The ex emails me...

[Lestat]

So I haven't been on for a while, and I also realized that I think I haven't been because I've been pretty busy and doing well in life.

You have have read this thread:
http://www.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?t=349447&highlight=gym+dinner

Basically I saw my ex at the gym and talked to her when she left and mentioned going to dinner.

Well she kinda balked a bit and said "maybe coffee or something.." and we left it at that.

Well she now just emailed me today.. here is what she said.

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Hey, hope you're doin well...I was really torn whether to write this or not, since I did say I'd leave things up to you and I know you may still not want to hear from me. It's one of those things though, no matter how much you deliberate about what the 'right' thing to do is, you'll probably never get any closer to reality.

Anyway, you mentioned getting together sometime, so I wanted to see if you would still be up for that sometime. Let me know.

Sarah
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Not sure really how to respond.. I did ask her to get get together sometime.. I had seen her at the gym and yeah all these feelings come rushing back... but in reality I believe the best thing would probably to not see her... but that is also pretty tough on me sometimes as well because she is still on my mind and in my thoughts a lot.

 

[string_bean00]

If I were in your shoes...



...just delete it and forget it.

 

[alien amp pharm]

I'd go to dinner w/her. Act as if everything is fine with you. Don't bring up anything concerning "you two" or feelings, etc.
See what she has to say.

 

[alien amp pharm]

What is this, ex day or something?

 

[string_bean00]

I'd go to dinner w/her. Act as if everything is fine with you. Don't bring up anything concerning "you two" or feelings, etc.
See what she has to say.

...sopping wet vaginas shouldn't take advice from other sopping wet vaginas.

 

[jestros]

I'd go to dinner w/her. Act as if everything is fine with you. Don't bring up anything concerning "you two" or feelings, etc.
See what she has to say.

DONT TAKE ADVICE ON CHICKS FROM THIS GUY


that is all.

 

[alien amp pharm]

...sopping wet vaginas shouldn't take advice from other sopping wet vaginas.

True, but at this point what does he have to lose? If she sees he is perfectly fine without her (which he will have to fake) she may rethink things.

He will go because he knows he'll regret it wondering "what if" later on.

 

[Deterass]

*vomits in mouth a little but swallowed it*

 

[bran987]

I'd go to dinner w/her. Act as if everything is fine with you. Don't bring up anything concerning "you two" or feelings, etc.
See what she has to say.

he CAN'T do what you just described. it's not that he doesn't want to, he CAN'T, physically do that.
plus he shouldn't go anyway
if he wants her to think everything is fine with him he should just say he is really busy lately but he will get back with her some other time.
jumping on this opportunity would just be giving her all the power again, which always seems to happen with you guys

 

[alien amp pharm]

DONT TAKE ADVICE ON CHICKS FROM THIS GUY


that is all.

Hahaha.

I'm the Boston RedSox of the dating world.
...just when you think I'm down and out, I come back to shock everyone!

 

[DIVISION]

Not sure really how to respond.. I did ask her to get get together sometime.. I had seen her at the gym and yeah all these feelings come rushing back... but in reality I believe the best thing would probably to not see her... but that is also pretty tough on me sometimes as well because she is still on my mind and in my thoughts a lot.

I say let it go......there's no point in going to dinner with her as it will just bring up a host of feelings again. Let her go.....that means no contact, you need to focus on yourself again, IMO.


DIV

 

[geminitwins]

you're the one who knows how you feel. at the end of the day its about you.

don't listen to anyone but yourself on this one. If you wanna go, go. If not dont. Its easy for others to say do this or that when they arent in your shoes.

If you feel worse at least you'll know its as a result of a choice you made, not as a result of listening to others.

Just get ready for heaps of abuse if you do go and things don't turn out the way you hope

 

[Mr. Black]

If I were you I'd accept the invitation for dinner, then show up with a hot date

 

[jd_uk]

you're the one who knows how you feel. at the end of the day its about you.

don't listen to anyone but yourself on this one. If you wanna go, go. If not dont. Its easy for others to say do this or that when they arent in your shoes.

If you feel worse at least you'll know its as a result of a choice you made, not as a result of listening to others.

Just get ready for heaps of abuse if you do go and things don't turn out the way you hope

I like it.

 

[giantdouche]

Go see her. Buy her some nice flowers and beg on your knees to take you back.

