relationship problems?

[Sassy69]

Interesting stuff -- I feel for anyone who breaks up but sometimes its for the best. The worst part is not having that familiarity around you. But if there are fundamental differences in beliefs that exist that can't be discussed or compromised on, they will always permeate every part of the relationship. Then anything that is illegal is going to be up for grabs when it comes time to "exercising control" by one party or the other. I do find it interesting how illegal recreational drugs don't seem to be viewed as bad as AAS, but that reflects the awareness & tolerance level these days. But I suspect most fo the fear of AAS is from lack of knowledge. If there is no room for discussion, then it will be a point of contention that you have to either choose to hide, not do, or come clean with and go w/ whatever final decision she or you both make.

If your cycle is making a noticeable change in your disposition, then YOU need to acknowledge it and deal w/ it accordingly. Plenty of guys have acknowledged a significant change in demeanor while on tren for ex - so that something that may manifest itself in more fights w/ your g/f and she will then go after your AAS use and everything else. If you have already chosen to cycle, to cycle somethign that you can't handle or changes you that much while you have other people in your life is akin to claiming a "recreational drug habit" on something that you can't handle and you demonstrate that you can't handle it every time you go out.

The bipolar thing -- I lived w/ a girl who was bipolar in college - that was weird enough. I can't imagine the relationship too. I guess if you want that sort of "excitement" in your life ...

There is no one way to handle all of this stuff -- a couple guys noted that "women are crazy" -- but I think its also legitimate to say that women do crazy things when they feel they've been hurt or screwed or if they feel like the relationship is goign down the drain - easier to create a big fat conflict than to deal w/ it. I'm not defendign that action at all - but I've seen guys do it just like girls do it. I guess there its a reflection of the degree of co-dependence / lack of self-confidence the person has.

And lastly, you are also dealing w/ situations where the lifestyle is different - if you are deeply into the gym culture which requires regular time inthe gym, diet, etc, there isn't a lot of room for people who don't also espouse that way of living. Trust me - I've lost plenty of friends during my own regional amateur competition prep. People dont' "get" why its so important that you get to shovel down meals at weird hours or why you are so pissed because you missed a cardio session. You may not have experienced the argument about why you hate yourself or even the other person for "allowing you' to eat the whole jar of peanut butter and now you'll be fat & bloaty for 2 days.... (that may be a girl thing..... )

But just like girls have to deal w/ hormonal changes every month, guys + steroids = hormonal changes as well. These are all very fundamental things about each of us and it definitely adds a new dimension to us & our interactions w/ other people.

Definitely wish you all luck in your various situations. I would only ask that you recognize that cycles & PCT do affect your hormones and that how you feel or even what caused your break ups may have had something to do w/ that -- how you deal w/ it may be different to each of you, but at least if you are aware of it, you can learn better how to deal w/ it so it maybe doens't have catastrophic impact on your lives and the people around you.

 

[looking to lean]

did u give her a dime bag then, how much did she charge?

j/k bro does she have a sister?

ouch... no payment needed. lol

she is more perfect than than that even...

I own a tattoo and piercing shop. She is my piercer. she is also my manager. so she works for me all day. makes me money while she is there. Deposits my money for me, then just before she comes home, she goes groc shopping. Then home to cook dinner. AND SHE IS GORGEOUS!

Not once have we argued about anything. Now thats a relationship.

ok, well this isnt the 'My GF is perfect' thread so I will shut up there. but just to let you people out there, with shitty relationships know, you have choices!

 

[Martek]

Im really sry to hear about your loss bro really I am. May God be with her and you and I pray things go for the better. God Bless.

I talked with my girl cause I told her I was thinking of starting on my very first cycle. She took it very good as her whole family uses them and she trusts me and knows I could be very careful. All she says is if thats what I really want then she is all for it and she lets me have my time in the gym. Been dating a year and a few weeks now, best friends for 5 years, i'll ask her to marry me this summer

So far no problems with her. She is truly one of those rare catches and I just know that there are girls like that out there. If you get shafted from a girl you are dating for something that makes you happy... well then she doesn't truly care for you and love you. But they may do that cause Steroids can kill a person and they may not want to see you all get into that much danger.. I don't know, Women are complicated, men can be too.. God made us all different so we don't get along TOO perfectly If we did, where would the fun be at and all the excitement?

