What do you consider marrying young?

[youpissmeoff]

It actually is an option, that's why the divorce rate is so high. And people do it. People leave their wives/husbands/kids all the time, and I guarantee you it's the same type of people who would've run had the couple stayed an unmarried couple for a longer amount of time.

Some people deal with problems, some people run away from them. That's the way it is, and marriage doesn't change that. So of course I'm going to date someone long enough that I know we can always work through our problems without running away before marrying them.

I'd rather find out he's a "run away from our problems" kind of guy while we're dating rather than when we're married with kids.

When you are married with kids, running is the last option. When you are just in a relationship, it is the first option. Big difference.

 

[miplank]

When you are married with kids, running is the last option. When you are just in a relationship, it is the first option. Big difference.

I'd tend to agree with this...When I get pissed at the wife I just punch her in the throat

 

[AFeedz]

When you are married with kids, running is the last option. When you are just in a relationship, it is the first option. Big difference.

Running isn't my first option in relationships, and that's why dating a while before marriage is important, because I need to know its not the other person's first option either. If running is your first option when dating, then even with a wife and kids, it'll eventually be the option you choose to deal with things gone wrong in marriage as well.

Even as a last option, that just doesn't work for me as a way to deal with marital problems.

Sometimes shit happens, but at least of you're together for a while first, you'll be less surprised by them.

 

[miplank]

 

[Spartacus]

It's not hard to argue with that logic.

The problem is, you're young, you're in love, you share all these hobbies, interests whatever...

Then you grow the fuck up and change and don't like to do the same shit anymore. I don't like to do the shit I did at 20 anymore now that I'm 23, and I may very well may not like to do whatever I do now when I'm 30 or 40. There's too much changing going on for many people in their 20's to get married IMO.

you can't argue with logic
you can only hope to contain it

 

[SnipersGirl]

I'd tend to agree with this...When I get pissed at the wife I just punch her in the throat

That's the best quote I have read in a while... TY

 

[blueta2]

When you are married with kids, running is the last option. When you are just in a relationship, it is the first option. Big difference.

Would not like to meet a man like you who would run just because there is no marriage and kids.
Love is Love, whether you have kids and married or not. You just don't throw away a relationship because it's easier.
This is a recipe to be alone forever!

 

[EarthRider]

I agree and know what justyoupissmeoff is saying.

marriage and dating is great and easy to be honest before kids. If you can't work shit out without kids, fuck don't even try marriage. Once kids come around, everything changes and gets much more challenging. Your relationship with each other tends to take a backseat to all the needs of raising kids.

Plus I think guys feel like they need to work at it more once they make a commitment with marriage.

My wife and I have a great marriage. Kids coming into the picture has challenged that, but we continue to work through it. It is drawing us closer together, and not farther apart.

 

[youpissmeoff]

Would not like to meet a man like you who would run just because there is no marriage and kids.
Love is Love, whether you have kids and married or not. You just don't throw away a relationship because it's easier.
This is a recipe to be alone forever!

People fall in and out of love all the time - even with the same person. If you don't have that bond of marriage or kids, you move on during those down cycles.

That is my opinion. What do I know, I am going on 26 yrs of marriage. Anyone here been married longer?

 

[zwhit]

Lots of over thinking in this thread. It's really not that complicated.