 

[hardrock]

Don't do it IMO.

 

[DIVISION]

Hahaha.

I'm the Boston RedSox of the dating world.
...just when you think I'm down and out, I come back to shock everyone!

Unlike the RedSox, however, you haven't broken your CURSE!!!!!!!!








DIV

 

[wutangnomo]

lmao

Damn dude this is coming to full circle. Seeing her will only cause YOU more confusion. You are just starting to heal, why the hell do you want to re-hash those wounds again???

First time shame on her, second time shame on you.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

I believe the best thing would probably to not see her...

Yes

 

[gonelifting]

I`ll mark this thread for future reference. No opinion yet. You`re driving your own boat, you can do anything you want to. Good luck with anything you do, seriously.

 

[DIVISION]

Damn dude this is coming to full circle. Seeing her will only cause YOU more confusion. You are just starting to heal, why the hell do you want to re-hash those wounds again???

First time shame on her, second time shame on you.

^^^I concur 100% with this post.

Listen to us Lestat, we won't steer you wrong, nugga.....



DIV

 

[biteme]

Love's so strange, playin' hiding seek with hearts and always hurtin'
We're the fools standing close enough to touch those burnin' memories.

 

[The Greatest]

You won bro. Just delete it and move on knowing she = had a difficult time letting you go. This is another trap for attention, since you have not been keeping daily contact, she is wondering if her spell is wearing off on you. Getting together will just resume the painful cycle.

She is not so much in love with you, but more or less in love with the idea of a man totally engrossed in her. The stare at the gym, the email are just bait to fufill her needs. Very selfish.

 

[Lestat]

here is a draft of a potential response.. I can't just ignore her, that's just not right, again I am going to eventually run into her again and I'm not going to be an asshole.
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Good for you for being able to do what you feel. The 'right' thing to do is subjective I suppose and I certainly wouldn't be able to tell you what it is or isn't.

Getting together is probably not the best thing to do, seeing you brings back a whole rush of feelings and I somehow got caught up in it the day I suggested getting together. Every once in a while that tiny bit of hope is enough to overpower the other 99.9999% of me that is a total realist and knows what I should and shouldn't be saying or doing.

It is a nice thought though. Maybe one day.

 

[The Greatest]

here is a draft of a potential response.. I can't just ignore her, that's just not right, again I am going to eventually run into her again and I'm not going to be an asshole.
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Good for you for being able to do what you feel. The 'right' thing to do is subjective I suppose and I certainly wouldn't be able to tell you what it is or isn't.

Getting together is probably not the best thing to do, seeing you brings back a whole rush of feelings and I somehow got caught up in it the day I suggested getting together. Every once in a while that tiny bit of hope is enough to overpower the other 99.9999% of me that is a total realist and knows what I should and shouldn't be saying or doing.

It is a nice thought though. Maybe one day.

Terrible!!!

All you need to write is

Thanks for the email, my life is kinda crazy these days. Perhaps down the road we could get together and catch up, but for now I think it is best to leave things as is.

simple but effective, keeps your power. The email you posted makes you look like a bitch, no offense.

 

[Lestat]

Terrible!!!

All you need to write is

Thanks for the email, my life is kinda crazy these days. Perhaps down the road we could get together and catch up, but for now I think it is best to leave things as is.

simple but effective, keeps your power. The email you posted makes you look like a bitch, no offense.

Everything I say and do seems to make me out to be a little bitch....

 

[The Greatest]

Everything I say and do seems to make me out to be a little bitch....

Just want to come off strong.

 

[alien amp pharm]

In times such as this, simply ask yourself "What Would Alien Do?"


















now get out there and propose to her!

 

[gonelifting]

Everything I say and do seems to make me out to be a little bitch....

Not if you stayed a man and NOT HAD FREAKING CONTACT with her like you originally told her. We were so proud of you once. lol jk I know it`s tough bro. I honestly think you gotta do what you feel is right at this point because all the planning and "strategy" is out the window anyway.

Just change your damn religion and ask her to marry you. 173 posts ago. It`s documented. She`s good.

 

[Lestat]

Not if you stayed a man and NOT HAD FREAKING CONTACT with her like you originally told her. We were so proud of you once. lol jk I know it`s tough bro. I honestly think you gotta do what you feel is right at this point because all the planning and "strategy" is out the window anyway.

