This week has been the toughest and most trying time of my life!!

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the mom needs to know that you feel this way, and that your not taking the kids away from HER just the situation that they're living in. If she chooses to get help and gets better, she can have a normal relationship at that time. It will help her have some peace of mind during this hard time for her and she may make more of an effort, otherwise she may fel like "fuck it, I've lost my family" and not want to try.
The last statement is spot on, it's for your girls.

AMEN TO THIS.

Beachboy, you are a GOOD MAN and A GOOD FATHER. Even though your children were put in a terrible situation by their mother and you couldn't do a DAMNED THING to protect or prevent you still realize that your girls NEED a mother. Any father who doesn't *get this* is NOT a father but just a spermdonor.

I understand how you feel 1 thousand percent and so does my husband.

You will do was is right and what is best for your children. This is all about them. Your exwife screwed her life up with drugs and put her children at risk. She kept your kids from you to spite you, which in my book is already a near in-excusable offense because as a mother - she should ALWAYS know better. Men are not always able to realize how detrimental to a child's development keeping them from their mother is. You clearly understand the bigger picture, but until the mother gets herself cleaned up you will have to take full responsibility for your girls. <--- I KNOW how much this hurts you. I know you love and miss your children. I know better than anyone. But I also know that you didn't in a million years imagine that custody would come to you like this.

Glean all of the support that you can from whatever place that you can get it. By being the exemplary human being you are and by not EVER EVER letting the girls see your anger and disappointment towards their mother (the children will have these feelings for her as they get older but that will be HER CROSS TO BEAR ALONE). Never EVER talk badly about her because she was not the one who did this to them. She was sick... That doesn't mean that it is an excuse for her behavior. It just means that you will give your girls the *freedom* to love her. All little children WANT to love BOTH of their parents.

If you ever want to talk or vent or anything feel free to PM me or my Old Grump. As I said, he understands your situation best.

I am truly sorry to read this stuff and my heart goes out to you in ways that you'll never know.

You will be with your girls soon. Love them. Reassure them. Be their superhero...

Why did this happen to your family? I've been asking myself that for 8 years now. And you know what the answer is?

BECAUSE....

Lotta people have it worse. I know this is little consolation but imagine if you had gotten a phone call to make funeral arrangements for your girls.

What happened to you is no different then what happened to me or to anyone else who has had worse experiences. There is no rhyme or reason, but that is only *life*.

We are only given what we can bear.

If I can bear my struggles... then you can bear yours.

 

[Beachboy6294]

AMEN TO THIS.

Beachboy, you are a GOOD MAN and A GOOD FATHER. Even though your children were put in a terrible situation by their mother and you couldn't do a DAMNED THING to protect or prevent you still realize that your girls NEED a mother. Any father who doesn't *get this* is NOT a father but just a spermdonor.

I understand how you feel 1 thousand percent and so does my husband.

You will do was is right and what is best for your children. This is all about them. Your exwife screwed her life up with drugs and put her children at risk. She kept your kids from you to spite you, which in my book is already a near in-excusable offense because as a mother - she should ALWAYS know better. Men are not always able to realize how detrimental to a child's development keeping them from their mother is. You clearly understand the bigger picture, but until the mother gets herself cleaned up you will have to take full responsibility for your girls. <--- I KNOW how much this hurts you. I know you love and miss your children. I know better than anyone. But I also know that you didn't in a million years imagine that custody would come to you like this.

Glean all of the support that you can from whatever place that you can get it. By being the exemplary human being you are and by not EVER EVER letting the girls see your anger and disappointment towards their mother (the children will have these feelings for her as they get older but that will be HER CROSS TO BEAR ALONE). Never EVER talk badly about her because she was not the one who did this to them. She was sick... That doesn't mean that it is an excuse for her behavior. It just means that you will give your girls the *freedom* to love her. All little children WANT to love BOTH of their parents.

If you ever want to talk or vent or anything feel free to PM me or my Old Grump. As I said, he understands your situation best.

I am truly sorry to read this stuff and my heart goes out to you in ways that you'll never know.

You will be with your girls soon. Love them. Reassure them. Be their superhero...

Why did this happen to your family? I've been asking myself that for 8 years now. And you know what the answer is?

BECAUSE....

Lotta people have it worse. I know this is little consolation but imagine if you had gotten a phone call to make funeral arrangements for your girls.

What happened to you is no different then what happened to me or to anyone else who has had worse experiences. There is no rhyme or reason, but that is only *life*.

We are only given what we can bear.

If I can bear my struggles... then you can bear yours.

I have already begun praying for my ex wife because she is really going to need all the help she can get after her brain is clean of all the drugs and she has to think about what she let happen to our daughters who I know she loves very much. The last thing I want is her to commit suicide like her lil brother did and my daughters to lose their mother. I have always said that i will never talk bad about thir mother to them because I know from experience how much that hurts as a kid!

 

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I have already begun praying for my ex wife because she is really going to need all the help she can get after her brain is clean of all the drugs and she has to think about what she let happen to our daughters who I know she loves very much. The last thing I want is her to commit suicide like her lil brother did and my daughters to lose their mother. I have always said that i will never talk bad about thir mother to them because I know from experience how much that hurts as a kid!

Your words move me to tears...

With a daddy like you - I KNOW your girls will be ok in this life.

 

[ceo]

I have already begun praying for my ex wife because she is really going to need all the help she can get after her brain is clean of all the drugs and she has to think about what she let happen to our daughters who I know she loves very much. The last thing I want is her to commit suicide like her lil brother did and my daughters to lose their mother. I have always said that i will never talk bad about thir mother to them because I know from experience how much that hurts as a kid!

Sorry to hear about the situation bro, but you've begun the process to set things right. Already a ton of great advice given, and I don't have anything to add. I'll just say that I hope for all the best things for your girls and I hope that starts to happen quickly.

 

[Beachboy6294]

Your words move me to tears...

With a daddy like you - I KNOW your girls will be ok in this life.

Thanks for the kind words and I hope your right and my girls get to have a wonderful childhood still!

CEO hey buddy I hope all has been well with you and your family. Thanks for the kind words and i hope their back in my life for good very soon!

 

[Beachboy6294]

I just wanted to tell everyone thanks again and I'm leaving now and will be gone for two weeks offshore working. Please keep praying for my daughters and i hope you all have a great two weeks while I'm gone. Peace.

 

[PICK3]

I just wanted to tell everyone thanks again and I'm leaving now and will be gone for two weeks offshore working. Please keep praying for my daughters and i hope you all have a great two weeks while I'm gone. Peace.

I'll miss you

no homo