saying no....

[cindylou]

To people..........

normally I have no problem setting boundries but since I'm a bridesmaid in two weddings Im finding myself frazzled....and feeling guilty for saying no.


Like for instance, they let me know the day before they want me to help with invites. well, I know that as a bridesmaid I'm supposed to help with this stuff...but they never give me any notice and frankly, I'm tired of hearing and thinking about the wedding. I already had stuff planned (nothing i probably couldnt change though) and thats one of the few nights I get to see my husband this week because we are so busy.

this is my husband's sister which makes it even worse

am i wrong? Am i a bad friend/sis for saying no all the time?

I already said no. I feel guilty which is making me angry.

 

[Smurfy]

No youre not wrong.

 

[blueta2]

I have no problem saying no, but it took me years to master it

No you're not bad for saying no.

 

[all the whey]

All the girls here have a very hard time saying "no".

 

[cindylou]

why do I feel guilty? I never feel guilty for this kinda shit.

I want to be there for her and support her, but I'm staring to dislike her a little bit.

I feel awful for even thinking about her this way, this sweet girl.

 

[Oceano]

ur too nice, you've been true to yourself, stick to ya gunz

 

[Smurfy]

why do I feel guilty? I never feel guilty for this kinda shit.

I want to be there for her and support her, but I'm staring to dislike her a little bit.

I feel awful for even thinking about her this way, this sweet girl.

maybe the guillt comes from feelings of disliking her lately
but you shouldnt feel guilty for saying no if youre really too busy. dont feel bad about that.

 

[cindylou]

ur too nice, you've been true to yourself, stick to ya gunz

Thank you Oceano. I already feel better.

 

[lartinos]

All the girls here have a very hard time saying "no".

sometimes when they say no, they really mean yes.
Well.... atleast for the 17 year old girls i stalk. jk

 

[cindylou]

maybe the guillt comes from feelings of disliking her lately
but you shouldnt feel guilty for saying no if youre really too busy. dont feel bad about that.

It is that , and the fact that I know I could change my plans if I wanted to....but I didnt.

I dont know if I should bend my will a little bit and be more sensitive to the fact that getting married turns some girls into bitches.

I cant sympathize because I didnt turn into a bitch....nor did I make them spend a small fortune either