Just change your damn religion and ask her to marry you. 173 posts ago. It`s documented. She`s good.

religion had nothing to do with the breakup man.. i actually wish it would have been that simple...

 

[Taps]

do what the greatest suggests

 

[EnderJE]

All you need to write is

Thanks for the email, my life is kinda crazy these days. Perhaps down the road we could get together and catch up, but for now I think it is best to leave things as is.

Also, don't forget the part about fucking her sister / cousin / mother. It's a natural way to get her away from you.

 

[*MissFit*]

Move on.

 

[danielson]

dont send that email back! too confrontational and removes control from you!

go with the greatest...say meeting up sometime soon is definately on the cards but you are extremely busy now and need to focus the other things in your life, but when you are able to you would like to meet with her.


Go with what you feel though, if you would rather not met with her because you fear her playing with your heart like a chew toy again then leave it, if you feel this is something you will regret for a long time then go and see how you feel, though since you know you will find it hard i think brushing her off is better

 

[vinylgroover]

Terrible!!!

All you need to write is

Thanks for the email, my life is kinda crazy these days. Perhaps down the road we could get together and catch up, but for now I think it is best to leave things as is.

simple but effective, keeps your power. The email you posted makes you look like a bitch, no offense.

I would go with something like the above Lestat...........unless you do really wanna have another shot at it.

Go with your instincts.

 

[gonelifting]

"It hurts too much to see you, if you ever want to get back together, call me."

Ball.....her court...

 

[DIVISION]

Everything I say and do seems to make me out to be a little bitch....

That's why I said you should cut her off totally and MOVE ON, nugga....

I'm not being an asshole, I'm just trying to get you to see the light.

There's nothing there for you now, MOVE ON. LIVE YOUR LIFE, nuggaro....




DIV

 

[Lestat]

"It hurts too much to see you, if you ever want to get back together, call me."

Ball.....her court...

I thought this was exactly what NOT to do, no matter how much you feel it.

 

[jbradley2093]

Everything I say and do seems to make me out to be a little bitch....

I agree, don't go out with her-yet. I would e-mail her, but not your draft. I'd say hey, what's up with you, small talk-ask a few open ended questions so she will have a reason to respond. Tell her you'd like to get together with her sometime but don't committ to a time or place=tell her things are crazy right now, but definetly soon. Chat a bit first, see how you feel. If you feel like you'd be able to see her with out being a little bitch and dropping to your knees and begging, maybe you should. Who knows, you may decide you don't want to see her again once you've talked to her a couple of times in a nice safe e-mail environment where you can't do anything totally stupid.

 

[Ulcasterdropout]

do what the greatest suggests

^

 

[Lestat]

I agree, don't go out with her-yet. I would e-mail her, but not your draft. I'd say hey, what's up with you, small talk-ask a few open ended questions so she will have a reason to respond. Tell her you'd like to get together with her sometime but don't committ to a time or place=tell her things are crazy right now, but definetly soon. Chat a bit first, see how you feel. If you feel like you'd be able to see her with out being a little bitch and dropping to your knees and begging, maybe you should. Who knows, you may decide you don't want to see her again once you've talked to her a couple of times in a nice safe e-mail environment where you can't do anything totally stupid.

I like the idea in theory.. but its playing with fire.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

I agree, don't go out with her-yet. I would e-mail her, but not your draft. I'd say hey, what's up with you, small talk-ask a few open ended questions so she will have a reason to respond. Tell her you'd like to get together with her sometime but don't committ to a time or place=tell her things are crazy right now, but definetly soon. Chat a bit first, see how you feel. If you feel like you'd be able to see her with out being a little bitch and dropping to your knees and begging, maybe you should. Who knows, you may decide you don't want to see her again once you've talked to her a couple of times in a nice safe e-mail environment where you can't do anything totally stupid.

Oops-not jbradley2093-should have been me. You'll figure it out My bad!! I don't think it's playing with fire though unless you are already sure you can't handle it or you know for sure you don't want her back right now. Just my opinion.

 

[EnderJE]

Oops-not jbradley2093-should have been me. You'll figure it out My bad!! I don't think it's playing with fire though unless you are already sure you can't handle it or you know for sure you don't want her back right now. Just my opinion.

A-HA! GOTCHA! now, how about for the second part?

