What's it worth? Where do you derive your drive?

[flexdaddyz71]

My new workout partner is going through an unwanted divorce at the moment. He only has a few weeks before it's final. We've been working out super hard for the past 6 months together. He is also my supervisor at work. We were tight before this, but working out together has borught us closer. It pretty cool he trust me. He's working out to keep his mind off his problems and to get into better shape so that he can present a better package. With that being said.... I workout for the escape from the daily grind and stress. Having had two sets of twin boys and being married for 9 years to a beautiful, loving, caring and UNDERSTANDING wife.... I need a break those 2 hours on Mon, Wed & Fri's. Also, we lost one of our twin boys in 2005 and I find my time at the gym makes me feel better when I'm feeling sad and missing him. Of course, no doubt I love the attention from people I meet. It's cool when they say "Damn, you must workout all the time" I just say a little cardio and pushups. LOL

Chris, I've been burned before... Every good guys has.... Just know that everything, good or bad, happens for a reason. I wish you the best and know that you will work through this situation and come out a better man. Have a little faith in the Lord, he will see you through. He has given me the strength to be a better son, daddy, husband....FLEX

 

[thebadguy54]

Awww... you juicers are all so sweet!

It's great to know that even the freakiest jacked up bro have heart somewhere inside their giant chests.

Time heals all wounds. Stay up home boy.

 

[Cardinal Slin]

I know it isn't always easy and have been through numerous similar scenarios.

At the end of the day women will come and go, the gym is always going to be there for me

Why do I do it? It keeps my stress down, allows me to sleep well, and increases my confidence.

 

[swole]

So as some of you may have noticed, I havn't been around in a few months. I've had this girlfriend see. And we've been together a few years, and its been the greatest thing I've ever experienced. Marriage planned. Kids planned. Future secure.

And I suppose I must have been blissfull in my ignorance, because I never saw it coming. "I just don't love you anymore, Chris."

And I fall apart entirely.

So here I am, recovering, trying to eat and get back on diet and get back into the gym and such. And now I find myself questioning why I do all this. Why I put myself through this lifestyle day in, and day out.

And I think I've realized why.

Because it's all I've got. Its what I turn to when no one is there for me. Its what I do to occupy my mind and thoughts. Its where I go to let it all out. The iron helps take away the pain.

So tell me, guys, what drives you? What makes you break yourself?

Chris

If I told you how the last 4 months of my life went, it would bear a striking resemblance to the first part of your post.

All the time I spend analyzing and questioning my obsession, it simply boils down to what you said in bold. That's about it.

 

[boyer]

Well most people their life is getting up early to get the suit and tie on. The drive or bus to some big building where they kno maybe two people. They sit in a cubicle for eight or more hours. The hit a bar on the way home to get enough alcohol in their system so they don't have to think about what they are, Then the next day they do it again.

Yea it sucks that you're girl dropped you. But so what. Would you rather it be now or after you have three kids and mortgage???

I will share with you what I have learned about myself. I went through a bunch of relationships. When the last one broke up and I watched my X drive away in my 1965 nova I asked myself "why is this happening to me over and over again." All the women I had been with were very different woman. The only thing we had in common was we were in bed with each other before we "fell in love." I resolved to never do that again. This was tough. Many time I had women that really wanted to go t bed with me but I said no. I got called every name in the book. But after a few years I did find a woman that listened to what I had to say and wanted to give it a try herself. She didn't want to breakup after a few years any more either. So we didn't have sex until we were just about to marry. We have been together for seventeen years now. Have two great kids and things are pretty good for us.

SO my advice is don't lead with your dick until your heart tells you it's OK. I think you will find you won't get laid as much, until you're married at least, but your heart won't be taking as much of a beating in the long run.

One thing I think I should add. Tell the women you are dating what you are doing. Some girls feel very bad about themselves if you don't want to fuck them. But this goes away if you tell them you want to see if there are a good prospect for a long term relationship. Some will drop you right away because they just want to fuck. But the good ones will find this very interesting.

Would you buy a car without test driving it?

 

[Chocolate_Thunder]

So as some of you may have noticed, I havn't been around in a few months. I've had this girlfriend see. And we've been together a few years, and its been the greatest thing I've ever experienced. Marriage planned. Kids planned. Future secure.

And I suppose I must have been blissfull in my ignorance, because I never saw it coming. "I just don't love you anymore, Chris."

And I fall apart entirely.

So here I am, recovering, trying to eat and get back on diet and get back into the gym and such. And now I find myself questioning why I do all this. Why I put myself through this lifestyle day in, and day out.

And I think I've realized why.

Because it's all I've got. Its what I turn to when no one is there for me. Its what I do to occupy my mind and thoughts. Its where I go to let it all out. The iron helps take away the pain.

So tell me, guys, what drives you? What makes you break yourself?

Chris

First, I honestly feel for you. You will be stronger in the end.

I'm also glad you're back.

What drives me...? To be better than yesterday.

 

[ceo]

Lots of things. Sometimes different things for different reasons. When I started, I was just tired of being skinny. The same reasons driving you right now have driven me before too. Now it's more that I just want to see how big I can get, and/or how strong I can get on particular exercises.

Everything will be alright bro. Keep going to the gym. Go hang out with friends too. Don't be one dimensional, where gym gym gym is your whole life. Don't want to burn out.

 

[manny78]

It's kindda like a routine for me now. Just like taking a shower. I have to train 3-4x/week. I dont have any specific goal. Just feel the need to do it cause I have to do it.

 

[camco]

I really want to hug all of you.Been there done that.Fuck it!

 

[halfcenturian]

Get your focus off yourself. Go find somebody, maybe in the gym, to help. This relationship was not meant to be. Grieve about it, then move on. We have all had our lungs ripped out in a relationship. I could fill pages. Don't surround yourself, with yourself.

The other suggestion is to make a list of things you HAVE going for yourself.
Draw a line down the middle of a sheet of paper with plus and minus at top. I promise you the plus catagory will be longer.
You are young, healthy, good looking, intellegent, employed, have a roof over your head, shoes to wear, food to eat.,etc,etc., etc., get as basic as you can. It's called a Gratitude List. Then go over to the minus side. You won't be able to fill half a page. Point is this... Life hurts! I won't get all religious on you, but that's another option.
Focus on what you HAVE, not on what you don't have.
I hope you find this a helpful tool. You will survive this, bro.
-HC.