Thx guys he's actually 38 and I'm 35. I just don't know what to say or how to deal with him when in the moods. Almost afraid to ask or talk sometimes cause I feel I'll upset him more. I never realized how moody and aggressive this can make someone. I'm very new to this relationship and this style of use. So many questions but no one to turn to.
If you can't talk to him and there is no way out, you might want to consider a relationship counselor. If that's not an option, you might have to leave. Though, the best solution is to talk to him and have him come off tren.