Why do men cheat?

[FreakMonster]

Just curious your thoughts on why men cheat?

Just from talking with the married guys it seems they are not happy because their women are not total sluts in the bedroom and are not being satisfied. It seems all men require constant sexual stimulation or they are not happy.

 

[FISHTALES]

grass is always greener....

 

[PrittyKitty]

Just curious your thoughts on why men cheat?

Just from talking with the married guys it seems they are not happy because their women are not total sluts in the bedroom and are not being satisfied. It seems all men require constant sexual stimulation or they are not happy.

I do agree with you to a certain point. Guys do need sex a hell of a lot more than most women, but I feel that a lot of men cheat for the thrill of the game. Just trying to test how many women still want him besides the wife. Hubby is a huge flirt, but he knows where to draw the line. He gets his jollies from the responses he recieves from the flirts and then comes home and is an animal in the bedroom! LOL! I don't mind if he he is thinking about the one he flirted with sometimes just as long as he doesn't yell her name.LOL! What he doesn't know is how many times he's been Brad Pitt! LOL!!

 

[bigmann245]

most cheat becaue they dont have the guts to tell their SO that they are not happy and want more or that they want to leave. if they get caught then most likely they will be thrown out and not have to make the choice to leave. allthough i have many female friends i have never cheated. i have been put in some bad situations where i had to haul ass out of there or fall into the cheating game. alcohol sucks in decision making, but im glad i had friends that knew i dont cheat and would pull me out if they saw things going bad.

 

[bigmann245]

I do agree with you to a certain point. Guys do need sex a hell of a lot more than most women, but I feel that a lot of men cheat for the thrill of the game. Just trying to test how many women still want him besides the wife. Hubby is a huge flirt, but he knows where to draw the line. He gets his jollies from the responses he recieves from the flirts and then comes home and is an animal in the bedroom! LOL! I don't mind if he he is thinking about the one he flirted with sometimes just as long as he doesn't yell her name.LOL! What he doesn't know is how many times he's been Brad Pitt! LOL!!

damn that sux....

 

[hamstershaver]

vag is always cleaner on the other side

 

[PrittyKitty]

vag is always cleaner on the other side

OMG Hammy! That is sick! LOL!

 

[EnderJE]

Not enough attention. Not necessarily sex, just attention.

 

[FreakMonster]

What he doesn't know is how many times he's been Brad Pitt! LOL!!

OUCH!! You should tell him that and see what happens to his ego!! LOL

 

[bigmann245]

OUCH!! You should tell him that and see what happens to his ego!! LOL

she just did.... im her husband .. lol

 

[Ish]

Is Prettykitty a new alter or something, or just an old member coming back?

 

[B0ARDIN087]

becuz guys cant turn down tang, ever

 

[PrittyKitty]

Is Prettykitty a new alter or something, or just an old member coming back?

I used to be "Bigmannsproperty." Just changed my username. U like it?

 

[OMEGA]

becuase the human race is not all human

 

[bigmann245]

Is Prettykitty a new alter or something, or just an old member coming back?

no she origionally signed up as bigmannsproperty but after several times of me asking her to change it as well as others thought she should, she finally did. so now she is prittykitty. and yes, she is my wife but let me tell you, she freegin flirts more than i do...

 

[Cutiebaby]

imo-its because they are assholes!!!!!!!!

 

[javaguru]

Why do women cheat? I saw a self-reporting study, 1/2 of married women admitted to having an affair and 2/3 of married men admitted to having an affair. The numbers are probably higher than reported because under reporting is a major problem with these types of studies. Men aren't the only ones cheating and it soesn't say much for the human race as a whole.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

becuz guys cant turn down tang, ever

i have, without a doubt, turned down more girls/sex than i have actually had.

now, if only every other idiot moron zero braincell having man on the planet would do the same thing

 

[velvett]

Men cheat?

 

[hotzie]

because they can

 

[Raptorex]

IMO

Women get too comfortable with having their emotional needs met by having someone who loves them. Unfortunately, they forget that the male sex drive is very high and they don't provide the sexual feedback to satisfy the mans needs. Thus, they go looking for another women to satisfy this.

