Should I invite my girlfriend to this board? I'm conflicted...

[frorider6]

Warlobo, I know this is more of a chat thread but I need to know the ladies opinion on this.

Ladies, I have a problem. I am dating a girl right now. I really like her and she likes me (I passed her a note in class one day to make sure). However, she has many misconceptions about training and weightlifting that I can't seem to break her of. She asks the questions and I answer them, but all the "popular" ideas about woman's sports fitness are too deeply ingrained in her. I'd like to bring her to this board so she can learn from you lades. She has such a fantastic body already. I'm trying to take her to the next level.

The problem is this. I've never hidden my steroid use on this board. I've just finished my first cycle and will probably do another one in a couple of months. The only person I've told was my workout partner and that was after he shared some equally incriminating personal info.

So, if I bring her here for advice and support, I will have to divulge my drug use. I just want you ladies to think back to before you came here and before you were exposed to steroids and think about how you first reacted to gear.

I'm conflicted. I want to bring her here to learn, but I'm concerned about how she will react to my usage. I truly do dig this chick and she's just as into me, but at what point do you talk about this stuff?

 

[Sassy69]

fro --

Print out or email to her the sticky that new@ posted above about why women should train:

http://boards.elitefitness.com/forum/showthread.php?threadid=93209

See what she thinks of it and see if she changes any of her perceptions. If you talk to her more, then see if she brings up steroid use at all or how receptive she seems to it. Then see how you feel about opening up that part of your life to her.

 

[frorider6]

I already copied the sticky by Superfrk and emailed that to her, and she loved it (I didn't tell her where it came from). And she already knows and agees with every point made in new@'s sticky, except maybe for #1 (about gaining muscle and losing fat).

The area she needs help in is realizing that free weights are the best thing for her. And she needs to talk to people that can help her. She needs the support that this board would offer.

Basically, I'm just one voice in a crowd. Even if I'm right, she might not fully believe me.

My reservations also extend to the Chat section of this place. I'm a bit rowdy sometimes and a tad of a flirt.

 

[frorider6]

If you talk to her more, then see if she brings up steroid use at all or how receptive she seems to it. Then see how you feel about opening up that part of your life to her.

I hope you didn't misunderstand me. I'm not saying I want her to do steroids. That is totally her choice, like it was mine, and I wouldn't push her either way on it. I don't think she's ready anyway.

It's not a subject that's likely to come up unless I bring it up. Which would probably prompt her to call me out on it. And I like her too much to lie to her.

 

[Sassy69]

That's not what I was implying -- I meant how receptive is she to the topic of steroids in discussion about fitness? If she is "open-minded" then you probably wouldn't worry too much about letting her in on our little Elite secret. If she just doesn't know what it is, then maybe talk some more. If she's totally put off, you might want to hold off a little before you let her into that part of your life. I'm just suggesting that you see how she reacts to the topic of steroids in general to gauge how she might react to you being on.

I'm not suggesting even REMOTELY that she consider AS. Obviously she needs to get educated on just nutrition & fitness in general.

Sorry if that's the way my post came across.

 

[JLo]

I think that unless you plan on cutting out the roids (which is probably not an option for you) that it's best that it come out now. What if things work out great with you guys and then the steriod usage comes out later on and is a big problem?

Unless you are willing to give it up for a girl, then I would make it known right away. Make sure it won't pose a problem later on down the road. Ya know?!

 

[frorider6]

I think that unless you plan on cutting out the roids (which is probably not an option for you) that it's best that it come out now. What if things work out great with you guys and then the steriod usage comes out later on and is a big problem?

Unless you are willing to give it up for a girl, then I would make it known right away. Make sure it won't pose a problem later on down the road. Ya know?!

You make a good point. But do you have to make it sound like I'm a crazy roid junky?

 

[Raina]

Does she know your user name here?? If she doesn't couldn't you simply encourage her to check out Elite but not say what name you post under?? I don't know if that's an option.

Eventually it probably is best to let her know what you're doing but I can see how one would be tentative about that when the person they're telling doesn't really know much about steroids. There really is a wealth of info here. Hell, even if you're not posting and you're just doing searches, this place is an awesome source of fitness education.

Or you can just say that you post here a lot and have her check it out-- it doesn't take long to realize that it's a steroid-friendly zone. Not everyone here does them (I don't...though I'd definately be open to it now more than before). Maybe she'd ask about your own use?? Interested in seeing what you end up doing.

 

[JLo]

You make a good point. But do you have to make it sound like I'm a crazy roid junky?

Well, my x-boyfriend takes steriods and I know how they can be mentally addicting..... that's all. I know he wouldn't quit for anything.... so, I didnt' mean that you were a junkie at all...... sorry if I offended you.... didn't mean to.

 

[frorider6]

Does she know your user name here?? If she doesn't couldn't you simply encourage her to check out Elite but not say what name you post under??

...this place is an awesome source of fitness education.

She doesn't know my user name but it would take her about 10 minutes to figure it out. I don't have a fake personality I use here. I have the same sense of humor here as in real life. And I'd hate for her to discover my use on an internet message board. I'd rather tell her in person.

The reason I want to bring her here is becasue is really is an awesome source of fitness education.

Well, my x-boyfriend takes steriods and I know how they can be mentally addicting..... that's all. I know he wouldn't quit for anything.... so, I didnt' mean that you were a junkie at all...... sorry if I offended you.... didn't mean to.

It's okay, I understand the sentiment. I've monitored my own personality over the course of this and it hasn't really affected me except for possibly raising my self-image. I don't buy into the "roid rage" excuse for anything either.

I'm not looking to get huge. But I do have goals. And my personal view on this is similar to most everything else in life. Moderation. This is definetly no worse for me than the smoking-drinking-bad-diet lifestyle.