Please Scroll Down to See Forums Below So new girlfriend, everything is great, we get intimate and for a LONG time, but I could tell she didn't cum, afterwards she tells me she NEVER has? She is 23 and gets so wet and excited but just can't climax, I have tried several times since then but can't get her off either, any women out there know a solution? She says she can't even get herself off, I'm totally at a lose here...
She can't cum...
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Castro_bigdog
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try the jack rabbit it works for real
KillahBee
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I had a similar chick a while ago. A little younger and probably less experienced (I was her 3rd) tho. Anyway, this girl was the sexiest female I had ever been with. EVER. But you know women, she didn't see herself that way in the least bit. She was totally shut down sexually. We'd have sex and all that fun stuff but she just wasn't 100% open with herself or me.
So....we talked. She told me her issues (build trust) and I told her my experiences. She was just kind of nervous about her lack of experience and her neurotic self image issues. Anyway, 9 times out of 10, when a girl can't cum at all it's one of these reasons:
- She has a poor self image and is too busy worrying during sex to actually enjoy it
- She is thinking too much about it
- She isn't quite comfortable yet with you
It's sometimes all three. Point being - get her comfortable and trusting. Once a woman is comfortable and in a trusting environment all of her sexual doors will be opened.
You gotta make em mentally orgasm before they physically do.
So....we talked. She told me her issues (build trust) and I told her my experiences. She was just kind of nervous about her lack of experience and her neurotic self image issues. Anyway, 9 times out of 10, when a girl can't cum at all it's one of these reasons:
- She has a poor self image and is too busy worrying during sex to actually enjoy it
- She is thinking too much about it
- She isn't quite comfortable yet with you
It's sometimes all three. Point being - get her comfortable and trusting. Once a woman is comfortable and in a trusting environment all of her sexual doors will be opened.
You gotta make em mentally orgasm before they physically do.
KillahBee
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OH, and you will be her GOD when it does happen. 
The girl I mentioned actually made me stop during sex when it finally did happen. She just lay there, looking like she had just seen Jesus. "Do you know what just happened" she gasped to me.
I won't lie, there's no better feeling out there.
The girl I mentioned actually made me stop during sex when it finally did happen. She just lay there, looking like she had just seen Jesus. "Do you know what just happened" she gasped to me.
I won't lie, there's no better feeling out there.
KillahBee
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Varga said:Just to add here, some women have a hard time coming if they are on the pill
Don't ask why-Have been trying to make a girl come but she could not reach climax, later she got off the pill and bam, she cum with ease!
Good point, there are medical reasons that lead to a woman not being able to cum some times. But I wouldn't jump to those conclusions to quick. Try the mental game path first.
al420
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I am lost.... can you still cum?
If so please delete this thread.
J/K - I think KB's reason #3 is the biggest. Women, not stupid whore girls, but real women need 100% trust w/ who they sleep with to be able to enjoy it - I am sure they can still cum, but I know that every woman I have been with seemed much more 'fun' when they felt 100% emotionally safe.
If so please delete this thread.
J/K - I think KB's reason #3 is the biggest. Women, not stupid whore girls, but real women need 100% trust w/ who they sleep with to be able to enjoy it - I am sure they can still cum, but I know that every woman I have been with seemed much more 'fun' when they felt 100% emotionally safe.
good advice, still trying here, I don't know if is the trust issue as she was married for 2 years and he couldn't get her there although she said he never new the difference, I'm gonna keep trying she said she has came so close the last few times.... 
hurricane187 said:
lol... its gonnal take a little more than that for her...I still haven't got her off yet, we fucked for hours last night and she gets to that point where she is just about to and looses it, ladies chime in here this is driving me crazy!
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heatherrae
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I know LOTS of women who can't come just from penetration alone. Have you gone down on her for a good long time? We need the clitoral stimulation and each woman is shaped differently. Some women are shaped in such a way that whey you are penetrating them, they aren't getting much if any contact on the clitoris.
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heatherrae
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PS -- the men who do it best start out with their mouths and work the entire area before focusing too much on the clitoris. Then insert a finger or two, palm side up, and gently rub the inside of the upper wall. If you find a slightly spongey area (in some women it is raised) that is about the size of a silver dollar, that is the G-spot. Licking/sucking the clitoris while rubbing the g-spot takes almost every woman to orgasm.
heatherrae said:
Yes I agree with this method but its like she is overstimulated, she gets wetter than anyone I have ever been with and is SO sensitive, yes she loves the oral but is almost to sensitive for it, she never quits squirming around, damnest thing I have ever came across, I WILL make this girl cum somehow, it has became my new mission in life
And she never looses intrest no matter how long we fuck, I guess its because she hasn't came but I mean she is so into it we literally fuck for hours and hours with her beeing on the verge of cumming most of the time but it just doesn't happen, WTF?heatherrae said:
She is getting plenty of clit contact during sex, she likes to be fucked with a pillow under her so she can take it all and get the clit hit just right.....