 

[austin_nichols]

Because women are fucking crazy, and most times will use any ammunition they have against you if you begin to have an argument. Thats why people hide it from their significant other.

For example... my wife is Bi-Polar. To put it simply, the bitch is fuckin crazy... period. She will flip out and be the most irrational person you can imagine. When she starts acting that way, i can tell immediately that shes just having "one of those days". Its like she lives in a different reality. She will try and twist any and everything she can to convince herself that I have done something wrong to make her feel the way she is feeling, when most times I havent done a damn thing. And thats the honest to god truth.

So with that being said... I hide my use from my wife. I have been married to my wife now for only 6 months, however we have dated for 10 years prior (if you want to know why we dated so long, its because I wasnt sure if I really wanted to marry someone that fucking crazy...seriously) I don't want us to get in any kind of argument and then her turn around and say its because im using gear. That would make me damn near blow my top Im sure. So I just bypass that entire issue by concealing my use from her.

She and I have discussed it (cycles), and she knows im an educated person who wouldnt do anything without the right research and using properly... however I know from past experiences that what she says almost always isnt what she means, or what comes to be when it all boils down to it.

My gear use is the ONLY thing I hide from my wife, and I feel like I have a good enough justification for it.

I guess it all depends on the people involved and their situations. I agree with you that you should be able to share everything with the person you love... however its just not always best given unique circumstances such as mine.

Anwyway thats my 2 cents. Didnt mean to hi-jack the thread!

Boy do I feel your pain. Same exact situation. Been with my wife 10 years and she too is bipolar. I know your hell. The ONLY person that absolutely knows I juice is my lifting partner. No good can come out of a wife or gf knowing. I once told my wife in confidence her mom's brownies sucked. She immediately went and told her mom..her reason... "it's okay, my mom's cool." You think I'm going to tell her I juice, hell no, she seems to think she knows better than I. Keep em guessing!!

 

[steelmass]

I'm not even gonna get started on you guys that lie to your gf out of fear of rejection or them dropping dime on you if you break up. It's your choice to put up with that shit just to keep a supply of ass around. Personally I'd rather get hit by a bus than be stuck with some bitch I had to hide my flaws from. But that's just me.

Now to answer the thread poster's question. I recommend new ass to get you over the old asss 1st and foremost. For lonlieness, buy a dog. I have 3 pits and whenever I take them to the park chicks come talk to me about them. So they kinda serve a dual purpose. Chicks seeing you with a dog tells them that bare minimum you are capable of keeping another animal alive-which shows soime sense of responsibility. Invest more time in the gym and on food prep. Anything that improves your physique will make you feel better about yourself. If you're still sitting around depressed, get X-box or something to try and keep your mind off her. Also if you live anywhere Tom Leykis is on the radio, listen to his show daily. You'll hear guys calling in that fucked themselves in their relationships so badly, your situation will seem pretty tame by comparison.

You are a much wiser man than me... I keep getting suckered into relationships...

 

[camshaft]

my gf knows about my use and loves it. she loves the sex drive and the hard muscles.

 

[Wulfgar]

Interesting stuff -- I feel for anyone who breaks up but sometimes its for the best. The worst part is not having that familiarity around you. But if there are fundamental differences in beliefs that exist that can't be discussed or compromised on, they will always permeate every part of the relationship. Then anything that is illegal is going to be up for grabs when it comes time to "exercising control" by one party or the other. I do find it interesting how illegal recreational drugs don't seem to be viewed as bad as AAS, but that reflects the awareness & tolerance level these days. But I suspect most fo the fear of AAS is from lack of knowledge. If there is no room for discussion, then it will be a point of contention that you have to either choose to hide, not do, or come clean with and go w/ whatever final decision she or you both make.

