So Daisy is talking to Kakdiesel and texting him and shit...

[Cutiebaby]

she cheated on me on boxing day with a skinny fuck also. thats why this all started just so you know.

So you are saying she was with someone other than kak?

 

[silverstar1025]

she told my best friends wife......so that tells me she wanted to get caught

Wow that sucks! Have you ever had a talk with her to ask her WHY she felt the need to cheat? I mean everyone has a reason I am sure usually. Did she put herself in that environment to cheat? Do you travel a lot? I am just always curious on why people cheat. Maybe it would help you out to know also if it was something you could have done differently or if sex with you just was not enough for her and she didn't think of you and what it would do to you. Cheaters suck though I know how bad it hurts. It hurts bad, but you will get over it one day.

 

[blueta2]

It doesn't in general, unless one plays up a single aspect of themselves to overshadow their other weaknesses. (Ever notice that very over weight women tend to have their make up, hair and nails done to the nines? Same thing)

Of course you need to be sexually compatible but there still needs to be more beyond that. After, 10, 20 years together that great time you have humping in your 20's may very well become strained (especially after kids) over time or worse non existent, so what will you have to save the relationship and bring you back to where you were before life got in the way?

For sake of example, let's say a man thinks that he's got it made with the ladies because of his job (makes good money) and penis and because of this thought process he doesn't put any effort to being a good person in other aspects of himself and it's all about money and sex. It's really the same thing as a woman that only focuses on her looks as bait to a man but doesn't expand any other part of herself (mind, career, etc) and thinks that's all she needs to land and keep a man.

Reality is that man and woman above will hook up because their superficial desires compliment each other but long term it would be difficult to sustain the relationship and they will eventually find ways to resent each other for who they are and for who are not. Relationship breaks down. They're scuba diving together but they didn't bring tanks of oxygen to keep the tour going.

I get it, we are animals so our greatest desire at the core is eating and breeding and very often our choices unconsciously reflect those desires. But at the same time we parade around as a superior species when we behave like we're no farther advanced then apes.

I would like to believe that most of the human population has evolved more than that.

Amazing post.........Very well said.
This post just confirms what everyone knows is true..............Vel, you got your shit together ;-)


By the way, I have no clue what this thread is about, but I'm guessing it's about cheating?

 

[blueta2]

Wow that sucks! Have you ever had a talk with her to ask her WHY she felt the need to cheat? I mean everyone has a reason I am sure usually. Did she put herself in that environment to cheat? Do you travel a lot? I am just always curious on why people cheat. Maybe it would help you out to know also if it was something you could have done differently or if sex with you just was not enough for her and she didn't think of you and what it would do to you. Cheaters suck though I know how bad it hurts. It hurts bad, but you will get over it one day.

cofession time; I cheated on my ex of 11 yrs. Why? Because I was immature (emotionally), he was never home, he ignored me, we were young, I was enticed by my ego and because I was stupid.
Once a cheater not always a cheater. It was the worst possible event that destroyed me as a person.
People cheat for all sorts of reasons, I did it for emotional support.

 

[Smurfy]

cofession time; I cheated on my ex of 11 yrs. Why? Because I was immature (emotionally), he was never home, he ignored me, we were young, I was enticed by my ego and because I was stupid.
Once a cheater not always a cheater. It was the worst possible event that destroyed me as a person.
People cheat for all sorts of reasons, I did it for emotional support.

to get their needs met, whatever those may be. but you're right that some people will not always be a cheater. although some will.

 

[silverstar1025]

cofession time; I cheated on my ex of 11 yrs. Why? Because I was immature (emotionally), he was never home, he ignored me, we were young, I was enticed by my ego and because I was stupid.
Once a cheater not always a cheater. It was the worst possible event that destroyed me as a person.
People cheat for all sorts of reasons, I did it for emotional support.

Yep I think 9 times out of 10 women do it because they are looking for emotional support and attention. Guys usually don't do it for that reason they are just looking for more sex. lol I know this is not true for all, but from stories I have heard from people it is usually this case.

 

[MichaelScott]

holy moly 800 replies

 

[vixensghost]

Does anyone believe in communication in relationships anymore? Christ....

 

[silverstar1025]

Does anyone believe in communication in relationships anymore? Christ....

+1 I think lots of cheating could be avoided if couples could just learn to talk to each other more about issues they are having so that they can be worked out.

 

[blueta2]

Does anyone believe in communication in relationships anymore? Christ....

that comes with age (maturity) and experience.