 

[velvett]

IMO

Women get too comfortable with having their emotional needs met by having someone who loves them. Unfortunately, they forget that the male sex drive is very high and they don't provide the sexual feedback to satisfy the mans needs. Thus, they go looking for another women to satisfy this.

I think you are 100% - DEAD ON.
















...although the sexual needs might vary by man - some of them just don't always keep up and well, other of course lead.

 

[buffer1]

better question,why do women cheat?

 

[velvett]

better question,why do women cheat?

That might be the one thing women have in common with men (to satisfy what they think is missing in their relationship)
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[Mr. dB]

Women cheat too.

Humans come wired from the factory to cheat. Men have the urge to spread their seed, women have the urge to have multiple partners. Philandering and cuckolding are part of the natural human reproductive strategy.

 

[Cutiebaby]

yes but even when a woman is satisfying her man he still roams...i think all men do, whether or not they tell is another story.IMO i think they all cheat because they want to know what else is out there and they dont like to be held down to one woman.
for woman i think it is more of a interest in attention....girls want to have attention and emotions in their relationships and when they dont get it they stray

 

[nycgirl]

IMO

Women get too comfortable with having their emotional needs met by having someone who loves them. Unfortunately, they forget that the male sex drive is very high and they don't provide the sexual feedback to satisfy the mans needs. Thus, they go looking for another women to satisfy this.

You are absolutely right. Women are so quick to blame the man for cheating instead of looking within. They let themselves go or they stop doing certain things when they get the ring/long term relationship.

Sometimes it isn't just about sex. They get caught up in the kids and other activities they forget about their man. They neglect him and his emotional needs. You will be surprise what another woman asking your man "how is your day?" will lead to.

 

[Raptorex]

Velv and NYC, its great that both sexes can understand this...now we need to put it into action!

I have explained this to my long time SO, however it sometime seems that it is forgotten.

 

[nycgirl]

yes but even when a woman is satisfying her man he still roams...i think all men do, whether or not they tell is another story.IMO i think they all cheat because they want to know what else is out there and they dont like to be held down to one woman.
for woman i think it is more of a interest in attention....girls want to have attention and emotions in their relationships and when they dont get it they stray

All men don't cheat.

There's more to satisfying a man than just sex. Any woman can lie on her back. Are you supporting him? Do you let him be a man? Do you stand by him when things are down? Do you nag? Do you disrepsect him (call him asshole, etc.)? Lack of sex & desires aren't the only things that lead a man to stray.

That said, the man should work with his woman and save the relationship in lieu of cheating. Basically, people that cheat are weak people (IMO). Why get in a committed relationship if you feel the need to roam? Get it out of your system then have a relationship.

 

[thelion2005]

Just curious your thoughts on why men cheat?

Just from talking with the married guys it seems they are not happy because their women are not total sluts in the bedroom and are not being satisfied. It seems all men require constant sexual stimulation or they are not happy.

Our primary animal drive is to procreate.

Being sentient, morality and practicality puts constraints on this drive.

Men give in to this side of being human.

 

[FreakMonster]

IMO

Women get too comfortable with having their emotional needs met by having someone who loves them. Unfortunately, they forget that the male sex drive is very high and they don't provide the sexual feedback to satisfy the mans needs. Thus, they go looking for another women to satisfy this.

+1

 

[needtogetaas]

All men don't cheat.

There's more to satisfying a man than just sex. Any woman can lie on her back. Are you supporting him? Do you let him be a man? Do you stand by him when things are down? Do you nag? Do you disrepsect him (call him asshole, etc.)? Lack of sex & desires aren't the only things that lead a man to stray.

That said, the man should work with his woman and save the relationship in lieu of cheating. Basically, people that cheat are weak people (IMO). Why get in a committed relationship if you feel the need to roam? Get it out of your system then have a relationship.

thank you.

 

[SoKlueles]

You are absolutely right. Women are so quick to blame the man for cheating instead of looking within. They let themselves go or they stop doing certain things when they get the ring/long term relationship.