If your cycle is making a noticeable change in your disposition, then YOU need to acknowledge it and deal w/ it accordingly. Plenty of guys have acknowledged a significant change in demeanor while on tren for ex - so that something that may manifest itself in more fights w/ your g/f and she will then go after your AAS use and everything else. If you have already chosen to cycle, to cycle somethign that you can't handle or changes you that much while you have other people in your life is akin to claiming a "recreational drug habit" on something that you can't handle and you demonstrate that you can't handle it every time you go out.

The bipolar thing -- I lived w/ a girl who was bipolar in college - that was weird enough. I can't imagine the relationship too. I guess if you want that sort of "excitement" in your life ...

There is no one way to handle all of this stuff -- a couple guys noted that "women are crazy" -- but I think its also legitimate to say that women do crazy things when they feel they've been hurt or screwed or if they feel like the relationship is goign down the drain - easier to create a big fat conflict than to deal w/ it. I'm not defendign that action at all - but I've seen guys do it just like girls do it. I guess there its a reflection of the degree of co-dependence / lack of self-confidence the person has.

And lastly, you are also dealing w/ situations where the lifestyle is different - if you are deeply into the gym culture which requires regular time inthe gym, diet, etc, there isn't a lot of room for people who don't also espouse that way of living. Trust me - I've lost plenty of friends during my own regional amateur competition prep. People dont' "get" why its so important that you get to shovel down meals at weird hours or why you are so pissed because you missed a cardio session. You may not have experienced the argument about why you hate yourself or even the other person for "allowing you' to eat the whole jar of peanut butter and now you'll be fat & bloaty for 2 days.... (that may be a girl thing..... )

But just like girls have to deal w/ hormonal changes every month, guys + steroids = hormonal changes as well. These are all very fundamental things about each of us and it definitely adds a new dimension to us & our interactions w/ other people.

Definitely wish you all luck in your various situations. I would only ask that you recognize that cycles & PCT do affect your hormones and that how you feel or even what caused your break ups may have had something to do w/ that -- how you deal w/ it may be different to each of you, but at least if you are aware of it, you can learn better how to deal w/ it so it maybe doens't have catastrophic impact on your lives and the people around you.

Sassy+ Peanut Butter =

 

[Snarling Force]

I feel for you guys with bi-polar girls. Several of my friends are in such relationships, even abusive ones where the girl punches the dude in the face, etc when they argue. That shit is sickening. For me personally, I love my wife more than anything and we've been together for almost 12 years now. However I've always kept my gear usage from her. I've been close to getting caught on a few occasions, but I've always managed to keep it secret. It just would complicate things for no good reason. I'm responsible and educated enough to handle this on my own. If she knew she would just immediately react just as any person would who has been brainwashed by our media that steroids are bad news. Maybe someday I'll tell her, but things in our relationship couldn't be any better and I wouldn't want to chance fuckin shit up just so she could know I take gear from time to time.

 

[gimma a break]

prayers to obey, that is tough bro. I remember the first time I started juice, my buddy goes to me do you love your girlfriend. I said yes and he said to me that sucks because you'll break up in a few months. I said what the fuck are you talking about, sure enough he was right. These drugs do some wierd shit to relationships.

 

[BigCracker]

Boy do I feel your pain. Same exact situation. Been with my wife 10 years and she too is bipolar. I know your hell. The ONLY person that absolutely knows I juice is my lifting partner. No good can come out of a wife or gf knowing. I once told my wife in confidence her mom's brownies sucked. She immediately went and told her mom..her reason... "it's okay, my mom's cool." You think I'm going to tell her I juice, hell no, she seems to think she knows better than I. Keep em guessing!!

What's it like dating someone thats got an everyday pass to freak out at random? Dating a stable minded girl is challenging enough. I don't know how you guys can justify staying with someone that can't control their emotions. To me, love just wouldn't be enough-especially when there's plenty of girls out there that won't superglue your dick to your stomach if/when she gets mad at you.

And how does it feel to be in a relationship where you live in daily fear that your woman will find out your dirty little steroid secret? Won't the repercussions be much worse when she learns she has been lied to and betrayed? She may start questioning your whole relationship-if you're lying about AAS how does she know you're not lying about something else? Like fucking your ex gf you talk to on the phone once every 6 months or ????