Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below
who made a difference in your life?
- Thread starter layinback
- Start date
PICK3
New member
cryptosporidium
New member
robert anton wilson
Paul Willingham
layinback
New member
who is this? what's the story?
old schoolers will know
layinback
New member
you first
your story is more interesting
lol prolly not very interesting at all
i've had a few at various stages of my life. the first person to really make
a difference in my life was john w. he was my sponsor in AA and he led
me through the 12 steps. i'd had sponsors beforw him, but he was a
hardcore "big book thumper" and he showed me a way out of the dope
and booze nightmare that was my life. and that was only the beggining
he introduced me to a new way of experiencing life in a profoundly
satisfying way.
werner erhard
i attended the werner erhard forum when i was 2 yrs clean and sober.
3 days later, i was seeing myself and others in a different more productive
way. it was an empowering experience that has influenced me to this day.
dave our therapist
i've had several therapist over the years and kathy and i
have had a couple but dave's different.
dave has led the wife and i through
the reparation of the past and helped us both to improve the
quality of our relationship and relations with others. we were
very lucky to have found dave. he's not your orthodox run of
the mill psychologist. he's more of an artist.
cryptosporidium
New member
lol@puds talking about dependency
you can't lol@others until you move out of your parents house
cryptosporidium
New member
layinback
New member
"dependency" on others is paradoxically the way to strength. as human beings
the only thing that counts in life is our relationships with others. if you don't
experience some level of intimacy in life, you have missed the boat in a big
way sister!
nobody on their death bed talkin' about their wealth , stamp collections
yachts, academic pursuits etc.....
they talk of their RELATIONSHIPS. they talk about their "dependency" on
others. their wife , children, siblings and friends.
life without deep interpersonal relationships is meaningless.
and yes i'm a pussy. you are what you eat after all
Ah, so the real reason you used to visit the old folks home comes out. Sicko.
nimbus
New member
i was really shy and had trouble socializing with people up until my sophomore year of undegrad, which was like 7 years ago.
that year i got assigned a roommate who was the one of the coolest people i had ever met. he had tons of friends, was in the "best" frat, got girls effortlessly, worked out and ate clean, yet still managed to study hard and get great grades. i was pretty intimidated by him, and it was obvious to this guy i was not "cool" by any means.
but he was the first person who ever treated me like i was cool, and made no negative assumptions about me whatsoever. the way he interacted with me, he made me feel like i was a "real" person. He also was a huge mentor to me and led me into situations that i always wanted to be in but was too timid to: took me to parties and taught me how to have fun at them, took me to the gym and taught me how to work out, introduced me to non-radio music and took me to concerts, and also facilitated drug experimentation
he also was the first person who ever showed me how to talk to girls with the intention of helping me rather than mocking me or having a laugh at my expense. eventually he introduced me to my first girlfriend and helped me "get" her. all this and never asked me for or expected anything in return, or treated me like he was doing me a favor. i grew more as a person than year than any other, and afterwords was literally transformed. such an internal shift happened that people who knew me before would comment all the time, and would say things like i don't know what it is but you even look 1000x cooler
since then i have gone from someone who was scared of people to somebody with more friends than i could ever dream of and more relationships with women than i ever thought possible; and from somebody who was preoccupied with school and what other people thought of me, to someone with diverse interests who is not afraid to live life
that year i got assigned a roommate who was the one of the coolest people i had ever met. he had tons of friends, was in the "best" frat, got girls effortlessly, worked out and ate clean, yet still managed to study hard and get great grades. i was pretty intimidated by him, and it was obvious to this guy i was not "cool" by any means.
