Self-Pity

[HighIntensity]

Self Pity

Another small rant of the night but this thread truly has a purpose in mind. Self-pity is one of the easiest forms of human excuse; “life has dealt me the bad hand so F happiness cause I am forever screwed, ” I think we live in a world of unrealistic expectations and when you let self-pity become your mantra in life you only attract more pain. The only way to escape self-pity is to have the ability to love yourself and the gifts that god has bestowed upon you. There are people dying as we speak in third world nations who have not eaten a decent meal in three weeks, understand that life is HARD but if you lay in a warm bed or eat several square meals a day or let alone have time to CHAT on a Fitness board over the internet then you have a lot more going for you than most on this very earth will all habituate.

Strive to make you mark on this world everyday, happiness will follow…pity yourself and watch the world move around you.

 

[the People's Champ]

sometimes you surprise HI. good stuff.

 

[vinylgroover]

Amen HI.

This should be a sticky. I have said enough about this on various threads, but people on these boards need to learn a sense of proportion. Unfortunately, those constantly writhing in self pity on these boards don't want to hear someone say 'quit whining and get on with your life' , but rather, they want affrimation that what they feel is indeed depression and that being depressed is a perfectly acceptable reaction to trivial everyday problems.

Get on with it people, as HI said, there are people all over the world with real problems.

 

[Austin316]

Im so tired, Im just tired, that is all

 

[Paulos]

Well Said.

 

[the People's Champ]

Get on with it people, as HI said, there are people all over the world with real problems.

exactly. get on with your materialistic selves, people. jeez

 

[Austin316]

well since this thread is made to me I think I should just say I don't have materialistic fucking problems, one thing Im able to get is material goods but when it comes to ever getting something thtat really counts Iv never had much luck..if something good happens to me, something worse happens soon after

 

[jennifer BFL chick]

most people search for happiness......but its not something that you "find" its how you live your life and how you control your emotions.......

self pity is the most unattractive trait a person can have

 

[casavant]

well since this thread is made to me I think I should just say I don't have materialistic fucking problems, one thing Im able to get is material goods but when it comes to ever getting something thtat really counts Iv never had much luck..if something good happens to me, something worse happens soon after

There's not some hand of God reaching down and fucking with your life. If you have had a run of shittiness in your life, I see why you would feel down, but are you sure part of the problem isn't your perception?

 

[CrimsonKing]

A M E N !

 

[c-sharp minor]

I think I fall into the category of someone with real problems.


Poor me.

 

[Austin316]

There's not some hand of God reaching down and fucking with your life. If you have had a run of shittiness in your life, I see why you would feel down, but are you sure part of the problem isn't your perception?

Perceptionm? I know that I don't have it so bad when it comes to the MATERIAL things in my life, ultimately do those things make you a happy person? for awhile yes but they can never provide one moment of true happiness.....My last cycle was a failure, I got fired over the stupidest of circumstances, made the mistake of giving up my heart, my family given depression decided to take a hold of me right before all that happened and amplified it, I had a few breakdowns, etc etc etc in probably two months, I just don't understand why life has always gotten my hopes up only to take those away, it makes me wonder what the point is anymore if I can't even reach what I want for a day

I may sound like a childish brat or a stupid baby but really

 

[CrimsonKing]

Perceptionm? I know that I don't have it so bad when it comes to the MATERIAL things in my life, ultimately do those things make you a happy person? for awhile yes but they can never provide one moment of true happiness.....My last cycle was a failure, I got fired over the stupidest of circumstances, made the mistake of giving up my heart, my family given depression decided to take a hold of me right before all that happened and amplified it, I had a few breakdowns, etc etc etc in probably two months, I just don't understand why life has always gotten my hopes up only to take those away, it makes me wonder what the point is anymore if I can't even reach what I want for a day

I may sound like a childish brat or a stupid baby but really

You don't sound like brat, but you need to take a different look at the things that happen.. Instead of seeing it as a setback, try to take something positive out of the experience and learn for it... even if the only positive thing is to 'not do that again!".... Nothing is live goes as we planned, mistakes and trouble a par for the course.. you have to learn from them and overcome them to triumpt.. take risk, expect for from yourself, do not accept failure, feel self pity if you must, but let it pass quickly and move on!

email if you want to chat more, I've been there and done that Austin

 

[casavant]

I may sound like a childish brat or a stupid baby but really

No, I am not saying that at all. When I am down, I perceive things to be differently than when I feel good. Of course, depression can really fuck up perception. I'm sympathetic to the way you feel, but I was just wondering how bad things were from an objective standpoint and and how bad they are to you because you're a depressed individual. Of course reality is a matter of perception, really...what am I trying to say here?? I don't really know. I hope you start feeling better and maybe look into changing your meds (you said you were on effexor?)

 

[Austin316]

Im on effexor and it was really great till good ole clomid had to be invlolved

 

[tripleV]

good thoughts...