sex

[digimon7068]

oh and dudes are either or not ...there ain't a experimentation gene in dudes...your boyfriend is imho

 

[EnderJE]

Just to throw a different spin on it....I was single a long time and have dated a lot. In the world of online dating, where people are far more open about what they talk about...I've been surprised to find there are a lot of men who have the desire to experiment with other men. Men I would never have guessed as having those desires. It will usually come up in the context of a 3sum because if there's a woman there, it's not "gay". I don't think sexuality is as black and white as it used to be (at least when I was growing up). He probably does believe he only wants a relationship with a woman but also wants to explore too.

That being said, being involved with him is probably going to mean being involved with other people, even if it's just through him. He will probably hope you will accept his "desires" and that just brings with it a whole set of dynamics and boundaries that would be really hard to negotiate. I'd have to be thinking he was a keeper to want to put myself through that.

Good luck!

 

[EnderJE]

Just to throw a different spin on it....I was single a long time and have dated a lot. In the world of online dating, where people are far more open about what they talk about...I've been surprised to find there are a lot of men who have the desire to experiment with other men. Men I would never have guessed as having those desires. It will usually come up in the context of a 3sum because if there's a woman there, it's not "gay". I don't think sexuality is as black and white as it used to be (at least when I was growing up). He probably does believe he only wants a relationship with a woman but also wants to explore too.

That being said, being involved with him is probably going to mean being involved with other people, even if it's just through him. He will probably hope you will accept his "desires" and that just brings with it a whole set of dynamics and boundaries that would be really hard to negotiate. I'd have to be thinking he was a keeper to want to put myself through that.

Good luck!

You dated chicks, didn't you?

 

[caligirl85]

lol

 

[caligirl85]

You dated chicks, didn't you?

No..have never dated chicks

 

[mrplunkey]

No..have never dated chicks

Neither has pick3.

Just sayin'

 

[*ebony*]

Thanks guys, he's not my boyfriend just a guy that never gave up hitting on me even when he new i wasn't single. I never thought of him much but after that convo, he sure pops in my mind alot. I would never in a million years have guessed that about him, im not sure how i kept a straight face during the convo. Also kinda makes you think if past relationships, guys might have been like him.

Caligirl, he brought up a lot of those points, almost defensively as if trying to convince me his actions were justified. Dont know if its fair comparing myself to him since i consider myself straight, but i've also fantisized about the same sex in the past, even did a little pecking here and there, but no desire to have sex with a woman.

also i should have said "fantasy of the forbidden" was how he was able to get aroused during his encounters, but i guess it doesn't matter. He said he didn't really like it that much(yet he's had sex with men 5 times) that it was just a release and men were easier to pick up than women(used me for example.lol). He says he doesn't get aroused looking at men but women yes. He thinks vaginas are not pretty but still do their 'purpose', and they do affect him sexually. It was a rather fascinating conversation really and i was almost hypnotized.

 

[AFeedz]

Thanks guys, he's not my boyfriend just a guy that never gave up hitting on me even when he new i wasn't single. I never thought of him much but after that convo, he sure pops in my mind alot. I would never in a million years have guessed that about him, im not sure how i kept a straight face during the convo. Also kinda makes you think if past relationships, guys might have been like him.

Caligirl, he brought up a lot of those points, almost defensively as if trying to convince me his actions were justified. Dont know if its fair comparing myself to him since i consider myself straight, but i've also fantisized about the same sex in the past, even did a little pecking here and there, but no desire to have sex with a woman.

also i should have said "fantasy of the forbidden" was how he was able to get aroused during his encounters, but i guess it doesn't matter. He said he didn't really like it that much(yet he's had sex with men 5 times) that it was just a release and men were easier to pick up than women(used me for example.lol). He says he doesn't get aroused looking at men but women yes. He thinks vaginas are not pretty but still do their 'purpose', and they do affect him sexually. It was a rather fascinating conversation really and i was almost hypnotized.

You can't really compare your desires to his. Sexual fluidity is common in women, but not in men. It's pretty well documented that sexuality for men is usually black and white, where it can often turn gray for women given certain circumstances.

 

[ceo]

doesn't count if:

- he was in teh fog
- drunk
- in prison

or if it was with a hot tranny.

 

[digimon7068]

You can't really compare your desires to his. Sexual fluidity is common in women, but not in men. It's pretty well documented that sexuality for men is usually black and white, where it can often turn gray for women given certain circumstances.

ok,so...you have my attention