musclebrains
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Testosterone boy said:
Question for you MB.......I am always trying to improve something about my life yet it always seems that one step forward in one area tends to be accompanied by a step backwards in another area.
What is up with this phenomena? Does anyone have a full hand in every respect? Is it even possible?
I don't have much faith in the project of "self-improvement." Being psychoanalytically trained, I'm more interested in increasing consciousness, which in turn seems to improve the quality of life even if it doesn't insure "happiness."
Too often "self improvement" involves covering up something and the effort of the ego is sabotaged by a compensatory action of the unconscious. The psyche is expressing its demand that the underlying matter find resolution. Classic example is the reformed drunk who sublimates his former addcition by becoming the fattest slob alive.
On the other hand, nobody is wholly the master of his own fate and most people instinctively reject their destinies because they almost always oppose our self-idealizations. The paintings of the Anunciation are actually about that. The Virgin is always stepping back in horror even as she's being handed notice that she's about to become the mother of god. So, in one sense, something is ALWAYS slipping back emotionally as one moves toward one's life purpose. It's always daunting.
Then again, you may just be a born loser.
