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Who would date a chick with a kid?
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Very valid comment.
But, if YOU KNOW up front that you would never marry her, then what is the sense of dating her? Not saying that ALL DATING leads to marriage... but it is part of the courtship ritual. I just don't see the point.
When guys hit on me - first words out of my mouth, "I have four children... not that you will ever meet them... just lettin' ya know... still wanna date?"
If the man declines then we smile and laugh and leave it at that. But believe it or not I have heard MANY men say, "I don't mind."
EXCUSE ME? You don't mind? What, like they are a handicap? Ummmmm yea, I am REALLY gonna want to jump on that! NOT.
Bottom line - be up front from the getco. And we are ALWAYS entitled to change our minds, HOWEVER, if you are going to date a woman with children you'd better be DAMNED sure that you know what you are doing before you involve THEM.
Any woman who would THRUST her children on a man early on is TROUBLE - pure and simple. Think about it... If it was your mom, would you want a whole string of men coming in and out of your life?
Also, I have told my girls (OOPS THERE I GO AGAIN - IN CONTEMPT!) that if they meet a man that I am dating that they do not like for WHATEVER REASON - I WILL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN - PERIOD!!! AND I MEAN THAT LITERALLY.
The guy knows this up front TOO....
As I said, I know it sounds selfish, but that is just how I am. My children will not be little forever. I would sooner die a miserable lonely death than to put "some guy" ahead of them.
They will be grown one day and then I will be free to do as I please. Until then, my ONLY COMMITMENT IS TO THEM... AND THEN ME.
But, if YOU KNOW up front that you would never marry her, then what is the sense of dating her? Not saying that ALL DATING leads to marriage... but it is part of the courtship ritual. I just don't see the point.
When guys hit on me - first words out of my mouth, "I have four children... not that you will ever meet them... just lettin' ya know... still wanna date?"
If the man declines then we smile and laugh and leave it at that. But believe it or not I have heard MANY men say, "I don't mind."
EXCUSE ME? You don't mind? What, like they are a handicap? Ummmmm yea, I am REALLY gonna want to jump on that! NOT.
Bottom line - be up front from the getco. And we are ALWAYS entitled to change our minds, HOWEVER, if you are going to date a woman with children you'd better be DAMNED sure that you know what you are doing before you involve THEM.
Any woman who would THRUST her children on a man early on is TROUBLE - pure and simple. Think about it... If it was your mom, would you want a whole string of men coming in and out of your life?
Also, I have told my girls (OOPS THERE I GO AGAIN - IN CONTEMPT!) that if they meet a man that I am dating that they do not like for WHATEVER REASON - I WILL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN - PERIOD!!! AND I MEAN THAT LITERALLY.
The guy knows this up front TOO....
As I said, I know it sounds selfish, but that is just how I am. My children will not be little forever. I would sooner die a miserable lonely death than to put "some guy" ahead of them.
They will be grown one day and then I will be free to do as I please. Until then, my ONLY COMMITMENT IS TO THEM... AND THEN ME.
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Self-righteous? In what way? Who have I judged?
I know, I know... pretty hard to believe that there are women out their that actually put the needs of their children first when it comes to these situations OR ANY SITUATION....
Look around - WE ARE EVERYWHERE.... quite a few of us on these boards.
NOT ALL WOMEN are hating, game-playing, fucked-up sluts...
There are MANY board members who know me - several who have met me in REAL LIFE. They know that I am flawed... but very genuine.
I know, I know... pretty hard to believe that there are women out their that actually put the needs of their children first when it comes to these situations OR ANY SITUATION....
Look around - WE ARE EVERYWHERE.... quite a few of us on these boards.
NOT ALL WOMEN are hating, game-playing, fucked-up sluts...
There are MANY board members who know me - several who have met me in REAL LIFE. They know that I am flawed... but very genuine.
casavant
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kronkette said:
I read these words, they were processed by my brain, and in turn caused a real and measurable
physiological reaction. Now who ever said EF had nothing to do with real life!? 
