saying no....

[cindylou]

I didnt learn how to say no until I got married and had to deal with another family guilting me into things i didnt want to do and the first year of marriage i tried to be everything to everyone, and I lost in the end.

i've never once felt guilt saying no since then, but this wedding makes me feel i need to be more than what i normally am

at the same time im going nuts! I'm sick of hearing about it. she seriously is acting sorta spoiled. i dunno. she's normally a sweet girl

and i've seriously so far spent 1000 bucks and I have not gotten johnny's tux yet , thrown the bachelorette party, or bought shoes or a wedding gift!

 

[cindylou]

When I was younger, I needed/wanted EVERYONE to like me, so I never said no. I was always the taxi service for my friends (I had a car, they never did), I would lend money etc.
I wanted so bad to be liked.
Well, as I got older, I realized, self preservation was way more attractive to me than caring what others thought so I just one day said "no"

I have less and less guilt as I evolve

See, I think have a tendancy to be selfish......and I'm working on NOT being so selfish...so i never know when I'm allowing myself to be selfish, or self preservation. Its hard to tell sometimes.

 

[blueta2]

See, I think have a tendancy to be selfish......and I'm working on NOT being so selfish...so i never know when I'm allowing myself to be selfish, or self preservation. Its hard to tell sometimes.

here's the trick; if it feels bad, don't do it ;-)

 

[cindylou]

here's the trick; if it feels bad, don't do it ;-)

most of the time if it does not help me in anyway, it hurts!

lol j/k

 

[cindylou]

okay she just called me and asked if i was okay.

she was getting a vibe.

i feel like such a butt.

she really is sweet. There is no way im going to tell her that im pretty much burned out

 

[ConstantChange]

I don't see how she could expect someone to be able to do it on a one day notice.

And spending $1000+ is crazy! I'm pissed when I have to spend $100 to rent a tux.

If I ever get married, I hope my wife doesn't want a big wedding. It seems like such a waste of money to me.

 

[canadianhitman]

One day's notice is bullshit...don't feel bad for another second. There's nothing I hate more than last-minute requests on my time...it's so damn inconsiderate.

 

[velvett]

ur too nice, you've been true to yourself, stick to ya gunz

^^^ he's right