Sometimes it isn't just about sex. They get caught up in the kids and other activities they forget about their man. They neglect him and his emotional needs. You will be surprise what another woman asking your man "how is your day?" will lead to.

I think it should be a 2 way street on this. The man should spend more time trying to HELP the woman so she can MAKE the time to go get her hair done, nails done etc
He needs to help around the house more than he does. Trust me ALOT of men think that their 8 hour day is over when they walk in the door. They sit on their butts and the woman still has to cook dinner and wash clothes.....for them and THEIR kids. The man should be mature enough to know that they can get their time after all the kids are put in bed IF the wife isnt tired
If hes worried about getting laid, then he should help out more around the house before bed
I lived with this crap for 13 years, so I know how it goes.

 

[Basic_wonder]

Cause they cheat on us, so we cheat on them, what comes around comes around or however you say that ....

 

[OMEGA]

Every Woman that has been Cheated on probably deserved it

 

[SoKlueles]

Every Woman that has been Cheated on probably deserved it

in your mind i guess you believe that

 

[needtogetaas]

I think it should be a 2 way street on this. The man should spend more time trying to HELP the woman so she can MAKE the time to go get her hair done, nails done etc
He needs to help around the house more than he does. Trust me ALOT of men think that their 8 hour day is over when they walk in the door. They sit on their butts and the woman still has to cook dinner and wash clothes.....for them and THEIR kids. The man should be mature enough to know that they can get their time after all the kids are put in bed IF the wife isnt tired
If hes worried about getting laid, then he should help out more around the house before bed
I lived with this crap for 13 years, so I know how it goes.

my wife has to take care of the kids till they can take care of them self.I have to work for the rest of my life.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Why do women cheat? I saw a self-reporting study, 1/2 of married women admitted to having an affair and 2/3 of married men admitted to having an affair. The numbers are probably higher than reported because under reporting is a major problem with these types of studies. Men aren't the only ones cheating and it soesn't say much for the human race as a whole.

I've seen much lower numbers than that. It's very hard to be certain though, as some may report that they have when they havn't, while others may report that they havn't when they have. Plus you have to look at who was surveyed and if the survey population accurately represents the general population.

 

[OMEGA]

in your mind i guess you believe that

no its true they all want a guy with power and who will treat them like shit
thus they deserve all that comes to them ( not all women , well almost all of them deserve it)

 

[foreigngirl]

my wife has to take care of the kids till they can take care of them self.I have to work for the rest of my life.

thats how it is in my household too.
You gotta try to meet your SO's needs. ANY needs. If you fail, they might stray. Best way to avoid it is to talk it over and see whats missing so it can br repaired.
Yes, women get too comfterable and let themselfes go, not caring how they look like, how their hair is, how they dress.
It dont matter how tired I am from the long day. If hubby wants to get some, he is getting it.

 

[Delinquent]

down with monogamy!!

Seriously though, my wife's sex drive is a helluva lot more than mine. I don't know if she's just horny or she knows she wants a baby and the more we have sex, the higher the chance. I truly cant' imagine what she will be like when she gets into her 30's.

She is opening up the oppotunity for 3somes again though which is cool. Sex just isn't as exciting to me anymore. It doesn't mean that I'm gonna go looking for another woman even if the chance to have 3somes didn't exist. I'm content not caring about sex that much. It really doesn't factor into the list of important things to do. I'm not romantic nor have I ever been. It's about pleasing her for a while then getting off. This may be because I know it's always there if I want it and in the passed 9 years, I have only been single for a month so it's ALWAYS been there for me.

 

[nycgirl]

I think it should be a 2 way street on this. The man should spend more time trying to HELP the woman so she can MAKE the time to go get her hair done, nails done etc
He needs to help around the house more than he does. Trust me ALOT of men think that their 8 hour day is over when they walk in the door. They sit on their butts and the woman still has to cook dinner and wash clothes.....for them and THEIR kids. The man should be mature enough to know that they can get their time after all the kids are put in bed IF the wife isnt tired
If hes worried about getting laid, then he should help out more around the house before bed
I lived with this crap for 13 years, so I know how it goes.

