sex

[mrplunkey]

sorry for new thread i was gonna put it this in my gay sex thread but i guess sex is just sex in the end.

No, gay sex is just sex in the end.

please be serious guys, im kinda troubled facing a dilemma.

This guy who had previously expressed interest in me, just came out of the blue confessed that he had sex with other men on a few occasions. I was a bit shocked but kept my cool and i asked him about it and he told me. to spare you the details he said his reasoning was just the fantasy that aroused him. an experiment. he still says he's is straight and only desires a relationship with a woman. Im not sure if this is common or not, and men just never admit it. Im still somewhat shocked and disoriented because ive never had a conversation like that with a man.

im almost afriad he'll find this thread and know who i am. I don't think he ever admits something like that and not sure why he did, and i cant help but think differently about him now.

He's gay. A straight guy doesn't "experiment" or have gay fantasies. To a straight man, fantasizing over gay sex would be like fantasizing over having a 5" nail driven into your forehead.

 

[PICK3]

If anything it certainly shows a lack of maturity

I can chalk up lots of bad judgments to immaturity

butt, embracing teh cawk is knot one of them




just sayin'

 

[caligirl85]

Just to throw a different spin on it....I was single a long time and have dated a lot. In the world of online dating, where people are far more open about what they talk about...I've been surprised to find there are a lot of men who have the desire to experiment with other men. Men I would never have guessed as having those desires. It will usually come up in the context of a 3sum because if there's a woman there, it's not "gay". I don't think sexuality is as black and white as it used to be (at least when I was growing up). He probably does believe he only wants a relationship with a woman but also wants to explore too.

That being said, being involved with him is probably going to mean being involved with other people, even if it's just through him. He will probably hope you will accept his "desires" and that just brings with it a whole set of dynamics and boundaries that would be really hard to negotiate. I'd have to be thinking he was a keeper to want to put myself through that.

Good luck!

 

[EarthRider]

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great advice coming from a chic

what do you expect from dudz trying to pick up chics from a online chat thing. They can't get any irl

dump this dude and find someone else, unless you're into things like mmf

 

[WoodyO]

I say go for it. You must be into him, otherwise you wouldn't have posted anything. You'll have him forgetting about the cawk in no time.

 

[EarthRider]

dudz don't talk about the cawk if they are not into it bro. Just look at pick3, he talks about it all the time

 

[WoodyO]

I have faith that ebony can get him off the cawk for good.

 

[EarthRider]

I have faith that ebony can pick up much better dudz then this guy

 

[-SD-]

I can chalk up lots of bad judgments to immaturity

butt, embracing teh cawk is knot one of them




just sayin'

maybe knot the best example but I meant insofar as innocent childhood experimentation is carried into adulthood.

 

[digimon7068]

So You turned a straight man gay?

i dated a girl in college who joined the other team about 15 years ago...it happens