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Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?
 
Just remember when he starts taking the "little" bus to school, everyone will refer to him as the "special" kid.
 
BTW, i work with him on a daily basis on the skills he needs to master in school plus daily rewards/consequences for his behavior at school ( he has trouble focusing and staying on task ). should i not freak out about all this since he is only in kinergarten for crying out loud
 
flex123 said:
Just remember when he starts taking the "little" bus to school, everyone will refer to him as the "special" kid.
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LOL. well right now it seems it is his behavior that gets in the way of his school work. he is certainly smart enough to learn the work so no need for the short bus
 
Stangfriik said:
thought about ADD or ADHD medication?
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well, no. 1) he is only 5 years old and in kindergarten 2) he is not bouncing off the walls or anything 3) this is only his first grading period of real school in his life. i wouldnt even consider it to be a problem of that magnitude at this juncture, however, his father was and still is ADD and was on medication as a child.
 
if he doesnt have any sort of learning disabilities, it could be just the destractions of his environment...i know that for me when im trying to do something talking is a huge problem for me, as well as just wanting to get my ass out of there.


but dont give him too much of a hard time about it, if possible...maybe if your serious about this go in and talk to the teachers about his actions in class and see if he is on task, or just goofing off. if hes goofing off, you should definately disapline him for that, so this way as he gets older he will have his OWN appreciation for grades...and then after that all you gotta worry about is if the subject material is whats making his grades bad, and not if his attitude/actions in school is.



i lost my train of thought, because im like that...hope i helped a little
 
try positive reenforcement rather than stress your kid out with negativity. tell him you'll take him to an amusement park or somewhere that he likes if he gets all A's. and to keep him on track from day to day, tell him he can't watch TV till he has all his homework done, but then reward him with pizza or something on the weekends if he has kept on track without needed to be reminded. something like that... worked for me :)

(and yes i think it's VERY important that a kid stays on top of school from the very start... if he doesn't, he won't get into the accelerated programs in elementary and middleschools, which means he won't do AP in highschool, which means he won't get into a good college etc etc.. you have to set a good trend at an early age or you are screwed nowadays)
 
SublimeZM said:
if he doesnt have any sort of learning disabilities, it could be just the destractions of his environment...i know that for me when im trying to do something talking is a huge problem for me, as well as just wanting to get my ass out of there.


but dont give him too much of a hard time about it, if possible...maybe if your serious about this go in and talk to the teachers about his actions in class and see if he is on task, or just goofing off. if hes goofing off, you should definately disapline him for that, so this way as he gets older he will have his OWN appreciation for grades...and then after that all you gotta worry about is if the subject material is whats making his grades bad, and not if his attitude/actions in school is.



i lost my train of thought, because im like that...hope i helped a little
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thank you. and i talk to his teacher on a daily basis because i drop him off at school every morning and pick him up so im kept abreast of his behavior every day. his teacher reports that he has a hard time paying attention during class work and he seems easily distracted especially in a group setting. im hoping he is just making the adjustment to a more structured classroom. when i asked him why he is having a hard time he tells me that he gets distracted easily like when people walk down the hall or when he hears talking from outside the class
 
CollegeKid2 said:
try positive reenforcement rather than stress your kid out with negativity. tell him you'll take him to an amusement park or somewhere that he likes if he gets all A's. and to keep him on track from day to day, tell him he can't watch TV till he has all his homework done, but then reward him with pizza or something on the weekends if he has kept on track without needed to be reminded. something like that... worked for me :)

(and yes i think it's VERY important that a kid stays on top of school from the very start... if he doesn't, he won't get into the accelerated programs in elementary and middleschools, which means he won't do AP in highschool, which means he won't get into a good college etc etc.. you have to set a good trend at an early age or you are screwed nowadays)
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i agree. and he does receive rewards or consequences daily based on his behavior at school that day ( i get daily reports from the teacher). i dont feel like im stressing him out about it but its stresssing me LOL when i communicate with him about school and improving, i always let him know how smart he is and that he can do good work and he can behave well because he is a good boy. i try to stay positive at all times. i just dont want to be all over him all the time about it in case it backfires. arent kids fun?
 
I wouldn't worry about it so much for the time being.

You want to know what stress is?

At least you have a little boy. When he gets to be a young adult you will only have 1 dick to worry about. I have two daughters soon to be young adults and I have to worry about ALL of the dicks.
 
When I was in middle school, I would print out report card replicas and sell them to my classmates. They would tell me the grades they wanted, and I wrote it all up.

-sk
 
HumorMe said:
I wouldn't worry about it so much for the time being.

You want to know what stress is?

