32 year old dating a 19 year old?

[cuthroat]

Kind of along the same lines of OMEGA's thread. There is a guy I lift with that has been dating some 19 year old chic for close to a year now. Initially I thought "BS this isn't going to last he will get tired of nailing that eventually"...now I am starting to wonder because this fucker actually says he loves her?!?!? Can a relationship with that big of a gap in age and maturity actually work?

 

[EnderJE]

Do you people have anything else to wonder about?

 

[cuthroat]

Not really my life is actually pretty boring =/

 

[just...v]

My mother was almost 10 years younger than my dad and they met just as she turned 20. They had an awesome marriage for more than 36 years. So yes, it can work.

 

[musclemom]

Kind of along the same lines of OMEGA's thread. There is a guy I lift with that has been dating some 19 year old chic for close to a year now. Initially I thought "BS this isn't going to last he will get tired of nailing that eventually"...now I am starting to wonder because this fucker actually says he loves her?!?!? Can a relationship with that big of a gap in age and maturity actually work?

Yes, until she gets to be in her late 20s to 30 herself. Then she will probably wake up one day and go "what the hell was I thinking?"

Big gap relationships CAN work long term, but ideally the younger of the two parties needs to be 30 or over to begin with. The human brain does not stop maturing until the mid to late 20s. Generally speaking, the person you are as you begin your 20s is a far different one from who you will be as you enter your 30s.

 

[cuthroat]

My mother was almost 10 years younger than my dad and they met just as she turned 20. They had an awesome marriage for more than 36 years. So yes, it can work.

Well that sucks...I was hoping to hear otherwise because this chick is fucking annoying.

 

[digimon7068]

Kind of along the same lines of OMEGA's thread. There is a guy I lift with that has been dating some 19 year old chic for close to a year now. Initially I thought "BS this isn't going to last he will get tired of nailing that eventually"...now I am starting to wonder because this fucker actually says he loves her?!?!? Can a relationship with that big of a gap in age and maturity actually work?

maybe he's extremely immature?? you're only young once, but you can be immature forever.

seriously, though...that shit always seemed wrong to me. when i first graduated from college (many moons ago) i worked out at this gym that had highschool girls working the desk in the afternoon/evening...the one girl was 18, very pretty, blonde, smokin' body, smart, funny, all that and a bag of chips...and she liked me...a lot...and everyone was always busting my balls because i never asked her out or made any advances toward her, other than some mild flirtation...and believe me, i thought about it...but, it just seemed wrong...even though i was only 4 years older than her, i had seen and done a LOT of shit by then and i could tell that she hadn't and it just didn't seem right for me to be the one that introduced her to all that stuff...looking back, i know that it was the right thing to do, and i have no regrets.

19 and 32? man, i can't even imagine that.

 

[TC2]

My mother was almost 10 years younger than my dad and they met just as she turned 20. They had an awesome marriage for more than 36 years. So yes, it can work.

Yeah but people are a lot more selfish and immature now a days.

no compromise no consideration....its all me me me me with people now especially younger peeps.

 

[just...v]

Yeah but people are a lot more selfish and immature now a days.

no compromise no consideration....its all me me me me with people now especially younger peeps.

I agree. And I should mention that my parents were special. They had a connection so strong people would actually mention it.

 

[uamaverick]

maybe he's extremely immature?? you're only young once, but you can be immature forever.

seriously, though...that shit always seemed wrong to me. when i first graduated from college (many moons ago) i worked out at this gym that had highschool girls working the desk in the afternoon/evening...the one girl was 18, very pretty, blonde, smokin' body, smart, funny, all that and a bag of chips...and she liked me...a lot...and everyone was always busting my balls because i never asked her out or made any advances toward her, other than some mild flirtation...and believe me, i thought about it...but, it just seemed wrong...even though i was only 4 years older than her, i had seen and done a LOT of shit by then and i could tell that she hadn't and it just didn't seem right for me to be the one that introduced her to all that stuff...looking back, i know that it was the right thing to do, and i have no regrets.

19 and 32? man, i can't even imagine that.

I ran into almost the exact same scenario as you. I'm 24, and she's 18, and it just doesn't seem right to me. Honestly, I'd rather date somebody 27-28 than 18 at this point in my life.

 

[cuthroat]

I ran into almost the exact same scenario as you. I'm 24, and she's 18, and it just doesn't seem right to me. Honestly, I'd rather date somebody 27-28 than 18 at this point in my life.

Do it...older chics are the best in bed. Just saying. 28-dirty thirties

 

[uamaverick]

Yeah there's this woman I know who's 28 and there's just something about her, like she has an aura of awesomeness surrounding her that makes her sexy as fuck.

