This week has been the toughest and most trying time of my life!!

[Raptorex]

Hey bro, your in my thoughts and prayers today.

 

[txbondsman]

Yes as mad as I am at her I need to pray for her because she isn't that kind of a person and would have never done that crap without being on drugs and she has to live with this guilt the rest of her life and the last thing I want is my daughters mom committing suicide or getting back on drugs cause she can't deal with what has happened. So somehow I have to pray for her for my girls!

the mom needs to know that you feel this way, and that your not taking the kids away from HER just the situation that they're living in. If she chooses to get help and gets better, she can have a normal relationship at that time. It will help her have some peace of mind during this hard time for her and she may make more of an effort, otherwise she may fel like "fuck it, I've lost my family" and not want to try.
The last statement is spot on, it's for your girls.

 

[mrplunkey]

1) Dump the guilt over the past. It was her wrongdoing -- not yours.

2) Put 100% of your energy into getting full, exclusive custody with the smoothest transition possible.

3) Then put 100% of your energy into making the best possible home for your girls.

Now is the time to be focused and stick to the game plan. I wouldn't even waste time being mad at the ex -- but I wouldn't waste time feeling sorry for her either.

Good luck and I'm sorry to hear you are going through this

 

[Arabian]

Done.. whats wrong pal

 

[pappad]

My prayers are with you Bro! Remember that today you are one day closer to the outcome. You need to stay strong and focused for your girls and most importantly let them see your faith! This is a life lesson that will help shape them for the future. When they are going through a crisis of their own they will remember how daddy stood strong! If you need anything let me know!!!

God blesss!

 

[timtim]

Yes Spartacus I don't want to go into all of it but alot of you know I haven't seen my daughters in like 4-5 months and had been trying to find them. Well I hired an attorney and found out that their mom was arrested a few weeks ago on drug charges and is in rehab and she had been leaving my daughters in hotel rooms with whoever while she went out partying and someone sexually touched my daughters during this time! I have spent the last few days with my attorney and had to go take drug tests myself and I have to go sit down and talk to the child therapist that their seeing now to find out everything they've been through which is going to kill me. Then they are going to start slowly seeing me til I have full custody of them. I feel like I let them down being their father I should have been there to protect them and I wasn't! I can't even believe I'm saying this on this board but it's been killing me inside and if it wasn't for my faith and people in my church I don't know what I would have done.

you are protecting them as best as you can and it will only get better. focus all of your energy on them, they are resilient and will be ok. now is the time for them to see what their daddy is made of. good luck and God be with you.

 

[scooter22]

I don't know that my advice is the best,,,, but one day at a time... Talk to others for therapy and just deal with it and don't ask why me or them? Whatever life throws at us... we just have to do the best we can and call on our resources to deal with the issues.... You are on the right path... Godspeed.

 

[xrsist]

sorry to hear brother
i can only imagine what your feeling right now
do what ever it takes to get full custody of your kids

 

[Beachboy6294]

Thanks again to all of you I can't express in words how much it helps to hear all of the advice and encouragement from all of you! I am going to church at 5 with my nephew and going to praise God and ask for his help to keep me strong through all this and to watch over my girls and to help them get through these trying times. I am very upset with their mom but being angry will only hurt the situation so I will have to somehow forgive her and pray for her recovery. I will never say anything bad about their mom to them either because I know how much that hurts because I went through that as a kid.

I am really still in shock and have my moments when I'll just break down crying but most of the time I'm just in a daze and lost. I have to leave sunday night to go offshore for two weeks which is going to be so damn hard but I have to because they really need my income to support them now. I am going to be so excited to come home and start seeing and finally getting them! I will really being praying alot and reading my bible to stay strong while out there and could really use all of you're prayers too. Once again I can't thank all of you enough for all the messages, pm's, and k messages.

 

[FriendlyCanadian]

Yes Spartacus I don't want to go into all of it but alot of you know I haven't seen my daughters in like 4-5 months and had been trying to find them. Well I hired an attorney and found out that their mom was arrested a few weeks ago on drug charges and is in rehab and she had been leaving my daughters in hotel rooms with whoever while she went out partying and someone sexually touched my daughters during this time! I have spent the last few days with my attorney and had to go take drug tests myself and I have to go sit down and talk to the child therapist that their seeing now to find out everything they've been through which is going to kill me. Then they are going to start slowly seeing me til I have full custody of them. I feel like I let them down being their father I should have been there to protect them and I wasn't! I can't even believe I'm saying this on this board but it's been killing me inside and if it wasn't for my faith and people in my church I don't know what I would have done.

Haven't read past this post at the moment, I sincerely wish you the best my friend, but I will put a different light and perspective on this, when I read this, all I could think about was thank god. I know that doesn't sound right, Consider the 4-5 month nightmare over! you should breathe a sigh of relief and rest easy knowing that your children are NOW safe and unharmed, alive and well, and they are in your protection. You are a good dad because you took them away from thier NIGHTMARE. I know it's not enough and you wish you could have done much more much more. I don't normally believe in revenge, but I do believe somewhat in justice and I think the mother of your daughters is clearly the one who should be severely punished for putting YOUR lovely daughters through this.

I'm sorry for the tradgey that has happened to you, I will absolutely keep you and your daughters in my prayer. I wouldn't beat yourself up to bad, instead put your best foot forward and be the best most loving dad you can be. I'm sure your daughters need you now more then ever. you ended thier nightmare, now give them everything good and wonderful that a good dad like you should.

My prayers go out to you bro.