At least you have a little boy. When he gets to be a young adult you will only have 1 dick to worry about. I have two daughters soon to be young adults and I have to worry about ALL of the dicks.
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LOL. good point. ok maybe ill stop worrying now
 
Update: I had the parent-teacher conference last night with his 3rd grade teacher and he's doing so much better now that he's been through eval and testing and its been determined that he has A) visual processing learning disability and B) ADHD. He's being treat with meds for the ADHD and doing remarkably well in that area. His behavior at school is fantastic! His teachers love him. The Learning Disability he has a special plan at school and he gets one-on-one resource instruction, special accomodations, and small group instruction as well.

He actually got a B in math! hooray! Things are looking up and he's feeling good about school.
 
Smurfy said:
Update: I had the parent-teacher conference last night with his 3rd grade teacher and he's doing so much better now that he's been through eval and testing and its been determined that he has A) visual processing learning disability and B) ADHD. He's being treat with meds for the ADHD and doing remarkably well in that area. His behavior at school is fantastic! His teachers love him. The Learning Disability he has a special plan at school and he gets one-on-one resource instruction, special accomodations, and small group instruction as well.

He actually got a B in math! hooray! Things are looking up and he's feeling good about school.
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That's great to hear, Smurfy. I know that ADHD is overly diagnosed but there are actual cases out there like yours that do need the diagnosis.
 
lucky for me i finally got honor roll my last year or school on the first term and colleges dont look at the rest so smooth sailing for me. (never got honor roll since primary school :()
 
with very young kids you walk a fine line between not doing enough and complete overload for the kid. . .be careful. . .maybe the kid's friggin bored. . .happens more often than you might think. . .
 
Awesome news Smurf..
Good job, both of you.

Now as a reward, get the boy some clothes.. :)
 
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I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.
 
Smurfy said:
Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?
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OMG! Yesssssss. Kindergarten too....however, mini me gets color cards at school for behavior. Not so much academics. She's extremely advanced in her academics...reading, writing, adding, subtracting some stuff....BUUUUUTTTT lord have mercy if I get one more bad behavior report I'm going to lock her in her room with me for the next 10 years. It's sooooo disheartening when she comes home with yet another bad behavior report. :(

I actually had to do THE hardest thing I've done yet as a mother a week ago and did not take her trick or treating because her report was so bad at school. OH....MAH....GAH. Talk about a tantrum. But for she and I.....we don't watch alot of television at home...never have...so for me to take away TV or the radio....or her toys....just wasn't significant enough in her lil 5 year old brain. I tell you what....it was by far the best thing I could've done in her eyes. (Though she probably plotted my death that night) Her little butt has straightened up alot at school. Last night her school hosted a skate night (go 80's!)...I told her she was NOT going unless she came home with a purple card (best behavior report). Needless to say, I pulled my pony tail to the side, teased up my bangs a bit and strapped on my fanny pack....I was sooooooooooooo proud of her for getting purple. (not to mention we had a friggin' blast skating!) YAY FOR GOOD BEHAVIOR!

Wow...I just typed alot. Dang.
 
I stress out myself but the difference with me is mine is older. He always did well in school up until last year...middle school. But I have been using this system that works for me anyway and since your son is younger you may have to make some small changes but for every good grade my son gets he earns tickets. You set the scale like 3 for A's, 2 for B's and 1 for C's. Bad grades I deduct. So many tickets he earns things. In may case 5 tickets for hour of playstation, 10 tickets go to movies...something like that. They seem to find satisfaction in earning these tickets. One of my son't teachers gave me this suggestion.
Good luck to you because I know how tuff this is. I think I dread report cards more than my son does.
 
Report cards are not a true measure of a childs intelligence. Most Cee students turn out to be more successful than 4.0 A+++ students in life. Why because people skills are equally as important and while they are not constantly building their book knowledge they are more than not expanding their people skills. A report card just measures how well they did their homework (And tests) some of us (C students) know the material but would rather hang with friends than spend an extra hour making sure the homework was right. Double checking comes over time eventually when someone starts paying you to do something right.
 
habitualhealth said:
I actually had to do THE hardest thing I've done yet as a mother a week ago and did not take her trick or treating because her report was so bad at school.
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Honestly, I think there's got to be better punishments than that. My daughter would have to rob a bank or something for me to not let her go trick or treating at 5 years old. There's a real limited number of years that they can enjoy kid stuff. My daughter is 12 and feels like shes too old to go trick or treating, and it is god damn sad for me.
Everyone give HH red.
 
dognutz said:
I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.
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It's been my experience that schools are careful about "saying" a kid has ADHD because this is not something that can really be diagnosed by a teacher. It requires evaluation by a mental health professional (ie therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, etc). Mostly, it is diagnosed by behavioral observation and teacher/parent report or surveys. Very little in the way of actual psychological tests can be used to arrive at a diagnosis for ADHD. The school teachers will often report what they see behaviorally or functionally in the school setting, but beyond that, they are careful with how they report things to the parents. And if they arent careful, they certainly should be. Its one thing to suggest that a child may have a problem with inattention or focus or impulse control, its a whole other thing to suggest a diagnosis of ADHD when a child has not been properly evaluated.
 
