She asked me to open the car door for her

[KAYNE]

I OPEN THE DOOR FOR MY GIRL (WHEN I HAVE ONE) ABOUT 90% OF THE TIME. ITS THE NICE THING TO DO. SWALLOW YOUR MACHO PRIDE AND DO IT.



KAYNE

 

[Pamela]

Oh come on, you'd pretend you were a DeLorean for summa dat shit.

 

[Bikini Mod]

Originally posted by bikinimom
The whole point of having a man open your car door for you is not because you are helpless. It is because it is one half of what you are supposed to be doing ie helping her into and out of the car.

Supposed to? There you exposed yourself as shallow and princessy, LOL!

If I am dressed in sweats or shorts (casual attire) I don't ask nor do I expect this BUT if I have on heels of any sort especially if with a skirt it is very awkward getting into and out of a car, hence the help from a gentleman.

So heels and a skirt make it difficult to pull the handle on a car door? WTF!! High heels and skipy outfits don't seem to hinder any of the strippers i saw, and some pulled some serious acrobatic maneuvers.

This is not about being high maintenance or being on a power trip, it is about an act of kindness.

Well an act of kindness is one that is not asked for, but rather freely given.

If she was drinking perhaps she felt a bit tipsy (or shitfaced drunk, whatever) and she would have liked your assistance. I don't think this makes her diabolical, manipulative OR high maintenance.

PS - If a gentleman whose company I am in overlooks that I am dressed a certain way and it would BE NICE if I could have his assistance then I don't want to be in his company anymore.

Well that last part sure is shallow

And yes, whether a guy helped me into the car or not, I ALWAYS lean over from the inside and begin to open his door. This helps him in no way whatsoever. I am only trying to show him a small act of kindness. And this is the same if he is a boyfriend, FRIEND, date or my exhusband after 10 years of marriage.

Well if you acknowledge that it does nothing to help then you are pretending and FRONTING, or just trying to make him think you are a good girl, one that is thoughtfull. You plan your ACT well i must say. Typical.

Hmmm, quite manipulative of you, would you not say?

Congratulations for taking everything I said out of context. Since you could not read text cohesively and obviously have never worn heels AND a skirt or perhaps you were just never in the presence of a lady I will try and simplify it for you.

When she is getting in and out of a car dressed like this (especially if she is wearing a skirt with high heels) she most certainly DOES need help. It isn't about opening the door so much. What is she supposed to do? Sit there with the car door half gaping while waiting for you to open it all the way to extend your hand to her? It is the "getting out of the car without revealing to all within 50 feet of her what color panties she is wearing" part that would BE NICE if you could help her with.

She doesn't NEED your help as women are dressed like this and get in and out of cars all the time alone.

IT WOULD BE NICE IF YOU COULD HELP HER.

Do you see the difference?

I applaud you though, for your ability to take something that is expressed as a basic act of kindness and twisting it into manipulation.

You'll go far in life.

As for my statement about no longer wanting to be in the company of a man who is not capable of such kindness... That is my choice. The way I see it, if he is incapable of thinking of such a simple way of how TO BE NICE TO ME, I KNOW that he will most likely not care about something more important.

If you perceive me as being shallow for wanting to be kind and treated with kindness, bully for you.

 

[velvett]

I would get annoyed if I had to wait for a guy to open my car door everytime.

Especially in the rain.


When will it stop raining.....



That said, the last door opening guy I went on a date with was Anthony the crazy rubberband roofer (that's what his buddy's called him) and I must have been 23, 24 at the time. He had an old caddy convertible that he had been restoring, red exterior white interior, with like four foot long doors. He was very sweet, very shy and very flexible. (freakish actually)




Thanks for the trip down memory lane.



Back to the rain.









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[big4life]

Especially in the rain.


When will it stop raining.....



That said, the last door opening guy I went on a date with was Anthony the crazy rubberband roofer (that's what his buddy's called him) and I must have been 23, 24 at the time. He had an old caddy convertible that he had been restoring, red exterior white interior, with like four foot long doors. He was very sweet, very shy and very flexible. (freakish actually)


Thanks for the trip down memory lane.

Back to the rain.

It has stopped raining here......

.....finally.


Oh yeah, I would open the door for you any time!!!!!!


Now I just need someone to run to about 6 different places around town for me today.

 

[casavant]

I don't open no stinking car doors for nobody.

 

[NDWolfwood]

You do know that its curtousy to open the door for your lady, just as it is to stand up when a lady sits down at your table, remove your jacket it and use it to warm her when she's cold, drap it over puddles. It follows a knights code of honor with a nobles code respect. The old world values of the strong lost on the modern generations (and indeed they were strong, wield chainmail, plate armor over it, and a greatsword and shield and see if one thinks they were puny back then.)

 

[bigmusclecock]

Yeah Wolfwood, you know where its at.

Treat a girl like a goddess at you'll get to the candy LOTS sooner.
But then with my monster, all the girls get treated like queens.

Hey Wolfy, have a wolfwood? (nudge nudge wink wink)

 

[Puddles]

Man...you had to walk ALL THE WAY AROUND THE CAR to open the door. Geez! Do you do any cardio?

Personally, I don't care if someone opens the door for me...it's just a sweet old fashioned thing to do. My father still does it, even in his mid 70's and poor health. But, if it was something I wanted, I'd have to tell my guy, otherwise I'd just be annoyed every time I had to do it myself...kinda like putting the toilet seat down...it's just a polite thing to do.

When a woman asks a guy to do something and he does it without being reminded, it makes the woman feel like he's thinking about her and that he was actually listening in the first place.

 

[gwl9dta4]

Originally posted by MrsPuddlesFL
Man...you had to walk ALL THE WAY AROUND THE CAR to open the door. Geez! Do you do any cardio?

Cardio?!?! Sheez, no cardio here. Opening doors is bad if your bulking.

Personally, I don't care if someone opens the door for me...it's just a sweet old fashioned thing to do. My father still does it, even in his mid 70's and poor health. But, if it was something I wanted, I'd have to tell my guy, otherwise I'd just be annoyed every time I had to do it myself...kinda like putting the toilet seat down...it's just a polite thing to do.

You know the toilet seat thing is annoying. The polite thing to do is for a man to put it down after he uses it, so you guys don't fall in as looking before you sit is too difficult. You need it up, we need it down. So be a sweetheart and put it up after YOU finish with it.

When a woman asks a guy to do something and he does it without being reminded, it makes the woman feel like he's thinking about her and that he was actually listening in the first place.

Ahh yes just like training a dog. Heh, whoof!
Besides why do women NEED to know that he is always thinking about them, talk about insecure. I found many women to be very emotionally draining, with their "are you thinking about me?" crap.

Obviously i may sound bitter to some but alas, i am not.