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Though I feel marginally bad about airing our buisness on the board, she said she will not visit it again so I guess what I am about to disclose does not matter.

Today, just a few minutes ago, Kartchick broke up with me. The reasons are financial and a fairly dangerous ex-husband, she is not an evil person but my heart is literally shattered. I spent a fair amount of time over the toilet because i felt like I would vomit but thankfully I did not.

You see, I loved this person more than anything, and I was willing to do anything to be with her. I have a fair amount of extra money now and I believe that I will spend it on another cycle in the within 2 months from now because I don't know what else to do.

Please for anyone who's heart has been broken this severely tell me what to do.

Please also do not trivialize my feelings for her because we met on the net. I loved her with my whole heart and then some and was willing to accept her child, her 10 years older age, and leaving everything behind to be with her...this is not insanity, it is love.
 
PS- George Spellwin if/when you read this I'd sure like to change my avatar as you can imagine, but it won't let me.
 
frackal... this is far easier said than done but... you will be alright.. my heart was shattered a few months back, actually i let it happen over and over... long distance is not easy... you had too many strikes against you to start...

oh, i was a doubter with many others... before anyone says it.. please dont say i told you so to the guy, we've all been broken before...

frack, sorry dude.
 
Sorry to hear that bro,

Not much you can do except keep busy(very important) doing things you love to do. Also anything you haven't done in a while or though of doing and never done weel now it's time to do it.
That and a little time, not too much because life will pass you by and you'll be fine.

Not to make light of things but what works well for me is going out with the most piggish guys you know, getting hammered and checking out strippers helps too.
 
Well madbomber, I hate to say that you were right, but I guess you were, I felt such a strong love could overcome all of this but I suppose it could not.

Millhouse, I don't drink, but I do plan to juice my ass off and do the only other thing that mattered to me besides her which is bodybuilding, which I will pour my every energy into.
 
according to "friends" strippers are phase 3... he is still on phase one... give him time.

by the way frack, you can think of it like this: she is in her late 20's... that means she has only 8-10 good years left... you would still be able to pull hot chicks in 10 years... so think of it as she is prolonging your ability to nail hot chicks...

also, what will you do about school now? werent you planning to attend there>?

and finally, she may be using her ex as an excuse and an escape for one reason or another... chicks do some funky shit.
 
madbomber31 said:
chicks do some funky shit.
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agreed :rolleyes:

it seems a little cold and harsh now, but maybe this was for the better. she is older, and has a kid, that can mean a lot of complications for a guy ur age, still in education. given that her job with her pops has (from what ive read) been very insecure, lord knows wat would have happened in the future.

still, the best thing IMHO is just to cut it clean now, dont go back, if she wants to remain friends she'll contact u, and dont try and hunt out the ex or anything like that, it migh make matters worse. its just best to leave it.

sorry dude, but im sure u'll get over it soon :)
 
madbomber31 said:
... chicks do some funky shit.
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They sure do.

As for being heartbroken, it will probably happen again, and it won't be any easier then, either. It is like coping with a loved one's death. Because that is exactly what happens. The person who you loved, cherished, obsessed over, etc. is no longer there. Period. That is death.

And the only thing that helps is just time. Not other chicks (tried that), not roommates or sisters of the chick, nothing speeds it up. Drinking doesn't help.

It just flat out sucks. I am sorry, I wish there were some words of wisdom or platitudes that would ease the pain, but this is something that will just be overcome in time. And never forgotten. Both the good and bad times.

Good luck.
 
What madbomber said I agree with 100%

Except phase 3, I musta jumped Phase 2 because I was looking at strippers by the end of the first week.
Then again my last relationship was pretty much finished just not officially months b4 we broke up.

I'll toast a drink for ya Frackal, I have some absolute and Ice Blue Rasberry Sugar Free Koolaid chillin in the freezer.

Gettin hardcore in the gym, get a kick ass degree in school and make yourself a total success, thats the best for ya to do.
 
