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Who would date a chick with a kid?

seems to me..you would be nuts not to.....its clear she puts out....:lmao:
 
its always depends on the girl and the situation but i would prefer not to. just because i don't like having to take care of someone else's kid.
 
go for it, dating ain't marriage, but finding a babysitter is rough if your looking for a late nite full of sex
 
Stan O'Zolol said:
Kronkette,

Good reasoning...but it could also be like throwing a hot dog down a hallway.
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ouch! well, i have a 5 year old, and i am not having anymore...but i will say...i am as tight as a white knuckled grip ;)
 
I'm in the same situation Stan, but mine has two kids. She's an absolute babe. Hubby ran out on her and now she doesn't trust any men, although she says she could love me. As Mags says, i'd prefer not to be in that situation, but she's sooooo fine i can't keep away.
 
I would, but I am also older than most of the guys here. If you do date a woman with a child remember that child was part of her life before you met her and will be a part of her life after you are gone. If you can't accept that, then don't bother with the woman. I have known many single mothers who are terrific women and I am a much better man because of them.
 
No, I don't always want to be #2 in a relationship, and if I was #1 that would make her a bad mother, and I will not be daddy to someone elses child..I like kids and all but No I would not
 
Bad: her pussy would be all stretched out, and she would have mental and physical baggage.

Good: you could slap her around and belittle her and she would not leave cause she would be happy just to find a man.
 
MP5 said:
Bad: her pussy would be all stretched out, and she would have mental and physical baggage.

Good: you could slap her around and belittle her and she would not leave cause she would be happy just to find a man.
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And here I thought romance was dead
 
MP5 said:
Bad: her pussy would be all stretched out, and she would have mental and physical baggage.

Good: you could slap her around and belittle her and she would not leave cause she would be happy just to find a man.
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If your mother was to ever divorce your father, would the above description still apply to her?
 
vinylgroover said:


If your mother was to ever divorce your father, would the above description still apply to her?
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See, one would have to HAVE a mother. MP5 was hatched so No, I don't think it would apply.
 
There is not a mother out there that does not have a worked over pussy, that is a fact. Why have that when you can have a nice hardbody chick with a tight ass and box, and no stretch marks?
 
MP5 said:
There is not a mother out there that does not have a worked over pussy, that is a fact. Why have that when you can have a nice hardbody chick with a tight ass and box, and no stretch marks?
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WRONG AGAIN.

I have seen plenty of chicks who never had a single kid with stretchmarks ALL OVER.

And as for the tight ass and box.... you have NO CLUE what you are talking about.... yet again.
 
MP5 said:
There is not a mother out there that does not have a worked over pussy, that is a fact. Why have that when you can have a nice hardbody chick with a tight ass and box, and no stretch marks?
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Well if "dating a mom" is just about the pussy then I think you are missing the point anyway.
 
Hannibal said:


Well if "dating a mom" is just about the pussy then I think you are missing the point anyway.
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For MP5 dating ANYONE: man, woman, or orangutang it is all about pussy. You didn't KNOW this?
 
MP5 said:
you shit four girls and claim to be tight? Not likely, you are probably like a bucket.
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SORRY DUMB BASTARD..... THERE ARE WAYS TO BE TIGHTER THAN BEFORE!

HEHehehehehhehheee Yea, tummy tuck, boob job and my pussy is tight too!

All this and I can cook! tee-hee
 
PS -

I know your mother SHIT YOU... It is obvious.

My children were born.

Please make that distinction next time you refer to MY CHILDREN.
 
And yes... I was the one that moderated your ass.

You were warned NICELY. Unless you can BACK UP ANY SLANDEROUS STATEMENT THAT YOU MAKE.... You will be deleted.

Have a good night m'friend....
 
bikinimom said:
And yes... I was the one that moderated your ass.

You were warned NICELY. Unless you can BACK UP ANY SLANDEROUS STATEMENT THAT YOU MAKE.... You will be deleted.

Have a good night m'friend....
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Translation.....


I have been beaten.. so therefore I must resort to editing your post.
 
For those of you with difficulty in English comprehension...

You make a slanderous statement that you can NOT back up... I will moderate your ass.

:D

Goodnight to you too friend!
 
spatts said:
Worse case scenario, anything in the ass will compress the vagina and make it feel smaller. ;)

OMG...did I just SAY that?
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I don't know about anyone else...but I heard you loud and clear. ;)
 
Hey I am not denying that I voted to ban you...