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

A-HA! GOTCHA! now, how about for the second part?

Been waiting for that post!! I knew you would, and I wouldn't have revealed except that I wouldn't want anyone thinking he's gay or anything. (He wouldn't want that either!!) But still no luck on the second part....yet

 

[EnderJE]

Thought you could slip by, eh? Heehee. Now I'm happy.

However, I'm still waiting for the second part and I can wait. However, I don't think that it will slip into any conversation here though. Who knows!

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Thought you could slip by, eh? Heehee. Now I'm happy.

However, I'm still waiting for the second part and I can wait. However, I don't think that it will slip into any conversation here though. Who knows!

Now I wonder how long it will take for someone to deduce that jbradley is my alter or vice versa

 

[EnderJE]

Hmm. I thought you weren't the alter and that he was. Or am I? I'm so confused.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

Hmm. I thought you weren't the alter and that he was. Or am I? I'm so confused.

Very nice. LMFAO.

 

[EnderJE]

So, the second part? No one will know.

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

So, the second part? No one will know.

Get over it-no means no, didn't they teach you that in school? Ha ha ha.

 

[EnderJE]

Alright...alright.

 

[GoldenDelicious]

i think youre going to go regardless of what is right is wrong, or youre going to "what-if" yourself to death

fuckit. go. just be aware that youre going to be a mess.

cheers

 

[randk]

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Hey, hope you're doin well...I was really torn whether to write this or not, since I did say I'd leave things up to you and I know you may still not want to hear from me. It's one of those things though, no matter how much you deliberate about what the 'right' thing to do is, you'll probably never get any closer to reality.

________

just wondering...if you looked up the word deliberating in the dictionary, what would it say?

 

[Lestat]

__________
Hey, hope you're doin well...I was really torn whether to write this or not, since I did say I'd leave things up to you and I know you may still not want to hear from me. It's one of those things though, no matter how much you deliberate about what the 'right' thing to do is, you'll probably never get any closer to reality.

________

just wondering...if you looked up the word deliberating in the dictionary, what would it say?

she thought about a it a lot?

 

[alien amp pharm]

Now I wonder how long it will take for someone to deduce that jbradley is my alter or vice versa

I have no idea who either of you are.

 

[Lestat]

new reply.....

Like I said at the time, I'm not sure what is appropriate, and I took your response about coffee instead as a sign that maybe it wasn't the best idea. As with everything else, just as you mentioned, I'm not sure what the right thing to do is either. I'm in unfamiliar territory and learning as I go. Thing have been pretty busy lately, but yeah if we get a chance we could get together, no pressure or rush.

Brian

 

[from zero]

You may was well become a eunuch now. Not like your genitals are of any use to you anymore.

 

[Dunk]

if you feel free and better off with out her and your actually happy dont do it. shell just pull u back in and ull have to go thru it all over again. ure gonna see her. think with your dick. hit it once or twice and before you know it your cuddling up behind her saying shit like i missed you so much i lost you once and i dont want to lose you agian. then where are you? back to square 1

 

[jh1]

new reply.....

Like I said at the time, I'm not sure what is appropriate, and I took your response about coffee instead as a sign that maybe it wasn't the best idea. As with everything else, just as you mentioned, I'm not sure what the right thing to do is either. I'm in unfamiliar territory and learning as I go. Thing have been pretty busy lately, but yeah if we get a chance we could get together, no pressure or rush.

Brian

How about this:

Your behavior and handling of our relationship and my heart, which I entrusted to you, was reckless and cavalier - and I am less than pleased.

There have been several times since you ended our relationship that I have reached out to you, but I now know that was a mistake. You are no longer the same person that I fell in love with, so reaching out to you is futile - I will not find the love I once had. I admit that I have trouble maintaining this reality and I would appreciate it if you would not do things like: make small talk with me, show up at events you know I will be at, invite me out for a 'meet-up', hug me, etc - as they only serve to further the delusions I have about 'us'.

You broke up with me and indeed broke my heart. But for some reason even though you choose not to be with me, you are making sure I am close for you in case you have a need - in fact a part of you wants me there waiting and yearning for you - alot of people are like that. Everybody likes to know they are wanted, but in this case it is sick - it is sick because it hurts me, and despite that you press on and leave me hanging.