Oh god. Smurf I know exacty what you are talking about here. My son is now is 2nd grade but I was a reck when he was in kindergarden. His work was not what I believed it should have been. He has made great progress since K-garden. But In answer to your ?, yes I was stressed and worried and went to plenty of meetings.
 
Florida has voluntary public preschool for four year olds. I think it introduces children to a structured teaching environment at an earlier age and they're much better equipped when the child steps into kindergarten.
 
jestro said:
Honestly, I think there's got to be better punishments than that. My daughter would have to rob a bank or something for me to not let her go trick or treating at 5 years old. There's a real limited number of years that they can enjoy kid stuff. My daughter is 12 and feels like shes too old to go trick or treating, and it is god damn sad for me.
Everyone give HH red.
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As a parent you do what you know will work for your child. Each punishment for each child is different. And as a mother, it's my sole responsibility to identify with what will impact her even at 5 years old, to go in the direction she needs to be. If I tell her, if you do this, then this will happen....If I do NOT abide by that then trust, respect, security, love, and honor is NOT instilled in her. Regardless of what YOU do for your child as punishment, you're in no place to instruct or dictate how I should punish mine.

Clearly you don't understand the severity of instilling at a VERY EARLY age, respect and principals. If I allowed her to go trick or treating after 7 weeks of misbehaving at school in the worst way and specifically telling her if your behavior does NOT improve, you will not do this........I would have failed her as a mother.

Your close minded approach speaks volumes for you. Don't think for two seconds I didn't cry my eyes out that night. Even through her 2-3 hour tantrum, I held strong to my word. I could've easily caved. All that would instill in her is that "you know what honey, it's ok to continue acting that way...all you have to do is cry and pitch a fit and you'll get what you want". It's a shame there aren't more parents out there like me who are able to make a decision like that for their child. Trust that, at five years old, she is WELL aware of what is going on. It's her job to push the envelope and test the limits as much as possible. It's my job to teach her where that line of limit falls and to make sure she understands that regardless of her age and actions, she too is responsible.

Clearly that consequence made an impact. Her behavior has significantly improved since. Her teacher has since contacted me saying she was extremely impressed as well as other parties involved.

Too many parents take the easy road these days. It's a shame.
 
My daughter is in Trans K. That's the year in between prek and kendergarten. lol So anyway, the teacher says "She knows her stuff because she verbaslly tells me all the answers easily, but when we sit down to put them on paper, she gets distracted. When I ask her to draw the difference between 2 ducks and 12 ducks, she doesn't draw just 10 ducks, she keeps going up to 20 or more. She knows better than that."


ummm wtf? Did we do subtraction and math like that in PRE- K? This is the teacher's first year out of college. She really should be supervised when teaching these kids.


This week the teacher told us "I think I've been pushing the kids too hard."

lol I'll break her!
 
habitualhealth said:
Clearly you don't understand the severity of instilling at a VERY EARLY age, respect and principals. If I allowed her to go trick or treating after 7 weeks of misbehaving at school in the worst way and specifically telling her if your behavior does NOT improve, you will not do this........I would have failed her as a mother.

Your close minded approach speaks volumes for you.

Too many parents take the easy road these days. It's a shame.
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I understand plenty. I'm trying to tell you that there are better punishments than the one you used.
Also, a kid that age can't look 7 weeks into the future. You cant say in September anything about halloween. Thats another world to them. If she has problems on September 4th, you need to dole out the punishment that day.
Of course, once you say something you need to follow through, you just may want to think alittle bit about what you say.
 
dognutz said:
I was just about to say that the school is going to say he has add or adhd because they say any kid that is not a piece of mold in class has it, they tried to say my kid had it but all the tests said nope which killed his teacher and the shrink. One of the biggest factors is hereditary though and nobody on either side of our family ever had it but sounds like yours does. I do know the meds work well for kids that actually need it.
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That is exactly how the city I am living in is..Every child who misbehaves had Adhd and needs to be put on meds. I had my son diagnosed at a young age with Adhd, it does not help that he has a disapline problem as well.For 3 years now I have been batteling with "medicate,medicate,medicate". The school gets all pissy with me because I refuse to put him on meds. Been there done that. I am sorry but I am not about to make my child dependent on meds that i feel are not needed. Sure he has adhd, but it is not a severe case. The older he gets the better he seems to get. Now the school is just focused on me putting him on meds, nothing more.
See the problem is that they get paid to teach my child. No more, no less.
I just found out from my friend who had her teacher/parent conference that they are now starting the same bullshit with her about her son. It is sad the lengths that the schools will go to.
 
jestro said:
I understand plenty. I'm trying to tell you that there are better punishments than the one you used.
Also, a kid that age can't look 7 weeks into the future. You cant say in September anything about halloween. Thats another world to them. If she has problems on September 4th, you need to dole out the punishment that day.
Of course, once you say something you need to follow through, you just may want to think alittle bit about what you say.
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I never suggested I said "7 weeks from now you're not going trick or treating unless your behavior improves". What better punishment would you suggest dad?

