KRS said:
Then you have never been in love, or have a sick idea of what love is. I am IN LOVE and it's the best feeling in the world. Love motivates you to be a better person, love helps everyone be selfless. It's healthy. I can't imagine my life without my honey. I know I sound mushy, but love does that to you. And there's nothing wrong with that.
too many things can go wrong. you get a job in a different city, one of you meets someone else, you lose interest, your personalties (and what you find tolerable/intolerable/desirable) change, you discover that you hate each other, etc. there are too many things that can go wrong for me to let an emotion that strong run free inside my mind.
i endorse love, but it is too strong & irrational for me to want to feel it anymore. i've been let down because i didn't quiz the other person out beforehand. i jumped in w/o planning for what could go wrong.
i've been in love. i'll admit that true, unadulterated love transcends all the shit i said. however, people usually don't find that type of love. they find co-dependent, 'im a man, you're a woman so i guess we should feel something' love that burns out. i've had one real love, and 4 so-so loves. i would take everything i said back if it was a description of the real love, but it still applies to the 4 so-so loves. i don't think i even felt pain from the true love. just lack. wow. love so pure there was no pain. but that is gone now. and it was a while back anyway.
i have to come back & write this. i don't buy into the 'love solves everything' crap anymore.
http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=64307&highlight=women
http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=62223&highlight=women
the way i see it there are different types of love. love between family, romantic love, religious love, humitarian love, etc. of them, i would put romantic love near the bottom in regards to usefulness & trustworthiness. i can't stand it now that i think about it. i hope i never love a woman more than i love my family, unless she can actually do what my family does for me. sit by me while im in the ER, drive 100 miles at 3am to get me, not attack me when i fail. romantic 'love' is usually a mixture of co-dependence, exploitation (men 2 women:show up your boobs as proof that you are easy to impregnate; women 2 men:show us that you are strong individuals & useful to society so we can give birth to a race of politically correct supermen) at the expense of true love (which is only based on what helps the individual IMO), and addiction.
if i find a woman who i think is a good person, then i am not above loving her. but a vagina alone doesn't do it for me.
i know. by saying this i am inviting every cognitive dissonancer in the land to uphold their stereotypes at my expense. feel free, but i outdodged those arguments long ago.