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heatherrae
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hmmmm....well it doesn't sound like it is a mental thing at all, then. She sounds uninhibited.jokerswild said:
By the sounds of it, she loves it for a such a long time that I wouldn't worry too much about it. Sometimes in women, the process is better than the destination.
heatherrae said:
You are dead on, she said the same thing in a round about way, her complaint was that here husband for the past few years didn't know didn't care if she came, had a teenie weenie and sucked at it anyway, but it matters to me, I mean it has got to be possible, I doing everything I know to do, i'm not giving up on this one.......
still trying here, bout to kill myself trying, 500mg test/200mg viagra/50mg cialis and 6 hours later still big O for her.....
Castro_bigdog
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Dude it can be a stress thing for her she mite have this problem because she has way to much on her mind wile you guys are in the act, Ive read about this before. One thing you need to tell her to do is clear her mind and pay more mind to what you are doing to her and enjoy the moment. If that dont help have her smoke some weed LOL even if you guys dont smoke try it one time it will really work out for the both of you, If that is to much then just get alot of good dark red wine and drink up then watch the sparks flow.....
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heatherrae
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LOL...jokerswild said:
your determination is admirable. She will get there eventually. don't make a big deal out of it or you will give her performance anxiety. She will feel like she has to come to make you happy and it will make it harder for her to do so.
Castro_bigdog
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heatherrae said:
Good point
If she's stressed, nervous, or worried about other shit that makes it 10x harder. Also if you go down, don't lick right on it. Try somewhere off to the side where the side of your tongue hits it gently. Watch/listen for her body language and you'll know where to go. Don't worry about the fingers for now. If you do go down, it may be best to start with it because after some poundage she's likely to be overstimulated and sore. Just my 2 cents.
maxspeed96ct
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you prolly think the bro above is jokin but slipin the finger in a chicks butt just makes um go crazy while u hittin it from the back.
haha
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mustang_00
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just be stuborn!!! tell her "if you love me/care about me, you'll cum!!" and cross your arms and look the other way. fuck it... if chicks can do that to us we should be able to pull that line on them.
on a serious note. the psycho i was fucking around with for a while was like that. I just made it my mission to try and make her cum whenever she wanted to fool around. I'd focus on her and only her, she wasn't allowed to do anything to me. I think it's a mental thing because doing that for a few weeks threw her off guard and kinda took her out of her element as the "pleaser." then she opened up and told me that she's never been worried about sexually like that before. the thing that still makes me think is i managed to get her off using 4 fingers..................................... this bitch had secrets or something
on a serious note. the psycho i was fucking around with for a while was like that. I just made it my mission to try and make her cum whenever she wanted to fool around. I'd focus on her and only her, she wasn't allowed to do anything to me. I think it's a mental thing because doing that for a few weeks threw her off guard and kinda took her out of her element as the "pleaser." then she opened up and told me that she's never been worried about sexually like that before. the thing that still makes me think is i managed to get her off using 4 fingers..................................... this bitch had secrets or something
makeingains
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take your time eat it a little play with it and let her play with you let her build you up tell her how hard your dick is and let her feel it let her rub it on her face and lips by that time she may be ready play softly with the pussy it just needs the right touch.
mustang_00
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makeingains said:
i think i just came
needtogetaas
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Sucks to be her.
txbondsman
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KillahBee said:
^^^^ yep, what he said. good post there Broseph, can't buy experience, you have to live it....
Mostwanted211
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I think you should go with the weed or liquor......get her buzzin or drunk, or high and take it from there or give her some E and i bet she will cum
txbondsman
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since that thread is from Jan, I hope she has by now.....
Mickey36
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I never experienced an orgasm until I met my husband. There were many factors that probably allowed me to remove the block... I was very attracted to him, very comfortable with him, he was thicker than everyone else, and he got me extremely excited and swollen before ever entering me. Just be patient and it might happen. If you make it an issue to her, then she will likely be more uncomfortable and therefore reduce the possibility of the "O". Good luck to you.
Try extended foreplay. Kissing the neck and ears. Nibble on her nipples for a while. Use ur tongue on her stomach and inner thighs. Wisper in her ears and establish some eys contact when you're suckin her nipples. Try to look for signs of what she likes and how she likes it. Get her really wet during foreplay. Go down on her and suck her clit while you use ur fingers to get her ready. Try different positions. Some girls can't cum unless they're lying on the bed. Others need to be on their knees. Try out a few different positions. Try 69. Tell her how much she looks sexy and how hot she makes you. Get her emotionally aroused as well as physically. A lot of women do not achieve orgasm out there. She is not an isolated incident. Touch a guy anywhere and it feels good. You have to know how to touch a woman. Wisper sweet sexy comments in her ear. Make sure she's very comfortable with you. Don't give up on it, because when it DOES happen, and it will, you will be the first guy to ever make her cum. Do you have any idea how big of a deal that is? She's never forget you.
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