I'm dying to know what you think I should've done that I hadn't tried already.

In addition, color codes...purple is the best, blue, yellow, green, and red is the worst. This tells me she has AT LEAST 5 opportunities at school to straighten up her act before she gets put in time out and ultimately to the principals office. In addition, she faces consequences at home with each color. The few days prior she had received green. I pick her up after school ON HALLOWEEN and she says "guess what mommy, I've got a surprise for you!" Excited I say, "really? what is it?".......She puts her hand on her hip and says "I got RED today!" :worried: Astonished and in TOTAL shock....the decision I made at that point was in fact the best for her than evening.
 
gonelifting said:
When I ask her to draw the difference between 2 ducks and 12 ducks, she doesn't draw just 10 ducks, she keeps going up to 20 or more. She knows better than that."
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You should have taken away all her toys and told her she can not go trick or treating for the rest of her life. j/k!
 
Unfortunately, instruction is not centered around each child's needs, rather it is standardized for the entire population. Not everyone learns the same way. Not everyone's brain takes in and retains information the same way. I read an interesting book by Dr. Mel Levine called A Mind at a Time and it is very relevant to this topic. Also another book I read about a couple of Ivy League college students who suffered with Learning Disabilities and ADHD growing up, called Learning Outside the Lines. I'd suggest these books for anyone interested or anyone who is experiencing these types of things with their own children.
 
Smurfy, I didnt read the entire thread I am on my way out but a few things I wanted to impart (since you aksed).

1 - You sound like a VERY VERY VERY good mother. relax.

2 - You sound like you have a VERY VERY VERY healthy and normal kindergarten aged boy. relax.

I'll be more specific when I have time later to read the entire thread. But I wanted you to not feel so stressed about something that most mothers stress about when any child goes off to school, no less when it is their first. :)
 
One of the most unproductive methods of communicating is to criticize other peoples' parenting techniques when you dont know the child or the parent or the situation first hand. Nothing good can come of that kind of an exchange, especially with a stranger on the internet discussion board. It's one thing if someone asks for advice on how to approach or handle a specific situation, but to tell someone they are wrong in how they handled their child is pretty useless. Oh yeah, and also, it's very common for parents to believe they are the experts.
 
Smurfy said:
One of the most unproductive methods of communicating is to criticize other peoples' parenting techniques when you dont know the child or the parent or the situation first hand. Nothing good can come of that kind of an exchange, especially with a stranger on the internet discussion board. It's one thing if someone asks for advice on how to approach or handle a specific situation, but to tell someone they are wrong in how they handled their child is pretty useless. Oh yeah, and also, it's very common for parents to believe they are the experts.
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So true. Gah, I wish I WERE an expert. More so, wish that mini me popped out with a manual. Unfortunately, God didn't intend it that way. My life revolves around my little girl. And no matter what transpires between she and I....all I can do is continue to ask God to guide me in the right direction for her.

And you're right, it's hard not to get defensive when someone who knows nothing about you or your child insists on telling you you are doing wrong by your child.

Quite frankly I'd like to punch the effer. :D Good thing I ooze with luv. :heart:




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habitualhealth said:
pick her up after school ON HALLOWEEN and she says "guess what mommy, I've got a surprise for you!" Excited I say, "really? what is it?".......She puts her hand on her hip and says "I got RED today!"
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Ok, that's pretty bad.
I'm only trying to say that you have a limited amount of special holidays...they are gone before you know it!
 
Smurfy said:
Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?
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i know your son has ADD (or adhd). one of mine has a mild case of it too. i think he's grown out of it, but school was always hard for him. i'm gonna sound like one of those commercials for those learning centers, but yelling and screaming didn't work. neither did punishment. i used to think it was just him being lazy but it was more than that. the most you can do is CONSTANTLY work with him and stay on top of everything. be in contact with his teacher as much as possible. Its going to feel like YOU'RE the one in school, and I don't doubt that you've probably said "who's in school here, me or you??" but its the only way you can assure than he does his work and tries, because without you - its easier just to goof off and let it go.
my other child, btw- i have never had to check her homework. its always done, she's always studied and she's upset if she doesn't get 100 on a test.