 

[digimon7068]

I ran into almost the exact same scenario as you. I'm 24, and she's 18, and it just doesn't seem right to me. Honestly, I'd rather date somebody 27-28 than 18 at this point in my life.

i always liked girls my own age (give or take a couple of years)

 

[ceo]

Yeah but people are a lot more selfish and immature now a days.

no compromise no consideration....its all me me me me with people now especially younger peeps.

exactly.

My parents got married when mom was 21 (a month shy of 22) and dad was 34 (12.5 year difference). That was in 1952. People were different then. They lasted over 56 years until dad died in May, 2009.

Through all the ups and downs, divorce wasn't something that crossed their minds at all.

Having said that, back when I was 31-32 I was banging a 19-20 year old hottie. Not weird in the least. Fuckin killer body she had. But yeah, we weren't all bf/gf serious or anything. Though she wanted to be. She was fuckin sprung on my shit. she was lovin her some Brian!

(who doesn't? lol!)

 

[dutchman063]

People can date whoever they want..Why do people give such a flyin fuck about other peoples relationships? Even if the guy is 60 and the chick is 19... who fuckin cares? and why? it's their life

 

[puddlemonkey]

Kind of along the same lines of OMEGA's thread.

Well there's your first mistake.

 

[cuthroat]

People can date whoever they want..Why do people give such a flyin fuck about other peoples relationships? Even if the guy is 60 and the chick is 19... who fuckin cares? and why? it's their life

^^ this dood is an old guy dating a 19 year old. And now he is all butt hurt. Sorryz.

 

[-SD-]

But yeah, we weren't all bf/gf serious or anything. Though she wanted to be. She was fuckin sprung on my shit. she was lovin her some Brian!

(who doesn't? lol!)

So what happened lol

 

[RADAR]

I used to do it alot ,when i was in my 30's i dated a chick 17 she looked just like Rachel she was pretty,her mom and family loved me the drawback everyone there except her was nuts!

 

[bakemeacookie]

Kind of along the same lines of OMEGA's thread. There is a guy I lift with that has been dating some 19 year old chic for close to a year now. Initially I thought "BS this isn't going to last he will get tired of nailing that eventually"...now I am starting to wonder because this fucker actually says he loves her?!?!? Can a relationship with that big of a gap in age and maturity actually work?

sure if the 32 y/o is fuckig rich. And it's not that big of a diff, when he's 60 she's 47 - big whoppee. Hugh Hefner is banging 20 y/o's!

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[dutchman063]

^^ this dood is an old guy dating a 19 year old. And now he is all butt hurt. Sorryz.

Yeah i apologize, i realize some of you are still in highschool

 

[OMEGA]

In this Case its your bros Fault he should know better

the scenario you poised is just like When Sandra Bullock Married Jessie James......... ( not age related persay but still similar in the diparity issue)

It was HER fault she should have known better...

 

[ceo]

So what happened lol

She was pretty annoying in larger doses. I was probably a jerk. She was a nice girl. We stopped hanging out. She got a boyfriend pretty quickly and I joined the girl of the month club.

 

[digimon7068]

Yeah i apologize, i realize some of you are still in highschool

he asked a legitimate social question...and apparently some people have an opinion about it...including you ("i don't give a fuck" is a valid opinion)...no need to get fucking grumpy about it.

 

[cw801]

My husband was 19 when I met him - I was 29 with two kids. We have been together for 9 years now.......age CAN be a big issue, or if both people are on the same page, it can be just a number. It helps when people just assume I'm his age....

 

[OMEGA]

My husband was 19 when I met him - I was 29

Rapist!

 

[digimon7068]

My husband was 19 when I met him - I was 29 with two kids. We have been together for 9 years now.......age CAN be a big issue, or if both people are on the same page, it can be just a number. It helps when people just assume I'm his age....

ok...so...lemme get this straight...you're beautiful, you're a motorhead and you're a cougar?? obviously you're just a figment of my imagination

please tell me that you don't like kentucky sour mash over a couple of ice cubes and you don't know how to skin a deer.

 

[cw801]

LOLz at Omega! Can't rape the willing!

SB....I learned to bait a hook and gut my own fish when I was 6 years old (the same age I learned to shoot my dad's S&W .38 special).......I helped my dad sand and paint cars, rebuild motors and was the best student in Auto mech in high school, and I prefer Jack with a splash of Coke, but settle for Crown and Diet because I don't want to get fat or hung over......does that help at all?

 

[digimon7068]

LOLz at Omega! Can't rape the willing!

SB....I learned to bait a hook and gut my own fish when I was 6 years old (the same age I learned to shoot my dad's S&W .38 special).......I helped my dad sand and paint cars, rebuild motors and was the best student in Auto mech in high school, and I prefer Jack with a splash of Coke, but settle for Crown and Diet because I don't want to get fat or hung over......does that help at all?

SB?? I assume that was directed at me...i have way better abs than him FYI

and, obviously you are not real!!

 

[cw801]

SB?? I assume that was directed at me...i have way better abs than him FYI

and, obviously you are not real!!