One does not have to be married to understand this. I live with it via my parents 39 year marriage (lots of ups & downs and they are still together). I learned ALOT from their marriage, good and bad.

W/ regard to hair & nails, a woman should want to do this for herself. If she does, she will find the time. One does not have to have kids to have a busy schedule. I work full-time, school part-time, just started a really neat side project that is taking off yet I found the time this week to do MY OWN pedicure & manicure and go to the hair salon (I studied a bit while under the dryer). I do this because I want to keep myself up and feel good about myself. That said, my workouts have suffered ALOT (I can only go 2-3 days a week), but I'm keeping the diet as tight as possible to maintain my figure until the end of the school year.

You are right it is a 2 way street. As all relationships should be. But there are times, when things will be one way.

As far as the man is concerned, was this communicated to him? Was it understood when you got together that was how things were going to be? It seems you wanted one thing and he wanted things another way.

 

[SoKlueles]

One does not have to be married to understand this. I live with it via my parents 39 year marriage (lots of ups & downs and they are still together). I learned ALOT from their marriage, good and bad.

W/ regard to hair & nails, a woman should want to do this for herself. If she does, she will find the time. One does not have to have kids to have a busy schedule. I work full-time, school part-time, just started a really neat side project that is taking off yet I found the time this week to do MY OWN pedicure & manicure and go to the hair salon (I studied a bit while under the dryer). I do this because I want to keep myself up and feel good about myself. That said, my workouts have suffered ALOT (I can only go 2-3 days a week), but I'm keeping the diet as tight as possible to maintain my figure until the end of the school year.

You are right it is a 2 way street. As all relationships should be. But there are times, when things will be one way.

As far as the man is concerned, was this communicated to him? Was it understood when you got together that was how things were going to be? It seems you wanted one thing and he wanted things another way.

i stayed at home with the kids when they were small. I did everything, he didnt even pick up his dirty clothes out of the bathroom floor
and when i got a job outside the house, it was a deal that we would BOTH help out.....and that lasted a cpl weeks after I got the job
All im saying is that kids wear you out. You are cooking cleaning and picking up after them all day long, potty training, breaking them from the bottle or pacifier. Your asking them every 5 minutes if they have to go pee and taking htem to the potty only to find that they dont have to and then they pee on themselves right afterwards, then your cleaning up after them again....and then you start all over with the potty training.
Then theres the toddler years when they are getting into anything and every thing.
In a relationship it should be 50/50 even rearing the children
All im saying is...a man should help around the house and if they do they get rewarded. When a child is small, they get alot of your time. You give your husband what is left. then when they get older, and can do for themselves, he should still help around the house
Sometimes it gets in a womans mind that all she is there for is to be a maid. been there done that
The first thing that was out of their mouths when i walked in the door from working 8 hours was not "hi mom" or "hi honey" it was "whats for dinner?"
Yeah it really makes a woman feel sexy when thats the first thing they hear when they get home. If you dont get treated sexy by the one that is supposed to love you, then how in the hell are you supposed to feel sexy??

 

[nycgirl]

Rewarded???? Rewarding vs. Punishing??? Am I the only one that doesn't understand this?? I guess I will be single forever. A man should want to please me (as I will him) because he wants to not to "reward" me.

 

[SoKlueles]

Rewarded???? Am I the only one that doesn't understand this? Rewarded, punished, holding grudges, etc. What happens to treating each other as adults?

or like a wife instead of a maid

 

[nycgirl]

Keeping yourself isn't the only thing that will keep a man from not cheating (see my other post).

I also agree with OMEGA. If you are insecure and do not love yourself and keep putting yourself in negative relationships with men that do not respect you or love you, then you deserve some (if not all) of the blame. Its like a woman that chooses a man over her children, how can she expect the man to respect her when she doesn't even respect her own blood. This is why I strongly believe in you attract what you feel and give off.

 

[velvett]

Well - NYC & Soklu - you're both right.