But you are under some delusion that I care. I would have to care in order to hate.

Is this now clear? Or is a screen shot from the mod's board necessary for clarification?
 
bikinimom said:
Hey I am not denying that I voted to ban you...

But you are under some delusion that I care. I would have to care in order to hate.

Is this now clear? Or is a screen shot from the mod's board necessary for clarification?
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you voted.. therefore you care.

you can only pull the wool over the eyes of people who buy into your bag of trash.
I am not one of them.
 
Ummmmmmmmm no, I don't.

The question was raised and I answered along with MANY others. And then I farted, rolled over and went to sleep, woke the next morning and that was that.

So how is it that I care?

I CARE about A LOT of the members here.... you ain't none of 'em.

No offense, just stating a fact.
 
bikinimom said:
Ummmmmmmmm no, I don't.

The question was raised and I answered along with MANY others. And then I farted, rolled over and went to sleep, woke the next morning and that was that.

So how is it that I care?

I CARE about A LOT of the members here.... you ain't none of 'em.

No offense, just stating a fact.
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I am heartbroken.
 
huntmaster said:
sensitive subject for some, I see.
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I dunno.... saying that a woman is essentially "less" because she has had a child. No, that isn't degrading to ALL WOMEN to say the least.

It seems the ONLY legit replies on this thread came from Austin and Big4Life - and I concurr with them both!
 
Yes I would date a lady with kids. I'm a single dad and have a hard time dating only because the single women I date feel that my son is baggage. This topic can go both ways I suppose. To me finding a lady who is a great mom and would embrace my son along with me would have my heart pretty quickly.
 
I like chicks with kids.. but it just depends.. if they are all criminal minded about fucking over their husband that is a warning sign. It is like someone who cheats.. they did it once.. they will do it again.
 
Northstar said:
Yes I would date a lady with kids. I'm a single dad and have a hard time dating only because the single women I date feel that my son is baggage. This topic can go both ways I suppose. To me finding a lady who is a great mom and would embrace my son along with me would have my heart pretty quickly.
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What I want to know is.... but does you DICK work the same after you have had a child?

See how DEGRADING AND SHALLOW that sounds? :rolleyes:
 
dballer said:
I like chicks with kids.. but it just depends.. if they are all criminal minded about fucking over their husband that is a warning sign. It is like someone who cheats.. they did it once.. they will do it again.
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STOP THE PRESSES!!!

WE ACTUALLY AGREE ON SOMETHING!!!

PS - If a single dad had a final protection order against him and he STILL does not speak in a civil fashion with his wife and she is "all about the money"..... NOT a good sign, Ladies!!!
 
LOL!!!

Personally it wouldn't matter to me one way or the other if the girl had kids. I almost married a chick with a lil girl...I even wonder sometimes how they're doing. :)
 
Really doesn;t matter to me either...I love kids and would treat them as my own.....but I agree there are warning sighns that need to be watched for.
 
MP5 said:
There is not a mother out there that does not have a worked over pussy, that is a fact. Why have that when you can have a nice hardbody chick with a tight ass and box, and no stretch marks?
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uhhhh. NO. no flame, but you are either very young or have no clue at all...

i have zero visable stretch marks, i have a super tight hardbody, with a tight ass and box......
 
bikinimom said:


SORRY DUMB BASTARD..... THERE ARE WAYS TO BE TIGHTER THAN BEFORE!

HEHehehehehhehheee Yea, tummy tuck, boob job and my pussy is tight too!

All this and I can cook! tee-hee
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some of these guys just dont get it..glad there are only a few of these dumbshits around here.....

i AM tighter than before, i can milk a cock with it just sitting in me.....jesus christ, some people are just stuck in tricycle mode....got my boobs done, pussy is tighter than a white knuckled grip with a 150 dumbell in it, doing curls!

all that and the hardbody, with no visable stretch marks...

i am with you kini, spatts and all the others! maybe we should all get together for a photo shoot and show them how we can squash a cucumber in our neither regions...:lmao:
 
kronkette said:


some of these guys just dont get it..glad there are only a few of these dumbshits around here.....
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Yea, I got a PM last night saying that the only pussy this guy has seen was his mother's when he was being "shit out"... hehehhee

kronkette said:


i AM tighter than before, i can milk a cock with it just sitting in me.....jesus christ, some people are just stuck in tricycle mode....got my boobs done, pussy is tighter than a white knuckled grip with a 150 dumbell in it, doing curls!

all that and the hardbody, with no visable stretch marks...

i am with you kini, spatts and all the others! maybe we should all get together for a photo shoot and show them how we can squash a cucumber in our neither regions...:lmao:
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FUCK YOU - Miss "No Visible Stretchmarks" LOL

What these snot-nosed IMBECILES do NOT get is that once a woman has had a child (not all, but those of us who CARE) work TEN TIMES HARDER TO BE BETTER THAN WE WERE BEFORE!!!

