What size do girls like?

[Quiltie]

I used to think that I wanted to be really muscular, and that it would get me women once I got there. And once I was (pretty much) there, all I heard was "You probably spend all your time at the gym and have no time for a GF" or "you're a beefalo, go date an ox" or "musclehead". It sucked. From the celebs i've met in person, the people that have huge amounts of pull and charisma- They are skinny and small and look metrosexual. Maybe that's what women want. Look at Lance Armstrong(just in excellent shape, not big), he got Sheryl Crow and she's a dynamite piece of @ss, if you ask me...

 

[treilin]

I used to think that I wanted to be really muscular, and that it would get me women once I got there. And once I was (pretty much) there, all I heard was "You probably spend all your time at the gym and have no time for a GF" or "you're a beefalo, go date an ox" or "musclehead". It sucked. From the celebs i've met in person, the people that have huge amounts of pull and charisma- They are skinny and small and look metrosexual. Maybe that's what women want. Look at Lance Armstrong(just in excellent shape, not big), he got Sheryl Crow and she's a dynamite piece of @ss, if you ask me...

This post leads me to ask the question why are you so worried about being the best looking guy or what is the most attractive physique to women? If bodybuilding is what you love to do why would you give up doing what you love to be more attractive to the opposite sex? I think everyone should do what they love and if you are doing something active and being physically fit I think that is attractive just on it's own. I think in general we just love a solid muscular build... some build that has some maculinity to it. I think women may be drawn to the metrosexual because he knows how to dress and he is very 'clean' looking. He always smells good, he loves to shop, and he knows what even looks good on women. Muscular guys have the appearance of a hard working kind of guy not worried about getting dirty and I think that is very appealing. With that said, I don't know to many muscular guys that love to shop with their girl unless it is at Victoria's. What girl wouldn't want a man that loves to shop if they love to shop. So maybe they themselves are not into working out but shopping. So like muscular people are more attracted to another muscular or physically fit person, it is common ground for the female shoppers to be attracted to a guy who can shop hours on end with them. Both enjoy and love what they do and finding someone of the opposite sex that loves to do what they do, and is eye appealing is even a bonus. So I wouldn't worry if you could smash the next guy just realize it's more skin deep attraction then just outward appearances.

 

[Maetenloch]

This post leads me to ask the question why are you so worried about being the best looking guy or what is the most attractive physique to women? If bodybuilding is what you love to do why would you give up doing what you love to be more attractive to the opposite sex? I think everyone should do what they love and if you are doing something active and being physically fit I think that is attractive just on it's own. I think in general we just love a solid muscular build... some build that has some maculinity to it. I think women may be drawn to the metrosexual because he knows how to dress and he is very 'clean' looking. He always smells good, he loves to shop, and he knows what even looks good on women. Muscular guys have the appearance of a hard working kind of guy not worried about getting dirty and I think that is very appealing. With that said, I don't know to many muscular guys that love to shop with their girl unless it is at Victoria's. What girl wouldn't want a man that loves to shop if they love to shop. So maybe they themselves are not into working out but shopping. So like muscular people are more attracted to another muscular or physically fit person, it is common ground for the female shoppers to be attracted to a guy who can shop hours on end with them. Both enjoy and love what they do and finding someone of the opposite sex that loves to do what they do, and is eye appealing is even a bonus. So I wouldn't worry if you could smash the next guy just realize it's more skin deep attraction then just outward appearances.

I think there's a lot of insight in what treilin says. If you're doing something just to attract women, that need for validation will end up coming through and be unattractive. You're better off doing what you love and enjoy and not really caring what other people think - you'll be a more contented person and you'll naturally project confidence and happiness.

However, take whatever a woman says about what she's attracted to with a large grain of salt. Women in general are notoriously bad about rationalizing before and after the fact why they were atracted to some guy. Physical attraction isn't a choice - we're attracted to what we're attracted to, not what we should be attracted to. You're much better off watching what women actually respond to in the real world than what they say they do. Spend some time in clubs watching which guys are successful with women and what they have in common. For the most part it's confidence, personality, and good fashion and grooming.

 

[massatronic]

If you got into weights to attract women you need a change of tactics.

If you think women are going to stare at you in the street as they walk by with boyfriends because you can press 300lbs you are going to struggle.\

Men have to go out and earn women. Being bigs no problem but its not a solution either.

And expect tests. When they salg you off for being a meathead its a test- so you can show that your smart, funny and confident. Or for you to go 'oh shit' and walk off.