 

[alien amp pharm]

Just send her a F-off email and put in it that her ass is getting big like I did.
You'll never have to hear from her again.

 

[gonelifting]

I think you should have a result in mind. Don`t be another Iraq. KNOW what you want out of this and go for it. KNOW what you want. Do you want her back? Do you want to be friends?(maybe what she wants) Do you want to never speak with her again and move on?

What do you want... AND THEN you can answer her appropriately.

 

[bran987]

do what the greatest said, and watch what happens. it will be what you want to happen.

 

[Mr. Black]

Best one yet...

How about this:

Your behavior and handling of our relationship and my heart, which I entrusted to you, was reckless and cavalier - and I am less than pleased.

There have been several times since you ended our relationship that I have reached out to you, but I now know that was a mistake. You are no longer the same person that I fell in love with, so reaching out to you is futile - I will not find the love I once had. I admit that I have trouble maintaining this reality and I would appreciate it if you would not do things like: make small talk with me, show up at events you know I will be at, invite me out for a 'meet-up', hug me, etc - as they only serve to further the delusions I have about 'us'.

You broke up with me and indeed broke my heart. But for some reason even though you choose not to be with me, you are making sure I am close for you in case you have a need - in fact a part of you wants me there waiting and yearning for you - alot of people are like that. Everybody likes to know they are wanted, but in this case it is sick - it is sick because it hurts me, and despite that you press on and leave me hanging.

 

[Miss24k]

Just like Gonelifting said YOU need to know what you want. This is something only you can figure out. You need to do what YOU think is right, down deep you know what you want to or not to say to her. Listen to yourself!

 

[The Greatest]

do what the greatest said, and watch what happens. it will be what you want to happen.

The problem with lestat is he is attempting to find the perfect formula to solve this puzzle. In reality he wants her back, so every response and conversation is scripted and contemplated to death. She can read this loud and clear, I am attempting to show him the best way to play the game is calm and confident. Long drawn out email responses only covey the emotion that he still bleeds for her. Short and simple will keep her wondering. Wondering= challenge, something women yearn for.

 

[Lestat]

How about this:

Your behavior and handling of our relationship and my heart, which I entrusted to you, was reckless and cavalier - and I am less than pleased.

There have been several times since you ended our relationship that I have reached out to you, but I now know that was a mistake. You are no longer the same person that I fell in love with, so reaching out to you is futile - I will not find the love I once had. I admit that I have trouble maintaining this reality and I would appreciate it if you would not do things like: make small talk with me, show up at events you know I will be at, invite me out for a 'meet-up', hug me, etc - as they only serve to further the delusions I have about 'us'.

You broke up with me and indeed broke my heart. But for some reason even though you choose not to be with me, you are making sure I am close for you in case you have a need - in fact a part of you wants me there waiting and yearning for you - alot of people are like that. Everybody likes to know they are wanted, but in this case it is sick - it is sick because it hurts me, and despite that you press on and leave me hanging.

This one would work.. except it was ME that asked for the meet up initially.. it was ME that gave her the hug.... she's been pretty good at not contacting me.. and I think she's also gone out of her way to avoid the random run ins as much as possible.

As far as what I want? What I want, I can't have really.. I want her to feel the same way about me now as she once did... there is nothing I can do or say to make that happen.. so I'm just trying to do what is best for my feelings considering the circumstances.

 

[jh1]

This one would work.. except it was ME that asked for the meet up initially.. it was ME that gave her the hug.... she's been pretty good at not contacting me.. and I think she's also gone out of her way to avoid the random run ins as much as possible.

As far as what I want? What I want, I can't have really.. I want her to feel the same way about me now as she once did... there is nothing I can do or say to make that happen.. so I'm just trying to do what is best for my feelings considering the circumstances.

Lestat - I know you intiated some of the contact. I remember. But some of it she initiated or somehow was able to manipulate you into intiating the contact - i.e. showing up at the gym knowing damn well you will be there, going to the softball game, sending you this email.

if she doesn't want you, she needs to knock the BS off. Modify the actions i listed to suit the situation, but its true.

She just wants to keep you on a string... feels good to know people out there want you and think about you.

Yeah, you can't have what you want because that girl no longer exists. She is a completely different person. If you did get back together with her somehow you would become angry and start quesitoning why she put you through all that and it would be very difficult to overcome that...