DOH!

We are more confident and adventurous......

I guess it is true that the little he-man woman haters just can't handle a confident woman.

*yawn*

That is why I am attracted to men that are my age and up!

(Not saying that there aren't some really sweet and VERY MATURE guys who are younger than me on here - BECAUSE YOU GUYS ARE!!!!!)

I just have a "thing" for dudes in their mid-thirties and up...

PS - I think that you and Spats would very EASILY WAX MY PUNY ASS! :eek2:
 
bikinimom said:
FUCK YOU - Miss "No Visible Stretchmarks" LOL

well i am quite tan..lol

What these snot-nosed IMBECILES do NOT get is that once a woman has had a child (not all, but those of us who CARE) work TEN TIMES HARDER TO BE BETTER THAN WE WERE BEFORE!!!

damn straight!

PS - I think that you and Spats would very EASILY WAX MY PUNY ASS! :eek2:
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hmmmm, waxing your ass huh? little painful, but i am always up for a challenge...:lmao: to be serious for a moment, i think spatts could whip most of the guys on this site! hell im just a little smurf, with smurf muscles...hehehe

:kiss:
 
What the fuck is the deal with the comment about the stretchmarks anyway? If the guy lifts weights in all likelihood HE WILL HAVE STRETCHMARKS! especially if he uses A/S! So what gives? Why is it ok for a guy but not ok for a girl. She didn't get them because of vanity - she got them for giving LIFE!

DOH!

ALSO - I have seen COUNTLESS females with stretchmarks who have NEVER had a child. They were young and had nice bodies - so what gives?

I guess the BIG he-men who "lift and use A/S" might be pissing thier funds away on *GASP* counterfits 'cause they AIN'T so big afterall.

Of course, that is only MY OPINION.

Yes, SPATS COULD WAX 99% OF THE GUY'S ASSES!!! AND I AM DEAD SURE THAT IF THEY WERE REAL MEN, THEY WOULD LOVE IT!!! j/k







ok..... maybe not!

tee-hee
 
I have dated a girl with kids...i don't think its that big of a deal, but the issue comes from past relationships that have spawned those kids, this girl had some real baggage that i was unaware of and to be honest...at 20, i was just unprepared to deal with it, i thought i could, but i was just wrong.

MP5...you don't have a clue man...this girl was so tight she could crack walnuts with that thing.
 
kronkette said:



i can milk a cock with it just sitting in me.....got my boobs done, pussy is tighter than a white knuckled grip with a 150 dumbell in it, doing curls!

all that and the hardbody, with no visable stretch marks...

i am with you kini, spatts and all the others! maybe we should all get together for a photo shoot and show them how we can squash a cucumber in our neither regions...:lmao:
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:eyes: :shocked:

Oh shit......I just blew a load and I wasn't even trying! :FRlol:
 
MP5 said:
everyone one of my friends that has kids told me that it is not the same afterwards.
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Compare childbirth to weight training. When a muscle is stressed, it recovers to become stronger as long as it is fed and rested. The same applies to a vagina.

Another consideration is that your friends may have small dicks in the first place.
 
ttlpkg said:


Compare childbirth to weight training. When a muscle is stressed, it recovers to become stronger as long as it is fed and rested. The same applies to a vagina.

Another consideration is that your friends may have small dicks in the first place.
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very well said baby cakes!
 
I have dated a couple of women with children and the thing I found was, you need to make the decision whether you are going to date seriously, almost immediately.

In my opinion, it isn't fair to the child to become attached to you and then for you to be gone in 6 months.

Zen
 
ttlpkg said:


Compare childbirth to weight training. When a muscle is stressed, it recovers to become stronger as long as it is fed and rested. The same applies to a vagina.