but he was the first person who ever treated me like i was cool, and made no negative assumptions about me whatsoever. the way he interacted with me, he made me feel like i was a "real" person. He also was a huge mentor to me and led me into situations that i always wanted to be in but was too timid to: took me to parties and taught me how to have fun at them, took me to the gym and taught me how to work out, introduced me to non-radio music and took me to concerts, and also facilitated drug experimentation
he also was the first person who ever showed me how to talk to girls with the intention of helping me rather than mocking me or having a laugh at my expense. eventually he introduced me to my first girlfriend and helped me "get" her. all this and never asked me for or expected anything in return, or treated me like he was doing me a favor. i grew more as a person than year than any other, and afterwords was literally transformed. such an internal shift happened that people who knew me before would comment all the time, and would say things like i don't know what it is but you even look 1000x coolersince then i have gone from someone who was scared of people to somebody with more friends than i could ever dream of and more relationships with women than i ever thought possible; and from somebody who was preoccupied with school and what other people thought of me, to someone with diverse interests who is not afraid to live life
nimbus
New member
I'd find one of those, "cool story bro" pics to post.. but it's past my bedtime
you should answer the question instead.. i bet as the adderall wears off and the ambien kicks in, the clouds clear for a 5 minute window into your soul
layinback
New member
this post explains why the vast majority of your dialogue on EF is
dribble. you typically critique and play with the folks who post
in serious threads. you don't participate because you can't
participate
you even posted a very inappropriate response in mustangs thread
about the death of his cousin. you don't comprehend relationships.
big difference between emotional intelligence and other forms of
intellect.
stosstruppe
Well-known member
My school gym teacher for getting me in to rugby & subsequently adopting a healthier more active lifestyle in my teens before I succumbed to obesity which is heavily prevalent here.
A good bro I meet working in a gym who helped me find a path in life ambition-wise & started me on the road to a potential new career in the forces.
A good bro I meet working in a gym who helped me find a path in life ambition-wise & started me on the road to a potential new career in the forces.
i was really shy and had trouble socializing with people up until my sophomore year of undegrad, which was like 7 years ago.
that year i got assigned a roommate who was the one of the coolest people i had ever met. he had tons of friends, was in the "best" frat, got girls effortlessly, worked out and ate clean, yet still managed to study hard and get great grades. i was pretty intimidated by him, and it was obvious to this guy i was not "cool" by any means.
but he was the first person who ever treated me like i was cool, and made no negative assumptions about me whatsoever. the way he interacted with me, he made me feel like i was a "real" person. He also was a huge mentor to me and led me into situations that i always wanted to be in but was too timid to: took me to parties and taught me how to have fun at them, took me to the gym and taught me how to work out, introduced me to non-radio music and took me to concerts, and also facilitated drug experimentation
since then i have gone from someone who was scared of people to somebody with more friends than i could ever dream of and more relationships with women than i ever thought possible; and from somebody who was preoccupied with school and what other people thought of me, to someone with diverse interests who is not afraid to live life
you're still "phone shy"
or were you just nervous talkin to me?
digimon7068
New member
actually, i think he does get it...i think he's just a wiseass (like me) and his comments are generally for the purpose of comic relief...i could be wrong...but i doubt it
digimon7068
New member
me? every couple/few years someone comes along that has a fairly significant impact on my future by making me re-evaluate my past...99% of the time, they don't even know it (even though i always tell them about how i have changed as a result of their presence in my life).
Strongbow
New member
I make you work out hard to try and keep up. I am the diffrence maker in your life.
no shrimpy?
My second boss enabled me to practice/learn medical transcription, a skill I am still using today.
Otherwise, with the exception of my current husband, my life has been one long line of negative influences, including parents, inlaws and first husband.
I had to learn from a very young age that nobody will ever help me but me. That sounds boo hoo, it's not meant to, it just is what it is.
Otherwise, with the exception of my current husband, my life has been one long line of negative influences, including parents, inlaws and first husband.
I had to learn from a very young age that nobody will ever help me but me. That sounds boo hoo, it's not meant to, it just is what it is.
My husband because he was the first person I've ever met who didn't kiss my ass and play stupid mind games.
He just wants me to be the best me I can be, and challenges me when I act like a damn fool
Oh whoops i just read the "besides spouses" part.
Oh geez, well if we are talking about a positive difference it would have to be my old riding coach Kurt who was the toughest SOB I have ever met and never let me quit on myself.