You'd constantly think about why - just like you do now.

Don't torture yourself.

 

[Miss24k]

This one would work.. except it was ME that asked for the meet up initially.. it was ME that gave her the hug.... she's been pretty good at not contacting me.. and I think she's also gone out of her way to avoid the random run ins as much as possible.

As far as what I want? What I want, I can't have really.. I want her to feel the same way about me now as she once did... there is nothing I can do or say to make that happen.. so I'm just trying to do what is best for my feelings considering the circumstances.

Ok I understand that. But how do you know that she doesn't miss you and realize how much she cares for you since you've been apart. Sometimes when you give a relationship space, you realize your true feelings.

 

[Lestat]

Ok I understand that. But how do you know that she doesn't miss you and realize how much she cares for you since you've been apart. Sometimes when you give a relationship space, you realize your true feelings.

She's a pretty direct person, and she knows how she left me, I would think she would say something had she felt any type of change of heart. Odds are waaaay against it, believe me.

 

[Miss24k]

She's a pretty direct person, and she knows how she left me, I would think she would say something had she felt any type of change of heart. Odds are waaaay against it, believe me.

Oh ok well from the few things that you've told me, it sounds like you already know what is best for YOU. Although it may be hard, you know you shouldn't go to dinner with her, and put yourself through that pain.

I hope it works out for you, the right girl will come along 1 day.

 

[geminitwins]

what does she want? if you dont know, could you just ask? your response could be tailored to whatever she says.

 

[jerseyart]

...sopping wet vaginas shouldn't take advice from other sopping wet vaginas.

LMAO

 

[wutangnomo]

Bro what the hell is wrong with you?? Just BE YOURSELF! Here you are basing your decisions on what fifty strangers are telling you and having us edit and re-write your replies lmao.

Bro time to let the balls drop back into their sac and do as YOU want! You're over-analyzing and trying way too hard. If you keep this up you'll never get over her. Period!

 

[Lestat]

Bro what the hell is wrong with you?? Just BE YOURSELF! Here you are basing your decisions on what fifty strangers are telling you and having us edit and re-write your replies lmao.

Bro time to let the balls drop back into their sac and do as YOU want! You're over-analyzing and trying way too hard. If you keep this up you'll never get over her. Period!

I just look here for advice.. because its seems as if just acting and writing from the heart isn't the best thing for me..

 

[bran987]

Long drawn out email responses only covey the emotion that he still bleeds for her. Short and simple will keep her wondering. Wondering= challenge, something women yearn for.

yep, you "get it"

 

[Lestat]

So I sent this...
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Thanks for the email, my life is kinda crazy these days. Perhaps down the road we could get together and catch up, but for now I think it is best to leave things as is. Seeing you brought on a rush of feelings and I acted on them in suggesting dinner, you were smart for more or less saying no.

Brian

 

[Lestat]

she replied back minutes later with this..
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Thanks for replying. If you think that's best, thats okay with me, please let me know if you change your mind though.

I hope by crazy you mean busy and filled with enjoyable things...

Sarah

 

[from zero]

For Christ's sake, leave the girl alone.

 

[alien amp pharm]

LOL! You sound like me now.

 

[The Greatest]

she replied back minutes later with this..
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Thanks for replying. If you think that's best, thats okay with me, please let me know if you change your mind though.

I hope by crazy you mean busy and filled with enjoyable things...

Sarah

TOLD YOU

If you think that's best, thats okay with me, please let me know if you change your mind though. (she still want's to play the game)

hope by crazy you mean busy and filled with enjoyable things...(This is a form of prying, it is killing her that you may be living a more exciting life without her)

With that said again you won, you are the man again. Unattainable in her eyes. You must for now resume with the plan, no contact. Let her sweat it out, I promise if it is meant to be she will contact you.

 

[jh1]

Unattainable in her eyes?

My ass... it is crystal clear to her and everyone else she has him on a string.

If she yanks that string, he'll come right back...

 

[wutangnomo]

So let me get this straight...

YOU ask her out to dinner, but then later YOU send her an email saying it's best that you two don't meet???

Do you realize that you don't know what the hell you want. Seriously now. Make up your mind once and for all and stick with your decisions.

 

[gonelifting]

she replied back minutes later with this..
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please let me know if you change your mind though.