Another consideration is that your friends may have small dicks in the first place.
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OUCH!.... small dicks huh? Puts quite a different spin on things, now don't it?
 
ZenMachine said:
I have dated a couple of women with children and the thing I found was, you need to make the decision whether you are going to date seriously, almost immediately.

In my opinion, it isn't fair to the child to become attached to you and then for you to be gone in 6 months.

Zen
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This is precisely why I am so carefull about allowing my children to meet the men I date. I NEVER HAVE.

Yes, I tell them when I went on a date. And yes, I tell them that I "have friends"... but THAT IS IT.

It has only been very recent that I told them that I have "a boyfriend"... but this guy better be DAMNED sure that he is in it for the long haul (not talking about marriage necessarily) before he decides that he is going to set eyes on them.

Children are not puppies. They are thinking, feeling little human beings.

I tell all the men UP FRONT: My needs do not come ahead of my children's and NEITHER DO YOURS. If you can not deal with that then just say the word and I will not hold it against you. Quite the contrary - I have MORE RESPECT for guys who can say, "Hey, this is too much for me."

I don't NEED to date, nor do I NEED to socialize... BUT if a guy wants me then he needs to realize that he will NEVER be number one. He is line behind my girls, then me.

Sorry if this sounds selfish, but any woman who would do any less - is not worthy of her children.

What is THE MOST important gift a man can give to a child?....

LOVE THIER MOTHER .

This means they guy must take a back seat.

No man will EVER be my girls' daddy. What role he plays in their lives will be (as it ALWAYS WAS) purely up to him.

BUT this one most important gift was and will always be the one thing that he is incapable of giving my girls... (OOPS! I AM IN CONTEMPT! ARREST MY ASS!!!)
 
I might date a woman with kids, but I would never marry one. WAY too much baggage. And honestly, I would not want to have to deal with someone elses kids.
 
Very valid comment.

But, if YOU KNOW up front that you would never marry her, then what is the sense of dating her? Not saying that ALL DATING leads to marriage... but it is part of the courtship ritual. I just don't see the point.

When guys hit on me - first words out of my mouth, "I have four children... not that you will ever meet them... just lettin' ya know... still wanna date?"

If the man declines then we smile and laugh and leave it at that. But believe it or not I have heard MANY men say, "I don't mind."

EXCUSE ME? You don't mind? What, like they are a handicap? Ummmmm yea, I am REALLY gonna want to jump on that! NOT.

Bottom line - be up front from the getco. And we are ALWAYS entitled to change our minds, HOWEVER, if you are going to date a woman with children you'd better be DAMNED sure that you know what you are doing before you involve THEM.

Any woman who would THRUST her children on a man early on is TROUBLE - pure and simple. Think about it... If it was your mom, would you want a whole string of men coming in and out of your life?

Also, I have told my girls (OOPS THERE I GO AGAIN - IN CONTEMPT!) that if they meet a man that I am dating that they do not like for WHATEVER REASON - I WILL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN - PERIOD!!! AND I MEAN THAT LITERALLY.

The guy knows this up front TOO....

As I said, I know it sounds selfish, but that is just how I am. My children will not be little forever. I would sooner die a miserable lonely death than to put "some guy" ahead of them.

They will be grown one day and then I will be free to do as I please. Until then, my ONLY COMMITMENT IS TO THEM... AND THEN ME.
 
bikinimom said:


Also, I have told my girls (OOPS THERE I GO AGAIN - IN CONTEMPT!) that if they meet a man that I am dating that they do not like for WHATEVER REASON - I WILL NEVER SEE HIM AGAIN - PERIOD!!! AND I MEAN THAT LITERALLY.

The guy knows this up front TOO....
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there we have it...

an inexpensive test to determine
a male's need for testosterone
replacement therapy...

if you would agree to the above,
consult your doctor immediately...
 
bikinimom,

I think that soapbox is lookin a little wobbley, you might want to step down now. :o

your way to self rightous, its pretty transparent.
 
Self-righteous? In what way? Who have I judged?

I know, I know... pretty hard to believe that there are women out their that actually put the needs of their children first when it comes to these situations OR ANY SITUATION....

Look around - WE ARE EVERYWHERE.... quite a few of us on these boards.

NOT ALL WOMEN are hating, game-playing, fucked-up sluts...

