Paul_Allen said:
It hurts when you have feelings.......She has NONE towards me anymore...just moved on.....like nothing happened
I don't believe that either. Lotta people are very good at hiding their feelings.
Even after I kicked my ex out for all the shit he did, it still hurt that he went and fucked our home like that... It hurt that I chose such a piece of shit to father my only children - I felt like SUCH a loser for that, still do to a very small extent, even though I bigtime made up for it by who I chose to be my husband now.
I didn't love my ex after he beat me, that is a fact. But you better believe that I still hurt. I hurt for a long time, but then when I learned more about myself and why I made the choices that I did (picking HIM) and I began to do positive things with my life and make good choices for me and my girls, I would have to say that 90% of the hurt went away.
There will always be a part of me that hurts for my children. That is natural. But as for me, personally, the hurt is almost gone. Once my girls are with us and I can watch them blossom the way I have since I have been with the Old Grump all hurt will completely disappear.
For you it will be easier because even though Daisy may not have been a stellar wife in the end, by your own admission you know she loves your boys and is a good mother. Her actions towards you as their father, that is not for you to bear. She will have to deal with that all by herself for the rest of her life.