i just tell my girl that im gonna do what i am gonna do, and if she doesnt like it-- then she doesnt like me,cause this is who i am,, she has never given me probs about anything. if they require you to change something in order for them to accept you, then they are training you to bve someone you arent. and they never really love, know , or appreciate the real you, and you will have subconcious resentment and that can grow throught the years towards ultimate failure in relations.. be yourself and if they dont like it-- they can fuck off. you have to accept them for who they are and dont try to change them in return though.