There are MANY board members who know me - several who have met me in REAL LIFE. They know that I am flawed... but very genuine.
 
kronkette said:
i can milk a cock with it just sitting in me.....
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I read these words, they were processed by my brain, and in turn caused a real and measurable;) physiological reaction. Now who ever said EF had nothing to do with real life!? :D



I don't know if this has been said yet, because I only got through the first two pages, but if a woman had a child and looked good afterward, than at least you would know that she was capable of maintaining herself well. That would be a big fear of mine- your girl has a baby and she never makes the effort to get back into shape.

I don't think dating a woman with a child is out of the question, but at this point in my life, I don't think I would be a responsible enough person to be around a kid and set a good example.
 
bikinimom said:
Self-righteous? In what way? Who have I judged?

I know, I know... pretty hard to believe that there are women out their that actually put the needs of their children first when it comes to these situations OR ANY SITUATION....

Look around - WE ARE EVERYWHERE.... quite a few of us on these boards.

NOT ALL WOMEN are hating, game-playing, fucked-up sluts...

There are MANY board members who know me - several who have met me in REAL LIFE. They know that I am flawed... but very genuine.
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I'm talking about how you almost always have to point out what a strong women YOU are and how YOU have it so hard and yet YOU overcome these these things.

I think you are a good women with actual common sense, and I respect you for being a strong person.

But the "I am women hear me roar" crap gets old, I've met many women like you, most of the time they crave drama so they can look like the "strong woman who does it all by herself".
 
Wrong again....

Do you honestly believe that I am enjoying ANY of this?

Come on now, think.

Why is it that at any given time you can log on and see AT LEAST three threads by guys talking about evil whores that are fucked up in head and who play games and hurt them.... but you hardly EVER see the reverse?

What is with the running B.I.T.C.H.E.S. joke on elite? (Which I think is humorous myself - only pointing out the double standard.) Why is it that it is ok for a guy to put up a thread ,"That ho fucked me over..." or something to that effect and he will get like thousands of replies about how ALL WOMEN are trash.... yadda, yadda... BUT GOD FORBID a female stand up for herself - OR WORSE YET - she put down "A MAN" and she is instantly cut down?

Please just explain it to me....

Do you not find it odd that MOST WOMEN will not be vocal about such things? Why? BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE SHIT TALK... So they just shake thier heads and scroll on.

Because I happen to be a FEMALE MOD, when I can and when I feel up to the verbal shitstorm THAT I KNOW WILL FOLLOW I do just that! Stand up and say something for women....

Call me crazy, it is just how I feel.

Like I said before, if I have helped just one other woman then it will have been worth all the verbal abuse. Besides, it isn't like it hurts... for God's sake I do consider the source.

BUT - what a lot of these little mental giants who spew hatred towards women in a pathetic attempt at humor do NOT realize is that the pen is mightier than the sword. Isn't there enough hate and degradation directed at women already?... It needs to be perpetuated here too?

And before anyone can say that I do not at least TRY and see both sides of the coin... anyone who has been around long enough KNOWS FOR A FACT that I AM HARSHEST ON FEMALES THAT MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!
 
casavant said:

I don't think dating a woman with a child is out of the question, but at this point in my life, I don't think I would be a responsible enough person to be around a kid and set a good example.
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Well spoken!
 
I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!
 
plornive said:
I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!
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Simple, understandable, and justifiable. My sentiments exactly.
 
plornive said:
I hope to never date a woman with a child. I don't want to take care of or support a kid unless he/she is mine. Why would I date a woman with a kid when there are plenty of women without kids?! I don't see any particular person as irreplaceable in the way they make me feel, so I am not going to waste my time and energy!
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You will get ZERO arguement here.
 
I can't believe I read this WHOLE thread...
I'm not going to tell you that my body was not changed by childbirth because it was and at some point I will have my boobs put back where they used to be, my belly has stretch marks and I asked my husband about my pussy and he reminded me that I had a c-section so that hadn't changed other than right after I had our daughter. The hormones and a body preparing to give birth "loosens" things up - no way around it, that is how nature made us but it returns to close to it's prepreg state and a little effort will make it "tight" again.

I had a six year old son when I met my husband and I am sure he was NOT shopping for a woman with a child so never say NEVER guys. I will tell you that if you are looking for a LONG term relationship the "pussy" or the "dick" will at some point have very little to do with whether or not it lasts. Furthermore, if you are going to measure the substance of a woman by the tightness of her pussy do not be surprised when she measures the substance of you by the size of your dick or lack thereof. I don't have the energy to search but I would bet that if I did some of you are the same ones who are always on here carrying on about how you always end up with "crazy bitches"...I wonder why????