My other child, as you know, i didn't raise myself- he gets good grades most of the time without trying, but doesn't care if he fails a test. its frustrating because I know he could get straight A's if he tries, but he gets mostly A's with a few scattered C's and is happy with that.
 
Smurfy said:
Unfortunately, instruction is not centered around each child's needs, rather it is standardized for the entire population. Not everyone learns the same way. Not everyone's brain takes in and retains information the same way. I read an interesting book by Dr. Mel Levine called A Mind at a Time and it is very relevant to this topic. Also another book I read about a couple of Ivy League college students who suffered with Learning Disabilities and ADHD growing up, called Learning Outside the Lines. I'd suggest these books for anyone interested or anyone who is experiencing these types of things with their own children.
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Very true.

BUT, a good (responsible) teacher will use a variety of modalities so that all children's learning styles are hit. Children with special needs should have a Individualized Education Plan that will help teachers with the particular child's needs.

Also, this is when leveled ability grouping comes into play also. My kindergarteners are split into groups of 5 based on ability and I meet with them daily to remediate or challenge that particular group in reading, phonics, or math.
 
Daisy_Girl said:
Very true.

BUT, a good (responsible) teacher will use a variety of modalities so that all children's learning styles are hit. Children with special needs should have a Individualized Education Plan that will help teachers with the particular child's needs.

Also, this is when leveled ability grouping comes into play also. My kindergarteners are split into groups of 5 based on ability and I meet with them daily to remediate or challenge that particular group in reading, phonics, or math.
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My son is on an IEP which was started back in 1st grade for his visual processing issues and other things related to retaining and recalling what he's learned. Right now he's in 3rd grade and his instruction level for READING/LANGUAGE is well below grade level. He is instructed for reading and writing in a small group setting with a resource teacher for reading and one for the writing. I'd estimate his skill level to be at about what would be expected for end of 1st grade/beginning of 2nd grade - BUT - he loves to read, loves books, and enjoys his time in school. I'm so pleased that the fact that he has struggled academically has not interfered with his self-esteem and self-confidence.
 
My Mom used traditional Italian discipline, she broke a wooden spoon over my head a number of times. It worked, I'm doing fine.
 
CO B-man said:
Report cards are not a true measure of a childs intelligence. Most Cee students turn out to be more successful than 4.0 A+++ students in life. Why because people skills are equally as important and while they are not constantly building their book knowledge they are more than not expanding their people skills. A report card just measures how well they did their homework (And tests) some of us (C students) know the material but would rather hang with friends than spend an extra hour making sure the homework was right. Double checking comes over time eventually when someone starts paying you to do something right.
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This is true, unless the person getting bad grades doesnt have people skills either, like my brother.
 
Gymgurl said:
IEP is very important!
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An IEP is the only way to get any additional support in the school system. As a parent do not wait for the school to tell you something is amiss, you need to be aggressive and proactive. I've seem IEP's take months to get the ball rolling. There is so much money in education for special needs, that never gets spent. Also remember if your child is in a low performing school, under the "No Child Left Behind" you have the right to have your child moved to a higher performing school, even out of zone. Especially important if you have a "GATE" kid.
Being the Mom of 3, I just wanted to say I've never rewarded for grades other than high praise for a job well done. My thinking has always been going to school was their job, put your best effort into it and the doors will be open. Screw-off and darn..summer school.

Peace
 
Your son is stupid, that's gotta suck.

But on the real, if he can't get good grades in Kindergarten you fucked somewhere. Ffingerpainting and nap time isn't something kids sound be able to mess-up.
 
stilleto said:
i know your son has ADD (or adhd). one of mine has a mild case of it too. i think he's grown out of it, but school was always hard for him. i'm gonna sound like one of those commercials for those learning centers, but yelling and screaming didn't work. neither did punishment. i used to think it was just him being lazy but it was more than that. the most you can do is CONSTANTLY work with him and stay on top of everything. be in contact with his teacher as much as possible. Its going to feel like YOU'RE the one in school, and I don't doubt that you've probably said "who's in school here, me or you??" but its the only way you can assure than he does his work and tries, because without you - its easier just to goof off and let it go.
my other child, btw- i have never had to check her homework. its always done, she's always studied and she's upset if she doesn't get 100 on a test.

My other child, as you know, i didn't raise myself- he gets good grades most of the time without trying, but doesn't care if he fails a test. its frustrating because I know he could get straight A's if he tries, but he gets mostly A's with a few scattered C's and is happy with that.
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ADD and ADHD is getting to be a big problem. I recently watched a video on YouTube that talked about that and alternative ways to treat it. Pretty interesting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zP6xKlN71ug
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Your son is stupid, that's gotta suck.

