Flaming Peeps and Verbal JuJitsu.

[EnderJE]

Lol @ you being a cliche....what, am I watching bewitched? Which Darren are you?

hehe...the stereotype that I am is the first born taking care of the family members...

The only difference is that this family doesn't really deserve 'taking care of'.

 

[the_alcatraz]

I would

It's ok. You're too cute for me to get upset or anything like that.

 

[javaguru]

hehe...the stereotype that I am is the first born taking care of the family members...

The only difference is that this family doesn't really deserve 'taking care of'.

So you're saying your wife hates your mom? Spell it out...based on your post I assumed it was her family?

 

[EnderJE]

So you're saying your wife hates your mom? Spell it out...based on your post I assumed it was her family?

Well, that too, but I'm used to that.

My view has always been that it's the first born's accountability to ensure that the bloodline continues and takes care of the older generation. I have no real idea where I got this in my head, but it's something that I've followed. So, when the MIL wanted to move in, I said sure because I thought that's what my wife wanted until her older brother could take care of her.

Since the move, I've amended the belief and added gratefulness as part of the criteria. If the family member isn't grateful or appreciative, then my father's rule about expendability kicks in.

 

[javaguru]

Well, that too, but I'm used to that.

My view has always been that it's the first born's accountability to ensure that the bloodline continues and takes care of the older generation. I have no real idea where I got this in my head, but it's something that I've followed. So, when the MIL wanted to move in, I said sure because I thought that's what my wife wanted until her older brother could take care of her.

Since the move, I've amended the belief and added gratefulness as part of the criteria. If the family member isn't grateful or appreciative, then my father's rule about expendability kicks in.

I'm going to go buy a 40 for you and pour it on the curb.You ain't the firstborn of your mother in law...she will always judge you because her daughter is perfect.I'm the last born and I send money to all my family, it isn't smart but I was always the golden child and I take care of my siblings...because I can...

 

[-Ariel-]

I'm the same IRL as I am online. Lots of snot slinging crying emotions come out. For some reason I think people like me that way. If I try to stay majorly cool I turn into a bitch and I don't like seeing myself like that. I'm pretty raw though. Good or bad, that's just me.

I U...
this you know...
you forgot persuasive in transferring your emotions on to others...
You move peeps...
U really do.

 

[-Ariel-]

IRL, I have an extremely long fuse. If someone is cussing at me, I just take it for the most part. I don't care if people swear at me. "Fuck that guy" is all I think, then just move on.

If someone gets in my face, I'm just waiting for them to make the first move, then I'll fuck em up. Once someone shoves me, it's game on. I never start a fight, but i have always finished it. I haven't fought since high school, but that's how it always went down. I keep a cool demeanor unti they cross the line.

Now that I am big and strong compared to most, I'm afraid to hit someone without really fucking them up.

This is the best demeanor to have...
I'm doing studies on reactivity, that you can pretty much predict with 90% accuracy of when shit will get physical just by focusing on facial muscles and their micromovements.

 

[-Ariel-]

Well, being very shy I tend to use my two ears (in one and out the other). Within' the last three years I was attacked in my own home. Dude pushed me, my foot went into dog bowl and I hit ground. He jumped on top of me, but we were in a corner and couldn't get a angle on hitting me. We got back up and he did it again. This time connecting to the side of my noggin. I told wife "that's it" and somehow, i pushed him up and off me and before I could tell what happened I had my elbow on top of his throat. I was applying quite a bit of pressure when the wife told me he had a knife (carpet cutter). He stabbed me so he could breath. Actually half the handle was also in my arm. I applied more for and he went for a second stab. He didn't make the cut the second time. His eyes started rolling back, and I saw all the blood and wife called 911. It was my stepson........ I kept him outta jail though, but now the prosecutor of that county hates me. Funny thing was, if my arm wasn't where it was at time of stabbing, he would have killed me by stabbing me in the heart.

Verbal abuse, what is that?

Walli I'm glad you are okay....
The chaotic situations I hope are over...
Asking what is verbal abuse..
Walliwalbus is so not sounding violent, sounds like something warm and funny,
something which you really are...
keep moving forward bro.

 

[jnevin]

First off, I really don't put myself in situations that could lead to a fight. I'm stronger than most people, very coordinated, and a good athlete. If I actually got pushed to the point of fighting, something really bad could happen with a punch landing in the wrong place.

Believe it or not, I usually hold my tongue too. Mostly because if someone tries to fuck with me I leave them looking like an ass in front of their friends and that could lead to my first paragraph. I did make a guy cry a few years ago. Felt like a douche.

 

[-Ariel-]

When I'm verbally attacked I go home and cry in my pillow.

My feelings are fragile like a little china doll.

just sayin'

Where is the old avi...
The only abnormality is the incapacity to love
Anais Nin