Where's the best place for me to find what rights I have as an unmarried parent?

[jnevin]

care to share your problems? Adding a kid into a relationship is tough, and will definetly put a strain on things. Once you figure it all out (if you can) it's great!

Cliff notes: Been together for 10 years, got married, got divorced, spent a year + apart, managed to somehow work things out for a while, I realized we shouldn't be together and was getting ready to leave, I found out I was gonna be a daddy when I was looking for a new place.

 

[digimon7068]

Yeah well, if seems to be turning into when unfortunately. I'm trying to keep the postpardum thing in mind, but there are so many other things that have been going on for so long it's getting hard to just live my life. My friends and family say they can hardly recognize me anymore, which is fuckin' great to hear from your mom.

is that good or bad??

hang in there for a while and let things settle down and then re-evaluate in several months. . .my wife had hormone issues for a good year after each birth. . .fortunately hers were mostly physical rather than emotional.

with regard to the "rights" thing. . .as someone said above, that stuff varies from state-to-state. . .as they also indicated, you should be able to do a google search and get started with your research. also, if your county court house has a law library, it may be open to the public. . .also, hr is an attorney, i'm sure she has access to lexis/nexis, maybe she'd be willing to do a quick search for you and e-mail you the results. . .oh yeah. . .eddymercx is an attorney too (tax attorney, but he should still have access to a good research database) and i think he's in your state too.

finally. . .if you ever feel the need to talk to someone, you have my cell number. . .call anytime. . .however, if you call after 8 tonight (EST) there's a good chance that i may have a little jimmy beam in me. . .

 

[miplank]

Cliff notes: Been together for 10 years, got married, got divorced, spent a year + apart, managed to somehow work things out for a while, I realized we shouldn't be together and was getting ready to leave, I found out I was gonna be a daddy when I was looking for a new place.

wow...I'm not even sure I know how to help you. Sounds like you and her have been through a lot.

 

[Smurfy]

 

[jnevin]

Oh oh oh! I know the answer to this one.

Cycle some test. Having a kid trashes your test levels. Did you know even holding a baby that isn't yours can lower your test levels?

I believe men have an evolutionary mechanism that slows us down when we reproduce. It keeps us home and keeps us focused on our offspring so our genes can proliferate.

I've been cruising on an HRT dose of test for a couple of months now. I read that about the test levels and the first cycle I ever did was sans PCT due to great fucking advice from my friend.

 

[BBR100]

Doesn't sound good but best to be informed in any case.

Google your state, make a few calls and you should get the answers without blowing $$$ on a lawyer.

 

[jnevin]

I may have to slaughter a vagrant to blow off some steam.

 

[mrplunkey]

I may have to slaughter a vagrant to blow off some steam.

Just take him to early voting and make sure he votes for McCain first. Then have at it.

 

[jnevin]

Just take him to early voting and make sure he votes for McCain first. Then have at it.

I'll ACORN that motherbish.

 

[jackangel]

have you consulted with razorguns yet? he's an expert.