He helped me to have inner strength and courage by demanding a lot from me.
PICK3
New member
My dad was a cop and my mom a nurse ... I was a "latch key kid" waaaaaay before it was cool
^^^
PICK3 wins the boo hoo pissing contest!!!
a lot of people just suck balls eh? I hear you MM.
Eh, what can you do? I think what hurts the most, still, is my parents, especially my father. Sometimes if I'm in the right frame of mind seeing a man who actually enjoys being around his children and takes pleasure in them and their successes gets me misty eyed. I know parents who do everything to enable their children to grow, learn, develop skills and talents (like playing a musical instrument, or just taking them to after school activities like sports or scouts) and I remember what my childhood was like, and how I was basically told by both parents that all I could ever expect was mediocrity as a woman and professionally, for the rest of my life, and it makes me wonder how/if things would have been different, if my choices would have changed.
I actually liked being a latch key kid. I looked forward to that peaceful break where I didn't have to deal with the other school children (who tortured me, I was the weirdo fat girl) and the melodrama of my parents weekly fights.
I would have chosen different parents (snicker)
I just try to remember that even if they didn't do the best they could, at least I'm still a fabulous person. LOL.
I know, I'm mean, a big ol' meanie. whatever.
layinback
New member
well the opposite of dysfunction is dysfunction! my mom was borderline personality and she idealized me. she gave me too much attention. she
fostered an over inflated sense of self and an impossible image to
live up to. years of AA, self help and therapy have made a huge difference but
my superman persona almost killed me and made my life and the lives
of those around me a miserable hell. now the very thing that almost destroyed
me has made me very successful and most of all, it has enabled me to
be of service to others in a unique and powerful way . i call it " my gift of
fire."
when i read the line where you were the fat girl and others tortured you
i had some feelings about that. i have seen you battle it out on the boards.
you are a skilled combatant and you posses a brutal ability with words.
conversely, you are an overly empathetic soul with a wealth of helpful
anecdotes and remedies. peeps like us are like that. we wield the sword
of survival and it can cut both ways.
~God~
~Some professors that took me under their wing ( about 3 of them), they were VERY defiant to power abuses.
Democrats with a capital D ( in the freedom sense)
~Characters that are willing to do all they can to be Good or of Good.
~Peoples that have seen bad things, and done stupid things, but who for Goodness sake, change and become Good.( out of choice, not fear)
~Charity for its own gift......( doing something for someone and helping them dig out to a better day)
~Those have the enemy by the neck, yet opt for peace
~Some professors that took me under their wing ( about 3 of them), they were VERY defiant to power abuses.
Democrats with a capital D ( in the freedom sense)
~Characters that are willing to do all they can to be Good or of Good.
~Peoples that have seen bad things, and done stupid things, but who for Goodness sake, change and become Good.( out of choice, not fear)
~Charity for its own gift......( doing something for someone and helping them dig out to a better day)
~Those have the enemy by the neck, yet opt for peace
Last edited:
lol! He's made a difference in ALL our lives bro.
One way to look at a miserable past is it makes you who you are and if you like who you are now then bless the crucible but ... well, like I said, I wonder where my life would have gone if I had some support.when i read the line where you were the fat girl and others tortured you i had some feelings about that. i have seen you battle it out on the boards. you are a skilled combatant and you posses a brutal ability with words. conversely, you are an overly empathetic soul with a wealth of helpful anecdotes and remedies. peeps like us are like that. we wield the sword of survival and it can cut both ways.
I mean, in all reality, all I have achieved is mediocrity in my professional life, because I did what my mother told me I should do instead of what I wanted to do. I mean, as a person, a wife, I'm pretty okay now ... finally, but money is always going to be a headache and frankly I don't really give a crap about what I do.
Oh, and don't get me started on my parenting abilities, face it, the only example I had was MY parents and my first husband was, if anything, even MORE dysfunctional than me.