I only know a little of your situation so I won't try to elaborate. In all honesty, it doesn't do any good any how. You're asking for ideas of what you can do to feel better. Well, there's nothing you can do. I'm not being a dick, its reality. I'm still going through it myself. No matter what anyone tells you, no matter what you do, where you go, its going to haunt you. You're gonna be sick, you're gonna cry, not sleep, everything. Time has to run its course. NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. This is not the answer you want, I am sorry, but please make yourself understand that this is NEVER easy. Its not supposed to be and unfortunately, there is no "hang-over remedies" that actually work in this case. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off and move on with life as best you can. Talk to anyone who'll listen, but don't ask for advice as it will only serve to confuse you more. Take it from someone who's been there. You have my sympathy. Wish you the best.
 
Thank you everyone for your advice and words, they are of course appreciated. I'm guessing the heavy clomid doses I'm using right now aren't helping me any but I doubt I'd feel much less emotional without it. It's just so hard to accept that the most beautiful person you ever knew will not be in your life ever again.

KC is the first woman I have ever TRULY truly loved, and I guess in some ways I'm pretty young to have to deal wiht this.

Luckily I have the gym which is the key to making me feel better for many reasons. I will build a magnificient physique and work my ass off to be successful in school and life...please do not think her an evil person because I suppose in a small but true way it is for the best, I just can't imagine my life without her. We have talked on the phone literally every day for 6 months for hours each time, and I hate talking on the phone. That type of closeness and friendship and love is so hard to find, I know this despite my age.

I eagerly await my next workout in the gym tomorrow, as well as my next cycle which I will start as soon as my 'time off' is over.
 
Well if we wanna air our dirty laundry lets do it the right way. I let him go for several reasons, the main reason being it is the BEST thing for him and he knows it. I said that I was not going to post again but here I am. Frack is fucking 19 yrs. old with an entire life ahead of him which I knew and accepted, but now he was planning on moving here going to school, working only 5-10 hrs. a week, struggling financially when he could live rent free with his mother. The main reason was not because of my ex-husband, that was a big part but certainly not the MAIN FUCKING REASON! I am 28, going back to school to get my real-estate license, I have an 11 yr. old child who demands much more than I have been giving him and a house to run as well as trying not to get fired by my dad everyother week. I jumped into this before I was even divorced (my fault) and never had time for me after the divorce (my fault again). My fucking car blew the fuck up yesterday and I just have a lot on my plate at the moment. So Frackal when you tell the story tell the whole damn story. We WILL remain friends if he so chooses and I am sorry that you are in pain we already discussed that, so don't think that I am not. As far as the going out and fucking thing is concerned, knock yourself out. Hope that helps!
 
Sorry to hear frackal.

I think everyone's been there and like me probably more than once so what everyone here has posted so far would have been basicaly the same advice that I could have offered.

It is like death and takes time to heal. You are fortunate as far as brake ups are concerned that you've only met her once even though you have been in contact with her daily for a while now, you have not had as much physical interaction with her so hopefuly it will not take as long to get over to the point were you can function normaly again. Just hang in there.
 
Like sands through the hourglass

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I usually found dismembering the women and burning their bodies in a firepit worked the best. However, this is not possible due to geographic barriers, so heroin would be the key. Good luck.
 
KartChic said:
Well if we wanna air our dirty laundry lets do it the right way.
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Damn . . . what can I say. I knew kartchick had another handle before cause she forgot her password or something so I believe this is her and this is getting weird watching this unfold. Please the two of you don't take this offensively. I only hope you two decide to settle this amicabley off line and not make a mess here. For your own sakes.
 
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Shit man, Im sorry to hear that. I had my doubts at first, but I thought it would work out for you two. Thats the danger of putting all your love and trust into someone elses hands, they can either make you the happiest you've ever been, or destroy you. But its a risk all of us will have to take, and usually more than once. Clomid can't help, I gotta start with that stuff friday
 
Well we have spoken like the true friends we are and I believe everything will be ok. Both our hearts are broken but I believe we can help each other through this as we both care for each other deeply still and always will. I guess I should be honest and fair to Kartchick and say that she did the brave thing which I doubt I could have done.

