Ugh... got a copy of a subpeona in the mail today regarding my divorce...

[jh1]

Everytime I get some correspondence on this bullshit I get all anxious and pissed off.

I swear my wif went to her attorney and yapped her bitch mouth about how it didn't matter how much it cost that her daddy would pay for it and now her attorney is riding the money train all over her.

Everything they attempt is just rediculous and unecessary - simply her attorney using the situation to line his pockets.

But I can't tell her that because she won't beleive me, and on top of it she'll take it as me being fearfull of their actions and jsut keep on keeping on.

Stupid.

Bitch.


(Shut it Ksharp... just shut it right now)

 

[heatherrae]

Pretty perfunctory stuff if you are going to go to trial. Try to relax a little about it if you can.

I thought you two settled your divorce already?

 

[Gymgurl]

Vent away

 

[jnevin]

ridiculous

And you'll be fine. Dick.

 

[SpyWizard]

Pretty perfunctory stuff if you are going to go to trial. Try to relax a little about it if you can.

I thought you two settled your divorce already?

I thought most states require arbitration before they would even allow a court hearing, except in the case where there is danger to the children??

 

[jh1]

Pretty perfunctory stuff if you are going to go to trial. Try to relax a little about it if you can.

I thought you two settled your divorce already?

Hell no.

Not even close.

The only issue we have is really child suport & custody.

As long as she stays off drugs, as far as I am concerned - custody is settled. But everything is pending the drug tests again in 90 days.

In the mean time she wants CS to get settleed, which is fine - but she wants more than the amount I beleive to be appropriate. Way more. So, I agreed to start paying volutarily at the amount I beleive is correct, she won't accept that and is moving forward with a PDL to try to force me to pay what she wants me to pay.

For one she is hiding income, and undervaluing non monetary compensation for her self. Second she is trying to inflate how much I make - part of my job is commisioned -but I have only been there 8 months - so there are no guarantees or set amounts.

The worst part is - the courts here simply don't recognize a true 'Share Parenting Plan' the way they calculate assumes one parent has primary custody - even if they don't. Since I make more - they assume her to be primary as far as CS calculations - which the judge has discretion to revise but they really aren't accustomed to doing - therefore they don't.

Part of the jockying now includes subpeoas for records at my employer, I am going to be doing the same for her - and I am also going to have to depose her about her hidden income that she didn't disclose in her income and expense statements. But the judge already pretty much doesn't give a fuck that she is hiding income... unreal.

 

[Gumaro]

give me her number. a night with me and she'll forget you altogether

 

[jh1]

give me her number. a night with me and she'll forget you altogether

 

[heatherrae]

I thought most states require arbitration before they would even allow a court hearing, except in the case where there is danger to the children??

Some have court ordered mediation and others don't. I don't know of any that have arbitration.

 

[heatherrae]

Hell no.

Not even close.

The only issue we have is really child suport & custody.

As long as she stays off drugs, as far as I am concerned - custody is settled. But everything is pending the drug tests again in 90 days.

In the mean time she wants CS to get settleed, which is fine - but she wants more than the amount I beleive to be appropriate. Way more. So, I agreed to start paying volutarily at the amount I beleive is correct, she won't accept that and is moving forward with a PDL to try to force me to pay what she wants me to pay.

For one she is hiding income, and undervaluing non monetary compensation for her self. Second she is trying to inflate how much I make - part of my job is commisioned -but I have only been there 8 months - so there are no guarantees or set amounts.

The worst part is - the courts here simply don't recognize a true 'Share Parenting Plan' the way they calculate assumes one parent has primary custody - even if they don't. Since I make more - they assume her to be primary as far as CS calculations - which the judge has discretion to revise but they really aren't accustomed to doing - therefore they don't.

Part of the jockying now includes subpeoas for records at my employer, I am going to be doing the same for her - and I am also going to have to depose her about her hidden income that she didn't disclose in her income and expense statements. But the judge already pretty much doesn't give a fuck that she is hiding income... unreal.

you may find this interesting. Or maybe not...lol.

Several states changed their laws and new law went in effect this year which take into account the % of time with each parent. Also, those states only considered the income of the non-custodial parent in setting child support. Minnesota and Georgia immediately come to mind. Those two courts are going to be FLOODED with men reducing child support obligation amounts now. The judges are going to be absolutely swamped. Seems like a national trend is emerging to consider how much time the child spends with each parent.

I see both sides of the issue, but I think that the new law will cause additional fighting between parents at the time of divorce. Some parents my fight for time with the kids just because of the break on child support. If I were pursuing child support, I could entirely see my ex trying to get the child just so he wouldn't have to pay, even though he has no love for or interest in the child.

That isn't the case with you. I'm just talking about the law changes and what results they may or may not have.