But on the real, if he can't get good grades in Kindergarten you fucked somewhere. Ffingerpainting and nap time isn't something kids sound be able to mess-up.
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Hey - great post! Very insightful!
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Your son is stupid, that's gotta suck.

But on the real, if he can't get good grades in Kindergarten you fucked somewhere. Ffingerpainting and nap time isn't something kids sound be able to mess-up.
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When is the last time you've walked into a kindergarten room? Fingerpainting and naps are preschool. Pardon me for saying this, but damn you're an idiot!
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Your son is stupid, that's gotta suck.

But on the real, if he can't get good grades in Kindergarten you fucked somewhere. Ffingerpainting and nap time isn't something kids sound be able to mess-up.
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looks like your mom screwed up big time. or you're the stupid one, eh?
 
I worry about stuff like this when I have a kid. I'm horribly scatter brained and have a hard time finishing projects. I have 5 files I'm working on right now, and I keep jumping back and forth file to file to EF to file, walk down and get water, forget what I was doing, then get back to work, do this all day. I always had decent grades because I test well, but reports and other projects where I'd have to focus were tough for me. I was a teacher's nightmare, because I'd do my homework during class to keep myself busy and then I'd be fidgeting around not paying attention because I didn't have to. Obviously I want better for mini me than I was able to do for myself. Are tutors a better way to go? Private schools? Wtf?
 
radarstoy said:
When is the last time you've walked into a kindergarten room? Fingerpainting and naps are preschool. Pardon me for saying this, but damn you're an idiot!
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Last time I was in a Kindergarten class I was 5. Actually, I remember learning french in that class. But whatever.

It's fair to make fun of my terribly formed sentence. But just know, I got A's all my life, I didn't study, I was just smarter than everyone else. Graduated from high school salutatorian (323 graduating class), 1340 on my SATs, graduated from USC with honors, and now I'm a first year law student.

So go ahead and call me dumb but I know damn well I'm probably smarter than you.
 
don't freak out smurfy.= It doesn't mean he's not intelligent, as I am sure you know, school can be challenging in so many different ways and not every kid can adapt quickly, or even ever, but it doesn't mean they are a failure, not at all.
 
Smurfy said:
Any other parents here find themselves getting overly stressed out about your young childs report card? Im talking Kindergarten here. Im wondering if my son will always have a hard time in school if he cant get a Satisfactory grade in just Kindergarten? Im all stressed and worried. I never had a problem in school in my life. School was always easy. Im not sure if over reacting will make things worse for him but also if i dont make a big deal about it, how will he get the picture that he really needs to work harder?
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Please tell us you're going to bend him over your knee and spank him if he gets bad grades. Or even good grades.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Last time I was in a Kindergarten class I was 5. Actually, I remember learning french in that class. But whatever.

It's fair to make fun of my terribly formed sentence. But just know, I got A's all my life, I didn't study, I was just smarter than everyone else. Graduated from high school salutatorian (323 graduating class), 1340 on my SATs, graduated from USC with honors, and now I'm a first year law student.

So go ahead and call me dumb but I know damn well I'm probably smarter than you.
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Who are you trying to convince us or yourself? :worried:

I'm pretty sure the thread wasn't titled "Anyone ever stress over beachbum's lack of education?"

French in kindergarten? Yeah....sound it out with me...."FRENCH....FRY". Yum.

Seriously, you're not impressing anyone. Allow me to teach you something your kindergarten teach clearly forgot "If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all."

:finger:
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Last time I was in a Kindergarten class I was 5. Actually, I remember learning french in that class. But whatever.

It's fair to make fun of my terribly formed sentence. But just know, I got A's all my life, I didn't study, I was just smarter than everyone else. Graduated from high school salutatorian (323 graduating class), 1340 on my SATs, graduated from USC with honors, and now I'm a first year law student.

So go ahead and call me dumb but I know damn well I'm probably smarter than you.
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Did you ever pick up any social skills along the way? Learn how to interact with others without coming off as a dickhead? No you say? I'm somehow not surprised.

If you want to practice at being a lawyer, perhaps you could read the entire thread before commenting.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
Last time I was in a Kindergarten class I was 5. Actually, I remember learning french in that class. But whatever.

It's fair to make fun of my terribly formed sentence. But just know, I got A's all my life, I didn't study, I was just smarter than everyone else. Graduated from high school salutatorian (323 graduating class), 1340 on my SATs, graduated from USC with honors, and now I'm a first year law student.

So go ahead and call me dumb but I know damn well I'm probably smarter than you.
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guess what, stupid?
i didn't go to kindergarten. or first grade- i was skipped into 2nd and graduated high school at 16, college at 20, and got my masters degree by age 22.
full scholarships.
and you know what?
I can write a sentence and you can't. stupid.
 
