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Agreed....I wasn't knocking the big wedding...it's just not right for me.
I'm a worrier. The more planning involved in the ceremony, the more I'll have to worry about. Personally, all I want to think about that day is the man I'm getting married to and the promises I'm making. That's big enough without me being in knotts about every little detail being right. I also have this thing where I don't really want people witnessing my vows who are going to be yawning and wondering how long it will be till they can drink and hook up with one of my bridesmaids lol.
Again, though...personal choice. If I end up marrying someone who wants a big wedding, HE can do the planning and worrying LOL.
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"I also have this thing where I don't really want people witnessing my vows who are going to be yawning and wondering how long it will be till they can drink and hook up with one of my bridesmaids lol."
There's usually atleast one I look at the whole and think of the possibilities of banging them, lol.
There's usually atleast one I look at the whole and think of the possibilities of banging them, lol.
lol - I totally agree with you. I worry about everything too. Thats why I planned it so short. I couldnt spend a year planning a wedding, or I would have never slept.
I was really low maint about it and tried my best not to worry about details, and I think because of that my maids enjoyed it and also didnt hate me at the end, and I think the women guests were impressed with my ability to not become a bridezilla.
i cant stand those bitches. lol
i can see why people hate brides. I'm going through this right now, Im a maid in two weddings.....i cant wait until its over!
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I am ALL ABOUT the party. Heck, everytime we go out it is a party waiting to happen. Our bar bills and dinner tabs (we usually invite any number of peeps to join us or we bring food from the restaurant to our favorite bar staff afterwards) would amount to what my parent's paid for my first wedding in one month alone! LOL
But that isn't quite like a wedding. Is it?
Too much stress is put on expensive unimportant details that the couple could care less about after the party is over and the bill is still long being paid for.
IMHO it is silly to expend so much time and effort and EXPENSE into such an unecessarily stressful situation.
Hell, with the divorce rate I believe that couples should just go to the justice of the peace and save the big expensive party for IF they make it 10 years! LOL
I love to share and love to entertain, but when a couple is distracted by so much "fluff" I feel that it often times takes away from the "stuff".
Ironically, my parents offered me CASH or a wedding first time round. My exhusband advised that we should take the money and elope. He had a brother and two sisters that went through the whole big wedding rigamaroll and it just was not worth it.
LIKE A DUMMY, I took "the wedding."
My younger sister learned from MY mistake and though she had a lovely wedding and reception, wisely she kept it all to a minimum. She still wore the long white dress and had a very memorable reception afterwards (I dont think there was a sober body in the house LOL) but she saved herself and her husband A TON of useless aggravation.
I want very much to have a hyuge party to celebrate my husband and my union, but now because we have made it through so much and are stronger than we ever have been it will mean so much more.
Why is it that everyone puts so much out there to have a wedding but so few put out such effort to celebrate something that is so much more valuable IMHO... why not more ANNIVERSARY parties?
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At my first wedding, my wedding party was taking bets on how long the marriage would last.
Good times.
around here we throw some pretty decent anniversary parties. The only thing that not on the list of expenses is the wedding gown.
some go on honeymoons lol!
I want to renew my vows one day...and that ceremony will be the one I wanted, aloooone with my man. no worries, carefree!!!!!!!!!
but yes, I think weddings are rediculous now.
I think that you should be able to get your family and friends together for a good ceremony and party and not spend a fortune or make it a big show. When you are spending 4 grand on just the flowers, I think thats more of a production and less of what it should be
some go on honeymoons lol!
I want to renew my vows one day...and that ceremony will be the one I wanted, aloooone with my man. no worries, carefree!!!!!!!!!
but yes, I think weddings are rediculous now.
I think that you should be able to get your family and friends together for a good ceremony and party and not spend a fortune or make it a big show. When you are spending 4 grand on just the flowers, I think thats more of a production and less of what it should be
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Feel you on the ridiculous part and also about being able to get your family and friends together without breaking the bank.
I am curious though, why you wouldn't want to share your ANNIVERSARY happiness with your family and friends? Why make it private? I mean, when you first marry *you think* you know about life and then life happens and you realize you don't know shit! LOL I have found that those who were around me when the shit hit the fan and who didn't waiver are my REAL family and friends. You only find those folks once you are kinda older and broken hehehehheeee Why not share your special happiness with YOUR REAL supporters - those that were with you when you were down and out and miserable not knowing how you were going to live to see another day... THOSE are the people I want to dance and party with.
my anniversary would be a big pary
the renewing vows part would be private or with a chosen couple of people
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