I also hear women say "my children come FIRST" often and in a dating situation I tend to agree but it happens in marriages as well. I had an epiphany last week when I was away from my child for several days with my husband, something we try to do a few times a year and was taking some heat from my family for not putting my daughter "first" when she became a bit homesick. My response to it was this:
"NO, I do not put my child first. I put my marriage first. Maybe that makes me a bad mother but I don't thinks so as the person who benefits the most from this is our daughter. She lives in a home where her parents love each other and I mean REALLY love each other. She does not experience the stress that many children do because mom and dad are either scrapping it out all the time or are totally apathetic toward each other. She doesn't lie awake at night wonder when or hoping that her parents will divorce. If she needs us we will both put her FIRST together but day in and day out we put each other first and our child a very close second.

For those of you who are in it for the "pussy" the don't even try to understand the above concept as it is WAY over your heads.
 
Temple,

Thanks for your response. For what it's worth, my original post had little to do with the physical side of things in this type of a dating situation. It was more to see who felt they could handle the emotional side that would come with dating a mother of another mans child.
 
Stan,

You need to be frank with her and her with you regarding the past. In my situation, the girl i am trying to get close to has two children to the man who ran out on her. She told me recently that he is trying to get back into her life, constantly calling her and telling her that he misses her, all while he is married to another woman. She doesn't want a bar of him, but he persists. It's unsettling me, because i think i can handle her situation, but i don't hink i can handle him wanting her back in hs life.
 
Stan,
I can't speak from the perspective of a man but I can tell you what I have observed in the 14 years that my husband has stepparented my son. IT IS TOUGH!!!!and there is no way around it. You will love the child and the child will love you but you will never be their father. The good far outweighs the bad but it is not the same as raising a biological or adopted child as long as the biological father is a part of the child's life - but that is as it should be. If you are not willing to tackle this then you should not date women with children. From what I have seen of many of the responses on this thread there are many who I hope to hell never date a woman with a child as the attitudes displayed here make it pretty clear what the child in the situation would be in for.
 
Bikinidude, you proved that you are no match for my intelligence when you had to delete my thread to make yourself feel "respectable".

You are pathetic, your husband is better off.
 
Temple01 said:

I also hear women say "my children come FIRST" often and in a dating situation I tend to agree but it happens in marriages as well. I had an epiphany last week when I was away from my child for several days with my husband, something we try to do a few times a year and was taking some heat from my family for not putting my daughter "first" when she became a bit homesick. My response to it was this:
"NO, I do not put my child first. I put my marriage first. Maybe that makes me a bad mother but I don't thinks so as the person who benefits the most from this is our daughter. She lives in a home where her parents love each other and I mean REALLY love each other. She does not experience the stress that many children do because mom and dad are either scrapping it out all the time or are totally apathetic toward each other. She doesn't lie awake at night wonder when or hoping that her parents will divorce. If she needs us we will both put her FIRST together but day in and day out we put each other first and our child a very close second.
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Maybe that is why I am TRYING to get divorced. I would've gladly put my marriage first... but he was too busy putting himself first. It was then... as it is clearly now.

You're a smart lady - T! Maybe that's why I wuv u tho much! :D
 
MP5 said:
Bikinidude, you proved that you are no match for my intelligence when you had to delete my thread to make yourself feel "respectable".

You are pathetic, your husband is better off.
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...which thread was this? :confused:

Also, though I feel quite honored and special that you ignored all the other people who directed comments SPECIFICALLY AT YOU and replied only to me... Makes me wonder about your "superior intellect".
 
bikinimom said:


Maybe that is why I am TRYING to get divorced. I would've gladly put my marriage first... but he was too busy putting himself first. It was then... as it is clearly now.

You're a smart lady - T! Maybe that's why I wuv u tho much! :D
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One person cannot make a marriage work by themself. The reason that it was such a revelation to me was that for years I have said "My children come first" and last week it hit me like a ton of bricks...no, they don't. The more I thought about it the more it occured to me what the lineup of priorities are in our home and why it works so well. The way things are evolve over time, when she was an infant she slept in our bed - like until she was almost three but it was something that we decided together and were both comfortable with. Now that she is 8, when my bedroom door is shut at night the house had better be on fire or she had better be dying if she knocks on it and she knows this.