CO B-man said:
Report cards are not a true measure of a childs intelligence. Most Cee students turn out to be more successful than 4.0 A+++ students in life. Why because people skills are equally as important and while they are not constantly building their book knowledge they are more than not expanding their people skills. A report card just measures how well they did their homework (And tests) some of us (C students) know the material but would rather hang with friends than spend an extra hour making sure the homework was right. Double checking comes over time eventually when someone starts paying you to do something right.
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bumped for beachbum Please take note of my people skills comments!
 
stilleto said:
guess what, stupid?
i didn't go to kindergarten. or first grade- i was skipped into 2nd and graduated high school at 16, college at 20, and got my masters degree by age 22.
full scholarships.
and you know what?
I can write a sentence and you can't. stupid.
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I have a very rich friend that this happened to. Except he was more expelled from school for selling marijuana. He got his Masters in accounting by age 22 and invited his high school teachers and principal. THen he bought his dads accounting firm from him! great guy just made a mistake that made his life better!
 
stilleto said:
guess what, stupid?
i didn't go to kindergarten. or first grade- i was skipped into 2nd and graduated high school at 16, college at 20, and got my masters degree by age 22.
full scholarships.
and you know what?
I can write a sentence and you can't. stupid.
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So, what do you do now?
 
i wonder if your son will read this thread one day once he is older.

I'm not a parent, so blow me off if you wish, but I think its important not to get too hung up on disabilities. EVERYONE's fucked up somehow. I had a mild dyslexia, never really thought twice about it. My cousin had something similar and is now trying to get government aid or something as an adult because she says she can't work? wtf?

I've got a BLIND computer engineer here that writes better code than most people. We've got a guy in a wheelchair too. These two are both genuises in their own right but could have easily used their disabilities as excuses not to do shit.
 
Lestat said:
i wonder if your son will read this thread one day once he is older.

I'm not a parent, so blow me off if you wish, but I think its important not to get too hung up on disabilities. EVERYONE's fucked up somehow. I had a mild dyslexia, never really thought twice about it. My cousin had something similar and is now trying to get government aid or something as an adult because she says she can't work? wtf?

I've got a BLIND computer engineer here that writes better code than most people. We've got a guy in a wheelchair too. These two are both genuises in their own right but could have easily used their disabilities as excuses not to do shit.
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yeah i know. that's why I mentioned the fact that everyone learns differently, and also those two books I mentioned regarding this subject. definitely not hung up on his disability. frankly, he doesnt even know of the term learning disability. all he knows is he gets special attention for his reading instruction. and he loves that. he gets regular instruction for everything else and he gets B's in every other subject in 3rd grade.
 
Smurfy said:
yeah i know. that's why I mentioned the fact that everyone learns differently, and also those two books I mentioned regarding this subject. definitely not hung up on his disability. frankly, he doesnt even know of the term learning disability. all he knows is he gets special attention for his reading instruction. and he loves that. he gets regular instruction for everything else and he gets B's in every other subject in 3rd grade.
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I didn't mean to imply that you were doing anything wrong, I'm not one to tell you how to parent, I'm not one and will probably be asking you a ton of questions if I ever have children!

I've just seen a few people, not most, just a few, use a fairly common "disability" or disorder as an excuse for pretty much everything. Like I said, my cousin. She was so damn smart too. Now whenever something doesn't go her way she pulls out some major disability that you can't really argue against.

I say suck it up, what did people do before we had the DSM guidelines, they made due with the hand they were dealt!
 
jnevin said:
Why not quit while you're behind?
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I am curious. Clearly, she is extremely bright so I'm interested in what she did with that huge brain.

Sounds like she could do great things so I assume she is.

I don't care if I make fun of people or insult them, fuck that. People need to toughen up a little. I made a crack at her kid having a problem and every women on the board is acting like I poured gasoline on him and set him on fire.

If the kid has ADD/ADHD or any nonsense like that, get his ass on some ritalin and make him study. When I didn't want to study my dad beat me, and he made me a better man for it. It's very difficult to get a kid to understand how important grades are so sometimes the best way to get him to do work is to be a tough mother.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
I am curious. Clearly, she is extremely bright so I'm interested in what she did with that huge brain.

Sounds like she could do great things so I assume she is.

I don't care if I make fun of people or insult them, fuck that. People need to toughen up a little. I made a crack at her kid having a problem and every women on the board is acting like I poured gasoline on him and set him on fire.

If the kid has ADD/ADHD or any nonsense like that, get his ass on some ritalin and make him study. When I didn't want to study my dad beat me, and he made me a better man for it. It's very difficult to get a kid to understand how important grades are so sometimes the best way to get him to do work is to be a tough mother.
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I'm guessing you didnt read the entire thread. If you did read it, I'm wondering how you made it this far with such piss poor reading comprehension skills.