I read the first 4 or 5 words of his post and immediately went to use the quick reply option to be the first one to wish him happy birthday. I then read the rest of his post and realized what the thread was actually about (the thread title gave no info) and commented a second time. He and I already discussed this. There was no reason to delete it, EF staff members can read deleted posts and 80% of the current C&C contributors are mods.
that's what you get for trying to get first post!
read it and weap
http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/chat-conversation/input-family-situation-711717.html#post9554609
if anyone needs me I'll be out back taking my victory lap on the big wheel
bakemeacookie
New member
Cookie monster. That bitch eats cookies and can commanded respect from everyone. Fucking hardcore.
c
c
I have to speak in puds defense..
whenever I and others have needed him to be "real" he has...and can be all around good bro
for the most part I think he just tries to joke around and thats the side that 97% of EF sees
whenever I and others have needed him to be "real" he has...and can be all around good bro
for the most part I think he just tries to joke around and thats the side that 97% of EF sees
I have no idea what she's talking about.
So you're the reason she moved and changed her last name?
back on topic..
no one has actually made a difference in my life
I had a very....spoiled upbringing and was generally adored
then found out, people are pretty much in it for themselves and very few people actually give a shit about other people
no one has really gone out of there way for me which is ironic to me given what I chose for a profession
I cant even say that I've learned how to not be shit on by people from past experience because I still put myself out there just to be fucked over again
bad karma I guess
...enter java to tell me how I'm doing it wrong and clearly Im a self serving bitch
no one has actually made a difference in my life
I had a very....spoiled upbringing and was generally adored
then found out, people are pretty much in it for themselves and very few people actually give a shit about other people
no one has really gone out of there way for me which is ironic to me given what I chose for a profession
I cant even say that I've learned how to not be shit on by people from past experience because I still put myself out there just to be fucked over again
bad karma I guess
...enter java to tell me how I'm doing it wrong and clearly Im a self serving bitch
javaguru
Banned
back on topic..
no one has actually made a difference in my life
I had a very....spoiled upbringing and was generally adored
then found out, people are pretty much in it for themselves and very few people actually give a shit about other people
no one has really gone out of there way for me which is ironic to me given what I chose for a profession
I cant even say that I've learned how to not be shit on by people from past experience because I still put myself out there just to be fucked over again
bad karma I guess
...enter java to tell me how I'm doing it wrong and clearly Im a self serving bitch
Or...you realize life isn't just about you and you are never as good as people tell you or as bad? Java is an old man with some wisdom and you should spend your time reflecting on your actions as opposed to what some random person judges your for....Just sayin'.
back on topic..
no one has actually made a difference in my life
I had a very....spoiled upbringing and was generally adored
then found out, people are pretty much in it for themselves and very few people actually give a shit about other people
no one has really gone out of there way for me which is ironic to me given what I chose for a profession
I cant even say that I've learned how to not be shit on by people from past experience because I still put myself out there just to be fucked over again
bad karma I guess
...enter java to tell me how I'm doing it wrong and clearly Im a self serving bitch
wrong "there" too
layinback
New member
oh shit, i know. he and i have had several pm'ing sessions and he's helped me out
as well.
i know he's a good guy. i was acting like an asshole last night and i was out of
line.
goddamnit. my impulsive temperment bites me in the ass again.
i'm sorry puddles.
layinback
New member
back on topic..
no one has actually made a difference in my life
I had a very....spoiled upbringing and was generally adored
then found out, people are pretty much in it for themselves and very few people actually give a shit about other people
no one has really gone out of there way for me which is ironic to me given what I chose for a profession
I cant even say that I've learned how to not be shit on by people from past experience because I still put myself out there just to be fucked over again
bad karma I guess
...enter java to tell me how I'm doing it wrong and clearly Im a self serving bitch
wow shirlene! if this is your worldview, your experiences will support
your belief systems.
it doesn't take a psychologist to figure out that you have a sharp intellect
and a veeeery high verbal intelligence. you are clearly extremely attractive
and your pics reflect a "waif" like aura.
waifs attract wolves.
so glad nan reminded me of this smiley
Boy, you'd think with that 'sharp intellect' you possess you wouldn't have needed a reminder.
Similar threads