Anyway, all of that is a little off track from the original point of the thread other than to say if you are a single mom who wants a relationship and you want it to work at some point the focus will have to shift from child first to marriage first. Children benefit as much from a solid marriage even if one parent is not biological. If you are going to date and possible have a long term relationship with a single mother then you need to realize that there will be issues that will make how tight she is or isn't seem laughable. At some point you will be in the middle of incredible sex and there will be a little person banging on your bedroom door(this happens when it is your child as well). You will have to be able to look at the child and see the child, not the child's father. You will have to walk the tightrope of appropriate discipline and trust me, you will never be able to discipline a stepchild the same way you do your own. It takes a lot of maturity to do it well. My husband seems to think that I was worth it - I'm not sure that I agree with him.
 
bikinimom said:


...which thread was this? :confused:

Also, though I feel quite honored and special that you ignored all the other people who directed comments SPECIFICALLY AT YOU and replied only to me... Makes me wonder about your "superior intellect".
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Hey Bikinkidude bwahahahahahahah
I am kind of hurt that he doesn't want to talk about this with me...
 
bikinimom said:
Wrong again....

Do you honestly believe that I am enjoying ANY of this?

Come on now, think.

Why is it that at any given time you can log on and see AT LEAST three threads by guys talking about evil whores that are fucked up in head and who play games and hurt them.... but you hardly EVER see the reverse?

What is with the running B.I.T.C.H.E.S. joke on elite? (Which I think is humorous myself - only pointing out the double standard.) Why is it that it is ok for a guy to put up a thread ,"That ho fucked me over..." or something to that effect and he will get like thousands of replies about how ALL WOMEN are trash.... yadda, yadda... BUT GOD FORBID a female stand up for herself - OR WORSE YET - she put down "A MAN" and she is instantly cut down?

Please just explain it to me....

Do you not find it odd that MOST WOMEN will not be vocal about such things? Why? BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LIKE SHIT TALK... So they just shake thier heads and scroll on.

Because I happen to be a FEMALE MOD, when I can and when I feel up to the verbal shitstorm THAT I KNOW WILL FOLLOW I do just that! Stand up and say something for women....

Call me crazy, it is just how I feel.

Like I said before, if I have helped just one other woman then it will have been worth all the verbal abuse. Besides, it isn't like it hurts... for God's sake I do consider the source.

BUT - what a lot of these little mental giants who spew hatred towards women in a pathetic attempt at humor do NOT realize is that the pen is mightier than the sword. Isn't there enough hate and degradation directed at women already?... It needs to be perpetuated here too?

And before anyone can say that I do not at least TRY and see both sides of the coin... anyone who has been around long enough KNOWS FOR A FACT that I AM HARSHEST ON FEMALES THAT MAKE THE REST OF US LOOK BAD!
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Ive been on elite a long time, and I think what some people are trying to say is you go off on tirades and we can basically feel your anger reaching out and grabbing us through the screen all the time. I understanding venting every once in a while but at this point it's every other thread you post on and its the same old tired rhetoric. I think most people including me respect your ideas and how you feel, it's just the way that you are delivering it that grates on peoples nerves. Flame if you feel the need, Im just trying to convey all this in the most diplomatic way possible.
 
I feel you to some extent... but I don't think that you statement is quite fair.

(No offense to Frackal... you know I love you! :)) but I don't remember anyone ever saying this to Frackal and his "hate of evil women"....

We all vent about stuff at some point in time... unfortunately, it seems that I am frozen in this hellish moment. Has it gotten old? BEYOND OLD.... about as old as MP5 trying to flex his mental strength by saying shit that he KNOWS couldn't be further from the truth..... NOW THAT IS OLD.

Truthfully, I am was tired of it all lllllllloooooooonnnnnng before any of you.

Hopefully with all of the recent changes it will all soon come to an end.

Yes, whatever energy you send out will be returned to you threefold. Myabe it is a good thing that I used these boards to vent and expended my negative energy THAT WAY... in a constructive fashion. Rather than having all this negativity fester inside and thus have it dictate my actions in life.

PS - I have yet to flame someone who didn't BEG for it...

Where I did go off because I was having a mental lapse... it took me all of a like a microminute to apologize.

And T - again, maybe MP5 is scared of ya 'cause ya' are s'smart! tee-hee
 
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