I think the point is, you gain absolutely nothing in making a derogatory comment about someone's child. If you gain anything from that, then you seriously lack the emotional intelligence necessary to make it in the real world. I hate to break it to you, but college is not the real world.
 
superdave said:
Kindergarten is way too young to gauge a childs future academic success.
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While somewhat true, it is also not entirely accurate. It can depend on the child, the parents, and the school.

A child with a poor basis will struggle with most concepts. For example, if you "leave" kindergarten without knowing letter sounds or have letter recognition, learning to read will be a huge struggle.

A child with a poor base will have low fluency and low comprehension in reading - because they are spending so much time trying to decode words - rather than focusing on the flow of reading and the understanding of what they are reading.

A child who does not read well, will struggle in math. Why? Try reading a word problem when you cannot understand the words. Try reading directions.

While a child can do poorly in kindergarten and still succeed later (of course) .... it is more likely that they will continue to struggle. Often, the children who do not do well in kindergarten have parents who do not understand the value of education.

I could tell you with reasonable accuracy the children in my kindergarten classes who will likely struggle through school and tell you those who will likely succeed.

Kidnergarten is more than fingerpainting and naptime. Kindergarteners now have to take standardized tests .... It is actually amazing what they are expected to learn and much they DO learn. It is a lot of fun and games, but there is a helluva lotta curriculum too.
 
Smurfy said:
I'm guessing you didnt read the entire thread. If you did read it, I'm wondering how you made it this far with such piss poor reading comprehension skills.

I think the point is, you gain absolutely nothing in making a derogatory comment about someone's child. If you gain anything from that, then you seriously lack the emotional intelligence necessary to make it in the real world. I hate to break it to you, but college is not the real world.
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I read it, he's in third grade now and got a "B." To add to that he's happy about it.

"Real world" comment is such a cop out. I'm in the real world too. I had to bust my ass to get the grades I wanted, I earned them. Now I bust my ass in law school. And even you would know law school, especially the first year, is EXTREMELY hard. Learning 100 pages per day of new material is much more demanding on the brain than most jobs out there. I've seen the movie office space too.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
I read it, he's in third grade now and got a "B." To add to that he's happy about it.

"Real world" comment is such a cop out. I'm in the real world too. I had to bust my ass to get the grades I wanted, I earned them. Now I bust my ass in law school. And even you would know law school, especially the first year, is EXTREMELY hard. Learning 100 pages per day of new material is much more demanding on the brain than most jobs out there. I've seen the movie office space too.
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lol. you're right. you've obviously got it all figured out. much moreso than those who are actually living in it. yes, your posts exude a high level of intelligence. it's flowing out of your every orifice.
 
Smurfy said:
lol. you're right. you've obviously got it all figured out. much moreso than those who are actually living in it. yes, your posts exude a high level of intelligence. it's flowing out of your every orifice.
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My posts don't need to sound smart. I believe what I am doing with my life shows that.

Why is your life more "real" than mine? Because you have a 9 to 5 job? I spend just as much time in a day going to class, typing notes, and studying.

Because you got knocked up and had a kid? You got me there, I'd be damned if I had a kid. I couldn't even see myself having a kid before I'm 30 or getting married for that matter.

Maybe I'm not in the real world and if that is true I have a feeling when I do get in the real world all the work I am doing now will set me up nicely for when I join.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
My posts don't need to sound smart. I believe what I am doing with my life shows that.

Why is your life more "real" than mine? Because you have a 9 to 5 job? I spend just as much time in a day going to class, typing notes, and studying.

Because you got knocked up and had a kid? You got me there, I'd be damned if I had a kid. I couldn't even see myself having a kid before I'm 30 or getting married for that matter.

Maybe I'm not in the real world and if that is true I have a feeling when I do get in the real world all the work I am doing now will set me up nicely for when I join.
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lol best of luck to you when you actually get there. hopefully you'll pick up something along the way. you're going to need it.
 
Smurfy said:
lol best of luck to you when you actually get there. hopefully you'll pick up something along the way. you're going to need it.
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Thanks for the advice, good luck with your retard baby.
 
Beachbum1546 said:
I am curious. Clearly, she is extremely bright so I'm interested in what she did with that huge brain.

Sounds like she could do great things so I assume she is.

I don't care if I make fun of people or insult them, fuck that. People need to toughen up a little. I made a crack at her kid having a problem and every women on the board is acting like I poured gasoline on him and set him on fire.

If the kid has ADD/ADHD or any nonsense like that, get his ass on some ritalin and make him study. When I didn't want to study my dad beat me, and he made me a better man for it. It's very difficult to get a kid to understand how important grades are so sometimes the best way to get him to do work is to be a tough mother.
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Well that's the cause, and beachbum's attitude in this thread is in turn, the effect.
 
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