And just like cardio - 30 + 30 doesn't always equal 60..

Also, I don't think MightMouse was speaking soley of those sort of emotional needs toward happiness. Women tend to loose their identity within some relationships and a selfish man isn't generally the cause of that.

 

[javaguru]

I've seen much lower numbers than that. It's very hard to be certain though, as some may report that they have when they havn't, while others may report that they havn't when they have. Plus you have to look at who was surveyed and if the survey population accurately represents the general population.

I tend to believe the numbers are "close" based on the divorce rate hovering around 50%; Then you have people staying unhappily married for other reasons than moral obligation and more than happy to "play around."

 

[Raina]

I think my situation was always weird because the relationship and even marriage was open to an extent. As long as you got the other person's permission and didn't go past set boundaries things were okay. I used to think that worked because of trust. Now I think it worked because of the total emotional disconnect between us.

It took years of pushing to push me over the edge but once he did I couldn't stand to be near him. And I'm pretty sure that any female who's been in an abusive relationship can tell you that you don't have an interest in sleeping with your tormenter. Not that my situation has been normal but sometimes when a female refuses to sleep with their SO it's not about laziness or anything else. I guarantee she won't want to if part of her wishes he'd get hit by a truck.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

I tend to believe the numbers are "close" based on the divorce rate hovering around 50%; Then you have people staying unhappily married for other reasons than moral obligation and more than happy to "play around."

Well, you have to define cheating as well. For example, what you consider cheating I might not. You might consider sex or sexual acts to be cheating, whereas I might consider kissing someone else to be cheating.

With people getting divorced and remarried, how do you know when they cheated? They might have cheated on their ex-wife/husband that they were married to for 2 years, but they might have never cheated on the person they're currently married to and have been with for 15 years.

Some people get married before they are mature enough or for all the wrong reasons and problems arise from that, such as infidelity and divorce. Some people cheat because they have been cheated on or they think they are being cheated on. There's a lot of factors involved.

You're right about divorce rates being high and all that. All I'm saying is that the numbers vary from survey to survey. Who are they surveying? Are they going door to door? Are they sitting outside of a mall in a rich/poor neighborhood? Are they asking people that are young/old? You have to break it all down into these catagories to see how well it reflects your general population.

 

[nycgirl]

Well - NYC & Soklu - you're both right.

And just like cardio - 30 + 30 doesn't always equal 60..

Also, I don't think MightMouse was speaking soley of those sort of emotional needs toward happiness. Women tend to loose their identity within some relationships and a selfish man isn't generally the cause of that.

No he wasn't.

W/ regard to women either losing their identity in a relationship or, in some cases, trying to create one/find one via relationship, isn't the man's fault. The point of my argument is that women need to take some responsibility. We are so quick to blame the man. When it comes to trying to find the answer as to why we are in unhappy relationships and how to improve them or how to seek a positive & loving relationship, sometimes it requires a nice long look in the mirror.

 

[Buddy_Christ]

No he wasn't.

W/ regard to women either losing their identity in a relationship or, in some cases, trying to create one/find one via relationship, isn't the man's fault. The point of my argument is that women need to take some responsibility. We are so quick to blame the man. When it comes to trying to find the answer as to why we are in unhappy relationships and how to improve them or how to seek a positive & loving relationship, sometimes it requires a nice long look in the mirror.

You are right. When there are problems in a relationship, BOTH sides need to see where they went wrong. Some people think that they did nothing wrong and it's not their fault, when in reality things that they did spurred and maintained a behavior out of their partner.

Like any couple, we've had our share of problems in our relationship. When it has erupted into a fight (because of us not talking about it sooner), it's amazing the things that come out of both of us.

Why did you do/are you acting this way?

Because you did/are acting like this.

Well, I'm acting like this because of this.

And I did that because of this.

Eventually you get to the root of the problem. Most of the time these things don't start overnight, it's an ongoing pattern of behavior that spirals out of control. Something I might have done 3 months ago caused my gf to act in a certain way and I didn't realize what caused it, which in turn made me act in a certain way as a result, which then in turn caused her to.....you get the point.