Well I know you want to hear the details but that is really between me and her, sorry.
 
i would like to point out one thing.... in the posts about frackal and KC's love... it was always frackal talking about love, i dont believe i saw KC say that one time... interesting....
 
love hurts brother,just try to get back to finding soemoen fast,dont dwell on it because i know how much it hurts,ive been there and the more you dwell the harder it is to move on
 
hey frackal, did you happen to take any pictures of her naked when you visited that you could post up here? also i was wondering if you would mind if i started a relationship with her. nothing serious just lots of dirty sex. does she give good head? i told you that long distance shit wouldnt work. you should have listened to me and just said you were in it for some pootytang.
 
oh yeah great question, i remember the thread on nailing some bitch in the ass and it must have been kart. so how did she like getting assfucked?
 
keep your head up frack. getting your heart trampled the first time is indeed grueling. you are going to be miserable for a while and there's not a whole lot you can do to speed up the healing process. but it WILL end eventually and you'll be the happy person you were before this shit went down and KC will not be on your mind 24/7 like i imagine she is right now. TIME will take care of this for you. get in the gym, hang out with friends, find some new girls to start working on, do what you got to do to get your mind off this stuff.


with all due respect, i don't know what happened and i'm not going to ask but for this to have been an "amicable breakup" KC you are certainly spitting out the f-bombs and sounding pretty pissed about the whole thing. i know i don't know the dilly but i'd hate to see this get nasty.

best of luck to both of you
 
well frackal believe it or not even the mighty fistfullofsteel had his heart broken "As much as it hurts, you have to move on." Trust me crying over it isn't going to change things. I was seriously depressed over one girl for over a year and wouldn't even look at other women. Now when I look back I should have gotten over it much quicker and moved on much quicker. She did, and I don't think I ever cross her mind anymore.
So give it a month, and then go find some hot nice piece of ass and take care of business.
 
Thanks for those with kind words once again.

No nude pictures will be posted by me ever.
No I did not fuck her in the ass.
 
fistfullofsteel said:
well frackal believe it or not even the mighty fistfullofsteel had his heart broken "As much as it hurts, you have to move on." Trust me crying over it isn't going to change things. I was seriously depressed over one girl for over a year and wouldn't even look at other women. Now when I look back I should have gotten over it much quicker and moved on much quicker. She did, and I don't think I ever cross her mind anymore.
So give it a month, and then go find some hot nice piece of ass and take care of business.
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You have great wisdom my friend,
I bow in your presence and I too have wasted many a 6 months to a year moping and kicked myself after.

One month of mourning is worth more than enuff, anything more and guys deserve to have thier nuts cut off IMHO.
 
I think the last time I had some type of mild depression or anything similar over a girl was probably a year or so ago.

That's also the last time I bothered to show some kind of undeserving interest for a girl.

Notice the pattern? Try worrying about something more important for a few weeks/months. Like money.

Get yourself a better job and dedicate your life to work. Money never fails you.

money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money money!!!!!!!!!!

-Warik
 
Take what Fist Full Of Steel has to heart. That really hit home, as I was torn up by a girl like that. She moved on and it took me an entire year to get over it. Looking back, I wish I could have moved on sooner, but I was devastated. The only consolation was my friends and body building. I hope you can collect yourself and move on, I know it is damn hard. Get out there and get back into the game.
 
as the rest i'm sadden by this...if it was going to happen its better now than later when more becomes at stake..nonetheless it doesn't make things any easier...keep your chin up time heals all wounds,it feels like it will take a 100 yrs i know,but it will given time....regards ...RADAR
 
take a few hours to think it over: why it happenned and stuff like that, was it a charachter on your fault? if not move on with your life, if so try to change it and move on with your life. its cliche but time heals all.
 
Shit bro,

You know what they say "love hurts".
Sometimes really bad.

My first love gave me the crabs and fukked all my friends...so I would say your one up on me! hahahahah

Things change with time...be there for each other and if nothing else you have a great friend. Maybe with time you guys will find a way.

Salami ---- I belive you are the biggest piece of shit to ever grace this board. May you get bombed and wake up next to May1010.....you fukkin loser.
 
I saw this happening from the start, with divorce not being final and all, but now you both have a life lesson and learned something.

It's no different than 100% have experienced, you just have to be able to bounce back and go on with your lives.

It is nice that you both did experience special feelings for each other. Some go through their whole lives without ever feeling that attachment. It's also nice that you both have decided to stay friends.

Good for both of you!

One can never have enough friends
 
Love can see you through

Love is of all, the strongest emotion by far, it will make you do things you regret and it will enable you to do things you never thought possible.