Sarah

LMAO!!!!! Oh, she put the ball in your court. That`s an interesting concept.

 

[Lestat]

So let me get this straight...

YOU ask her out to dinner, but then later YOU send her an email saying it's best that you two don't meet???

Do you realize that you don't know what the hell you want. Seriously now. Make up your mind once and for all and stick with your decisions.

The reason I asked her to dinner is because I saw her, and I thought hey, maybe if we hang out again, go to dinner, she'll see in me what she once did.

Those feelings were brought on because I saw her, for about an hour, at the gym.

So now I don't think its the best idea... is that so bad? I'm only trying to do what is best...

Sure i'd like her back.. but I know that's not likely and I'd like to do what is best for me to get me basically out of the quagmire of emotions that I sometimes fall into.

 

[gonelifting]

The reason I asked her to dinner is because I saw her, and I thought hey, maybe if we hang out again, go to dinner, she'll see in me what she once did.

Those feelings were brought on because I saw her, for about an hour, at the gym.

So now I don't think its the best idea... is that so bad? I'm only trying to do what is best...

Sure i'd like her back.. but I know that's not likely and I'd like to do what is best for me to get me basically out of the quagmire of emotions that I sometimes fall into.

Honestly, you should get therapy. Seriously, you need it IMO at this point. She`s done you a lot of damage bro. Get help. I`m am NOT trying to be an ass, it will help. These things happen. You`re too tunnelvisioned.

 

[Mr. Black]

The reason I asked her to dinner is because I saw her, and I thought hey, maybe if we hang out again, go to dinner, she'll see in me what she once did.
.

Your best shot at this point is to suggest meeting for a few drinks instead. One drink turns into twenty, then once at this level, she'll be much more liable for a quick fuck. Once you fuck her, all those old memories of you two will come flooding back and you might have a chance.

P.S. I have executed this tactic personally and it worked

 

[jh1]

Your best shot at this point is to suggest meeting for a few drinks instead. One drink turns into twenty, then once at this level, she'll be much more liable for a quick fuck. Once you fuck her, all those old memories of you two will come flooding back and you might have a chance.

P.S. I have executed this tactic personally and it worked

Personally I'd pull this off... but instead of a flood of old feelings...

I'd flood her ass with semen, and blood... I'd grudge fuck that shit so bad she'd call me daddy for sure...

She'd get the donkey punch too...

 

[Mr. Black]

I'd flood her ass with semen, and blood... I'd grudge fuck that shit so bad she'd call me daddy for sure...

She'd get the donkey punch too...

Exactly! Now would be the time to show her your "new" special moves that you've acquired since the breakup. Spread those cheeks and rim away

 

[Sweet_Bitch]

While Mr. Black has an exceptional idea that at the very least would get you laid, Greatest is right. She's fucking with you. She's playing a game. She may not even know it-give her the benefit of the doubt if it makes you feel better. But I'm telling you-as a girl-she's playing a game. Greatest absolutely hit the nail on the head. Leave it alone now. You are right when you say that you won't find that same girl that you fell in love with. I read the posts, I even read the entire IM convo, she changed. She grew up. So did you. Maybe you changed "with" her, she changed "without" you. There will be someone else someday. For now, let yourself heal. Therapy wouldn't hurt-she did break your heart pretty good. And take some comfort in the fact that this time, you walked away. More or less.

 

[jd_uk]

Listen to yourself. Make your own mistakes and learn from them.

Half these guys on here telling you about the 'games' don't know her and are prbably way off. Follow your instincts. I've said this before.

 

[Tytan]

Give it another chance if that`s how you feel in your heart, obviously this issue weighs heavy on your mind, so if it works out ( good for) if not (closure for you). No one else can determine your happiness.........right.

 

[EnderJE]

LESTAT, She's fucking with you.

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[Lestat]

you know what's fucking ironic.. I know this is not pointless but... just a thought.

I have a friend that works at a high end hotel in LA.. shutters.

She works the front desk and tonight some lady came down from her room bleeding and crying because her husband beat the shit out of her.. they are on vacation and this fuck does this.

Odds are, they are still going to stay together, its probably happened before and its happened again.

I'd never in a million years come close to doing something like that to a woman I loved.. or any women period...

that got me thinking.. so many fucked up couples out there are together for whatever reasons.. but then I find someone who really works for me and it ends for really no reason? What a fucked up world where the guy who beats the shit out of women keeps them in love.