I don't know if this has been said yet, because I only got through the first two pages, but if a woman had a child and looked good afterward, than at least you would know that she was capable of maintaining herself well. That would be a big fear of mine- your girl has a baby and she never makes the effort to get back into shape.
I don't think dating a woman with a child is out of the question, but at this point in my life, I don't think I would be a responsible enough person to be around a kid and set a good example.
TC2
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bikinimom said:
I'm talking about how you almost always have to point out what a strong women YOU are and how YOU have it so hard and yet YOU overcome these these things.
I think you are a good women with actual common sense, and I respect you for being a strong person.
But the "I am women hear me roar" crap gets old, I've met many women like you, most of the time they crave drama so they can look like the "strong woman who does it all by herself".
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Wrong again....
Do you honestly believe that I am enjoying ANY of this?
Come on now, think.
Why is it that at any given time you can log on and see AT LEAST three threads by guys talking about evil whores that are fucked up in head and who play games and hurt them.... but you hardly EVER see the reverse?
What is with the running B.I.T.C.H.E.S. joke on elite? (Which I think is humorous myself - only pointing out the double standard.) Why is it that it is ok for a guy to put up a thread ,"That ho fucked me over..." or something to that effect and he will get like thousands of replies about how ALL WOMEN are trash.... yadda, yadda... BUT GOD FORBID a female stand up for herself - OR WORSE YET - she put down "A MAN" and she is instantly cut down?
Please just explain it to me....
Do you not find it odd that MOST WOMEN will not be vocal about such things? Why? BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE SHIT TALK... So they just shake thier heads and scroll on.
Because I happen to be a FEMALE MOD, when I can and when I feel up to the verbal shitstorm THAT I KNOW WILL FOLLOW I do just that! Stand up and say something for women....
Call me crazy, it is just how I feel.
Like I said before, if I have helped just one other woman then it will have been worth all the verbal abuse. Besides, it isn't like it hurts... for God's sake I do consider the source.
BUT - what a lot of these little mental giants who spew hatred towards women in a pathetic attempt at humor do NOT realize is that the pen is mightier than the sword. Isn't there enough hate and degradation directed at women already?... It needs to be perpetuated here too?
And before anyone can say that I do not at least TRY and see both sides of the coin... anyone who has been around long enough KNOWS FOR A FACT that I AM HARSHEST ON FEMALES THAT MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!
Do you honestly believe that I am enjoying ANY of this?
Come on now, think.
Why is it that at any given time you can log on and see AT LEAST three threads by guys talking about evil whores that are fucked up in head and who play games and hurt them.... but you hardly EVER see the reverse?
What is with the running B.I.T.C.H.E.S. joke on elite? (Which I think is humorous myself - only pointing out the double standard.) Why is it that it is ok for a guy to put up a thread ,"That ho fucked me over..." or something to that effect and he will get like thousands of replies about how ALL WOMEN are trash.... yadda, yadda... BUT GOD FORBID a female stand up for herself - OR WORSE YET - she put down "A MAN" and she is instantly cut down?
Please just explain it to me....
Do you not find it odd that MOST WOMEN will not be vocal about such things? Why? BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE SHIT TALK... So they just shake thier heads and scroll on.
Because I happen to be a FEMALE MOD, when I can and when I feel up to the verbal shitstorm THAT I KNOW WILL FOLLOW I do just that! Stand up and say something for women....
Call me crazy, it is just how I feel.
Like I said before, if I have helped just one other woman then it will have been worth all the verbal abuse. Besides, it isn't like it hurts... for God's sake I do consider the source.
BUT - what a lot of these little mental giants who spew hatred towards women in a pathetic attempt at humor do NOT realize is that the pen is mightier than the sword. Isn't there enough hate and degradation directed at women already?... It needs to be perpetuated here too?
And before anyone can say that I do not at least TRY and see both sides of the coin... anyone who has been around long enough KNOWS FOR A FACT that I AM HARSHEST ON FEMALES THAT MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!
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casavant said:
Well spoken!
plornive
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I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!