And, believe or not, trying to be the perfect person for your partner can actually make things worse. When the relationship starts you have to be 50/50, not be the one that's trying to do everything to make life perfect for the other person because eventually you'll get tired of it. When you stop giving so much of yourself and are expecting something in return, your partner might not see it and he/she might go off elsewhere to get what you were giving for so long.

 

[velvett]

W/ regard to women either losing their identity in a relationship or, in some cases, trying to create one/find one via relationship, isn't the man's fault.

Never said it was.


However, it is usually the woman that loses herself because it's generally the man that's the bread winner and the mother the stay at home partner. It has got to be difficult to be the wife and mommie and remember who you are and what you're worth when your husband and your kids don't appreciate what you do for them. That's not to say that happens in all relationahip and that the bread winner half never feels unappreciated.

Add sex or lack of sex to that and you've just got a bomb brewing.

 

[SoKlueles]

Maybe a spouse gets comfortable with their life and thinks it is good the way it is when their spouse thinks otherwise. I guess communication is the main thing in a relationship. If a mans not happy in the bedroom, and the woman isnt happy outside the bedroom they need to discuss it and talk civilly and mature and not sling crap at each other.

 

[OMEGA]

btw Ladies I was joking about deserving it

just having soem fun

 

[velvett]

btw Ladies I was joking about deserving it

just having soem fun

I think you meant that girls/women tend to be attracted to the asshole guys and not notice the nice ones and the ones that date the dicks deserve it because they should have given the nice guy a chance but they didn't.

So from that standpoint there's some truth to that.

 

[buffer1]

I think you meant that girls/women tend to be attracted to the asshole guys and not notice the nice ones and the ones that date the dicks deserve it because they should have given the nice guy a chance but they didn't.

So from that standpoint there's some truth to that.

got that right,but it still does'nt change anything,lol

 

[Razorguns]

Just curious your thoughts on why men cheat?

Just from talking with the married guys it seems they are not happy because their women are not total sluts in the bedroom and are not being satisfied. It seems all men require constant sexual stimulation or they are not happy.

Easy.

Their women don't look like the hot 20-something girls gone wild chicks they married. They're now miserable old fat whiney soccer mom hags with cellulite.

 

[nycgirl]

Never said it was.


However, it is usually the woman that loses herself because it's generally the man that's the bread winner and the mother the stay at home partner. It has got to be difficult to be the wife and mommie and remember who you are and what you're worth when your husband and your kids don't appreciate what you do for them. That's not to say that happens in all relationahip and that the bread winner half never feels unappreciated.

Add sex or lack of sex to that and you've just got a bomb brewing.

I agreed with you.
How does that differ from the woman that's tough in the boardroom and brings the "corporate attitude" back home and forgets she is a partner in a relationship not running a department/business (i.e., ballbuster syndrome)? A homemaker is just as responsible in maintaining her identity as a business woman. The loss of identity happens to the single career gal too.

 

[javaguru]

Well, you have to define cheating as well. For example, what you consider cheating I might not. You might consider sex or sexual acts to be cheating, whereas I might consider kissing someone else to be cheating.

With people getting divorced and remarried, how do you know when they cheated? They might have cheated on their ex-wife/husband that they were married to for 2 years, but they might have never cheated on the person they're currently married to and have been with for 15 years.

Some people get married before they are mature enough or for all the wrong reasons and problems arise from that, such as infidelity and divorce. Some people cheat because they have been cheated on or they think they are being cheated on. There's a lot of factors involved.

You're right about divorce rates being high and all that. All I'm saying is that the numbers vary from survey to survey. Who are they surveying? Are they going door to door? Are they sitting outside of a mall in a rich/poor neighborhood? Are they asking people that are young/old? You have to break it all down into these catagories to see how well it reflects your general population.

Yeah, I understand what you are saying, there are plenty of flaws in these types of surveys, but the numbers seem roughly accurate based on people I know; Which is one reason I tend to believe they are at least somewhat accurate. The survey in question asked, "Have you had an affair." Which I think tends to err on the side of under reporting. A one night trist would not be viewed as an affair by many.