If your love for each other is still burning, then don't let adversity break you, as long as a thread still hangs on you can knit around it and make it a strong as it's ever been.

Money is a lame excuse, money is everywhere, it just depends on what you are willing to do to get it... If each other is enough to be happy, then even a future is worth sacrificing, even at 45 you have a future, opportunities lie everywhere, at 19 aswell as at 28....

Just love, let love, show love, live love.
 
I wish it could be that way Silvio, that is what I said to her, but she feels differently, I give up because it's not worth me getting my hopes up over and over again.
 
Jeeezzzzuuuus, you're only 19? Damn, that fact alone should cheer you. Dude, you have so much living ahead of you that someday all of this will be a faded memory. I was in the Army when I was your age and having the time of my life. Look, she's right. She's WAY older, has a kid, and probably a bunch of baggage. Damn, if I was 19, instead of pushing 40, I would be chasing some coeds around the campus. Look a guy said love is the strongest emotion, HOGWASH! Hate is. You will fall in and out of "love" a hundred times, but hate, hate lasts a lifetime. It's the only honest emotion we have! Finish school, get the career on track, train, get some when you can, and enjoy your youth. The day will come, a few years from now, when you will have a wife, a couple of kids, pushing 40, and wondering where your youth went. So have fun NOW!
 
Fuck no more cartchick!? That sucks I always liked her.
Dude it will hurt like a hot poker up the ass for awhile but it will go in time. it is going to hurt I can tell cuz you sound really bad.
You can drink but that would probably make you call her at 3am and the situation would get worse. Bro I dont know what to tell you.
 
Well I do not drink but I sure am gonna start a cycle in 2 months minimum, probably 1 1/2 months. Getting fucking jacked is the only thing that'll cheer me up because bodybuilding never "fucks" me over that's why it's now my most important thing...plus once I hit about 215-220 lean you know what that means for the women out there...not like I want any now but I will then probably.
 
You dont realize it yet, but she just did you a big favor.
The older woman/young man thing is exciting at first, but it always ends fairly quickly. Just be glad she told you this before you moved out there! She would have used you to help her through her divorce and hard times, then moved on to somebody more stable and permanent (older with more money) when she got the chance. Your heart will get spanked a lot harder than this over the next 10 years, so get ready. A strip club as mentioned above is indeed a good idea. Being surrounded by some hot chicks will definitly get your mind off things.
 
Frackal.
I can't say what happened or why or how to fix it. The only thing I can say is that I can truly empathize with you. Had it happen to myself on both ends many times. The only solution is time. You WILL get over it, the hard thing is not thinking of it too much and find peace in your friends and bblding.
take care sweetie
:bigkiss:
 
Bro just don't do what I did when this happened to me one time. I went on a six month acid and vodka gimlet bender. It's not a pretty side.

You need to give yourself time to heal that is the number one thing.

You need to get laid too.
 
Dude, don't f-ing worry about it, man!! You're 19, go back to fucking college (student loans and pell grants!) and tag some real sweet ass. Join a fraternity and get into heavy sex parties and shitlike that. LIVE!!. She did you a huge favor though you can't see it now. You don't need some 'instant family' right now. you need to meet some college chick that you can grow old with and experience life with, not some used car with 100K miles on it!! Just focus on pumping iron and going to school, and unless you have a 3rd eye or something else fucked up about you, you get some nice young chickee in a heartbeat and this will be some faded memory somewhere that you will laugh about!!
 
WODIN said:
Bro just don't do what I did when this happened to me one time. I went on a six month acid and vodka gimlet bender. It's not a pretty side.

You need to give yourself time to heal that is the number one thing.

You need to get laid too.
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Damn Wodin!!!!!

I always had you down as one of those conservative
types.........

Personally, I honestly have no idea what's I'd do.
I've never given it a second thought. Or a first
one for that matter.

Godspeed
 
After reading KartChics' post, I give her BIG PROPS for making a very difficult decision. IMO she was making a decision that she knew was going to hurt REAL BAD but it was the right decision to make at this point in your relationship. Putting it off would have only been more difficult.
I have had to make these type decisions in the past, and they are by no means made lightly or easy to do.

Good luck to you both and "Blame No one"...
 
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