Why can't women and men be friends?

[velvett]

i think women are inferior most of the time.

Eh.

 

[velvett]

they all want to bang you

Sad but true.


Every guy friend I've ever had in my life start with his trying to get into my panties.

One of two things happen - the guy will give up on you and blow you off completely or he'll back off for a while and the stay friendly with you for advice or to try and get into your girlfriend's panties.

As it stands I have one male I've kept friendly with and it's more of a professional relationship because we do a lot of business together and he always talks to me about his dating woes.

They rest from high school and college have since married and either we've lost track or the wife hated my presence.

All in all I still have hope that maybe one day men and women could be buddies.


Sigh.

 

[Werd]

I'm not sure if I can easily explain it. I just think that the male-female romantic relationship is the strongest of all relationships, the best of them all, so to say, therefore I think its something to definately strive for.

Even if it means risking the chance of losing a friend thats a girl (by asking her out, and lets say she gets scared off).

or maybe you could be friends with an attractive girl, once you realized that u didnt have a chance with her (or at least right then) and u just wanted to stick around and be her friend.

ok, so let me rephrase, if you both are attracted to each other, i dont think its possible to remain friends, but rather it becomes 'more than friends'. That is, unless you both are just shy of your feelings (or you both dont know that you're interested in each other)

I dont think well a matched couple would push themselves away from having a wonderful relationship, by saying "you know, we should just remain friends, and pass up on a wonderful opportunity, just for the hell of it."

I will not totally disagree with what you are saying. Especially the "if you are both attracted to each other and like being friends - taking it to the next level thing". However, there is something to be said for platonic friendships.

I think the one thing that makes it possible for people of the opposite sex to be good friends - regardless of whether or not they have had sex has to do with one thing and one thing alone:

MATURITY.

Just my .02

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Sad but true.

Every guy friend I've ever had in my life start with his trying to get into my panties.

One of two things happen - the guy will give up on you and blow you off completely or he'll back off for a while and the stay friendly with you for advice or to try and get into your girlfriend's panties.

All in all I still have hope that maybe one day men and women could be buddies.

You're being so one-sided about this. it takes two people to make a friendship, and you are perpetuating the simple minded view that every guy wants to bang every girl he meets.

Sex..I love it....but it's just sex and after a while, it can be a huge inconvenience. It;s easier to go back to where you know you can go than to find something new.

Also, too often, if you go down that "pursuit of sex" route, you open a world of gameplaying and bullshit that is a huge time waster and rarely worth the effort.

If you choose NOT to go down that route (i.e. want to be friends, then many women will also not want to do that . It is as if they expect to play games etc whatever.

Let me tell you some classics I have heard after letting a girl know that you want to be friends, but it;s not going to be a sexual / exclusive / dating relationship

- Why would you want to do that? (read: fuck me if you want, treat me like a princess, it;s all good. be nice to me....nahhhhh....buy me stuff....yeahhhhh)

- I hope that when you meet this perfect woman, she's still single (read: I have issues, run matt run)

And those were just this month1

friendships are two people.

men wanna get laid, women have crazy expectations.

 

[velvett]

You're being so one-sided about this. it takes two people to make a friendship, and you are perpetuating the simple minded view that every guy wants to bang every girl he meets.
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WHOA.

If I did I didn't mean to.

I was a tomboy in highschool and completly clueless about boys, dating and sex.

My first date wasn't until I was 19 and after I stopped dating my frist boyfriend I was 23 and not interested in dating or sex for a long time.

I'm just stating my experience with the guys I've met throughout my life and the guy that I was able to be friends with usually had a girlfriend or wife that did not want me around becasue I was considered a threat and had to be removed from the list of friends.

Didn't you just say:

only recently...at 28...am I learning how to do be just friends with women. Previously the women friends I had were girls I slept with but did not date.

I would love for things to be different and I do have an open mind for such an even to happen and yes woman are to blame just as men are for no being able to to friends without sex.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

WHOA.

If I did I didn't mean to.

Heard that one a lot too.

 

[velvett]

Heard that one a lot too.

Ever notice how well and somewhat often we argue with each other?
Hmm.

Hot.

That is all.

Oh and check your messages.

 

[PoonRaider]

Bottom line: Women are too dramatic and emotional. Guys aren't into that shit. At least I'm not. I can't handle chicks who get emotional. I've had cool friends that were girls in the past, but they were pretty tough chicks who didn't take shit and didn't get bogged down in their emotions. Thats what I like in a chick, someone who isn't emotionally shallow. I like chicks that can handle their bidniz, not ones who cry because they don't look like supermodels, or get jealous, etc.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Ever notice how well and somewhat often we argue with each other?
Hmm.

Hot.

That is all.

Oh and check your messages.

Too bad this is not a sitcom.

Messages, got it. Damn long work days.

 

[velvett]

Too bad this is not a sitcom.
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