 

[OMEGA]

I think you meant that girls/women tend to be attracted to the asshole guys and not notice the nice ones and the ones that date the dicks deserve it because they should have given the nice guy a chance but they didn't.

So from that standpoint there's some truth to that.

YEs! your talking to me we are still friends after all!

btw I am azzhole want to date?

 

[Buddy_Christ]

Yeah, I understand what you are saying, there are plenty of flaws in these types of surveys, but the numbers seem roughly accurate based on people I know; Which is one reason I tend to believe they are at least somewhat accurate. The survey in question asked, "Have you had an affair." Which I think tends to err on the side of under reporting. A one night trist would not be viewed as an affair by many.

Yeah, I define affair as something ongoing or something you planned out. It could be an on the side fuck buddy or something that would resemble dating. That is an affair in my opinion.

A one nighter is cheating but I wouldn't view it as an affair. I'd view it as "a few hours of irrational thought on your part and now you can GTFO of my life." An affair I'd view as "yes, I just fucking backhanded you, now GTFO of my life."

So see, even the end result is different.

If my gf was having an affair or had a one night stand and I found out, I wouldn't lay a hand on her, I'd just tell her to leave. I don't know for certain what I would do if I caught her physically in the act, but I know anything I did would be out of pure rage, not planned thought. If that were ever to happen (and I don't think it ever will, I'm just saying IF) I really hope I'm living in a state that allows for "crimes of passion" to be a legit defense in court.

 

[1_more_rep]

i read somewhere in a magazine while taking a shit that a study showed that the average man is about 7x hornier/thinking of sex than the average female. that said, if they are not getting it alot from their partners of course the guy, without strong will power, is probably going to look for a new adventure or sex partner.

it sucks, i know . i personally (thank God) have never cheated on any girl that i have been with. I am still young and stupid though, so time can only tell if i ever give in to the temptation. For now, im doing ok though . But that's not to say that girls don't cheat also...because we ALL know they do...ALOT of them do

 

[big_bad_buff]

because the world is due for a good flooding lol.....i was talking about this with a co-worker today, half our home depot store goes out on the weekends and everyone fucks around with everyone at the bars, they all cheat on their wives and husbands, like every weekend, while their other halves are at home with the kids...men, women, they all do it about the same...nasty world

Just curious your thoughts on why men cheat?

Just from talking with the married guys it seems they are not happy because their women are not total sluts in the bedroom and are not being satisfied. It seems all men require constant sexual stimulation or they are not happy.

 

[HiDnGoD]

IMO

Women get too comfortable with having their emotional needs met by having someone who loves them. Unfortunately, they forget that the male sex drive is very high and they don't provide the sexual feedback to satisfy the mans needs. Thus, they go looking for another women to satisfy this.

Exactly. In most cases, this is more or less true.
Ladies remember this!
Women's emotional needs = men's sexual needs!

 

[HiDnGoD]

You are absolutely right. Women are so quick to blame the man for cheating instead of looking within. They let themselves go or they stop doing certain things when they get the ring/long term relationship.
Sometimes it isn't just about sex. They get caught up in the kids and other activities they forget about their man. They neglect him and his emotional needs. You will be surprise what another woman asking your man "how is your day?" will lead to.

This is all true. But I won't agree, that it's all, or even mostly her fault. If he doesn't communicate with her, how is she to know there's something wrong? If he's a slob, ignores his shape, is demeaning or abusive, then she's bound to be unaroused. If he's feeling neglected, he has to explain his need, not just say "Hey! Woman! I'm horny." If a man cheats, he either does it with eyes wide open, or he allows himself to be seduced.

 

[HiDnGoD]

no its true they all want a guy with power and who will treat them like shit
thus they deserve all that comes to them ( not all women , well almost all of them deserve it)

If you really believe that, then that is sad. It's just so wrong, in so many ways.
I hope you find a good woman to teach you what true love is.

btw Ladies I was joking about deserving it just having some fun

Thppppppppppppppptttttttttt.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Easy. Their women don't look like the hot 20-something girls gone wild chicks they married. They're now miserable old fat whiney soccer mom hags with cellulite.