 

[SgtSlaughter]

Buns:

I believe it's about time that you initiate an EF Singles event

Leaving Mr. B at home is your choice

I'm sick of meeting women out at "social" watering holes... they're all big time boozers most of the time, which means that they'll probably get wasted and screw one of my friends that go out regularly.

And meeting women at the gym isn't really an option... kinda hard when i'm focused on lifting. I look around but striking up a convo and then thinking about her the rest of the time would kill my workout i'm sure.

Meeting at work isn't an option, nor is at school.

I vote for a singles event. A meeting of single, intellectual, fitness entusiants.

/endstreamofconsciousness

P.S. I'm 22 y/o 6'1" like long walks on the beach and currently @ about 191 (down from 205lbs... 200ish +/- 2lbs in my gallery photos i think)... got a little ways to go before the summer.

Taking names and numbers... intellegent women need only apply

 

[jacshelb]

Fun thread. Want to throw in my 2 cents. Ok: broad shoulders a plus, smallish waist line a plus, tall is a plus. All of these things say: strong, fit, capable- i.e. alpha male type. When a guy gets real huge, it's more like "he's a big animal, maybe that's all he has going for him." But, mostly it's about the shoulder to waist ratio and height above all else. They say these denote testosterone, potency etc. I'm nearly 6'2" (yes, 6' 1.75") with a naturally broad shoulder set up, but have always been on the thin side. I never had problems getting female attention when I weighed 160 lbs and out of shape. But now that I hover between 205-220 I get a lot more attention. Also, anyone ever notice the way girls' heads turn when you are on test? Not every girl, but it's like they can sense it.

Also, lean abs are great in bed so a girl can, uh, rub up against during intercourse. That's gotta be a motivator subconsciously for women to be attracted to guys with
abs.

Also, a guy's dick is the same size whether he is 220 or 150. I wonder if women have any way of subconsciously determining penis size? Or, does it even really matter that much? I guess generous size would be a bonus to an extent.

Also, also: not good to have to small an abdomen- the area above the waistline and below the lats. When this is too small, proportionally, it gives a more "feminine" impression. This is one thing I have had to work at a little bit. Bringing in the middle/lower lats/back thickness up helps.

It's funny, I've been with the same girl for 9 years and I have thought about all these things. I guess no matter the situation, people would like to be perceived as attractive. If I can get some positive attention from women and still be respectful and keep good boundries, I'm happy with that. No need to cheat.


Jacob

 

[*Bunny*]

Buns:

I believe it's about time that you initiate an EF Singles event

Leaving Mr. B at home is your choice

I'm sick of meeting women out at "social" watering holes... they're all big time boozers most of the time, which means that they'll probably get wasted and screw one of my friends that go out regularly.

And meeting women at the gym isn't really an option... kinda hard when i'm focused on lifting. I look around but striking up a convo and then thinking about her the rest of the time would kill my workout i'm sure.

Meeting at work isn't an option, nor is at school.

I vote for a singles event. A meeting of single, intellectual, fitness entusiants.

/endstreamofconsciousness

P.S. I'm 22 y/o 6'1" like long walks on the beach and currently @ about 191 (down from 205lbs... 200ish +/- 2lbs in my gallery photos i think)... got a little ways to go before the summer.

Taking names and numbers... intellegent women need only apply

LOL NICE!. Well, you know I would include you in any such event ... I got you on PM-dial. Unless of course they figure out a way to clone me (or Treil) first ... Oh & btw, I need to pre-screen these females applying for your EF ad.

 

[SgtSlaughter]

*Bunny* I



I will send any and all applications I get to you! lol... yes, indeed; I would most happily accept and love forever a clone of you or Treil!


... or dare I say: both? No? ok, I'll take one clone

 

[thelion2005]

I think it is a small subculture of women who are attracted to bodybuilder types.

The rest are "nesters" and they want someone who won't leave them, who will provide for them and who will sacrifice themselves for her needs.

They'd like him to be pretty, thin, have a nice wardrobe, a new car, an education and a job.

However, they'll accept a lot less physically for security.

 

[seizer]

Honestly, I think really what attracts a girl is how well you are as a whole. You can be fuggin hot, nice body, face, whatever, but if you dont seem "you" and like a decent person when you're like that, those physical features just dont have that same appeal. THe reason why some of the in shape dudes can pull in more "tail" or whatever is because of the confidence they gave themselves by improving their appearance. Girl's in turn, see this confidence and are then attracted to the combination of both the mind and body and it becomes a win win situation for the dudes. The big dudes who cant pull in tail...the reason may be that they're insecure and they girls can see this. That's half of why alot of guys workout, unfortunately, some never overcome that insecurity and it scares away some of the girls too.