 

[RADAR]

you know what's fucking ironic.. I know this is not pointless but... just a thought.

I have a friend that works at a high end hotel in LA.. shutters.

She works the front desk and tonight some lady came down from her room bleeding and crying because her husband beat the shit out of her.. they are on vacation and this fuck does this.

Odds are, they are still going to stay together, its probably happened before and its happened again.

I'd never in a million years come close to doing something like that to a woman I loved.. or any women period...

that got me thinking.. so many fucked up couples out there are together for whatever reasons.. but then I find someone who really works for me and it ends for really no reason? What a fucked up world where the guy who beats the shit out of women keeps them in love.

If you love something so much open your hands and let it fly away, if it comes back "great" if not,then it never was meant to be!

Time to buy a Vette dude!

RADAR

 

[Miss24k]

you know what's fucking ironic.. I know this is not pointless but... just a thought.

I have a friend that works at a high end hotel in LA.. shutters.

She works the front desk and tonight some lady came down from her room bleeding and crying because her husband beat the shit out of her.. they are on vacation and this fuck does this.

Odds are, they are still going to stay together, its probably happened before and its happened again.

I'd never in a million years come close to doing something like that to a woman I loved.. or any women period...

that got me thinking.. so many fucked up couples out there are together for whatever reasons.. but then I find someone who really works for me and it ends for really no reason? What a fucked up world where the guy who beats the shit out of women keeps them in love.

The woman who stays with the man that beats her, more times than not it has nothing to do with love. She stays out of fear, because she's insecure with herself and has no self-esteem, and doesn't feel she can find someone else. Or that her life is in danger if she leaves.

As for you, if it was meant to be then it will be. If not then she just wasn't the one for you. You need to have someone who has the same feelings for you as you do for her.

 

[RADAR]

The woman who stays with the man that beats her, more times than not it has nothing to do with love. She stays out of fear, because she's insecure with herself and has no self-esteem, and doesn't feel she can find someone else. Or that her life is in danger if she leaves.

As for you, if it was meant to be then it will be. If not then she just wasn't the one for you. You need to have someone who has the same feelings for you as you do for her.

She means its time to buy a vette dude!...................

RADAR

 

[Lestat]

The woman who stays with the man that beats her, more times than not it has nothing to do with love. She stays out of fear, because she's insecure with herself and has no self-esteem, and doesn't feel she can find someone else. Or that her life is in danger if she leaves.

As for you, if it was meant to be then it will be. If not then she just wasn't the one for you. You need to have someone who has the same feelings for you as you do for her.

You're right, and I know it.

 

[MattTheSkywalker]

Go out to dinner.

Have a nice dinner.

take it from there.

 

[Werd]

you know what's fucking ironic.. I know this is not pointless but... just a thought.

I have a friend that works at a high end hotel in LA.. shutters.

She works the front desk and tonight some lady came down from her room bleeding and crying because her husband beat the shit out of her.. they are on vacation and this fuck does this.

Odds are, they are still going to stay together, its probably happened before and its happened again.

I'd never in a million years come close to doing something like that to a woman I loved.. or any women period...

that got me thinking.. so many fucked up couples out there are together for whatever reasons.. but then I find someone who really works for me and it ends for really no reason? What a fucked up world where the guy who beats the shit out of women keeps them in love.

I tolerated verbal abuse and control for like forever.... but I got out THE FIRST AND LAST TIME he beat me. I do NOT tolerate any sort of control or abuse from anyone - PERIOD. Why do women and men tolerate abuse?... simple. They were raised with it and sadly we dont evern realize that we are being abused when it is happening. The good news is, nothing that some therapy cant fix.

But moving on to your last paragraph:

Bor, it goes both ways.... I finally found someone that works for me, treated me like a queen, no abuse, no control, no bullshit.... and then, bam - over (sort of... I guess, but not really) for no reason.

Go out, have dinner, see what comes next.

Me, I am done being confused and hurt... taking it one day at a time. I am moving on. If he pulls his head out of his ass in time, then there will be a happily ever after for us. If not, C'est la vie.

Sometimes I think that when a couple gets too close they need some time to breathe to see things more clearly.... or the relationship just needs to end. Either way, only time will tell.