.

It took me many many many years to be able to identify abusive pricks (both male and female) but once I *got it* the warning signs became very VERY clear and I merely walked away.

Abusive asses start off seeming very sincere and loving, then they zing you a bit and you are totally caught off guard. Then they apologize and blame the *zing* on YOU. "If you hadn't looked at me THAT way..." "If you would just leave me alone for 10 minutes when I come home wound up from work." "It isn't that I don't trust you. It is EVERBODY else that I don't trust." and on and on and on.... Then the stage is set and a vicious downward spiral is begun.... very VERY difficult to recover, but NOT impossible.

Yeah, but the fact that my ex was an asshole means I'M the one who is bad at dating and shouldn't give advice. It couldn't just be the fact that he's a dick. lol.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Yeah, but the fact that my ex was an asshole means I'M the one who is bad at dating and shouldn't give advice. It couldn't just be the fact that he's a dick. lol.

LOL I agreed with you.

You have a HYUGE heart. What you have to learn to do is better identify who is worthy of YOUR affection and who is NOT.

Took me years, but once I *got it* life got sooooooo much happier.

 

[EnderJE]

You mean like when he dangled in front of me that he was Mr. Romantic to get me married and now that person doesn't exist? Guys do it too!

lmao...the good old Mr. Romantic line...or 'play 143' as I like to call it...

 

[heatherrae]

LOL I agreed with you.

You have a HYUGE heart. What you have to learn to do is better identify who is worthy of YOUR affection and who is NOT.

Took me years, but once I *got it* life got sooooooo much happier.

no doubt. the guy from texas was supposed to come in to see me again this month, but after doing some soul searching I ended it for good. I was an inch away from overlooking his fatal flaws, but finally gained some wisdom and some balls and chose not to see him, even though I have so much fun with him.