Wife or Girl Friend

[gonelifting]

Good replies but watch out for this....

If you dump the girlfriend and stay with the wife, you will undoubtedly feel like she "owes you something". You'll walk around all day and say to yourself "OK What are YOU going to do for ME now? Now that I've made this big "sacrifice" for you and us, our relationship?

Try hard NOT to do that, because she WON'T have anything for you. She'll be the same old wife that you knew last week.

What you can do is try together to resolve things and let her know that you want to resolve and make things better. It's a tough road, don't put it all on her shoulders becuase you "did your part" by breaking up and sacrificing.

Good luck.




and I curse myself for giving stilleto karma on this thread.

 

[stilleto]

and I curse myself for giving stilleto karma on this thread.

look, there are some things you can not help, or change. the fact that you gave me karma is one of them. you had to, because my post was THAT good. and you, yes YOU can learn to make posts as good as mine someday too. It will take practice, of that nobody is denying. and yes, we all have to suffer through your practice posts, but in the end if it means you come up with just one gem... it will be worth the headaches and ramblings and words of insanity that we've all had to endure from you.

 

[sardonicone]

I totally understand where the men are at with this but Stilleto's initial post in reference to this topis is SPOT ON. One of the reasons why I never thought I would remarry. Being a wife (to my first husband) SUCKED ASS. I much prefered being the girlfriend thereafter LOL. But then my last husband came along and made me see that marriage is not about cooking/cleaning/fucking OR ownership but about FRIENDSHIP and sharing life with someone that you GENUINELY LIKE AND RESPECT WHO RECIPROCATES THESE FEELINGS 100%.

If you are not happy in your marriage the way I see it you have two alternatives pointblank:

1. Pour your energies into working on your marriage until it either gets better or you decide to call it quits.

or

2. Call it quits and move on.

Involving another party wont fix a thing but will only complicate your problems exponentially.

I'm sorry, I can't take anything you write seriously with that Avatar staring at me.

And part of a friendship is the willingness to do things for your friend, because it makes them happy, no?

At any rate, the single world scares me, and I have my little guy to think about. I'm not going anywhere.

 

[seaking420]

We never heard from solid spine on the aftermath of this situation, I hope everything worked out for you.