While the guy is sitting in front of the computer, in his underwear, drinking a beer, pretending to be HeMan on EF?
Life is hard. Genetics suck. When you are 45, and you've rarely had the time to breath, life does that to you. You want a perfect woman, you better be perfect yourself.

 

[Cutiebaby]

my wife has to take care of the kids till they can take care of them self.I have to work for the rest of my life.

i dont really care what any one has to say........a man and a woman should respect one anothers choices....if they cannot give each other respect then they need to divorce...obviously if a man or a woman is not treating each other with the respect that they deserve (whether a man thinks a woman is not respecting him is out of question) then there are 2 choices either be a man and respect your wife or divorce visa versa.....marriage is not a take take take situation...because he doesnt respect you does not mean shit on him, or if he goes out partying it doesnt mean you do it (revenge)...if there is no respect,trust,communication, or interest in one another they are bound to cheat....sorry to say but most and NYCGIRL i didnt say all this time girls cheat because their hubby or boy friends did or they heard that they did...its all revenge.....Or because the hubby/boyfriend isnt there for them......I think IMO that men dont cheat because they think with their dicks and that alcohol is just an excuse.........they do it because they are not satisfied with their lover...
NOW AS FOR THIS STATEMENT dickface----when is your days off, how about weekends or vavcations compared to the woman that raises the kid????? oh that is right when the kid is 18 and accountable for themselves right? then they are too busy working untill retirement!!!!!!!

 

[Raptorex]

NOW AS FOR THIS STATEMENT dickface----when is your days off, how about weekends or vavcations compared to the woman that raises the kid????? oh that is right when the kid is 18 and accountable for themselves right? then they are too busy working untill retirement!!!!!!!

 

[HiDnGoD]

iI think IMO that men dont cheat because they think with their dicks and that alcohol is just an excuse.........they do it because they are not satisfied with their lover...

Not always. Some men are just Pure Assholes.
I've had occasions where I might have cheated, if I'd had more to drink. When a man is out & a woman is paying attention to his every word, (while the wife is home sleeping), then his judgement goes out the window. The alcohol becomes a contributing factor, the attentive stranger letting him know he is important is a contributing factor, and the exhausted wife who doesn't know his needs is a contributing factor.
Well I just realized I was agreeing with you, LOL, but the alcohol is partly responsible. Clouds judgement.

 

[foreigngirl]

I love all these posts.
Basicly, it all depends on the person, huh?

 

[buffer1]

I love all these posts.
Basicly, it all depends on the person, huh?

uhhh,yeah,lol

 

[javaguru]

There are sociopaths out there, but I've never known a man who was reasonably happy in his relationship who cheated. It happens when someone can justify /rationalize cheating. My ex-wife and I didn't have sex the last year of our marriage and I never even considered cheating because I respected the vow we took. It's not like I didn't have temptations or offers but cheating is a character issue not a gender issue.

 

[HiDnGoD]

Don't know if it's true, but I heard a story about this photo. Apparently the B.F. was a druggie, promised he'd stopped. The girl was fucking the other guy & the other guy was supplying the B.F. with drugs.

 

[Raptorex]

Don't know if it's true, but I heard a story about this photo. Apparently the B.F. was a druggie, promised he'd stopped. The girl was fucking the other guy & the other guy was supplying the B.F. with drugs.

good background thanks, bet there was some bukkake going on there.

 

[HiDnGoD]

There was a time in our relationship that my wife had no sex drive at all. For several years I only got it 'cause she felt sorry for me. Let me tell you, a sympathy f*** is worse than no f***. You feel like shit after. I had opportunity & motivation, but I never once cheated. I'm no saint. I probably would have if I allowed myself to justify it, alcohol or whatever. But I couldn't bring myself to go there. We worked through it.

 

[biteme]

I'm just gonna take a wild guess and say, to get a new piece of as*.