Oh SORRY DIGI!! Yes, that was to you - just glanced at the avatar and got ya'll mixed up for some reason - I'm all medicine-headed right now.....

And yeah....pretty sure I'm real.....lol!

 

[digimon7068]

Oh SORRY DIGI!! Yes, that was to you - just glanced at the avatar and got ya'll mixed up for some reason - I'm all medicine-headed right now.....

And yeah....pretty sure I'm real.....lol!

nope...pretty sure i just dreamed you up.

 

[binö]

My husband was 19 when I met him - I was 29 with two kids. We have been together for 9 years now.......age CAN be a big issue, or if both people are on the same page, it can be just a number. It helps when people just assume I'm his age....

cougar alert!!!

 

[kx250rider]

None of my business, but my experience is that younger girls and older men don't last. But hey, after all, it's a free country (for now still, at least).

Charles

 

[Acesopro]

Is this a call out thread?

 

[cw801]

LOL - how can a 29 year old be a cougar?? Isn't that reserved for rich, 50-somethings? lol

 

[binö]

LOL - how can a 29 year old be a cougar?? Isn't that reserved for rich, 50-somethings? lol

cougar or milf could both apply
cougar-older woman (undefined age) seeking younger men.
ten yr age difference, regardless of the initial ages,
is cougar'ish, albiet a young coug.
and soon enough, you could be a GILF!

 

[-SD-]

LOL - how can a 29 year old be a cougar?? Isn't that reserved for rich, 50-somethings? lol

As a 29 year old woman what did you see in a 19 year old dude?

 

[cw801]

Well, we met when he was 19.......it took a while before we actually got together. Initially it was just friendship. I really hadn't even considered it.......we raced together, hung out a lot together. He was sweet.....quiet and smart....it was easy to forget he was 19, since he was more mature than my 33 year old ex-husband. I don't know. I never went out targeting 19 year olds.........he's 28 now, btw. So it feels much less "pervey"....

 

[cindylou]

lol I couldn't imagine a younger guy, most men are so immature. I could do an old dude prolly and I could see it actually working lol

 

[-SD-]

lol I couldn't imagine a younger guy, most men are so immature. I could do an old dude prolly and I could see it actually working lol

I agree

I agree

 

[cw801]

I have never really been attracted to any certain age of guys....just the guy himself, I guess? But in looking back, all my boyfriends but one were younger than me. Um.....

 

[binö]

I have never really been attracted to any certain age of guys....just the guy himself, I guess? But in looking back, all my boyfriends but one were younger than me. Um.....

 

[cw801]

Yes. Hence the "um".......

 

[nangiggles]

My brother is 32 and he's been seeing a 19 year old for a while and they get along very well, he's a very easy going guy, good catch, non smoker non drinker, doesnt go out much, she's kinda the same way though...

 

[cuthroat]

My brother is 32 and he's been seeing a 19 year old for a while and they get along very well, he's a very easy going guy, good catch, non smoker non drinker, doesnt go out much, she's kinda the same way though...

Does your brother lift with me? JK.

 

[nefertiti]

Yes, until she gets to be in her late 20s to 30 herself. Then she will probably wake up one day and go "what the hell was I thinking?"

Big gap relationships CAN work long term, but ideally the younger of the two parties needs to be 30 or over to begin with. The human brain does not stop maturing until the mid to late 20s. Generally speaking, the person you are as you begin your 20s is a far different one from who you will be as you enter your 30s.

My dad was 25 and my mom 36....31 years later, stronger than ever. But, my parents are the exception to almost every rule in the book. They also got engaged after only three months of dating, and my mom had two kids from a previous marriage. Can't really fit them into any mold.

 

[musclemom]

My dad was 25 and my mom 36....31 years later, stronger than ever. But, my parents are the exception to almost every rule in the book. They also got engaged after only three months of dating, and my mom had two kids from a previous marriage. Can't really fit them into any mold.

There are exceptions to every rule, frankly, I'm a walking/talking stereotype AND exception:

1. First marriage, I was 18 going on 19, he was 20 going on 21, neither of us was employed, nor did we have family/financial resources (he wasn't even a HS graduate). We married three months after our first date, I got p/g one month after marriage. Marriage lasted until I turned 27 and stared death in the face and had my "WTF am I doing here?" moment. We didn't separate for three years but I had told him I wanted out. He was in denial but I was only marking time until I found a decent paying job.

2. Second marriage. Met him while I was married to husband #1. We were both married, fell in desperate love and started having an affair (we were deeply in love before we were ever intimate). 16 years later we're still going strong. Statistically, marriages that begin in adultery have a less than 5% chance of success.

I do think the fact that your parents weren't kids (early 20s) when they got involved does have a bearing on things. Additionally, a woman in her mid 30s DOES know her mind and has enough life experience to know what she can expect with/from a 25 year old man.